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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for not making my uncle a gift this year because of what he said last year? 
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Dec 20, 2021 14:52
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AITA for telling my fiance he committed theft by gifting his nephew the gift I bought for my sick brother?quote:My F30 brother M16 was born with a heart condition that prevented him from living his childhood to the fullest and doing his favorite activities. He can't do most things due to his condition and the side affects his medication have on him.
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Dec 20, 2021 14:59
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Evil Willow posted:WIBTA if I took my cousins gift back even if she’d be the only one without a gift from me? Lmao what even does OP think the cousin did to her?
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Dec 20, 2021 15:05
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Ah, the ol' "you're not allowed to be upset that I wronged you, because that implies I am a wrongdoer which is upsetting to me, the person whose feelings matter." Sometimes I wonder how that kind of zero-effort manipulation persists into adulthood; do these dudes just go through life hunting for people who have never had a model for appropriate boundaries, like that thermal vision scene from Predator?
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Dec 20, 2021 15:07
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiance he committed theft by gifting his nephew the gift I bought for my sick brother? I got nothing to say here except congrats on escaping a horrific divorce for only 500 dollars
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Dec 20, 2021 15:08
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Ah, the ol' "you're not allowed to be upset that I wronged you, because that implies I am a wrongdoer which is upsetting to me, the person whose feelings matter." Sometimes I wonder how that kind of zero-effort manipulation persists into adulthood; do these dudes just go through life hunting for people who have never had a model for appropriate boundaries, like that thermal vision scene from Predator? Maybe borderline personality disorder. Yeah that’s the vibes I’m getting.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:14
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he absolutely did some poo poo with that xbox like give it to a friend or sold it, he did not send it to his nephew. he's doing that classic 'double-down so intensely it makes the person start to doubt themselves' thing that liars rely on to keep the grift going.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:18
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Ah, the ol' "you're not allowed to be upset that I wronged you, because that implies I am a wrongdoer which is upsetting to me, the person whose feelings matter." Sometimes I wonder how that kind of zero-effort manipulation persists into adulthood; do these dudes just go through life hunting for people who have never had a model for appropriate boundaries, like that thermal vision scene from Predator? They become conservatives OP.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:19
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiance he committed theft by gifting his nephew the gift I bought for my sick brother? Yeah, he straight up sold the Xbox or something. For a start, if he was “so sure she’d be ok with it” then why not involve her from the start - why be sketch and steal it. And if not, how’s he not for the money to buy an Xbox but can apparently just take himself off to a hotel because he stole from his fiancée and she’s right
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Dec 20, 2021 15:29
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AITA for recording instead of reminding my wife when a bird was eating her toast?quote:I have a rather light-hearted story to share. We had a laugh and got over it but my wife insisted I was deliberately being an rear end.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:36
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spending all the money he got selling the xbox on a hotel room because she dared call him a thief for stealing.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:42
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Blaming the folks who got their pictures stolen without consent that they deserve it is the new 'look how she was dressed'. The rear end in a top hat is always the thief, as they made a conscious choice to take and distribute the photos, not the person who was having a little fun being human and risque. The thief is always 100% the rear end in a top hat. That doesn't mean people can't take precautions to protect themselves. I was a victim of a mugging once. I walked down the street at like 7:30 at night, with my entire wallet, which contained all my cards, and my phone. I wanted to get one candy bar. Anyways three dudes surrounded me and the middle one put a knife on my belly and they took my stuff. It took weeks to get my cards back (since I'm gringo and do all my banking in the US, but don't live in the US). It really sucked to have no access to accounts for like two weeks. From that I learned I don't go walking after dark in this area, and that I should always leave at least one or two cards at home, I don't need all of them in my wallet at once. I was not at fault for getting mugged. I wasn't even at fault for having all my cards on me at once. But, I learned it's not safe to do that because assholes exist. I would never save nudes of myself or anyone else on my phone. If I did happen to have those or other private info on my phone, I would not give another person unsupervised access to my phone. Even someone I trusted, since they might see something I wanted to keep private 100% accidentally.
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Dec 20, 2021 15:43
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for recording instead of reminding my wife when a bird was eating her toast? drat that lady might benefit from some no-screen time
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Dec 20, 2021 15:49
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for recording instead of reminding my wife when a bird was eating her toast? This abusive poo poo-show of a relationship is irreparable. 
