Boba Pearl posted:

gotta be real never getting robbed? that's a hit.

_{lucky computer touching pieces of poo poo}

Pleads posted:

You're looking down the barrel of my posting gun, OP. Give me all your bitcoin.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my fiance he committed theft by gifting his nephew the gift I bought for my sick brother?

teen witch posted:

I’m kinda busy IRL at the moment so apologize for not nipping this bud much earlier on, along with a few other derails.

I’m disappointed in quite a few of you - not that it means much, but as I already mentioned the other day, poo poo is getting far too hostile here. That is loving pathetic.

Show better judgement or I’m closing the thread for a time out.

Dr. Stab posted:

If that guy's got hotel money, he's got Xbox money.

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

To be fair you could probably stay in a cheap hotel like 7 days before it was more than a Xbox.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for yelling at my mom that I hate Harry Potter and to LET ME LIVE MY OWN LIFE

teen witch posted:

Continue the mugging or nudes discussion and you’re getting a sixer, I don’t care who you are

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

Oh yeah and I agree he should be nailed to the wall. This is enough money I'd consider suing over for theft.

teen witch posted:

Continue the mugging or nudes discussion and you’re getting a sixer, I don’t care who you are

teen witch posted:

Continue the mugging or nudes discussion and you’re getting a sixer, I don’t care who you are

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

It's weird how quick technology makes you obsolete. I'm 35 and used to be able to do anything on a computer just by rooting around and now I can barely navigate windows 10.

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Ok so the people involved are:

Me - 23f Jeff - 32m, my brother Anna - 31m, Jeff's wife Elle - 10f, my niece

I moved back to my hometown recently to be with family, and Jeff and Anna started asking me to babysit their daughter, Elle.

I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up, and she said she wanted to be a hacker. Which I thought was cute as anything, I'm a software engineer. She asked me if I knew anything about hacking, her dad had said I know things about computers.

I told her about how, if you study enough, you can get paid by companies to try and hack them, because they want a helpful person to tell them about their vulnerabilities before someone uses them to do something bad.

And I also said that it is important to know a lot about what you're hacking; if you understand something enough to have created it, you understand how it can be hacked. So the biggest part of being a good hacker is knowing programming.

I asked her if she wanted to try some stuff, I'd write programs and she'd see how I wrote them and try and hack them. She did.

I started out real simple, with a "Hello World" style program, that would run in the terminal. Then I changed it to accept a name as input and print out "Hello (Name)".

We tried putting in all sorts of things, and had a laugh about printing out "Hello Butt" That was the first lesson, that if someone doesn't protect their program to only accept the things they want, you can make it do things the person who wrote it doesn't want.

We moved on to more stuff like me explaining binary data representation. Data types and how big of a number they can hold, and if a number that is too big is put in, overflow will happen and it will roll to a very negative number. And we experimented with that.

We got to more stuff like loops, and the "hack" was to set up input conditions to make the loop go on infinitely.

So yeah, the lessons were really a CS fundamentals intro with a bit of super simple "hacking" thrown in.

For the first couple times, Jeff and Anna came home very late after Elle had gone to bed, they asked if she'd behaved well, but not much else. I didn't think to mention our "hacking".

Then, last weekend, Anna called me and she was really mad. She said Elle told her that I'd been giving her hacker lessons, that wasn't OK, I wasn't allowed over again because I'd encouraged her interest in something illegal.

I tried to explain that we weren't doing anything illegal, we were seriously just talking about computer science fundamentals and doing little projects on the computer that don't affect anything else. I could show her, if she liked.

She said no, Elle had already shown her how to run programs I'd written, and she was not OK with me having put "hacker code" on the family computer without asking.

I didn't know what else to say. I want to explain stuff but I don't know how.

What do I do to smooth stuff over with my brother and sister in law?

TLDR - I was giving me niece hacking lessons, her parents are upset with me.

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So I just want everyone’s brutally honest opinion. I feel like I have lived a very sheltered life in the fact I was brought up in a Christian household where the “man” takes care of his wife. I obviously never wanted to live that type of life completely. I need my independence. I also think watching too many movies and TV shows has warped my reality. I probably need a good reality check.

I moved to another country to study and met my now fiancé and fell in love. My fiancé had an apartment completely paid off before we met. We met a year before Covid started and I had moved in. I ended my studies during Covid and couldn’t find work due to this, so my fiancé supported me a lot. I was very grateful. During Covid I found work online. My fiancé and I also started a business together. He is the one who does the actual work where he provides analysis to customers, but I helped with the social network side, marketing, payments, admin duties etc. The company then got taken over by another company (fiancé does the work still) but my main duties ended. My fiancé agreed I’d still get 50% of “his pay” and that he’d get 50% of mine. I earn much less than him and tbh he does his best to always remind me of this…

We are now going to buy a house together. I have my deposit but after I pay this I will have no money left. My fiancé on the other hand, will sell his current place and will pay his entire half off leaving me with the rest of the mortgage to pay off every month myself. I obviously understand that he’s earned this opportunity, but I never thought I’d get married and that we wouldn’t be “in this together” in regards to paying the mortgage. I also realise I need to finally “grow up” and be an adult. Like I said my mindset is warped with the ideas I was told about growing up. I’ve always felt indifferent as he’s a fair amount of savings and I don’t have much to offer or give.

How do I overcome this feeling of indifference and realisation I’ll be paying off this debt whilst my fiancé won’t as we won’t be in it together like most married couples are?

UPDATE: I already have saved my own deposit for the house, but my partner insists that I should cover 100% of the interest as it’s only fair as he could already put down 50% of the entire property. We are both intending to put down a 20% deposit so 10% each. But he then won’t pay his 40% upfront but instead leave it on an account aside to pay into each month. He said I should cover the interest solely though as it’s not fair he should pay interest. This is the indifference I have an issue with. We share our income and it’s not that I make nothing. Some months I bring in $5000 and other months $1000 so my wage is a bit inconsistent. His is far higher though every single month.

UPDATE AGAIN: My name won’t be going on the title either as I haven’t got my permanent residency visa. Until I get this visa my name can’t go on the property. I suggested I buy in only when my name can go on it but he said it isn’t fair I buy in, and the property’s value could have increased meaning I should buy in at a more expensive price. So I suggested that I won’t then pay a deposit yet just the mortgage.

MarcusSA posted:

I (f28) is buying a house with my fiancé (m29) and he already can pay his entire half leaving me with the rest, which makes me nervous

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...My name won’t be going on the title either ...

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We have been friends for about 4 years. After a traumatic event playing sports (neck injury/face injury), she helped me get back into a sport I loved. She was very patient, positive and kind. She was initially my trainer/coach but eventually became my friend as well. Earlier this year in January, I paid her for 4 lessons but I only received 1. She had a whole schedule planned out, but she cancelled. After I paid in advance. I had been paying in advance for 3 years so I had no reservations at the time. I had to cancel twice due to issues out of my control and she cancelled 2-3 times. Then, her truck broke down and she lives 1.5 hours away now so I just figured it would get fixed soon. I reached out in like August and asked if she planned to come out for any additional lessons and she said her truck was still broken. When I asked her to pay back the $150, she said she didn’t have the money to pay me back. Meanwhile, she has worked all summer and has gone to competitions, but told me she could barely afford to pay her bills. I was hurt for a long time, but less hurt now.

However, we haven’t had a meaningful conversation in over 6 months. Like, we have sent videos back and forth which sometimes we reply, sometimes she doesn’t. I got a random text message 2 days ago of her asking me to be a bridesmaid. She said she sent a gift/ask in the mail but it got lost so she texted me instead.

My partner says I will regret it more if I don’t do it but I’m not so sure.

TL;DR A previously good friend asked me to be their bridesmaid and I don’t feel excited about it. How do I respond?

Halloween Jack posted:

AITA for chosing my STEPMOM over my biological mom?
3) My dad isn't involved because he is a peace keeper.

MarcusSA posted:

I (f28) is buying a house with my fiancé (m29) and he already can pay his entire half leaving me with the rest, which makes me nervous

We are both intending to put down a 20% deposit so 10% each. But he then won’t pay his 40% upfront but instead leave it on an account aside to pay into each month. He said I should cover the interest solely though as it’s not fair he should pay interest.

MarcusSA posted:

I (f28) is buying a house with my fiancé (m29) and he already can pay his entire half leaving me with the rest, which makes me nervous

teen witch posted:

Continue the mugging or nudes discussion and you’re getting a sixer, I don’t care who you are

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So I did my holiday shopping for my 3 siblings (14, 10 and 6) and put all their stuff in 3 big bags. Packed it and did holiday shopping while they were at school. Put the bags in my room, in the back part of the closet, put a little blanket on top of the bags, put another little blanket on top of that blanket then topped it off with a huge blanket. The closet is small too so why would they go in there? I checked there everyday to make sure the gift bag isn’t peaking out the blankets

Anyways I decided to go to the museum and when I came back to my room, I saw gift tissue paper on my room floor. I sighed and looked at my closet and saw a big hole w the blankets where the gifts USED to be

They had the audacity to go in my room to find the gifts, opened them and even wear the clothes I got them. Flattered they like them but on the 25th they aren’t getting poo poo from me. Maybe another card and that’s it

WIBTA not getting them presents for Christmas Day

Edit- Getting 3 nicely wrapped boxes and putting one coal candy in each one

Cowslips Warren posted:

WIBTA for not getting my siblings’ gifts for Christmas

Halloween Jack posted:

I'm trying to figure out the industry where it's normal to only date people at work. Medicine? Porn?

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Dear Miss Manners:

My great-aunt passed away earlier this year. I am the executor of her estate.

I have started to receive communications from people who knew her and who had given her Christmas and birthday gifts over the years, asking to have these things returned to them.

I’m at a bit of a loss here. I’ve never heard of such a thing! When I give a gift to someone, it’s theirs to do with as they wish. I have no further claim to it.

I have had to explain that the estate has gone through probate, all bequests have been honored and their name was not included in the will. Some become very insistent that I contact whoever has the item in question and ask them to “return” it. I decline.

I think this is incredibly tacky. Am I wrong? Is there a better way to handle this?

Gentle Reader:

What a lovely way to express condolences: “Sorry you’re dead. Now gimme back my stuff.”

Of course you are in the right. And since this is a legal matter of possession, Miss Manners finds it perfectly within your rights to say so. Or to pass the unpleasant task off to the estate attorney.

Cobalt-60 posted: