Armitag3 posted:

Well????

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A comment saying he stayed under $75 per toy has just changed to say he spent $50 total.

Another comment claiming he stayed "under budget per toy" has been deleted.

Buff Hardback posted:

Went and found it, OP is looking suspect as hell as time goes on in the comments

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Her parents are both very successful. Her mother is a lawyer and her father works in politics.
22 hours ago

I spent about $50 on the kids each.
1 day ago

I bought my kids gifts that they asked for. None of the gifts passed the budget.
1 day ago

Buff Hardback posted:

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I(35f) live in a place with a lot of stray cats, and the occasional unwanted cat dumped. I usually let them be. But more than a year ago now, there was one that I took in because she was a little kitten and being very loud and obviously was not feral.

I did everything I could to find her owner, contacted shelters, put it on social media, but no one claimed her so I kept her for myself.

However, a few days ago I was contacted by a woman claiming to have been her owner. She said that she had been in rough financial shape and going through a toxic relationship, and her now ex boyfriend dumped the cat. She said she had seen my posts but hadn’t been able to take her back because she couldn't afford a cat but that she now could and was wondering if I would give her the cat.

I told her I was obviously very sorry for everything she went through but that she had had the opportunity to claim her cat and it was more than a year later now.

She broke down crying on the phone when I said that and said the kitten was the last reminder of her cat that had passed away from cancer and that I was awful for not giving someone going through hard times their cat back.

She's texted me a few times since then and I feel pretty bad about it and I'm thinking I should just give her the cat, but on the other hand I've had the cat for most of her life and she had the opportunity to claim her kitten.

AITA?

Lemniscate Blue posted:

In 2005 the Navy deployed me to Kuwait to staff a medical clinic supporting Army units being staged for movement north into Iraq. Jarhead had just come out, with the dog tag branding scene. Every couple weeks we'd have to treat a new pack of idiots who'd imitated it, and gotten their third-degree burns subsequently infected.

Despite posting the Inglourious Basterds clip above, I wouldn't at all be surprised if dumbfuck Nazis started adopting scarification or branding themselves as a "look how 'ard I am" rite of passage and mark of dedication. I bet it already happens in the more hardcore groups.

Mx. posted:

AITA for not giving the cat I found back to her owner?

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

The OP has no post history and made these three comments:

I don't know what you're talking about.

Edit:

Is this someone else posting that in the comments or do you have some magic way of seeing comment changes?

The Maroon Hawk posted:

Giving your kid like a used videogame console or whatever is fine if they know you're doing your best on a budget, but shampoo and toothpaste???

The Maroon Hawk posted:

Giving your kid like a used videogame console or whatever is fine if they know you're doing your best on a budget, but shampoo and toothpaste???

Agents are GO! posted:

Wasn't this literally the plot to the first episode of the Simpsons?

The Maroon Hawk posted:

Giving your kid like a used videogame console or whatever is fine if they know you're doing your best on a budget, but shampoo and toothpaste???

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

I'm no advanced math logician, but it sounds to me like "unsure" would be the better bet for any case where you didn't 100% definitely know the answer, particularly if N was greater than 2.

Coffee Sludge posted:

(or other consumable)

Coffee Sludge posted:

Having received a bottle of ketchup one christmas from my grandparents, yes it sucks and obviously you don't ever end up forgetting that you got a condiment (or other consumable) for a present.

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

Wow wife has some broke brain.

Given her reaction is just to ghost the entire family I don’t see her coming back from this. It’s like the beans lady where the bizarre behavior is so wrapped up in layers of denial bizarre thinking that they won’t even start talk about it no matter how it burns down their life.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

who is beans lady

WoodrowSkillson posted:

who is beans lady

WoodrowSkillson posted:

who is beans lady

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I admit I posted a version of this on the relationship subreddit the other day, but they closed it with no explanation, I assume because they just decided it was fake. I can see how they might think that, but this is a true thing that happened and is happening, and now there is more to it because I actually got broken up with over it.

With all that is going on, we had stocked up on supplies, including some canned goods. I ordered a few weeks ago 30 cans of beans. 10 are black beans, 10 are kidney beans, and 10 are pink beans. Also, I ordered 15 cans of chickpeas. I thought this is a reasonable amount of beans and chickpeas to have every now and then and would last for quite some time.

However earlier this week I opened the cabinet because I wanted to make a vegetarian chili using two cans of beans, but all of the beans were gone. What the hell?

