|
Not a trashfire, but kinda interesting: Should I (35F) take unexpected inheritance from my biodad? quote:Apologizes in advance for any mistakes, English is my second language. Long time gaps all throughout. BioSister 20 years older gets a guilt pang 20 years after the fact to hand off unasked for inheritance, but doesn't want a relationship. Not sure what to think here.
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 03:34
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 28, 2024 07:19 |
|
|
Always take the fuckin money
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 03:36
|
|
|
MarcusSA posted:Always take the fuckin money
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 03:41
|
|
|
yeah I'm sure anne is going to be totally owned by you giving her $20k, she is definitely not going to be ecstatic that she did what she thought was the right thing and got to keep the money anyhow.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 03:52
|
|
|
Runcible Cat posted:More like the mentality of that guy who got his wife's beehives hauled away by some random when she was out of town and when she called the police tried telling them that because they were married everything they owned belonged to both of them. There's currently a murder trial going on in Australia that started over cops pulling that "not our problem" poo poo. Some guy got 1000s of dollars of DJ equipment stolen out of his van. He found the culprit and called the cops. The cops naturally said it wasn't their problem, it was a civil matter. So the DJ and his family go to the thief's place to get their poo poo back and the thief shoots the DJ's father to death.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:28
|
|
|
The relationship is over either way take the money.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:30
|
|
|
I mean, yes she's technically asking about taking the money, but I think the real issue is the "gaining and losing family" thing. It's not on the level of abuse or the comically fake posts we get, but it's still a rush of stuff to deal with.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:30
|
|
|
AITA for asking my roommate to spend less time with her husband and more time home?quote:So I(21f) moved in with my roommate(27f) at the beginning of the year after I answered her ad on fb. My roommate is married, and originally her husband also lived with her and they were both working on finishing up their masters but covid caused a set back for my roommate so he finished before she did and she had over a year left. He received a good job opportunity so they both decided she would stay and finish while he went a head and started on his career 3 hours away in their hometown.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:31
|
|
|
Evil Willow posted:AITA for asking my roommate to spend less time with her husband and more time home? Oh yeah I’m sure she totally doesn’t have feelings for the roommate.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:35
|
|
|
Clark Nova posted:she spent more years of her life abandoning the living children than parenting the dead one 
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:55
|
|
|
Megillah Gorilla posted:Some guy got 1000s of dollars of DJ equipment stolen out of his van. He found the culprit and called the cops. The cops naturally said it wasn't their problem, it was a civil matter. Literally every time I’ve needed the cops they’ve pulled this poo poo.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 04:57
|
|
|
Bargearse posted:Literally every time I’ve needed the cops they’ve pulled this poo poo. Honestly 90% of the things I need cops for would be easier if we just made it a notary thing. "Ok, you need an official report of the crime/incident for insurance?" Send a notary, they're cheaper and they are unlikely to shoot the dog.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 05:01
|
|
|
Guildenstern Mother posted:Honestly 90% of the things I need cops for would be easier if we just made it a notary thing. "Ok, you need an official report of the crime/incident for insurance?" Send a notary, they're cheaper and they are unlikely to shoot the dog. They also wouldn't act like I'm a criminal myself for calling them. I've spoken to cops twice, once for a stolen car once for a home break-in. Both times they were so terse, interrogative, and abusive in their speech it felt like they were going to arrest me for reporting, which honestly feels within the realm of possibility in retrospect
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 05:04
|
|
|
A notary is perfectly capable of laughing at me when I ask if there's a chance they're going to be able to find and somehow return my poo poo, which is as far as I can tell the primary goal of the training of handling this situation.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 05:09
|
|
|
Uncle Enzo posted:Like, imagine the Bride's dad died 3 weeks before the wedding. Someone who was absolutely supposed to be there but passed instead. Memorial table is a compromise between "Dad died and you didn't even care" and cancelling the big day which is obviously really bad and likely to make the pain even worse. Have a toast to Bill, who wanted his daughter to be happy. Yeah I kinda realise nothing will be enough to satisfy psycho mum, but offering a compromise of giving a toast to absent friends & family, where you can mention Brooke along with any other dead family members or friends that would've otherwise been there, might be worth considering. I've been to several weddings where people have given a toast for a dead relative, but I've never seen a big-rear end memorial shrine to someone.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 05:31
|
|
|
Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:$10 says husband is an engineer Eta: actually on a reread he doubled down on the comments after she said she was upset that was incredibly stupid of him. Solenna fucked around with this message at 05:52 on Dec 22, 2021 |
