sootikins posted:

it does not get better in the comments!

creep posted:

So where is the line on acceptable mementos? Is the line condoms?

creep posted:

That was a bit of tongue in cheek. Tbh, if I I had acquired [tampons] in my first collection I prob would have kept collecting them. Really glad I never had one, cause that's where I draw the line

Kuiperdolin posted:

Our new strategy name is a sex act

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Yes I am mad, although I am not sure why. This just feels false advertising to me, like you say something while act something completely opposite.

We were talking at the time (last year August) and she had been very clear to me from the beginning that she wanted to build an emotional bond before sleeping together and I was in agreement with her. The first time we slept together was on my birthday (October 21st) but I was more than ok with it, now I am not so sure. What happened was we were discussing kinks and fantasies and she confessed that one of her kinks in CNC (consensual non consent) and complete loss of control. So I asked if she has ever tried it and she admitted that she has tried it once, with someone she met on tinder and it was wild. Apparently, they had arranged that he was to come into her apartment, do the cnc and then leave, without ever saying saying a word and then they will never see each other again. But the catch, it happened in the last week of August 2021 when we were already talking and she had told me that she wants to go slow.

At the time I didnt say anything to her (it happened last night) and we just kept discussing about CNC and if we can integrate it in our sexual lives. But after she left, I thought about it some more and it seems hypocritical. Why say something to me and then act completely opposite with a stranger? Need help Reddit!

Pope Hilarius II posted:

At one workplace during an all-hands meeting our VP Marketing spoke English for a second language, and while the man meant that we as a company should get out there, promote ourselves more, etc, he constantly spoke about "we need to expose ourselves".

He also said "we hardly worked" when he meant "we worked very hard".

On both occasions I informed him privately why he might reconsider his word choices there.

Serephina posted:

What on earth could CBT stand for other than that?

sootikins posted:

Sodium Chloride posted:

You weren't kidding

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I (19M) work in a small office. In November a few of my coworkers organized a secret santa gift exchange for christmas. It was optional but most people joined in so I did too, though I do not celebrate christmas (I am ex-christian) but I still celebrate the holiday season & I thought it would be fun.

One of the people who organized it is a woman Ill call Jen (50sF). She is a devout christian, I know because she had a lot of religious items on her desk & she is always saying religious stuff & talking about church. Soon after we all picked names for secret santa, she approached me & said that she was glad that Id joined in because “its nice to see young people getting involved in the spirit of christmas.” Then she asked if I would be going to mass for christmas & I said no. She asked why & I told her that Im actually ex-christian so I dont go to church. I dont think I was rude about it but she started acting weird & said that I shouldnt have joined secret santa because I was “profiting off other peoples generosity in the celebration of christs birth.” I didnt know what to say so I said that I would be getting someone a gift too of course & I couldnt back out now because then one person wouldnt get anything. She said she would pray for me & left, & we didnt really interact after that.

A few days before christmas we all were supposed to exchange our gifts. I gave the person I picked their gift & then I was waiting to receive mine, I didnt know who picked me of course but eventually it seemed like everyone had gotten their gifts except me. Then Jen came over & said she was the one who picked my name, but since I didnt believe in christmas there was no reason for her to get me a gift in celebration of it. I was honestly shocked but she left before I could say anything. It did bother me a bit but I decided to let it go because I didnt want any drama. Later I was talking to another coworker Amy (22F), she asked me what I got so I told her what happened with Jen. Amy said I should tell our supervisor about it because Jen has said similar things to a coworker of ours who is muslim. I told her I didnt want to make a big deal out of the secret santa thing & I thought we left it at that.

But after the holidays our supervisor Mark (50sM) called me into his office & asked about what happened with Jen during the gift exchange. I didnt want to lie to a supervisor so I told him what she said, but also that it wasnt a big deal to me, it was just a present. He thanked me & said not to worry but that this was connected to “a greater trend in Jens behaviour” & he would have to “take action.” Yesterday I noticed Jens desk was cleared out, I asked Amy about it & she said Jen had been fired.

I feel bad because I didnt care about getting a present that much & I dont think its something that warrants getting someone fired. I told my friend Sam (19M) about it & he said I shouldnt have told Mark what Jen said because it was just a dumb disagreement between us. So idk. AITA?

limp_cheese posted:

Made me think of cumshirt and piss bottle guy.

