Clark Nova posted:immediately disabling someone's cell phone line (and presumably making them lose their personal phone number) is some revenge fantasy poo poo that you shouldn't actually do no matter what I know this from experience because my ex's dad had me take him to court one day (for some reason) and on the drive back he disabled his girlfriend's/wife's/mistress'/baby mother's (I have no idea what that relationship was) phone and told me to speed through everything to get home because he knew she would flip her poo poo and drive to the house, which she did! Untreated mental illness relationships are something else, especially when you're experiencing them secondhand I felt horrible for the kids in that scenario. The worst part is I remember is them begging us to take them with us as we left because they knew what was going to happen in that house as soon as their mom barged in.  here's some content to maybe lighten them mood? AITA I told my wife that I'm disappointed in her immature behaviour quote:My wife is 32 weeks pregnant. She's had a rough pregnancy and I've been trying to accommodate her to the best of my abilities. Seth Pecksniff fucked around with this message at 18:44 on Dec 22, 2021 |
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I don't want to get into any debate about US police because that shits absolutely and irreparably hosed, but the UK at least has the Independent Police Complaints Commission so it's not like it's literally impossible to set up any kind of police oversight. Of course there's been some high profile cases of the IPCC loving up, but they do on occasion boot out the egregiously bad police and when it happens you don't have their whole department going out and rioting like you do in the US. I dunno, I think there's a thread in DandD about this.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:42
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Did I miss the reveal that the woman's current boyfriend is her step sister's ex? I assumed that based on the context but I felt like she could have made a little effort to explain when and how they met and/or why he and step sis broke up. That's what I would do if I didn't want people asking why it's ok for her to do it but not her step sis. Also, how small is their loving town that everybody ends up dating each other?
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Dec 22, 2021 18:46
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OP's stepsister is marrying OP's cheating ex-boyfriend. OP is now dating a guy that her stepsister has a crush on, who never reciprocated her affection.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:49
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It's not the sister's ex, but a person they've known their whole lives that the sister has held a candle for her whole life OP didn't start dating the guy until her sister was well into her relationship with her own ex, presumably because you'd think at that point they're over it, if they're with someone else You don't really get to have your cake and eat it too....you can't marry one guy but be upset when the other doesn't stay single. And she absolutely has no room to be upset at OP dating someone she had a crush on but never even dated, given that she's marrying OP's ex.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:50
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StrangersInTheNight posted:yeh it's quite interesting to see bc if you know anything about trans folks, it's that we're big on respecting people's names and not just telling people to get stuffed and get used to another one. like, it's pretty important to trans folks to respect people's names. i'm not saying it could never happen (plenty of people misunderstand the heart of things, trans folks are as human as anyone else and can absolutely be assholes about poo poo), but uhhhhhhhhhhhh it definitely raises flags for me as fearmongering
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greazeball posted:Did I miss the reveal that the woman's current boyfriend is her step sister's ex? I assumed that based on the context but I felt like she could have made a little effort to explain when and how they met and/or why he and step sis broke up. That's what I would do if I didn't want people asking why it's ok for her to do it but not her step sis. Also, how small is their loving town that everybody ends up dating each other? Nah, OP made it clear that step sister had never dated OP's boyfriend. Everyone else is behaving like a lunatic.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:51
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The Bee posted:AITA for telling this strange shirtless man to put a shirt on? it's cool man we all feel inadequate sometimes
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Dec 22, 2021 18:51
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StrangersInTheNight posted:You don't really get to have your cake and eat it too.... PetraCore posted:Allie, Nora, Nellie, Lenore... Let's fuckin' go... AITA for telling my oldest sister “why should I learn from you" quote:I recently paid off about 100k students debt and have started making decent money. But protecting my family is motivating me to earn more and more everyday. My sister A (f42) older than me recently left her lovely job and got a better one and is working on self improvement so I feel that she and I could really grow our family wealth and grow richer. She is a huge source of inspiration for me because it’s hard to change your mind in 40s and she left her fixed mindset behind and now is a huge believer in the growth mindset. It took me a couple of years to get her here with me. The problem is our oldest sister B(45) who has about $50k personal debt and isn’t doing anything to pay it off. And my sister or parents often have to lend her money due to her poor “business” decisions. I got her a writing job recently that would allow her to work from home and easy hours and good pay. But she kept complaining about the job being beneath her and eventually quit within 4 months. Now I took that job as a side gig for myself. So the three of us and our mom have a WhatsApp group where we stay connected. And me and sisterA often share motivational videos there to inspire each other. So today I shared a video on wealth creation in that group But sister B who is in serious debt started telling me how “real estate is easy way for wealth creation and all we need to do is sell and reinvest our parents assets.” I replied that “we lack financial education to make safe real estate moves and the three of us should take lessons in real estate and learn from successful realtors if we even want to EVER think of touching our parents properties”. And she started telling me that I should learn from her or not share such videos in their if I am not willing to “discuss”. I replied with “why should I learn from you? You’re not a successful realtor?”
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Dec 22, 2021 18:52
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yeh that one isn't so unrealistic, just bc 13 yo's can be weird af, more just the general theme of it popping up a few times seems like it's becoming something memetically EDIT: Also re: stepsister and ex and crush drama, lol at her husband-to-be standing there confused AF because his wife is getting romantically jealous about someone else as they head into nuptials lol
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LookListen posted:Is this like, the new anti-trans fearmongering angle? That a trans woman (because it's been a woman each time I've seen it lol) is going to steal your name, and everyone is going to just go with it? Because this is like the second or third time I've seen that kind of story in this thread lmao. IF they're talking about the story wherein white woman trying to use a Asian women's dead sister's name then yeah that trans woman is hosed up racist and evil and hiding behind their queerness to avoid the reality of wow lady. You wanna go by your best friends dead sister's name? A very culturally and racially specific, important name unique to a culture you don't belong to? You want your bff to call you by her dead sister's name and trigger her grief and trauma every time? hosed up. Of course a trans person can use whatever name they want, but in this case she is genuinely racist and insensitive. There are many names to go by in the world. Hell she could even pick something similar. Hana? Go by Hannah. Hell I know a nonbinary dude who goes by 'Pops'. If they mean some other story then idk, I have no comment. Note I'm trans and Asian. I have every right to hate this lady for being racist and hiding behind her queerness to avoid having empathy for her Asian friend and for a deceased Asian woman. People's cultures are not for dressing up in. Our names are important.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:55
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Oh, yeah. That's the story I was thinking of. I did have a young queer acquaintance who decided to rename himself Akuma. Of course he pronounced it Uh-KOO-muh like the Street Fighter villain.
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Dec 22, 2021 18:59
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I don't even think I heard that one! I've seen another on reddit not long ago, I'll see if I can find it. Wouldn't be surprised if some are true and some are creative writing exercises, like everything on reddit
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Grimdude posted:Lmao This dude sounds cool as hell and I’d love to hang out with him. Probably makes me an easy mugging target. Seth Pecksniff posted:
That’s a divorcin’
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Dec 22, 2021 19:00
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AITA for not giving up my inheritance for my brotherquote:I (20 m) got the largest share of inheritance from my grandparents trust who declared me their 'heir.' The rest of my family got some inheritance also, but mine is considerably larger than anyone else's. The money is basically untouchable for me until I become 22. As most of my family (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) have been living extremely luxuriously on my grandparents money and not really working, they are not happy with the way the estate has been distributed and are trying to make me sign over the money. "okay, how 'bout we sell your half brother to you"
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Dec 22, 2021 19:09
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving up my inheritance for my brother
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Dec 22, 2021 19:20
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PetraCore posted:Get it in writing and then use that to destroy them later. I believe someone advised them in the comments and OP says the family is smart enough to avoid putting it explicitly in writing so far.
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Dec 22, 2021 19:24
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Halloween Jack posted:
Sounds like that sister would benefit from a performance improvement plan.
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Dec 22, 2021 19:26
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The Bee posted:AITA for telling this strange shirtless man to put a shirt on? OP is an rear end, he could have screamed "you have my sword, gimli"
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Dec 22, 2021 19:28
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When an NPC gets on my nerves, I deal with the problem myself through stealth archery, instead of whining to the Internet like some milk-drinker.
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AITA for putting extra salt in my SIL’s food?quote:Throaway account I (F34) have a SIL (F25), let’s call her H. She’s been together with my brother J (M32) for three years now. We were born in Europe but originally from the Middle-East. H is born and raised in Europe. Our religion and part of our culture is different from hers but we didn’t mind cause she’s a nice girl and we are open-minded. She really tries her best to please my brother in every way. She’s learning Arabic, asking about the culture, and lately she started looking up recipes from our country too. My brother is very happy with everything she does and if he’s happy than we are too. Last week they came to visit our whole family for lunch. Our family is pretty big with many cousins, kids, brothers, sisters, parents and grandparents. Most of them were there. H made a meal which is really popular in the country we’re originally from. Everyone was amazed by it. She left it in the kitchen with all of the other dishes for later. Well to be fair I’m cooking since I was 14 years old and I’m a pretty good cook too. I was interested how her food tasted so I tried it. It wasn’t bad but I thought maybe I could fix it up with a little salt and spices. When we served the food for lunch, everyone complimented H about the dish and how well she’s done it. Here is where I might be TA. I told front of everyone that I fixed the food up with some salt and spices. J got very angry and started to argue with me front of everyone. He told me there’s was nothing wrong with H’s meal and I shouldn’t be disrespectful. But I believe in constructive criticism and I was trying to help her learn. After they’ve gone and I saw H crying in the car. My family told me I was an AH and embarrassed our guest. I feel pretty bad. AITA? Update: AITA for putting extra salt in my SIL’s food? quote:You can find the original post: here
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AITA Bought a used car, now the previous owner wants it back, I don't want to give it back.quote:So I bought a used car (I live a 7hr walk from anywhere and don't have a car, my usual transport is currently not running, some info to why I'm looking) from "John Doe." John Doe lost their job and couldn't afford bills so they decided to sell their car and I decided to buy it and pay full asking price because why not? They're struggling with bills and I can afford that, plus it was exactly what I was looking for. Wonder how many times the car has been 'sold' and recovered with that extra key... Probably didn't expect it to be transfered so quickly.
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Hughlander posted:AITA Bought a used car, now the previous owner wants it back, I don't want to give it back. Yeah this raises big scammer vibes. Maybe an unsuccessful scammer who doesn't understand how vehicle ownership works, but deliberately keeping the second key and asking for the car back the very same day that it's sold? This is very shady.
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Dec 22, 2021 20:07
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quote:AITA for not wanting to teach my BF how to cook? Congrats, you've officially become his second mother!
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The Bee posted:AITA for telling this strange shirtless man to put a shirt on? Absolute king. gently caress this dweeb op
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AITA for letting an iPad destroy Christmas?quote:I’m staying at my grandma’s for Christmas with my fiancé.
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QuarkJets posted:Yeah this raises big scammer vibes. Maybe an unsuccessful scammer who doesn't understand how vehicle ownership works, but deliberately keeping the second key and asking for the car back the very same day that it's sold? This is very shady. I legitimately had a former boss of mine try to pull an ownership-type scam on me after they sold me a car. They sold me a car under an agreement that I would pay them X amount per month for a period of time and at the end, they tried to claim that the car had a title loan on it the entire time and that I would need to pay it off before they could transfer ownership to me. There were a few problems though. 1. I was the one who wrote up the initial contract (which they retyped and removed parts of it that were in their favor without thinking) 2. They gave me the loan paperwork which showed that they took out the loan after the sale of the car started. I pointed both of these things out and the guy immediately said "Oh poo poo." They eventually gave me the title lien free after they were forced to pay off the title loan themselves. All in all, I paid about 1500$ for a car worth about 5k at the time because they were too lazy to write their own contract.
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BOOTY-ADE posted:
gently caress this weaponized incompetence guy. If she tries to teach him he will go, "boohoo I'm bad at it  " so she won't ask him to cook again. There is no loving way this weenie can't follow the instructions on a packet.Throw him into the bin.
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving up my inheritance for my brother Man can't really figure out why granddad picked him to give all his money to
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for letting an iPad destroy Christmas? I feel there’s a part missing here where he really tries to convince his girlfriend to drop the charges because  if she’s talking about severing. Save the relationship, sever with your trash family. Don’t want felony charges, don’t do felonies. Yes, it’s not always that simple, but in this case it is. And maybe if this dudes family didn’t enable all Mark’s minor crimes, he’d have stopped or at least wouldn’t be at Christmas.
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Pawning an ipad is like the dumbest of dumb poo poo idiot crimes. Congratulations you just did a crime and put a LoJack on yourself. The people who you stole it from are gonna know where it was the whole time you had it, you dingus.
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:Pawning an ipad is like the dumbest of dumb poo poo idiot crimes. Congratulations you just did a crime and put a LoJack on yourself. Heroin addicts are not known for their long term planning skills...
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StrangersInTheNight posted:It's not the sister's ex, but a person they've known their whole lives that the sister has held a candle for her whole life thank you (all) for the explanation StrangersInTheNight posted:EDIT: Also re: stepsister and ex and crush drama, lol at her husband-to-be standing there confused AF because his wife is getting romantically jealous about someone else as they head into nuptials lol but thanks especially for painting this picture for me lmao
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Dec 22, 2021 22:42
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'how could you date the man i've always loved!' your fiancee laments next to you - and she's not talking about you
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greazeball posted:but thanks especially for painting this picture for me lmao Wonder if he let out a Tim "The Tool Man" Taylor confused grunt.
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value-brand cereal posted:IF they're talking about the story wherein white woman trying to use a Asian women's dead sister's name then yeah that trans woman is hosed up racist and evil and hiding behind their queerness to avoid the reality of wow lady. You wanna go by your best friends dead sister's name? A very culturally and racially specific, important name unique to a culture you don't belong to? You want your bff to call you by her dead sister's name and trigger her grief and trauma every time? hosed up. Oh yeah, I didn't mean that one, I've been in enough queer groups and knew enough people in others for that to be the most believable of this kind of story. I think I just misremembered that as being the OP's name the person was taking? And got mixed up thinking there was another 'my trans sibling/friend is stealing my name/future child's name and everyone is unusually universally supportive of this trans person's wishes!!' story between that story and the most recent one lol The 'sibling came out and is stealing my name' thing as a broad concept, just feels like those other stories where it seems like OP is trying to find a situation where a minority making a request/taking offense to something is over the line and bad, like 'oh yeah? Well what if they did THIS, is it still problematic now???'. Or/and trying to find the perfect set up/plot twist for a title that looks -phobic and a post that shows OP is in the right, actually. Then again most of the trans people I know were either single children or had a normal sibling relationship, so who knows, maybe this does come up a lot??
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