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Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

This guy is on Pete level of awesome.

AITA for choosing to go on a guys trip over my GFs sisters wedding?

quote:

So I (27M) have been dating my beautiful GF Jenn (27F) for three and a half years. She has a sister Kelly (30F) who was married to my buddy Dylan. Dylan and me knew each other growing up, but became friends once he married Kelly 4 years ago. Us four hung out all the time so me and Dylan became friends thru the sisters. Well a year ago Kelly left Dylan for some other guy in the middle of the night. Obviously this caused a huge amount of drama and fallout. Kelly is now engaged to the guy she cheated with and is getting married in April.

I told Jenn from the minute the new wedding was announced that I wouldn�t be going. We fought about this because she wanted me there for support. I told her that I believe only people who support a wedding should be in attendance. She said it was a family event and they take family pics and I should be in them. I told her they could photoshop me in from the first wedding. We �shouldn�t pick sides�, I said that I already picked a side so she can do whatever she thinks is right. She kept on thinking that I would cave and eventually come with. So Dylan decided to plan a guys trip for the same weekend as the wedding because he wanted to get out of town and avoid everything. Asked me and his buddies to go to his lake house to fish and golf. Of course I agreed and told Jenn. Jenn freaked out saying all the above things and saying how we already rsvpd. I told her to call her sister and tell her I wasn�t coming then, Jenn refused. So I did it myself and told Kelly that other plans came up and I wouldn�t be able to attend.

Since then I�ve been getting the full court press. Their mom called with Kelly and told me she knew about Dylan�s trip and asked if I was going. I said that I was and they both lost it, saying things about how that isn�t how you treat family. I responded with �pretty sure Dylan was family too and I saw how that worked out for him� and hung up. Kelly�s new husband for some reason even called me. Saying they were hoping I would be an usher and how my presence would make everyone happy. I told him that the wedding was about them and nothing I do should effect that. Jenn is mostly upset that I�m making her go alone but I keep telling her that I shouldn�t be forced to sit there and pretend like I�m supportive. Also I want to support Dylan in what I�m sure is gonna be a tough weekend for him. And that my friend comes before her sister in this. AITA?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:29

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# ? May 28, 2024 17:02

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

Human Tornada posted:

Yeah but that's not what happened in this situation, we're talking about a woman and her grandchild. If a coworker did that to me I would definitely think it was weird, but I certainly wouldn't throw a crying fit over it and try to have them banned from the premises. They're the ones who have to live with this dumb thing on their body, not me.

And just for the record I'm taking her characterization of the size of the tattoo with a big grain of salt.

I'm not sure what the hell a coworker has to do with this, but it's pretty clear the example we've gotten here is not an isolated incident but more like the last straw.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:31

kimbo305: Jun 9, 2007; actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA I didn't let the kids cook their own food

Quite sad but also very lolful --
My 9 year old is making oatmeal. My god... this kid is inhuman.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:32

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Evil Willow posted:

This guy is on Pete level of awesome.

AITA for choosing to go on a guys trip over my GFs sisters wedding?

Sucks so cool a dude has such a useless girlfriend*

*I reserve the right to change my opinion if its revealed his friend like, made his wife go to weird fear factor parties.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:33

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

https://twitter.com/valacosa/status/1483619386585923585

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:39

Human Tornada: Mar 4, 2005; I been wantin to see a honkey dance.

Motronic posted:

I'm not sure what the hell a coworker has to do with this, but it's pretty clear the example we've gotten here is not an isolated incident but more like the last straw.

Another poster directly asked me how I would feel if a similar incident played out between coworkers. However I agree that it's not an equivalent situation.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:45

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

Human Tornada posted:

Another poster directly asked me how I would feel if a similar incident played out between coworkers

Oh my fault, sorry. I went back to read that and it was such a completely stupid question I glossed over it.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 04:50

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

Motronic posted:

I'm not sure what the hell a coworker has to do with this, but it's pretty clear the example we've gotten here is not an isolated incident but more like the last straw.