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Dec 20, 2021 15:49
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Hellblazer187 posted:The thief is always 100% the rear end in a top hat. So... you deserved to be robbed is what youre saying?
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Dec 20, 2021 16:09
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The girl who sent nudes in that story isn't the rear end in a top hat. It's easy for us old web 1.0 farts to say "just don't send nudes lol" but it's a normal thing now whether we agree with it or not. The OP is the rear end in a top hat for giving a sixteen year old boy, who for all intents and purposes is a walking hormone, access to a device with nudes on it. Of course he's going to look for titties, that's what sixteen year old boys do. The boy himself is also an rear end in a top hat (above the usual standard of assholery) because stealing nudes is creepy but trading them to your buddy so he can harass the person in them is downright Reddity.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:17
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NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:The girl who sent nudes in that story isn't the rear end in a top hat. It's easy for us old web 1.0 farts to say "just don't send nudes lol" but it's a normal thing now whether we agree with it or not. OP is a dumbass, but not the rear end in a top hat. Perv bro seriously betrayed his trust. Kid needs to have his college fund raided to pay compensation. Mainly to GF but a little to older brother. Maybe he gets to keep 50% if he flips on his friends and hands over incriminating evidence to be given to their parents/GF/the authorities. But loses the whole thing if he won't play ball.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:28
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please don't send nudes
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Dec 20, 2021 16:30
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Nudes are so normal now that opinion has flipped and you're the weirdos for stigmatizing people for taking or sending them. Only boomers chuckle that the best way to prevent it is just not to take them. Yes it's technically true, but what a boring, ascetic life that is and it's just not in line with how people act anymore. The etiquette has shifted - sexting and nudes are just a normal part of dating for a lot of folks nowadays. Trying to compare someone distributing those nude photos of you without consent to a mugging is  Any example you're gonna try to give to that act vs. petty theft is just gonna tell on you
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Dec 20, 2021 16:37
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NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:The girl who sent nudes in that story isn't the rear end in a top hat. It's easy for us old web 1.0 farts to say "just don't send nudes lol" but it's a normal thing now whether we agree with it or not. Yea, what an rear end in a top hat for trusting your brother that you had every reason to trust previous to this.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:39
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Brother is an rear end in a top hat, op is an idiot
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Dec 20, 2021 16:42
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Nudes are so normal now that opinion has flipped and you're the weirdos for stigmatizing people for taking or sending them. Only boomers chuckle that the best way to prevent it is just not to take them. Yes it's technically true, but what a boring, ascetic life that is and it's just not in line with how people act anymore. The etiquette has shifted - sexting and nudes are just a normal part of dating for a lot of folks nowadays. Hard agree.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:46
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I assume a good number of you used to be 16 year old boys. I did too and there is a 0% chance I ever would have stolen nudes out of someone's phone to send to my friends. Wtf?
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Dec 20, 2021 16:50
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I'll cop to being old enough that I just don't understand sending nudes. Like, I don't think I'd suddenly forget what my girlfriend's boobs look like. I would not want nudes sent to me, it just seems like a big risk. What if I lose my phone? What if you send nudes to someone who is nice and trustworthy then they change? Like we have cars and stuff if you want to see each other naked you can go do so in person. I simply don't see how the risk/reward on this stuff makes any sense.StrangersInTheNight posted:Trying to compare someone distributing those nude photos of you without consent to a mugging is Why? In both cases you're victimized. What's wrong with the comparison? I'm genuinely curious why 1 crime against your person is completely incomparable to another crime against your person.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:52
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Hellblazer187 posted:
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Dec 20, 2021 16:55
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:I assume a good number of you used to be 16 year old boys. I did too and there is a 0% chance I ever would have stolen nudes out of someone's phone to send to my friends. Wtf? I assume all 16 year old boys are Reddit poisoned to one extent or another. I don't know any though as I'm an old, so maybe I'm viewing them through the lens of this thread and making harsh judgements
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Dec 20, 2021 16:56
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The 16 year old is the only rear end in a top hat in that story and i feel terrible for the gf. Those leaked nudes are never going away.