Hughlander posted:

Article is boring but headline is great

AITA for getting a coworker fired because she didn't get me a christmas present?

Variable 5 posted:

Completely ignoring everything else, do people post in AITA expecting support from the Internet (lol) so they can show the other person? "Look, some people on reddit agreed with me so you're not allowed to be mad any longer."

Invisible Clergy posted:

It was referencing this hall of famer from the last thread.

AITA for breaking up with my friend group for horrible relationship advice that broke up my marriage?

sootikins posted:

Seth Pecksniff posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAd8WyKaWbM

teen witch posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHpHxLZReiI

trickybiscuits posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXOjyv4d998

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My fiancé (27M) and I (25F) are getting married soon. The wedding is in 2 months and we still have to get a wedding dress and we’re planning on moving into a house shortly after getting married.

2 weeks ago my fiancé had his bachelor party. I come from a fairly wealthy family, so recently we received a generous monetary gift from my parents to go towards the wedding and as an early wedding gift for any extra that we didn’t spend. My fiancé and 10 of his friends went to Vegas for the party, and my fiancé and I had agreed on a $1000 limit (not including hotel and plane fees). The day after the party I received a call from the bank, and found out that my fiancé spent the entire gift from my parents on gambling and lost all of it.

This was disappointing because he has struggled with a gambling addiction in the past, but has been doing really good the past couple years. We had an argument about this when he got home and he has been really upset with me because he says I should understand that he was struggling and this will always be a temptation for him. I have no idea how we’re going to pay for the wedding dress I’m supposed to get, much less contribute to the house, and I honestly have no idea what to do right now. He thinks I should just get a cheaper wedding dress, but I don’t think I should have to because this is his fault, not mine. AITA?

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Hi. I got out of a very toxic relationship a few months ago. I ended it and told him never to contact me again. All of our communication since then has gone through my new boyfriend (who is a mutual acquaintance). I've been out of work for a while and only recently got back into the job market. I finished my training to become a security guard last month and now I am gainfully employed doing something I enjoy. I posted about this on facebook and my ex discovered my employer and sent pictures of me to them, with my name attached, and stated that they "cast a very poor light on the company". He took a screenshot of the email and sent the picture to my current boyfriend, who showed me. These pictures have never been posted publicly and only my ex and a few other people have ever seen them.

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I'm terrified of going into work. I have no idea how my boss will react to these pictures and I really can't afford to lose this job. I don't have any savings left and if I don't get paid this month I won't be able to make rent.

Edit: I got a couple hours of sleep and like 10 PMs asking what these pictures are (and one that asked to "send nudes", really?). People speculating that it's drugs or something illegal. I wasn't going to mention it because I don't want to be judged but I'm screwed anyway apparently so whatever. No, last summer I met up with some internet friends with an edgy sense of humor at a cosplay convention. Let me start by saying I'm not a racist, or a nazi, but two of my friends dressed up as SS guards and had a bunch of swastika armbands. (They weren't allowed into the con so we did all of this outside on the street.) I posed with them, wore an armband, did a nazi salute, etc, and one of them took pictures that he shared with me later. I sent them to my (now ex) bf because I thought he'd find it funny. I didn't think he'd save them and use them against me, or even remember. I wasn't cosplaying that day so my face was visible, but I made sure none of my friends put them up on the internet publicly so I assumed I was fine. Now my ex has already sent them to one employer, and without any explanation or context, implying that I'm a neo-nazi or something. My boss is POC, my landlord is POC, by current boyfriend is Asian, I'm seriously not racist but my ex is trying to ruin my life with just those couple of pictures and I need some way to make him stop.

Cythereal posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for being upset that my fiancé spent all of the money for my wedding dress and our future house?

Reddit, speaking as one: The dress is not the problem here.

Cythereal posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

Pope Corky the IX posted:

This is one of my favorite stories. It's one of those that keeps getting better the more you try to figure out just what the gently caress.

Cythereal posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

Cythereal posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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Me (25f) and my fiancé (26m) had been together for seven years and engaged for three. His female friend (25) had always been a big issue in our relationship.

She would come over whenever she wanted and would ask my fiancé at the time to massage her feet. Which he would do despite my feelings. She would always have her feet placed right near his privates. Borderline touching it. He would fully lotion her up right in front of me and massage her feet thoroughly, nothing casual at all.