Kuros posted:

AITA for hating my MIL's tattoo?

quote:
My MIL is very attention seeking and just over the top, to say the least. This year, my husband and I decided to stay home for Christmas and celebrate with our own little family for obvious reasons. This did not settle well with my MIL. She kept saying how she wanted everyone to be together and she just didn't understand why we couldn't. So, in order to appease her we decided that her and FIL could come up on Christmas eve to spend the day.
. . . .

I pulled myself together and come out of the room to find my MIL sobbing. She made a huge scene saying, "Oh please don't kick me out! Please let me stay! Please oh please!" She told me that she was sorry, she didn't think it was a big deal and that she thought she was doing something nice for my daughter. She even said that she discussed her plans with FIL and their friends and everyone gave her the green light. I told her that my daughter was 6 months old and had no idea what a tattoo is and that she did this for attention just like everything else she does. I was upset with the fact that she didn't even think to discuss it with us, her parents, about how we would feel about it. Mind you, she doesn't even have her own children's names tattooed on her!

I told her that she was overstepping us as her parents. Her response: "But I just want to be your mom! I just want to be close to you!" What does that have anything to do with this?! I told her that she was NOT my mom nor would she ever be.

Every paragraph quoted is a red flag. MIL needs to back the gently caress off (but doesn't have the capacity to understand that)

# ? Jan 19, 2022 05:28

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

If a coworker showed up with a tat of my name on their chest, along with birthstones and flowers and whatnot, I'd file for harassment.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 05:30

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Evil Willow posted:

AITA for saying MIL can�t bring her boyfriend to my wedding unless she tells me his name, knowing my friend wants to sue him?

Is "Rob" short for "Robblestiltskin" or something, what the hell?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 05:41

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Arsenic Lupin posted:

https://twitter.com/valacosa/status/1483619386585923585

I could read these forever.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:10

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for saying MIL can�t bring her boyfriend to my wedding unless she tells me his name, knowing my friend wants to sue him?

I love the ones that are clearly not writing exercises because who the hell would make up something so inside baseball?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:11

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Megillah Gorilla posted:

I could read these forever.

"A friend kiss?"

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:13

Chloe Jessica: Nov 6, 2021; Pick 2.0

it's called "lesbian sheep syndrome" because of the way ewes express sexual attraction

gay rams will mount each other, but when a ewe wants to gently caress, she just stands there and waits to be mounted, so gay ewes just stand there at each other

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:23

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Also, for a lot of history, if you were gay and weren't incredibly careful how you went about flirting it could lead to bad things happening to you.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:36

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Chloe Jessica posted:

it's called "lesbian sheep syndrome" because of the way ewes express sexual attraction

gay rams will mount each other, but when a ewe wants to gently caress, she just stands there and waits to be mounted, so gay ewes just stand there at each other

Thank you, for this completely useless interesting tidbit that now replaces the part of my brain where I once stored algebra.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 06:45

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Also, for a lot of history, if you were gay and weren't incredibly careful how you went about flirting it could lead to bad things happening to you.

I thought a lot of lesbian interactions were glossed over in the same way two women kissing doesn't 'count' in the eyes of certain parts of society.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 07:22

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

Dazerbeams posted:

I thought a lot of lesbian interactions were glossed over in the same way two women kissing doesn't 'count' in the eyes of certain parts of society.

There are also guys who get really pissed off when someone who once identified as a lesbian realises that they're not!

AITA for calling her a liar because she lied about being a lesbian?

quote:

A couple years ago, I met a girl at a book club who identified as a lesbian and I found her really interesting to talk to because I easily believed she is what she said she is. Today, she told me she�s been dating this man for over six months and she never told me about it. I thought we were much closer than that. I asked her why she didn�t tell me sooner. She said she wasn�t sure if I�m still asexual and she wanted to keep her dating options open.

I was so furious and said �but I always thought you were a lesbian! I thought you were �born that way!� How did you suddenly become attracted to men?�

She said, �this isn�t as simple as you think it is�

I said, �You lied to me. I don�t think I can see you the same way anymore.�

She walked away and started crying.

