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The Bramble posted:Um can we please cool it on using the m-word slur on this page? I don't want to have to start mass reporting people. Look at this childman.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 16:33 |
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The Bramble posted:Um can we please cool it on using the m-word slur on this page? I don't want to have to start mass reporting people. Yeah, this doesn't look like the Never-Never Land Politics thread
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 16:39 |
Midnight Voyager posted:I failed a test like that once and nearly killed myself on the way home, just saying. 800-273-8255
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The Bramble posted:Um can we please cool it on using the m-word slur on this page? I don't want to have to start mass reporting people. manchild
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Dr. Stab posted:"Wife as servant" is a super normalized part of our culture, and while it was way more prevalent in past generations, a lot of people still believe that that's just how marriage is supposed to be. A thing you have to suffer through in order to get babies or social status or otherwise have a "successful" life. DrManiac posted:Look at this chump who actually loves his kid lol. The dubiously named doctors are correct, though also that a shitload of people had and continue to have kids not because they want to but because that's what they're told they're supposed to do.
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Mx. posted:AITA for refusing to take in my sister's baby after I took in her daughter? Your fertile womb is making my house too crowded.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 17:18 |
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Since it's not social suicide anymore, you might as well skip marriage and opt for a sperm donor if your lizard brain needs to reproduce so badly. At least you'll only be responsible for the one baby.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:And how are there so many people willing to put up with that poo poo? Amatonormativity is a hell of a drug.
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greazeball posted:I am really interested to know people's definition of "the perfect partner" except for that one thing. None of the people in the stories seem to be funny or positive or financially stable so what is it?
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 18:30 |
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AITA for refusing to force my son to apologize to my wife for "ruining" her New Years toast speech?quote:Important context: I missread originally and thought he was making the son apologize and my WTF level was rising higher and higher.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 19:04 |
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AITA for my reaction to hearing my neighbors son was looking in my windows, from his parents?quote:Not the A-hole
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 19:17 |
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for my reaction to hearing my neighbors son was looking in my windows, from his parents? Lol at the dad grandpa simpsoning out of there the instant he thought he was on camera hmm wonder why
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for my reaction to hearing my neighbors son was looking in my windows, from his parents? Talk is free. If the kid's parents weren't lovely freaks that let their creepy kid spy on their neighbors, nobody would have poo poo to drunkenly yell about it.
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Mx. posted:AITA for how I reacted after I discovered my husband left our daughter in dirty diaper for 4hrs? The OP is basically a single parent and doesn't realise it yet.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 20:23 |
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Kid's an idiot for getting caught and the parents are snitches.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 20:27 |
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kntfkr posted:Kid's an idiot for getting caught and the parents are snitches. Dad's probably the one perving which is why he doesn't want to discipline the boy.
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kntfkr posted:Kid's an idiot for getting caught and the parents are snitches. The peeper? Ehhh peeping toms are a kind of sexual predator, gently caress 'em.
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My grandma used to tell me about a weird kid in the neighborhood that would ladder up to peoples windows at night. She told me when he was older he got arrested whacking it on someone garage roof. They gotta stop the kid now
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Malcolm Excellent posted:My grandma used to tell me about a weird kid in the neighborhood that would ladder up to peoples windows at night. She told me when he was older he got arrested whacking it on someone garage roof. Based on the updates it's not even clear the kid was doing... anything? I kind of got a 'oh my god there's a woman existing somewhere our son can see her' vibe.
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Rescue Toaster posted:Based on the updates it's not even clear the kid was doing... anything? I kind of got a 'oh my god there's a woman existing somewhere our son can see her' vibe. Same, probably the dad was busted or something and deflected onto the son.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 21:08 |
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it's been my experience that heavily religious families don't even know their own kids, their parents live in a fog where they unquestioningly believe everything they're told about teenagers while stoically ignoring everything their actual teen is trying to tell them. all teens are horny rulebreakers trying to smoke drugs, because that's how it is on the television, and if their lives are dramatic like television they can turn their faces away from the all-sucking void of nullity that has swallowed their entire personality.