I asked my girlfriend and she told me she buried all of the beans in the woods.

At first I thought she was joking, but she explained, no, she had buried the beans in the woods. WTF?

I asked her to explain and she told me she was afraid that "if things get bad" we might have to worry about "looters or whatever" and that the beans would be in danger of being stolen. I said I thought this was completely ridiculous and unlikely. She became angry at me and said she "is protecting our beans."

According to her logic, the beans are safely buried in the woods behind our apartment complex, and if we ever need some beans she will go to the "stash" and dig up a can or two, but would prefer if we save them all for "if things get worse".

I said why only bury the beans, why not bury our more valuable items? She said the canned food was most valuable for long-term means, and that since we get fresh food in our online grocery deliveries, it would make sense to continue to stockpile beans. She intends to go bury more beans in the woods every week.

This was too insane for me and I got very upset. I demanded to know where the beans were buried, and she refused to tell me. She said if I knew she was afraid I'd dig them up, I said drat right I would. She said "I will never jeopardize the beans."

The following day I tried to put my foot down, and I'm not usually a foot downer but there are rare issues where compromise is out of the question, and I foolishly decided this was one of those issues. I demanded to know where the beans were buried and I told her if she was going to bury beans I paid for in the woods that I would move out. We fought about it and I kept insisting.

In hindsight I should have just let it go and created my own hidden stash of beans in the apartment, and given her time to maybe cool down about this bean burying scenario, but I blew it all out of proportion. Yeah it's weird to bury beans in the woods but why did I have to press it? What's the harm at the end of the day? In the grand scheme of things? But I kept demanding her to take me to the beans, or at least draw a map or something, and finally she BROKE UP WITH ME. Over the beans. I have lost the love of my life because I couldn't let the drat beans go. I am in disbelief. She moved out. Not only am I heartbroken but I am now paying full rent instead of 50% which is a huge financial issue for me.

TL;DR - I kept demanding that my girlfriend show me where she buried the beans in the woods and she got so angry at me that she ended our relationship and moved out. My heart is shattered and my finances are jeopardized because of a bean hoard.

The Maroon Hawk posted:

I think I'll always remember March-May of 2020 as the absolute most bugfuck insane period of my life

Just everybody losing their god drat minds for two months straight

Inceltown posted:

It's still happening, you've just adjusted to the new normal.

Coffee Sludge posted:

Having received a bottle of ketchup one christmas from my grandparents, yes it sucks and obviously you don't ever end up forgetting that you got a condiment (or other consumable) for a present.

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Hi all,

Apologies for any grammar mistakes: English is not my native language.

I am a 33F, I have been together with my husband (38M) for 8 years, married for 3. I'm going to give some information on my husband's family since it's relevant. Husband has 3 siblings, one older sister (40F, dating her boyfriend for 15 years), and two younger siblings (36M and 31F, both dating someone, no children). My father-in law and MIL were together for 30 years and divorced 20 years ago.

Father-in law has remarried a great lady and I get along with them in an amazing way, likewise for my husband's in-laws. However my MIL is a different story.

I have never spoken to her, nor has any other partner of any of my husband's siblings. She has decided that she doesn't 'feel the need' to know about their 'private lives'. Even when she was still together with FIL, when she found out about her oldest daughter having a boyfriend (at 18 years old) she threw a fit and decided he would never be welcome in her home.

Her attitude has never changed towards any of her children's partners. She always said that it is nothing 'personally', just that she doesn't need to know that side. This goes quite far, some examples:

- My BIL's GF had a car accident 3 years ago, her condition was bad for a while. Since MIL was a nurse, he asked her for advice. This took place at the beginning of december, and when she found out that the advice was for BIL's GF, she threw a fit and cancelled the christmas dinner she had planned for her and her children.

- My SIL's BF works for a telecom operator, many years ago MIL had an issue and SIL's BF managed to help resolve the issue, when she found out, she changed telecom operator

- At my boyfriend's graduation, she did not want us to be in the same elevator to reach the correct floor, me and the other in-laws had to wait, we were also not allowed to sit near her during the ceremony

- Whenever husband and I run into her (we don't live far away), my husband goes to greet her and I need to wait

- She has been invited to our house by my husband but she requested that every picture of me (or my family) would be gone and that I would not be there (she did the same to the other in-laws)

- Whenever her family asks about her children she says that they are all single

I could go on for a while about this. She also treats her ex-husband and her ex-in-law's exactly the same, refusing that FIL attends graduation ceremony's, throwing a fit when he invites his children for a christmas party.