I had been telling him for years that I hated this and that I thought it was intimate. He always argued that it wasn’t intimate at all. But when my gay best friend massaged my feet one time on my period, fiancé went ballistic and held it against me for months.

This female friend had also been making sly remarks to me the entire time we were together. She’s always had something against me. She only started asking fiancé for foot massages AFTER we got engaged which was fishy.

I eventually couldn’t take the disrespect anymore so I left him and I’m now living with my best friend. He’s been ringing me and texting non stop asking for me back and that he would do better but I don’t want to hear it. I’m just wondering if I was too harsh in thinking it was too intimate.

TLDR; left fiancé cause I felt like he was being intimate with female friend. Am I in the wrong for thinking a foot rub was intimate?

Evil Willow posted:

Am I in the wrong for leaving my fiancé because of a foot rub?

Cythereal posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

Bargearse posted:

Oh dear.

They were dressed up as characters from that anime where the WW2 axis powers were all anime girls, weren’t they?

hawowanlawow posted:

I heard someone got thrown out a window for this

Invisible Clergy posted:

Yeah, you're thinking of "hetalia," and that's 100% what's going on with this woman.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for being upset that my fiancé spent all of the money for my wedding dress and our future house?

Reddit, speaking as one: The dress is not the problem here.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

So uh, I'm gonna be straight up and admit I had no inkling of what was behind the spoilers

I went from feeling bad to her to "you deserve it and everything else that happened to you"

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Every time I bring it up, she says it's "just how she is", "it isn't hurting you", and "you're just sensitive, I'm this way at work too and no one complains" (She's a superior officer in her unit, and only works shoulder-to-shoulder with one other person anyway).

Her behavior makes her terrible to drive with - she literally screams at people for not accelerating away from a green light fast enough or turning too slow. It also makes her terrible to be in the house with anytime she's working on anything. Homework, work-work, anything. Even watching TV isn't safe, because the minute the remote doesn't work fast enough or the stream interrupts, more screaming.

I just can't take it. I'm so tired of asking her (politely and then not so politely) to at least keep the volume down, if not just try to be aware that it makes me miserable. I just get "stop trying to control how I deal with emotion. It's not hurting anyone. Just let me have this."

I don't feel like I can be nice about this with her right now. I'd appreciate some advice on how take this up with her in a peaceable way.

Thanks.

TL;DR: wife is easily frustrated and screams at the top of her lungs when so. This makes spending time with her miserable. She doesn't think it's a problem and that I should stop trying to control her behavior. I can't stand it.

Edit: I managed to get an apology and an "I'll try to work on it if you can be nicer about it" from her, which I accepted. She then made it clear that I'm the only person in her life who has an issue with her behavior, which seems to imply that she thinks I'm being unreasonable. I told her I will not tolerate the behavior any longer, meaning I will not just put up with it and we need to address it. I then clariffied that I meant this after she took it to mean I'm "threatening divorce if she doesn't change to fit my laundry list of expectations". She wants to know if I'll divorce her if she "can't change", which feels like she wants the option not to change. So the fight continues.

Edit2: the aplogoy was more like "I'll try to work on the outbursts, but I need you to be nicer to me about them while I work on it". I made her sound worse than she was with the first edit.

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My son told me to post this here.

I (50F) have a son who we'll call L (14M).

Recently, he has taken issue with the rules we've set in place about walking. He claims he does not get enough exercise and says that he wants to go on walks around the neighbourhood for about an hour or so, and I have a rule set that none of my children can walk outside the house by themselves until they are 17 years old.

He continues whining about his weight and being very disrespectful, and I eventually said that he could go on walks if he can find someone to go with him.His excuse for this condition that I made was that he has no one close enough to go with him because he's moved schools a lot and only started making friends recently, and he also said it would be unreasonable to ask someone to drive to our house every day just to go on a walk with him.

He has started acting cold toward me because of this and suggested I make this post. I am thinking on giving him some consequences for his disrespect toward me. He claims I am not being a good mother and that I am a very toxic person to be around. This issue has been going on for a couple of weeks now.

We don't live in a dangerous neighbourhood, but there are some people with dogs and people on marijuana around, I'm just very concerned something may happen to him.

AITA?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for caring about my son's safety?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for caring about my son's safety?

AceClown posted:

Boomers: "these kids are lazy, when I was their age I'd be out dawn till dusk"
Also Boomers: "I have a rule set that none of my children can walk outside the house by themselves until they are 17 years old."

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for caring about my son's safety?