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 21:15 |
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they were likely about to launch into a spiel about how their son is 'that age' and it sure would be convenient if she just covered up her harlot skin rather than tempting him so much that got waylaid pretty early when she put the blame on the person committing trespass, rather than herself for existing
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# ? Jan 2, 2022 21:16 |
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Machai posted:800-273-8255 That was over ten years ago, buddy, in a way better place now. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 22:16 on Jan 2, 2022 |
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AITA for telling my sister it's her fault nobody likes her husband?quote:I'm asking you please to engage in cultural relativity here. You don't have to like our practices, just temporarily accept them to understand this post. Instead, he's an rear end in a top hat about everything including the wedding, and the family are rightly tired of putting up with the rear end in a top hat their daughter married. Younger sister is snooty, but given that the whole family's being insulted, it's reasonable. However, the missing missing reason is that "customary marriage" involves a whopping set of payments given to the parents. It's not just "here are a few thousand, glad to be here." lobolo is fascinating to read about. And, wow, expensive and likely to delay/prevent marriage.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for telling my sister it's her fault nobody likes her husband? Ya done did it
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I think dowries and bride prices are a fascinating cultural difference. I think the only one I ended up "agreeing" with (could ever see myself engaging in) was the one where the groom-to-be was asked to satisfy the custom by putting a years worth of his fiancee's earnings into an account in her name. He had plenty of money to do this and the idea was to give the bride an assurance and safeguard if things didn't work out. I think that's basically a more functional version of the idea behind engagement rings. Not something I'm going to borrow or do on my own since it's still lovely and awful but probably as least bad as any old custom could be.
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A YouTube man?
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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to force my son to apologize to my wife for "ruining" her New Years toast speech? OP posted:**UPDATE**
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Sure, first thing this lady does is log in and seek the approval of western nerds. Totally who she seeks approval from.
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Verdugo posted:A YouTube man? White. (Whitey) E: Why Tee #FFFFFF
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Uncle Enzo posted:I think dowries and bride prices are a fascinating cultural difference. Oh yeah it's really interesting how over the world we have this vast range of practices that range from 'you pay me for this valuable asset you want to take from me', 'I pay you because you want to take this costly asset from me', 'you pay me because you are buying into my family and an extented range of obligations I will owe you', to 'you pay me because later I will pay you in a very complex set of exchanges that will build goodwill and ultimately more or less cancel out'.
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I feel very confused because to me a dowry always refered to the practice of the brides family "paying" the grooms family (but realistically it's so the bride has some assets going into the grooms family) but it seems to also refer to the bride price thing where it's the grooms family paying money to the bride?
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Xun posted:I feel very confused because to me a dowry always refered to the practice of the brides family "paying" the grooms family (but realistically it's so the bride has some assets going into the grooms family) but it seems to also refer to the bride price thing where it's the grooms family paying money to the bride? The practice is gonna have as many variants as cultures have it.
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Grape posted:The practice is gonna have as many variants as cultures have it. I'm confused about the fact that the same word is used for basically completely opposite practices
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for telling my sister it's her fault nobody likes her husband? It's not close because someone is intentionally trying to write a story where sexist traditions are good because it's a cultural thing and white man is colonial and bad. Look at the story as if it included some real rear end backward poo poo that we're culturally familiar with, like a mormon household or something and it's of course a lady OP defending the practices to add that sprinkle of authenticity.
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Xun posted:I'm confused about the fact that the same word is used for basically completely opposite practices
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Xun posted:I'm confused about the fact that the same word is used for basically completely opposite practices This is the basis for Anthropology 101. There is no advanced levels, they were eliminated in a budget holocaust. But yes, it's a deeply backwards tradition which reflects the level to which old honkies have hosed up the whole world.
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Xun posted:I feel very confused because to me a dowry always refered to the practice of the brides family "paying" the grooms family (but realistically it's so the bride has some assets going into the grooms family) but it seems to also refer to the bride price thing where it's the grooms family paying money to the bride? the woman's south african and either zulu or a similar group. the groom doesn't pay money he pays cows.
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BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:the woman's south african and either zulu or a similar group. the groom doesn't pay money he pays cows.
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ArbitraryC posted:It's not close because someone is intentionally trying to write a story where sexist traditions are good because it's a cultural thing and white man is colonial and bad. Look at the story as if it included some real rear end backward poo poo that we're culturally familiar with, like a mormon household or something and it's of course a lady OP defending the practices to add that sprinkle of authenticity. There's a lot of naïveté to this post, but especially the acting like a woman would never write that, or ever (rightly or wrongly) stan for outdated traditions part. Well that and the assuming that the post-colonial and racial edge doesn't color it differently than say Utah, or thinking there's no way a British man abroad could be a snide condescending rear end in a top hat. I'd also say there's way less sexism to this then the FLDS polygamy example you immediately reached for. Like, magnitudes magnitudes less.
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