How did she not know she has an attraction to men too? I thought straight people and bisexual people always knew what they are from childhood. I felt so betrayed that she wasn�t honest with me and herself about her sexual orientation. I barely have any female companionship in my life. All my life, I�ve been waiting to be friends with a girl who�s not attracted to men, so I wouldn�t have to be worried about her possibly liking me or her boyfriend/husband/fiance being jealous. Those are the only kind of girls I feel comfortable around. We played sports together. Ive hugged her. I also shared some personal details about myself, including what it�s like to be an asexual man. These are things I wouldn�t share with just any girl. I even changed my clothes in front of her. We can�t be as close as we were before. I really can�t look at her the same anymore. I feel guilty for making her cry. AITA for calling her a liar?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 07:43

moonmazed: Dec 27, 2021; by VideoGames

that kinda sounds like an egg post honestly

# ? Jan 19, 2022 08:01

Barudak: May 7, 2007

moonmazed posted:

that kinda sounds like an egg post honestly

Yeah it started like spurned interested partner and then it took a turn onto a whole new highway.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 08:10

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for letting my sister's dog be a dog?

quote:

My sister (30) got herself a dog for her birthday in October. He's a large shelter dog. Since she's single with no kids, she completely spoils this dog. I got nothing against it but a dog is a dog. She constantly makes excuses that she can't do this or that or this cause of the dog. For explain we signed up for a painting class. The class was from 3pm to 6pm. She didn't stay for the full class of she had to get home to her dog.

Anyway last weekend, she needed to out of town for work. Because it cost too much board him for two days, she asked if I would watch him and she would pay me monday. I said fine. The dog came with a long list of "instructions" which I thought was very pretentious.

-No people food

-Don't leave him outside

-Plug in his heater for him at night

-Two walks, an hour of play

-Be sure a certain squealy toy was in his kennel at night

The list went on. Again this a dog, not a baby. I put the dog in my back yard and pretty much forgot about him. I made sure he had plenty of food and water though. He mostly ran around, barked and dug a hole which I didn't mind. I even tossed him a couple bites of chicken which he loved.

My sister picked him up Monday. I called her Tuesday to ask about the money and she went off on me. Somehow she found out I just left him out in the yard all weekend (I dunno how but I suspect a family friend told her), she said she wasn't paying me anything and I wasn't going to watch the dog ever again. She later sent me a copy of a vet bill cause of fleas. Dogs get fleas.

I am refusing to pay cause her dog got to be a dog for a weekend.

AITA

quote:

He's running around my yard. Why does it need a walk?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 08:17

kalel: Jun 19, 2012

Chloe Jessica posted:

it's called "lesbian sheep syndrome" because of the way ewes express sexual attraction

gay rams will mount each other, but when a ewe wants to gently caress, she just stands there and waits to be mounted, so gay ewes just stand there at each other

lmao

# ? Jan 19, 2022 08:23

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

haveblue posted:

Isn�t this what PIs and process servers are for

Yes, but both of those cost some money. Given the amount of white trash radiation given off by that post, I doubt the characters in the cast have the $25-100 it takes to sic a process server on Rob/Tom. PIs can get expensive quickly and are probably not worth it in circumstances like this if the payout isn't large. Given that the damages are a uniform, a toilet, and the interior of a car, the PI would probably end up costing more than they can hope to recoup.

AITA for wanting to make my Minecraft build historically accurate?

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I play on a Minecraft server with some friends, and everyone�s gotten to the stage of building their bases.

I am building a historically accurate Bismarck, a Nazi ship from WWII. For some reason my friends take issue to me putting a swastika on the bow of the ship, even though the ship in real life had a swastika on the bow.

I tried to reason with them that the swastika didn�t just represent the holocaust or the Nazis, or that making my build historically accurate is a show of respect for the soldiers who died under the flag, or that a history museum wouldn�t take down a swastika and that they should stop being offended by history.