It's important to note that there is no religous or cultural reason why she would not see or meet her children-in-law. She also makes up her own rules, at first it was because her children were dating without being married (while she did the same with FIL). She told her children that she would be ok to meet their partners after marriage.

When husband and I got married, she made a whole scandal about FIL and his wife being invited, demanding that they would not be attending. We decided that since FIL and his wife were always kind to us, they were more welcome than she was. MIL decided not to attend. There has never been any changement in her behaviour.

This whole situation has reached a breaking point since I am pregnant (8 months, baby is due mid-January). MIL is over the moon, has seen pictures of the echo, has been buying stuff for the baby etc. Which is normal since it's her first grandchild. However she has decided that she wants to see her first grandchild, while carrying on her current behaviour, aka: cutting me out.

I am not allowed to be there when she sees her grandchild. She also doesn't want nor husband, nor her grandchild to talk about me, since it's 'irrelevant'. She has said that she sees no reason to change her behaviour since it's not personal.

Except, it's not only her grandchild, but it's MY CHILD. After all these years of accomodating to her 'wishes' and non-existant norms and values, I freaked out. I told my husband that if this was the way that she was going to behave, that she would never see her grandchild, that I refuse for my child to be dictated by her irrational wishes.

This was 3 months ago, I have not changed my mind. From what I heared, MIL is 'very upset' and 'depressed' about my behaviour. Husband understands my opinion but thinks that I should give in since 'she's old' and 'It's her first grandchild' and how much of a great grandmother she would be.

Even his siblings have been telling me that they understand my point of view, but that it would be nice if I could let her see her grandchild once month. The only one fully supporting me are FIL and his wife.

Tl;dr: How do I handle this situation?

OhAreThey posted:

But what about a bottle of really good maple syrup?

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Mx. posted:

How do I handle MIL (70F) who wants to see my child (her grandchild) while ignoring my (33F) existance?

Mx. posted:

How do I handle MIL (70F) who wants to see my child (her grandchild) while ignoring my (33F) existance?

Mx. posted:

How do I handle MIL (70F) who wants to see my child (her grandchild) while ignoring my (33F) existance?

Mx. posted:

How do I handle MIL (70F) who wants to see my child (her grandchild) while ignoring my (33F) existance?

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The only one fully supporting me are FIL and his wife.

Mx. posted:

How do I handle MIL (70F) who wants to see my child (her grandchild) while ignoring my (33F) existance?

OhAreThey posted:

But what about a bottle of really good maple syrup?

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So I decided to go skating in fursuit at a local small outdoor public skating rink. I basically expected to be bullied by children (I'm 24) so I brought along my roommate to help ground me. I am not as effected by bullies if I have a friend near me.

Most left me alone, watched from afar or made a cute quick comment. This one kid, no older than 18, started to howl as we skated around. I stared saying things like "can you please stop" and "wow so creative". I tried to not let it bug me but it did since it was constant for almost 20 minutes. I eventually got physically tired and went to sit down, but the kid who was howling was sitting next to my roommate. He kept howling and I made another pissy remark asking him to stop as his dad took off his skates.

It was at that moment his dad did something that looked like sign language and the dad looked slightly embarassed, I stopped midsentance. I was getting pissy at someone who may have had some sort of mental illness and couldn't control it. I offered the kid a high five (he took it) and did a few more laps until they left to avoid any more embarasment on my end.

So, Reddit, aita?

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I’ve been working as a findomme for a little while now and it’s been really lucrative financially.

My best friend, who I was living with, initially didn’t like me doing findom but when the money started coming in she wanted to get in on it too. She’s really enthusiastic but she doesn’t really have the attitude for it so she hasn’t been doing all that well and some of her clients have left her and came to me.

She was really annoyed about it and I tried to help her and give her some feedback but she thought I was being condescending and straight up told me to give her some of my clients. But I can’t really do that bc it’s up to them decide who they go to so she got mad at me.

Apparently she’s spent a lot on her credit card and thought she’d make enough money from findom to pay it back but I don’t want to be unethical to my clients so AITA for not sharing my clients?

OhAreThey posted:

But what about a bottle of really good maple syrup?

Cowslips Warren posted:

of course no pics or what the animal was.

Cowslips Warren posted:

What is the proper attitude for a findomme? Give me your money or else?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for not sharing my clients as a domme