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Dec 20, 2021 16:59
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When i was 18 a girl at my school stripped and someone took pictures, 10+ years later those pictures popped up again from a russian site, that poo poo doesnt go away. Shame the 16 year old som hard he cant look at a titty again for years.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:03
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Hellblazer187 posted:I'll cop to being old enough that I just don't understand sending nudes. Like, I don't think I'd suddenly forget what my girlfriend's boobs look like. I would not want nudes sent to me, it just seems like a big risk. What if I lose my phone? What if you send nudes to someone who is nice and trustworthy then they change? Like we have cars and stuff if you want to see each other naked you can go do so in person. I simply don't see how the risk/reward on this stuff makes any sense. sometimes you literally can't hop in the car and go see each other naked sometimes it's exciting to secretly do something naughty when it's unexpected or even inappropriate to do so also visualization abilities vary throughout the population and some people literally can't picture what boobs look like if they're not looking at them
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Dec 20, 2021 17:04
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Hey! This watch is made out of steel wool and cardboard! And the time only reads "kiss my gay rear end"!
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Dec 20, 2021 17:05
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This is America so the girl whose pics were leaked will get charged as a sex offender or delinquency of a minor because the rear end in a top hat was 16.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:08
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:I assume a good number of you used to be 16 year old boys. I did too and there is a 0% chance I ever would have stolen nudes out of someone's phone to send to my friends. Wtf? Same. Anyone suggesting otherwise is at best diving headfirst into a bag of "Boys will be boys" enabling bullshit, or at worst uh well... Hellblazer187 posted:Why? In both cases you're victimized. What's wrong with the comparison? I'm genuinely curious why 1 crime against your person is completely incomparable to another crime against your person. Tell me you've never experienced even the slightest degree of sexual harassment or objectification, without telling me you've never experienced even the slightest degree of sexual harassment or objectification. Grape fucked around with this message at 17:14 on Dec 20, 2021 |
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Dec 20, 2021 17:12
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Hellblazer187 posted:Why? In both cases you're victimized. What's wrong with the comparison? I'm genuinely curious why 1 crime against your person is completely incomparable to another crime against your person. Man, the only difference between some goons and a redditor is 
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Dec 20, 2021 17:19
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Hellblazer187 posted:Why? In both cases you're victimized. What's wrong with the comparison? I'm genuinely curious why 1 crime against your person is completely incomparable to another crime against your person. One's a theft of objects, the other is an impasse upon a body sexually. It's a violation of a sexual boundary, and it shouldn't be hard to understand why comparing sexual assaults to thefts doesn't work, and just continues the narrative that women's bodies are objects one can give and trade. This is why I brought up the 'look at what she was wearing' example - because it's supposed to make it clear that theft of an object and sexual assault are in vastly different categories and the same social rules don't apply. A purse left by itself easily disappears. But everyone understands that a woman passed-out drunk is a no-go unless you're a sexual predator.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:19
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I agree with you vis a vis objects but getting mugged at knifepoint is really loving traumatic. It's not just the loss of whatever was in my pocket (although that was a pain in the rear end). Like the guy on the left took my phone, but didn't tell the guy in the middle, and he kept screaming at me for my phone and I thought he was going to kill me over a lovely phone his accomplice already took.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:26
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friend no one is saying getting mugged isn't traumatic, but it's different than having your body impugned upon sexually and trying to compare traumas in this manner never works out well. how about you just admit you made a bad comparison and move on. the point is there's clearly different social mores around the treatment of objects vs the treatment of bodies that informs these things and makes them different types of impasse.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:29
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StrangersInTheNight posted:how about you just admit you made a bad comparison and move on. Cause you all laughed at me and now I feel bad and want to post through it so I can "win."
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Dec 20, 2021 17:39
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Hellblazer187 posted:I'll cop to being old enough that I just don't understand sending nudes. Like, I don't think I'd suddenly forget what my girlfriend's boobs look like. I would not want nudes sent to me, it just seems like a big risk. What if I lose my phone? What if you send nudes to someone who is nice and trustworthy then they change? Like we have cars and stuff if you want to see each other naked you can go do so in person. I simply don't see how the risk/reward on this stuff makes any sense. lmao why even date people at all? if i want to look at a boob i can google "boobs" being in a relationship with another person seems like a risk? what if they dump me? what if they make fun of my penis to their friends? porn will only make fun of my penis if i want it to, porn is safe i simply don't see how the risk/reward on this stuff makes any sense
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Dec 20, 2021 17:45
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:being in a relationship with another person seems like a risk? I think I might literally be at this point in my life. Like I'm pretty much ready to not be in a relationship ever again if I can get out of the one I'm in right now. So maybe I'm just brain broken, I'm sorry to have posted.
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gettin sanctimonious about sending pics of my wiener
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