They only had one point that they kept arguing and repeating, that it was �culturally insensitive� and labelled me a Nazi just because of my personal views of homosexuality and the disabled, or the fact that I (jokingly) said �heil hitler� a few times in the past.

We are all Asians and none of them are Jewish and none of their ancestry was aver a victim of the Nazi regime, so I don�t get why they�re so upset at wanting to put the flag on my MINECRAFT BUILD for historical accuracy.

They�ve all said the N-word and other jokingly discriminatory things in our private discord, and this Minecraft server is also private so I don�t get what the big difference is anyways.

I believe they are just getting offended for the sake of getting offended because it feels �righteous�, even though they have literally no reason to be so upset and make a big fuss over a flag in a game. I just want to make my build historically accurate but they�re scared of history and refuse to let me, basically just saying �no� to all the points that I bring up while hypocritically saying I�m �not listening to anything they say�.

AITA?

Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 08:53 on Jan 19, 2022

# ? Jan 19, 2022 08:48

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Mx. posted:

AITA for letting my sister's dog be a dog?

"why is everyone getting mad at me for barely acknowledging the existence of the pet I said I would look after? Dogs don't need human interaction or anything!"

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:01

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for wanting to make my Minecraft build historically accurate?

I definitely hit bingo on something here

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:11

kimbo305: Jun 9, 2007; actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITN for wanting to make my Minecraft build historically accurate?

Got to ac in accuracy before I realized what this was gonna be.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:13

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Blastedhellscape posted:

That or mom's going senile and just keeps forgetting that her daughter has a shellfish allergy now that she didn't exhibit as a kid. That's uh...the most benevolent read I can come up with.

Came up in the comments it sounds like narcissistic delusion, the mother insists that the allergy isn't real and must be proven 'correct' by her son eating prawns and not having a reaction. When he does, because he is allergic, this is unacceptable and throws her world off kilter, so they must do it again and again until it's done Properly.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:17

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for wanting to make my Minecraft build historically accurate?

Wow, it just keeps getting worse.

I mean, it started off with a swastika and that was the least terrible thing in the post.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:18

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I don't know if it got worse so much as the opening was the cup and the rest of the post was you filling it from the machine.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:24

keep punching joe: Jan 22, 2006; Die Satan!

I don't know what your getting all bent out of shape about. I just want to show some respect to the soldiers who died under that (Nazi) flag.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:44

moonmazed: Dec 27, 2021; by VideoGames

"labeled me a nazi because of my personal views" as opposed to what, being a member of the nationalsozialistische deutsche arbeiterpartei?

just kidding i know it's sophistry. it is his enemies who believe in words

# ? Jan 19, 2022 09:45

Luigi's Discount Porn Bin: Jul 19, 2000; Oven Wrangler

Invisible Clergy posted:

I doubt the characters in the cast have the $25-100 it takes to sic a process server on Rob/Tom.

Mystery solved, we know who this guy is now. And he thought he was being so smooth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Whgn_iE5uc

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:01

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

There are people who have it worse than you:

My wife [28F] thinks every situation is a zero-sum game against her which keeps her from being happy

quote:

I [28M] don�t even know where to start. I am frustrated and exhausted. Every situation that happens in our life is always a reason to fight! Here�s some examples:

The once in a blue moon that my parents asks for a favor and I go do it, she will respond with: �see you always choose your family before me.�

I am a man who takes pride in work life balance but once in a while I get an important call and she responds: �see how you always put work in front of me?�

once in a while I play video games and relax and her response is: �see how you don�t spend time with me.�

I spend time with our dog: �see how you choose our dog before me?�

we were 30 minutes into sleep and she was dreaming of me ignoring her so she woke up and started a fight with me.

I spend every moment that I can with her but I can�t give her 100% of my life and the situations were I must do something else, she thinks that I prioritize those things ahead of her as if that�s the rule rather then the exception. I can�t wrap my head around this thinking and need to know how to address this.