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 05:50
|
|
|
the holy poopacy posted:well yeah, Guildenstern Mother posted:A notary is perfectly capable of laughing at me when I ask if there's a chance they're going to be able to find and somehow return my poo poo, which is as far as I can tell the primary goal of the training of handling this situation. yeah, sure. I'll just check with the boys down at the crime lab, they've got four more detectives working on the case. They got us working in shifts! gvibes fucked around with this message at 06:25 on Dec 22, 2021 |
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 06:20
|
|
|
webmeister posted:Yeah I kinda realise nothing will be enough to satisfy psycho mum, but offering a compromise of giving a toast to absent friends & family, where you can mention Brooke along with any other dead family members or friends that would've otherwise been there, might be worth considering. I've been to several weddings where people have given a toast for a dead relative, but I've never seen a big-rear end memorial shrine to someone. Why should the daughter have to compromise on this? The mother can go to hell, and say hello to Brooke from me.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 06:39
|
|
|
My high school best friend lost her eldest son to suicide when he was freshly 18. She has a photo of him and a couple of things of his on a side table next to the Christmas tree every year, and marks his birthday (not so much his death date tho, that’s still a bit raw after five years). I think it’s nice to have a place for him.. but she doesn’t gently caress with her younger son’s birthdays and special events, so that might be a whole different scenario.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 07:04
|
|
|
Brawnfire posted:They also wouldn't act like I'm a criminal myself for calling them. I've spoken to cops twice, once for a stolen car once for a home break-in. Both times they were so terse, interrogative, and abusive in their speech it felt like they were going to arrest me for reporting, which honestly feels within the realm of possibility in retrospect One thing I’ve learned from my interactions with the police is that a crazy meth-head trying to steal and smash my phone is a “civil matter” and that it’s unreasonable for me to expect them to actually do their jobs.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 07:11
|
|
|
Brawnfire posted:They also wouldn't act like I'm a criminal myself for calling them. I've spoken to cops twice, once for a stolen car once for a home break-in. Both times they were so terse, interrogative, and abusive in their speech it felt like they were going to arrest me for reporting, which honestly feels within the realm of possibility in retrospect Cops absolutely loving hate having to actually do their jobs, or literally anything other than beating, robbing and shooting people and getting away with it.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 07:12
|
|
|
Ghost Leviathan posted:Cops absolutely loving hate having to actually do their jobs, or literally anything other than beating, robbing and shooting people and getting away with it. That's unfair. They also really like giving traffic tickets and assaulting the capitol.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 07:24
|
|
|
Hey ever read a headline and you know exactly how it's going to be, then you start reading and are like, "Yep" and then finish reading and think WHAT THE gently caress DID I JUST READ? Yaah.... AITA for calling my oldest daughter by her real name? quote:I’m typing from my phone, so sorry for any grammar mistakes.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 09:39
|
|
|
Hughlander posted:Hey ever read a headline and you know exactly how it's going to be, then you start reading and are like, "Yep" and then finish reading and think WHAT THE gently caress DID I JUST READ? Yaah.... That’s one hell of a power move by the younger one.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 09:45
|
|
|
AITA for not going to school to play the new among us release?quote:I, 14M, used to hate among us until they released a big update chock full of new content. Only problem is, school is in the way (not for long as vacation is coming in soon) so I missed a few days to play. I have now “attendance failed” which means all my grades are set down to 50s because I failed the term. This is loving insane as I only didn’t show up for 6 days in an entire term (there are 4 terms btw). Now it seems silly that I traded education for a stupid game but lets be for real here, school is the twenty first century edition of slavery, if not even worse. Am I really in the wrong here?
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 09:45
|
|
|
Ah, to be 14 again
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 09:51
|
|
|
I mean yeah he's 14 but also I like how he's leaving out how not showing up for the last week in the term means he missed a lot of major exams and project deadlines. As if any week in the school year is interchangeable with another. You'd think a kid who spent that time playing Among Us would be a better liar.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 10:01
|
|
|
From the comments:quote:Welp I hope it doesn’t effect college because I’m hoping to graduate from Yale with a degree in biomechanics or something that pays extremely well. I heard colleges only really care about your ACT scores and extra circulars and let me tell you buddy, running a reddit account ain’t no easy work tanking my ivy league aspirations to play a video game for a few days lol
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 10:02
|
|
|
Ah, to be 14 again
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 10:09
|
|
|
Bargearse posted:a “civil matter” The idea of this absolutely blows my mind. Years ago, my house got broken into, nothing taken but still the police were lovely, they came for a follow up and gave me some free security things, dusted for prints, etc etc. I'm guessing this civil matter thing is American?!?
