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Over thanksgiving, my MIL came over as well as a bunch of other family members. For context, I don’t like my MIL. she’s rude, and I just find her annoying. She makes unnecessary comments and has a stick up her rear end. My siblings and their kids were there, etc. My family has always had a pretty late thanksgiving dinner, by late I mean like a normal dinner time, but I know a lot of people like to eat super early on Thanksgiving. Anyways, one thing we always do is have a nice breakfast with these super yummy honey crepes. It’s a family recipe, we have a whole bunch of toppings, as well as honey.

Now, I don’t keep maple syrup at my house simply because I don’t like it. My mother in law sits down to eat and asks me if I have any maple syrup for her crepes. I apologize and tell her that we don’t have any, but we do have honey as well as fruit, whipped cream, powdered sugar, etc. for her crepes. She would not shut up about the lack of maple syrup. Her comments about it went on all day long. My husband kept giving me apologetic looks and I honestly thought the situation was comical. Like, relax lady.

She teased me about it when she left that night saying that I better have maple syrup next time she’s over. She was “joking” but not really joking lmao. Her birthday was earlier this week. I decided I would get her a really nice bottle of maple syrup. This shits actually pretty expensive and comes in a lovely bottle. I also am a bit of a sarcastic person and thought it would be pretty funny. I gifted it to her with a card. She did not appreciate it. She told me that I was selfish and petty and that I should really grow up as my generation has no respect for their elders. Whatever, ma! I don’t think I did anything wrong. She came to my house first and complained all day so I gave her what she was so apparently lacking at my house. AITA?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for getting my mother in law maple syrup for her birthday?

ikanreed posted:

Yes you're an rear end in a top hat. Continuing a feud is a thing assholes do. Almost certainly even from the limited info we have mil is far worse, but you don't gotta hold on to every petty grievance.

Grape posted:

Someone being an rear end in a top hat to you is not a feud.

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Ok so I've never made a post like this before so I'm sorry if things seem out of place.

I have a stutter that i've dealt with since i can remember, it was a lot worse when i was younger and i've learned to really control it since then (lots of breathing techniques, mindfulness, ETC.) and for the most part you wouldn't really notice i have one, until the rare chance where i stutter or hang on a word for longer than most people would.

These can lead to some moments that range from incredibly funny, to horribly awkward. Example would be trying to say thank you to someone, and hanging on the "Th" in thank you for 5 seconds and looking like I'm making a weird rear end face, or stuttering on a hard "G" word and sounding like I'm about to drop a hot beat.

Anyways, today I was helping out a new guy at work by showing how to operate some of the machinery we use and i happened to stutter on a hard "G" word and he made the joke everyone makes when they first hear me stutter. (He will be NG for New Guy)

NG: "T-t-today junior!"

I let it go because quite literally everybody ever always makes that same joke. I always let it go the first time but make it obvious I don't find it very funny by giving people a straight faced single monotoned "Hah". We move on from that and everything is fine, I continue explaining a few things and I happen to stutter again, and he makes the same loving joke.

NG: "T-t-today junior!"

Me: "Good one, here's another. S-S-Shut the gently caress up and G-G-Get a new loving joke."

NG: "Woah sorry dude i was just joking around! You don't have to get so serious its not like i was making fun of you."

Me: "I dont care, i didn't find it funny the first time i don't find it funny now. Stay here and ill get someone else to show this to you."

After i said that i left, went and got my supervisor and asked them to explain the machine to the new guy, and went on to explain why and what happened. He asked me if we should re think his hiring and i declined because I didn't want to risk this guy losing a job over a stupid joke, even if it really is a stupid loving joke.

But yeah thats it i guess. Am i the rear end in a top hat for telling him to shut the gently caress up? Or was i in the right? and could i have handled this better?



TL;DR New guy said "T-t-today junior" and i told him to "S-s-shut the gently caress up".

ikanreed posted:

No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act.

This thread lives and breathes for assholes getting their comeuppance, but a lot of it just seems to be people who can never let slights go and must escalate or perpetuate.

And shut the gently caress up, I hear you assholes calling that being a doormat already. You know there's a difference. Standing up for yourself and getting really petty revenge aren't the same thing.

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA for telling a co-worker to shut the gently caress up for making fun of my stutter?

NG: "Woah sorry dude i was just joking around! You don't have to get so serious its not like i was making fun of you."

ikanreed posted:

No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act.

This thread lives and breathes for assholes getting their comeuppance, but a lot of it just seems to be people who can never let slights go and must escalate or perpetuate.

And shut the gently caress up, I hear you assholes calling that being a doormat already. You know there's a difference. Standing up for yourself and getting really petty revenge aren't the same thing.

ikanreed posted:

No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act.

This thread lives and breathes for assholes getting their comeuppance, but a lot of it just seems to be people who can never let slights go and must escalate or perpetuate.

And shut the gently caress up, I hear you assholes calling that being a doormat already. You know there's a difference. Standing up for yourself and getting really petty revenge aren't the same thing.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for getting my mother in law maple syrup for her birthday?

Dazerbeams posted:

Abloo bloo, someone got a gift that was materialistically beneficial while still being harmlessly clever enough to make fun of how ridiculously fussy they were. Guess the other person is an rear end in a top hat.

dog nougat posted:

I want someone to gift me fancy-rear end maple syrup. That poo poo's expensive.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Okay, we're going to stop with this "Guess the Slur" game that some of you seem to love playing every few days. And no, putting it behind a spoiler bar doesn't mean you somehow didn't participate.

Brawnfire posted:

I was gonna say, is this still about getting syrup?

Foo Diddley posted:

*sadly erases bullet-pointed list of slurs*

Barudak posted:

I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Okay, we're going to stop with this "Guess the Slur" game that some of you seem to love playing every few days. And no, putting it behind a spoiler bar doesn't mean you somehow didn't participate.

Barudak posted:

I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread.

Brawnfire posted:

Cagots

Invisible Clergy posted:

In addition to what's been offered, you know in anime where the woman who is an adult will do like a "cute" voice and sound whiny like a baby and say "tan" for "chan" to her boyfriend? Or like in western media where an adult woman will do the betty boop voice and pronounce Rs as Ws to sound like a little girl? It's that poo poo.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

rigging up some nightmare panopticon inside your own house like you're a fuckin SCP is insane poo poo. realizing what you've done and removing all that garbage posthaste is a brief stroke of sanity

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom

than said the only reason she hates him so much is because even he as (m slur) looks down at her

Barudak posted:

I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom

Barudak posted:

Thank you!!!

Dazerbeams posted:

Abloo bloo, someone got a gift that was materialistically beneficial while still being harmlessly clever enough to make fun of how ridiculously fussy they were. Guess the other person is an rear end in a top hat.

ikanreed posted:

Yes you're an rear end in a top hat. Continuing a feud is a thing assholes do. Almost certainly even from the limited info we have mil is far worse, but you don't gotta hold on to every petty grievance.

ikanreed posted:

No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act.

This thread lives and breathes for assholes getting their comeuppance, but a lot of it just seems to be people who can never let slights go and must escalate or perpetuate.

And shut the gently caress up, I hear you assholes calling that being a doormat already. You know there's a difference. Standing up for yourself and getting really petty revenge aren't the same thing.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for going after my child's school?

gently caress that sub and gently caress the principal.

ikanreed posted:

It's about goons in the relationship thread being petty people who will constantly suggest the most destructive response to everything that offends, rather than forthrightedly speaking about your concerns, and then cutting people who continue to mistreat you out of your life.

It reads a lot like people who are afraid of confrontation cheering for victory against the people they won't just talk to by proxy.

Like it's pretty obvious that this mother in law in an entitled, rude guest who may be narcissistic.

What does a passive aggressive gift do to resolve that? Zip, zilch, nada. It's just a dick move to make yourself feel better about being mistreated.

Evil Willow posted:

I'm going with midget

Hughlander posted:

Oh hey stupid derails you say?

AITA Told my wife I’d rather be glued to my phone over being glued to her

teen witch posted: