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Agents are GO!
Dec 29, 2004

Breetai posted:

I'm of two minds as to whether I ask if you really need five cats, teen witch, but I figure it's overly familiar.

I had five cats at one time (all my cats from that time have passed, sadly) and the answer is yes, she does.

Edit: snipe, here is cat tax, a picture of catnip time when I had five!

Agents are GO! fucked around with this message at 01:33 on Jan 12, 2022

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therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

DoctorWhat posted:

They can eat whatever they want outside of the household. They can go out and get a pepperoni pizza or gorge themselves on shrimp. But contaminating (in a religious sense) shared dishware isn't permitted and that's a totally reasonable house rule.

I mean, she said that as soon as he moved in pork and shrimp were banned from the house, so that’s not really accurate.

Orthodox kosher requirements are religious extremism in the same sense that Amish rules about technology and electricity and buttons are extremism. Just because some people find them to be funny or cute doesn’t make it not weird extreme behavior. This would be like someone who was a really extreme Catholic moving into your home and telling you that you also cannot eat meat during lent, or cook it in the house. I f you try and enforce your own rules about ritual purity on someone else, you’re the rear end in a top hat.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Agents are GO! posted:

I had five cats at one time (all my cats from that time have passed, sadly) and the answer is yes, she does.

Toxoplasmosis does strange things to people’s brains.

(USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)

Agents are GO!
Dec 29, 2004

therobit posted:

Toxoplasmosis does strange things to people’s brains.

:toxx:oplasmosis, and I bet my cats brought more happiness into my life than your posting has ever brought to anyone.

therattle
Jul 24, 2007
Soiled Meat

Agents are GO! posted:

:toxx:oplasmosis, and I bet my cats brought more happiness into my life than your posting has ever brought to anyone.

Simply not true, their posting has brought tears of joy to my eyes on numerous occasions.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


Agents are GO! posted:

I had five cats at one time (all my cats from that time have passed, sadly) and the answer is yes, she does.

Edit: snipe, here is cat tax, a picture of catnip time when I had five!

omg what great cats

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Mx. posted:

AITA for bringing a vegan cake to a party?

Look, Im gonna be honest, Ive never has a vegan baked good that imitated a non-vegan bake good that tastes particularly like what its imitating. But, that said, it don't mean its bad and boyfriend clearly aint the right one for his girlfriend.

Im also curious, now, if I would enjoy whatever the hell vegan cheesecake is made out of because I fuckin hate real cheescake

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Agents are GO! posted:

:toxx:oplasmosis, and I bet my cats brought more happiness into my life than your posting has ever brought to anyone.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being a cat person. Except the smell of five cats. That’s pretty bad.

Miserable Maid
Apr 22, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

Agents are GO! posted:

I had five cats at one time (all my cats from that time have passed, sadly) and the answer is yes, she does.

Edit: snipe, here is cat tax, a picture of catnip time when I had five!

The way the picture is set up, it looks like one cat is using the scratching post and the other four are watching him in total awe, totally impressed with his technique

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

Barudak posted:

Look, Im gonna be honest, Ive never has a vegan baked good that imitated a non-vegan bake good that tastes particularly like what its imitating. But, that said, it don't mean its bad and boyfriend clearly aint the right one for his girlfriend.

Im also curious, now, if I would enjoy whatever the hell vegan cheesecake is made out of because I fuckin hate real cheescake

The biggest problem with vegan food replacements are that they are so desperately trying to go "look see! just like the normal ones!" when you can just make a vegan dessert that tastes loving amazing.

Went to a vegan wedding and literally the only food that disappointed were the vegan cupcakes, because the entire point was they tried to make them look and taste like cupcakes but instead it had a weird chemical taste to it and did not taste remotely like cake.

Crocobile
Dec 2, 2006

A coworker made an insanely delicious vegan chocolate stout cake. He used coconut oil and avocado for the frosting? As far as I’m concerned it was made from magic and was very rich and moist.

Never tried a vegan cheesecake. IDK why some people get so hysterical about being subjected to vegan food though. Boyfriend sucks.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

pentyne posted:

The biggest problem with vegan food replacements are that they are so desperately trying to go "look see! just like the normal ones!" when you can just make a vegan dessert that tastes loving amazing.

Went to a vegan wedding and literally the only food that disappointed were the vegan cupcakes, because the entire point was they tried to make them look and taste like cupcakes but instead it had a weird chemical taste to it and did not taste remotely like cake.

Yeah, I generally think vegan and vegetarian food that is just it’s own thing is great when prepared by a skilled cook. Tofu is a great ingredient when it isn’t trying to replace meat. But trying to make vegan or vegetarian ingredients do the job of meat/milk/eggs etc results is very disappointing food.

Agents are GO!
Dec 29, 2004

Miserable Maid posted:

The way the picture is set up, it looks like one cat is using the scratching post and the other four are watching him in total awe, totally impressed with his technique

That's hilarious to me, because that's Stripers, who was super friendly but made Jorts seem like a deep thinker.

mind the walrus
Sep 22, 2006

Crocobile posted:

IDK why some people get so hysterical about being subjected to vegan food though. Boyfriend sucks.
Because it means someone else asked questions and made adjustments to their life, indirectly implying that the people who didn't ask questions and/or adjust their lives are being unethical.

And in broken brains, the proper way to reassert the moral high ground is to frame the person who asked questions as pretentious, haughty, arrogant, snobbish, whatever, and take them down.

Chloe Jessica
Nov 6, 2021
Pick 2.0
also meat is associated with toxic masculinity

e: not in a sense of "if you eat meat you're toxic", in a sense of "people who have made toxic masculinity a way of life have made meat-eating part of that image"

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Last time I was involved with a kosher audit, equipment that had contacted a treyf substance could be sanitised with boiling water* and was ok to use for kosher production. Is this only in some traditions?

* chemical sanitisers didn't count, had to be boiling water.

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

The Lone Badger posted:

Last time I was involved with a kosher audit, equipment that had contacted a treyf substance could be sanitised with boiling water* and was ok to use for kosher production. Is this only in some traditions?

* chemical sanitisers didn't count, had to be boiling water.

Not if it's ceramic, apparently, because it's porous, according to one of her comments.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA for respecting my pregnant wife's wish for our daughter's name?

quote:

Hello, my name is Kourosh (29M). A friend suggested I come here for insight.

My wife Parisa (25F) is pregnant with a girl. She is going to be our first child. Parisa wishes to name the girl "Negar" after her grandmother who she was very fond of before she passed away.

I have been making preparations at work to go on Paternity leave next month, which invited many conversations from my colleagues. I have told many of them what we will be naming our daughter, and I was generally given well wishes.

One of my colleagues who is a bit older than me, Amanda (F), raised an objection. She said I can not name our daughter this, and she said I must convince my wife to choose a different name or else my daughter will become the victim of bullying. I tried to explain that the pronunciation is very different from the word I assume she was thinking, but she continued to argue with me. I told her no because it is my wife's wish and my daughter is not any of her business. I told her the discussion was closed and walked away, but Amanda was very clearly still upset.

I am Persian American, but my wife grew up in Iran. Negar is a common name in our culture. I understand exactly why this name might not sound good to the American ear. I believe since Parisa has less familiarity with American English dialect and with American pejorative words, it may be hard to explain to her. I do not have a different name in my mind either.

The thought stayed with me for several days. I decided to ask one of Parisa's friends, who is also named Negar (25F). I texted her to explain what happened at work and asked for her thoughts. She said yes, she was teased occasionally when she was a girl, but it was mild. Negar told me that most people she's ever met can easily understand the difference in pronunciation.

I continue to feel conflicted over this. Is there truth to Amanda's beliefs? Should I challenge my wife's wish?


Addendum: I realize now that coming to this page was a mistake. Much of the "help" I received aims to normalize ignorance at the expense of those who are of different backgrounds. This discussion is closed. My family will be true to ourselves. I accept the title of "rear end in a top hat." Good day.

coronatae
Oct 14, 2012

I went to high school with a girl named Negar but she went by Nina. Nice kid

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Not if it's ceramic, apparently, because it's porous, according to one of her comments.

That makes sense, everything we use is stainless steel.

Dramatika
Aug 1, 2002

THE BANK IS OPEN

Mx. posted:

AITA for bringing a vegan cake to a party?

The god drat balls at getting mad at someone bringing a vegan cake to the birthday of a vegan person

How dare you bring food my girlfriend, the birthday girl, will eat

El Spamo
Aug 21, 2003

Fuss and misery
From a person who runs a vegan bakery. What did you think she was going to bring mr. boyfriend!?

Give me my girlfriend's birthday cake!

Barudak
May 7, 2007

I mean, name her whatever you want but like, my family did a similar thing for some kids and went "you know what, sucks to be great grandma" and went with a safer name for global use.

mind the walrus
Sep 22, 2006

Mx. posted:

AITA for respecting my pregnant wife's wish for our daughter's name?
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck this guy.

The name isn't even really the issue. It's the whole "the kid exists for me" mentality. Any parent who is aware that they're going to make their kids' lives inconvenient and says "eh I'ma do it anyway" can go sit on a flagpole and ride it all the way to the loving bottom.

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

The Lone Badger posted:

That makes sense, everything we use is stainless steel.

Why isn't this more common? Stainless dishware seems to be typical in India, and it makes perfect sense for durability, easy cleaning, and just generally the properties you want from your dishes. Are ceramic plates and bowls the default just because they are traditional, or am I missing something?

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Why isn't this more common? Stainless dishware seems to be typical in India, and it makes perfect sense for durability, easy cleaning, and just generally the properties you want from your dishes. Are ceramic plates and bowls the default just because they are traditional, or am I missing something?

The US is extremely backwards. Why, most of our pipes are still lead.

hawowanlawow
Jul 27, 2009

I eat all of my Soylent out of stainless steel cups and bowls

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Steel bowls that arent insulated so they burn the poo poo out of you when they have soup inside are the devils work.

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

El Spamo posted:

From a person who runs a vegan bakery. What did you think she was going to bring mr. boyfriend!?

Give me my girlfriend's birthday cake!

Part that was overlooked was the BF leaving the cafe a bad review prior to this. “Ah yes my good friend, I am now going to gently caress with your livelihood and try to make you lose all your money.”

Foo Diddley
Oct 29, 2011

cat

Barudak posted:

Steel bowls that arent insulated so they burn the poo poo out of you when they have soup inside are the devils work.

they're real handy for microwaving leftovers too

Soylent Pudding
Jun 22, 2007

We've got people!


AITA for milking my new "favored" status with my parents?

quote:

I (28M) always butted heads with my parents growing up while my brother (26M) always kept his head down and stayed quiet. Because of this, they always favored him. My brother and I never let this favoritism affect our relationship but it made me sour to our parents.

My brother moved out and eventually got a girlfriend. After dating for two years, they got engaged and moved in together. My parents are Christian and blew up at my brother and his fiancé about living together before they were married. For the rest of their engagement, my parents would flip into hysterics about them and made his fiancé really uncomfortable. Once they were finally married, my parents calmed down but now my brother and his wife are low contact with them.

Because of all this, my parents are now treating me like the new favorite despite my distaste for them. Here is where it gets complicated. I met a girl a year ago who I spent all of quarantine with and now we just moved in together. I can confidently say after spending every day together for a year that I plan on spending the rest of my life with her.

*Important note, my brothers wife is a mild mannered inoffensive white girl. My girlfriend is Jamaican and combative like myself. My parents are white and have openly discussed their racist views to me and my brother. My mother even told me as a teenager that if I brought a black girl home, she would not be welcome in my mother's house.*

Needless to say, my parents would not approve of my relationship and give me worse hell than they gave my brother if it ever came to light. Here is where I may be the A-hole. I discussed what to do with my girlfriend and initially, I was going to go no contact with my parents. But after a bit of thinking, we realized I was getting gifts, financial help, and some other perks because of my "favored" status. So we decided that I would go low contact with them and keep things amiable so I can fly under the radar and milk the situation for the foreseeable future. So far, I was able to have my dad unknowingly gift my girlfriend an immersion blender for Christmas in addition to an electric shaver for myself.

Lastly, I asked my brother and his wife his thoughts on this and they agreed it might be a bit of a dick move but well deserved. Of course they agreed to keep our secret and this situation is currently ongoing.

So AITA?