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 10:50
|
|
|
sugar mouse posted:The idea of this absolutely blows my mind. Years ago, my house got broken into, nothing taken but still the police were lovely, they came for a follow up and gave me some free security things, dusted for prints, etc etc. I'm guessing this civil matter thing is American?!? British thing too Hughlander posted:Hey ever read a headline and you know exactly how it's going to be, then you start reading and are like, "Yep" and then finish reading and think WHAT THE gently caress DID I JUST READ? Yaah.... Lol, don't be surprised if older sister calls you "rear end in a top hat" instead
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 10:56
|
|
|
Just call her Ellie Jr. or Ellie 2 until she gets the hint (because everyone just calls her Junior or 2 instead)
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 11:18
|
|
|
gvibes posted:I I was just about to look for this clip to post. 
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 11:49
|
|
|
A few pages ago but:Hellblazer187 posted:My mom (43F) is angry at me(17F) for not picking a university she likes Tell me you didn't go to university without telling me you didn't go to university.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 11:52
|
|
|
Megillah Gorilla posted:There's currently a murder trial going on in Australia that started over cops pulling that "not our problem" poo poo. One of many reasons we do not need police. Bargearse posted:Literally every time I’ve needed the cops they’ve pulled this poo poo. Literally every time anyone has needed the cops, they do this if they don't just kill you. ilmucche posted:British thing too Everywhere thing. There's a reason the saying isn't "some cops are bastards." This post was a real curveball. From the title, obviously, I assumed OP was just going to be transphobic. Shocking to see basically the exact opposite is at play in this fake post. tax AITA for not apologizing over a joke I pulled on my gf’s brother in the hotel room? quote:My gf,her brother,and I went on a road trip and booked a night in a little hotel. Small but cozy, two beds and one restroom. Late at night I finished showering and came out just wearing my sweat pants. I’m in pretty good shape and I guess the leftover bit of water was making me look extra good because my gf whistled at me, too which her brother said eww and told me to put a shirt on. Then he said”Why are you even hyping him up? Your ex’s muscles were like twice his size.” Gf is like”Omg would you stop, they were not.” and looks at me and says they were not. Well I decided to play a little joke on my gf’s brother and whispered to her to just play along.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:16
|
|
|
Shithouse Dave posted:My high school best friend lost her eldest son to suicide when he was freshly 18. She has a photo of him and a couple of things of his on a side table next to the Christmas tree every year, and marks his birthday (not so much his death date tho, that’s still a bit raw after five years). I think it’s nice to have a place for him.. but she doesn’t gently caress with her younger son’s birthdays and special events, so that might be a whole different scenario. 25 years for a 5 year old is time to fucken move on
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:17
|
|
|
Invisible Clergy posted:One of many reasons we do not need police. I was going to say I wish they gave ages but none of this behaviour is ok at any age. OP is less the rear end in a top hat but they both suck!
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:23
|
|
|
PancakeTransmission posted:5 years for her adult son is fine. You’re right. It’s almost like she’s mentally unwell. Also , what’s the official cut off time that you’re allowed to grieve for? How OP is processing her grief is unhealthy and cruel to her other kids at this point but I’m very curious as to what your cutoff point for grief itself is. DreamingofRoses fucked around with this message at 12:33 on Dec 22, 2021 |
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:29
|
|
|
I find myself wondering about the timeline there. The twins were 3 when Brooke died, and she mentions that Brooke was sick, so I'm guessing the twins were only babies or toddlers when she suddenly had a very ill child on her hands (possibly already without the dad in the picture?). My guess is that, between taking care of Brooke and then losing her, she never had a chance to really bond with the other kids before she was incapable of caring for them. I can see how, under those circumstances and her obvious burden of mental illness, she could see Brooke as her only "real" kid and the twins as sort of unpleasant coincidences. It's incredibly sad and strange, and it's a tragedy that she didn't get whatever counseling she needed to salvage something from the year she had full custody when they were preteens.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:41
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 28, 2024 07:19 |
|
|
DreamingofRoses posted:You’re right. It’s almost like she’s mentally unwell. You can mourn as long as you want, but after a year it's rude to constantly vomit it all over other people. Preformative grief is just another way of making everything about ME ME ME.
|
|
#
?
Dec 22, 2021 12:44
|
|