If I choose to focus on anything that is NOT her, she will fight and break me down until I concede that I didn�t focus on her. It�s getting to me and I just don�t know what to do

TLDR: I spend all the available time with my wife but if something comes up we�re I need to prioritize that, she will fight me because I choose to prioritize those situation.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:03

Metis of the Chat Thread: Aug 1, 2014

Thank god they don't have kids. Imagine how awful a parent she'd be.

edit:

Is he (34m) trying to spy on me (23f) or is it a glitch?

quote:

My husband (34m) and I (23f) have been married for 2 years and I have a question that some of you guys that might know the answer to. I just checked my settings and noticed that my �my card� photo had been changed to a picture of my spouse. Not much of a big deal but I wanted to use my photo since that was my identifier on my phone.

I go to contacts to change it and noticed that all of a sudden all of my spouses information had been put in from his number, name and picture and it took me quite a bit to get it removed.

Does anyone know if this is a glitch or if he had done this himself to be able to view my calls and texts? And unfortunately I do have reason to be suspicious that he�s done this deliberately and it�s been done very recently.

TD;LR I think my husband is trying to spy on who I�m talking to.

concerning age gap and behaviour right there!

Metis of the Chat Thread fucked around with this message at 10:19 on Jan 19, 2022

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:15

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Serephina posted:

There are people who have it worse than you:

My wife [28F] thinks every situation is a zero-sum game against her which keeps her from being happy

Dude needs to divorce her now before they have children.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:17

Metis of the Chat Thread: Aug 1, 2014

oh jeez

quote:

She has made me aware that she doesn�t want to have kids because she thinks I will forget about her and oh attention to the kids.

at least she's self-aware lol

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:18

Alchenar: Apr 9, 2008

Metis of the Hallways posted:

oh jeez

at least she's self-aware lol

Thats just aware, not self-aware!

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:29

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

AITA for refusing to change the way I dress so I don�t �trigger� my friend

quote:

Hello Everyone I (19 female) have recently had a situation with my close friend (also 19 female) and it has had me conflicted on wether or not to compromise what I believe in order to maintain this 4 year long friendship.

My friend and I have always been super open and honest with each other when it�s comes to personal details wether be mental health or struggles we go through and it�s something I value and appreciate within a friendship . We have both been open and honest about having issues surrounding the way we view our bodies and have always been big supporters of encouraging each other to embrace and love the way we look. However recently that has seemed to change on her part .

This shift all started when I went though my very first real heartbreak where I came out of a long term relationship. In dealing with the heartbreak I have not only tried to work on my mental health but physical as well . In doing so over the last 3 months of hard work and discipline I have started to see solid results in the way I look including having a more toned defined stomach (something I�ve always wanted to achieve) . As I�ve seen these results I became more confident in dressing in more revealing clothes you could say surrounding my midriff .

As I�ve been dressing more like this my friend had increasingly made little comments about reasons why I should change and most of them didn�t seem to make sense(whether be the weather or location etc) . She has also started to criticize her self regarding her midriff more to which I always make sure to reassure her that all body�s are beautiful and encourage her to embrace and love what she�s got working for her . This kept happening for about a month until last week when she made a statement that caught me off guard .

My friend informed me that the way I was dressing served as a trigger to other people and her self and she does not want me to wear clothes that show my midriff around her because it makes her feel uncomfortable as well as others . This hurt me to hear as I never do anything will Ill intent but also because it made me feel insecure about my body as well (as if I should be ashamed in some sense) . After considering what she said I informed her that I would not be changing the way I dress and told her that telling someone there body is a trigger is wrong and damaging to my mental health .

She called me selfish and said she would have thought I would be more understanding but I�m �not the friend she thought I was�.
I�m starting to wonder if I am in the wrong and should just be covering up around her . So AITA for standing my ground and not changing the way I dress ?

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:30

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Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for wanting to make my Minecraft build historically accurate?

If you do and say nazi things, I'm going to assume you're a nazi even if you're not literally a member of the NSDAP.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:31

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# ? May 28, 2024 17:02

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

therobit posted:

AITA for refusing to change the way I dress so I don�t �trigger� my friend

That's not triggering, it's just crab bucketing.

# ? Jan 19, 2022 10:40

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