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Why isn't this more common? Stainless dishware seems to be typical in India, and it makes perfect sense for durability, easy cleaning, and just generally the properties you want from your dishes. Are ceramic plates and bowls the default just because they are traditional, or am I missing something?

I can't think of a ceramic plate I've seen in modern use that is porous. Because only the INSIDE is ceramic. Normal use things are sealed with a glaze.

You may come across some specialty cookware this is not sealed......croc pots, certain roasting suff, cast iron.......but that's not like normal dinnerware or cooking vessel kind of things.

mind the walrus
Sep 22, 2006

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for milking my new "favored" status with my parents?
Two wrongs don't make a right, but yeah ride this one as long and as safely as possible lmao loving boomers.

Arsenic Lupin
Apr 12, 2012

This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.


I looked it up, and the family should switch to Corelle, which is halachically glass and can be re-kashered (made kosher).

The real point, though, is that religious law is determined by the officials of that religion, and observant Jewish scholars have put a hell of a lot of intellectual labor into deciding whether any particular kind of dishware can be made kosher again after contamination. People who aren't Jewish scholars can't first-principles it, because we don't actually understand the first principles.

Dazerbeams
Jul 8, 2009

mind the walrus posted:

Two wrongs don't make a right, but yeah ride this one as long and as safely as possible lmao loving boomers.

There’s nothing wrong happening here. I hope the parents are kept in the dark all the way up to the wedding day, right before security escorts them out.

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

Arsenic Lupin posted:

The real point, though, is that religious law is determined by the officials of that religion, and observant Jewish scholars have put a hell of a lot of intellectual labor into deciding whether any particular kind of dishware can be made kosher again after contamination. People who aren't Jewish scholars can't first-principles it, because we don't actually understand the first principles.

Agreed because anyone I've ever known who is serious about being kosher has a kosher kitchen which involves, among many other things, seperate prep areas with their own sinks, dishwashers, stoves, etc.

Maybe the story we're talking about is some modified version, but someone has certainly picked and chosen their own rules about this and I'm not sure it's possible to tell if that's someone in the story or some other person/group.

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

Motronic posted:

Agreed because anyone I've ever known who is serious about being kosher has a kosher kitchen which involves, among many other things, seperate prep areas with their own sinks, dishwashers, stoves, etc.

Maybe the story we're talking about is some modified version, but someone has certainly picked and chosen their own rules about this and I'm not sure it's possible to tell if that's someone in the story or some other person/group.

I mean, if she's going by her mother but also picking her way through it, she might be making a very idiosyncratic choice of accommodations with an atheist father and living with non-Jewish family. The "ideal" situation for people who observe is for the whole family to be more or less all into it and agree on a Rabbi who will answer any questions they might have, which is not the case here.

SyNack Sassimov
May 4, 2006

Let the robot win.
            --Captain James T. Vader


Arsenic Lupin posted:

halachically glass

huh, learned a new word today.

(yes, it was "glass")

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

Motronic posted:

I can't think of a ceramic plate I've seen in modern use that is porous. Because only the INSIDE is ceramic. Normal use things are sealed with a glaze.

You may come across some specialty cookware this is not sealed......croc pots, certain roasting suff, cast iron.......but that's not like normal dinnerware or cooking vessel kind of things.

The religious rules lawyering aside, steel dishware would be more compact and lighter than the ceramic equivalent. The concerns about insulation and use in the microwave make sense, but I think I'll pick up a few steel plates and see how they compare.

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Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

I looked it up, and the family should switch to Corelle, which is halachically glass and can be re-kashered (made kosher).

The real point, though, is that religious law is determined by the officials of that religion, and observant Jewish scholars have put a hell of a lot of intellectual labor into deciding whether any particular kind of dishware can be made kosher again after contamination. People who aren't Jewish scholars can't first-principles it, because we don't actually understand the first principles.

I do get the impression for some Jews it seems like figuring out the rules is all part of the fun. I mean sure they may be arbitrary, but they're there and everyone knows them, and you can talk to experts about edge cases if you're unsure.

Also see that old, probably literally ancient joke about two rabbis arguing over a point of contention and God himself descends to declare his judgement, and both go 'You stay out of this'.

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