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Posting and sending nudes might be the new norm but society will still label the woman as a slut and destroy her career over it. I'm married and pray I never have to re-enter the dating scene but I'd hope there are still people out there who aren't so selfish as to not recognize the risks that are disproportionately inherent to ladies.
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I'm saying it getting robbed is a normal part of life and if it's traumatic for you you've probably walked a very sheltered path. Most people will be robbed 2 or 3 times by the time they hit 18.
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Dec 20, 2021 17:54
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:I assume a good number of you used to be 16 year old boys. I did too and there is a 0% chance I ever would have stolen nudes out of someone's phone to send to my friends. Wtf? I wouldn't have either, but think back to high school and remember just how many weird, creepy kids there were.
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Dazerbeams posted:Posting and sending nudes might be the new norm but society will still label the woman as a slut and destroy her career over it. That's because the one applies to young people but the capability to do the other still rests with old people. Give it another 50 years, until the teens trading nudes today are running society.
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AITA for fixing the toilet in a shared apartment then refusing to pay for a useless plumbers visit?quote:I (F 32) share an apartment with two flat mates (Joe M23) and (Bob M25). We are all students of a terminal degree program at the same school, and have been living together for almost two years now.
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Imagine living in an area where the police don't take your possessions at gun point.
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Boba Pearl posted:I'm saying it getting robbed is a normal part of life and if it's traumatic for you you've probably walked a very sheltered path. Most people will be robbed 2 or 3 times by the time they hit 18. uh
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AITA For snitching on my (ex) best friend?quote:I (18M) have a been close with my best friend J (18M) for over a decade now and I love him more than anything. And over a year ago, he got a girlfriend (18F) who we’ll call M. M is the sweetest woman i have ever met - she cares for J so much, and I have found a close friend in her. A few months ago J moved into M’s apartment. J doesn’t have a job and M has a well paying one. She is the breadwinner.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for fixing the toilet in a shared apartment then refusing to pay for a useless plumbers visit? her moronic roommate's head needs to go in the toilet
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Ah, the ol' "you're not allowed to be upset that I wronged you, because that implies I am a wrongdoer which is upsetting to me, the person whose feelings matter." Sometimes I wonder how that kind of zero-effort manipulation persists into adulthood; do these dudes just go through life hunting for people who have never had a model for appropriate boundaries, like that thermal vision scene from Predator? Literally yes. This is what all those pua guides and stuff are for: scare off women who don't immediately call bullshit when being "negged" to sniff out doormats. Evil Willow posted:My (30F) boyfriend (28M) wants to move in but not pay bills...? "My boyfriend, who lives with his mommy, expects me to be his new mommy! On an unrelated note, do you think this fire that burned my hand will burn my other hand?"
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I don't send nudes and neither does my partner, but it's common enough that I'm happy to accept that some people are willing to accept the risks involved without considering it a personal failing on their part.
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Dec 20, 2021 18:05
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haveblue posted:That's because the one applies to young people but the capability to do the other still rests with old people. Give it another 50 years, until the teens trading nudes today are running society. You say this like there's not a good chance boomers will salt the earth completely before giving up the ghost.
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Boba Pearl posted:I'm saying it getting robbed is a normal part of life and if it's traumatic for you you've probably walked a very sheltered path. Most people will be robbed 2 or 3 times by the time they hit 18. Yeah, I agree, muggings are NBD and nothing compared to having your nudes leaked.
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Boba Pearl posted:I'm saying it getting robbed is a normal part of life and if it's traumatic for you you've probably walked a very sheltered path. Most people will be robbed 2 or 3 times by the time they hit 18. drat. rly makes u think
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Like be real how many of you have NOT been mugged robbed or threatened with overwhelming violence.
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Any kind of breech of personal trust and safety, from sexual harassment to robbery, can be (and often is) traumatic, not just for the immediate act, but the ongoing paranoia and destruction of self confidence, safety, and worth. Let's not pretend anyone is sensitive or stupid for how they react to any of those situations.
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serious post out of the way lol if you haven't been severely traumatized by a violent act before you're 12. what are you, a trust fund baby?
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Having your nudes leaked is infinitely worse than being mugged or robbed because despite what the movies tell you you CANNOT use your sicknasty kung fu to defeat the internet
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Dec 20, 2021 18:21
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I guess mugging stats are like drinking stats in that there's a tiny percentile doing all the heavy lifting. The other day crime came up and not a single person in the group had ever been mugged. But the one lady from Mexico city was like "lol I'd get mugged once a week or two on the Metro"
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NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:Having your nudes leaked is infinitely worse than being mugged or robbed because despite what the movies tell you you CANNOT use your sicknasty kung fu to defeat the internet I stopped going to judo classes after the mugging because I'd have to walk through that same area at night to get to that dojo. Yes I'm aware that it's kind of funny to stop doing something for self defense because there's too much of a perceived danger to the self.
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Hellblazer187 posted:I think I might literally be at this point in my life. Like I'm pretty much ready to not be in a relationship ever again if I can get out of the one I'm in right now. So maybe I'm just brain broken, I'm sorry to have posted. I mean, we've been reading these threads long enough to realise how many people end up in horrific situations because of the idea that any relationship is better than being single.
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Dec 20, 2021 18:30
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Look I would never call someone a wimp for freaking out about being mugged their first time especially in a new country. I will make fun of them for trying to relate it to leakning nudes. None of your potential employers who do social media checks are gonna be like "oh you got mugged in 2015? You don't really match the companies brand," but plenty of people will not hire you if they even suspect that you're genitals exist in a visible form on the internet. Getting mugged won't exactly have a train of internet people stalking you down and harassing you. Like all ptsd hurts for sure but to not even consider your traumatic moments are someone else's normalcy, and then to try and play trauma Olympics with sex victims is insane.
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Comparing how different people react to different types of traumas is really stupid and is one of the reasons people who undergo something traumatic don't seek out therapy because they feel that whatever trauma they went through can't be as bad as someone that went through something else that's traumatic. For example, I stopped a suicide a few years ago and it was pretty traumatic but I held off on therapy because in my mind I had A. Gone through worse in the past and B. Felt that what I had undergone was not as traumatic as say being shot at or mugged. So instead of seeking help when I started to have issues I put it off.
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B-Rock452 posted:Comparing how different people react to different types of traumas is really stupid and is one of the reasons people who undergo something traumatic don't seek out therapy because they feel that whatever trauma they went through can't be as bad as someone that went through something else that's traumatic. Yeah exactly.
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Dec 20, 2021 18:33
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Boba Pearl posted:Like be real how many of you have NOT been mugged robbed or threatened with overwhelming violence. I got threatened with a boat oar and a pickaxe at Walmart once but that's about it.
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Dec 20, 2021 18:33
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It seems stupid to say that getting mugged is so common it shouldn't be traumatic when getting nudes leaked is pretty drat common too.
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Maybe let's not mock anyone's traumatic experiences? Just a thought.
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Boba Pearl posted:Like be real how many of you have NOT been mugged robbed or threatened with overwhelming violence.
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Seriously? Nobody else?! I think i made myself sad. RenegadeStyle1 posted:It seems stupid to say that getting mugged is so common it shouldn't be traumatic when getting nudes leaked is pretty drat common too. I don't think leaking nudes is as common as being mugged tbh. E: I think you guys are bull making GBS threads me on this I grew up in foster care so I met like 50 -60 kids as I grew up some rehoused or reunited and I can't think of a single friend who hasn't been robbed, beaten, or assaulted in some manner. Boba Pearl fucked around with this message at 18:51 on Dec 20, 2021 |
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CONTENT! AITA for telling my boyfriend to go yell at his mother instead? quote:My (30m) partner has been staying with me (21f) in my apartment for the past 2ish weeks. Things haven’t been great; but we’ve been getting past them. Today he had a project he decided to do for me, that i’m so grateful for but he woke up late so couldn’t really get to do. I wasn’t frustrated or anything, and he made a new game plan. He didn’t tell me he needed help so when I was just sitting around, he got upset and we started bickering. He said he needed laundry done, I said I needed to go food shopping and he said he needed to do as much work as he could on the project but then said how “of course I wouldn’t help him” .. I stated “I was going to do your laundry, but if your going to yell at me all day, yell at your mother to do it”.. he then screamed at me to stop while I am ahead, packed all his things and has been fighting with me since. He came in before and asked me to apologize, I said I wouldn’t as if he wanted to treat someone like poo poo for caring for him, then he can treat someone else like that. He then told me he’s my elder and to respect and treat him as such. Am I in the wrong? Is this my fault? Am I the rear end in a top hat? In the comments! he’s currently packing his stuff and leaving, he’s breaking up with me (woe is me) because I can’t respect him as an elder and as an adult?
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Boba Pearl posted:Look I would never call someone a wimp for freaking out about being mugged their first time especially in a new country. I will make fun of them for trying to relate it to leakning nudes. None of your potential employers who do social media checks are gonna be like "oh you got mugged in 2015? You don't really match the companies brand," but plenty of people will not hire you if they even suspect that you're genitals exist in a visible form on the internet. Getting mugged won't exactly have a train of internet people stalking you down and harassing you. Like all ptsd hurts for sure but to not even consider your traumatic moments are someone else's normalcy, and then to try and play trauma Olympics with sex victims is insane. I agree with all of this. I was not trying to play trauma olympics, though. I was just saying I was victimized and now I do things differently, such as don't leave my house after 6:30 pm. I never once suggested the traumas were the same, just that they're both traumas and we can do things to protect ourselves from victimization. Boba Pearl posted:E: I think you guys are bull making GBS threads me on this I grew up in foster care so I met like 50 -60 kids as I grew up some rehoused or reunited and I can't think of a single friend who hasn't been robbed, beaten, or assaulted in some manner. It's going to be heavily dependent on your surroundings. 80%ish of people I know who live in this country have been mugged. I've only been mugged once but I've also witnessed a few. The vast majority of people I know who still live in the US have not been mugged. I think only one of my friends who lives in the US has been a victim of that kind of crime. I know many more people who have had nudes leaked. Hellblazer187 fucked around with this message at 18:56 on Dec 20, 2021 |
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Except you can't there is literally nothing you can do to stop someone robbing you or leaking your nudes. There are a lot of thing you can do that might help but if someone is going to victimize you that's it. Trying to fight back will just make things worse like Judo isn't going to do anything against a knife and not sentence nudes is extremely impractical if you're under like 30. If someone is going to victimize youthat's what is going to happen full stop.
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i feel like you should be looking at the person you're dating as an equal and not as though you're their elder
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I mug in the nude every day.
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Boba Pearl posted:Except you can't there is literally nothing you can do to stop someone robbing you or leaking your nudes. There are a lot of thing you can do that might help but if someone is going to victimize you that's it. Trying to fight back will just make things worse like Judo isn't going to do anything against a knife and not sentence nudes is extremely impractical if you're under like 30. If someone is going to victimize youthat's what is going to happen full stop. You can 1) not send nudes or keep them in your phone or 2) not go outside of your house after the sun goes down. I am still at risk of home invasion, nothing really I can do about that, I suppose. It's not legal for me to own a gun and with my depression problems it's not wise even if it were legal. Hellblazer187 fucked around with this message at 19:02 on Dec 20, 2021 |
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Hughlander posted:CONTENT! When you're so mature for you're age ends up being true. What a loving creep.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for fixing the toilet in a shared apartment then refusing to pay for a useless plumbers visit? Pay the plumber and then demand the roommates pay the OP as much as the plumber got because she's the one who fixed it.
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Hellblazer187 posted:You can 1) not send nudes or keep them in your phone or 2) not go outside of your house after the sun goes down. 1. Is pretty much stop dating and 2. Isn't even true it means not leaving your house ever the sun doesn't stop crime you can get robbed in broad daylight. E: you are not safer because it's light out you may need therapy if you're not leaving your house after sundown because you think you'll be robbed. Nothing makes you safe in this world, and you can have everything torn from you at any moment. There are no precautions that will do anything but make you feel better, at the end of the day if someone wants you hurt you're going to get hurt. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST) Boba Pearl fucked around with this message at 19:06 on Dec 20, 2021 |
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Boba Pearl posted:1. Is pretty much stop dating and 2. Isn't even true it means not leaving your house ever the sun doesn't stop crime you can get robbed in broad daylight. So, I'm very nearly 40, but is 1. actually true? Is sending and receiving nudes really mandatory for dating? Like what happens when you tell someone you're dating "oh, I don't send nudes, sorry" is that just it forever? Yes you can get robbed in broad daylight but it's much more common after dark (at least where I live). The fact that I can't 100% protect myself doesn't mean I can't like, 75% protect myself by staying put after dark. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Boba Pearl posted:Seriously? Nobody else?! I don't think it's more common. I mean every celebrity in the world seems to get their nudes leaked every 3-5 years and that's not even including normal people.
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