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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:My daughter is still a toddler so I'll take a wild swing at this: who the gently caress cares? At 14 kids should have a firm sense of autonomy over their own body and so long as it's appropriate for the environment she's in at the moment (and since this is underwear that adults aren't going to see, it's by default appropriate). Let the kid wear clothes that make her comfortable. I assumed from the title OP would be one of those guys with a creepy possessive sexual demeanor about his daughter, but OP being a woman is somehow even creepier. It is very difficult to choose between r/relationships: My Mommy senses were going off and r/relationships: I was shocked because this bra looked like lingerie as potential titles. Also lol, nowhere lets you return underwear; gently caress off. Scags McDouglas posted:I'm sure a lot of details were buried about how annoying the mom was to deal with and how many times something like this has habitually happened.. Because she had to buy a birthday present for her friend and the mall was going to close. If it had been too hot or cold, I'm sure OP would've mentioned it to try to demonize his wife. Being in a car for 30 minutes isn't a big deal. Play on your phone or take a nap or something. If the mom can't bear this terrible indignity, she can open the lock and door with her opposable thumbs and find her own way home. The mom chose to bite the hand that was giving her a free ride home and rather than be a doormat like OP, the wife correctly told her to gently caress off. The husband's dogwhistle about gangstalkers notwithstanding, if she doesn't feel like walking or taking a bus, his drunk mom can take an uber. The wife does have a point. There's no way this is the first time OP is suddenly springing this kind of bullshit on her. Mx. posted:AITA for throwing a family into the street? AITA for not wanting to come to a family event unless both my Boyfriends can come? quote:So i'm a 29 year old Polyam Woman, I am currently dating two men both of who are Polyam also and it's no secret from anyone that we have this kind of relationship as i've never hid it.
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Invisible Clergy posted:OP's first mistake was agreeing to a grace period at all. Give someone an inch, they'll take a mile. If you close in December, close in December. If they needed to live there til May, they should've said they'll close in May. They're definitely pulling some kind of scam on him. If they have the money to pay his rent for six weeks, they can use that money and find somewhere else to live for six weeks. There might be something more advanced but honestly it kinda sounds like it's basically "paying rent to you would be cheaper than paying for rent AND a storage space for all our stuff, and also driving our daughter to school from where we can arrange to stay would be inconvenient."
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 03:30 |
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All that is probably true, but none of it is OP's problem.
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 03:31 |
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they get the last 10% of the house price when they hand over the keys and properly close, so no way in gently caress they "have nowhere else to go qq"
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Yeah, exactly.
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Invisible Clergy posted:
I still think you might be taking a slightly more extreme side of this than necessary (which isn't an attack, I like your posts in this thread). She didn't need to go get a birthday present, and she certainly didn't need to be the one driving his mom home. The bizarre detail you're skipping is that she overrode her husband and volunteered, then did a really creepy job with it. Completely controlling for the alcoholism component of the story, it just seems like common courtesy not to say "hey no I'm driving you home instead" and then plop them to wait for thirty minutes. That's a stupid-long time to make someone sit that was trusting you for a ride home.
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Basic-Grapefruit-277 I have shared joint custody of my 8 year old son. My ex made a medical decision without my consent. quote:Let me start by saying, this is about the Covid vaccine. It’s not a debate about my opinion. Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! But also: What is the ingredient in the Covid vaccine that turns people who have gotten it, into strangely vicious attack dogs who want you to die for not being on their team? quote:[removed] And: u/Basic-Grapefruit-277 avatarBasic-Grapefruit-277 18m Join Have you ever had a group of strangers on Reddit conspire to follow you around in some threatening way? Why is this a thing?
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 04:12 |
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You missed this gem from her post historyAsk Reddit posted:"What do you feel is worse making a regretful decision or not making the decision at all?" OP posted:Better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission
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AITA for allowing my stepson to call me dad?quote:My wife (39F) and I (36M) got married and moved in together last year after 3 years of dating. She has a son (15M) with her ex-husband (42M). He was never abusive to any of them but he used to be extremely cold, emotionally distant and easily irritable, so my wife divorced him when the kid was 8. Since then he has constantly tried to be involved in his life but the child doesn't like him at all. He tries to "make a man out of him" but the son is a huge softie which is obviously an inherent incompatibility. He views his dad's approach as him not being accepting of who he is. Need a good step-family story today I think
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Hughlander posted:AITA for allowing my stepson to call me dad? Family isn't who has your blood, it's who has your back. Cute story. We need these too.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for allowing my stepson to call me dad? LOL bio dad is a piece of crap. If your ex gets with someone who treats your kids well you should support that.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for allowing my stepson to call me dad? I mean that's sweet but... even with the bio-Dad obviously being a POS you should consider optics and social politics if you can't just cut the guy out for a good 3-6 years minimum. That "really special episode" moment of affirming father/son in private doesn't translate to the public as well as you think unless you're really willing to go full extended schism all the way.
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mind the walrus posted:I mean that's sweet but... even with the bio-Dad obviously being a POS you should consider optics and social politics if you can't just cut the guy out for a good 3-6 years minimum. That "really special episode" moment of affirming father/son in private doesn't translate to the public as well as you think unless you're really willing to go full extended schism all the way.
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 04:51 |
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It does, it just doesn't sound like stepdad OP there is ready to go to war as much as he's reliant on moral posturing and the power of love to carry them through the waters of slander and libel. It is not.
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AITA for excluding my wife and hanging out w/ my female friends that "ostracized" her?quote:My wife and I have been together since we were 14, and were both friendless outcasts. She didn't mind much as she was into gaming and other solitary pursuits, but it was always painful for me. Later on after high school we moved again to a city where I was able to develop a circle of friends, which my wife (who back then identified as my husband) seemed to have 0 interest in doing.
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"translate to the public" what are you talking about? you think the paparazzi are gonna be on the case?
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 05:09 |
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Achmed Jones posted:"translate to the public" what are you talking about? you think the paparazzi are gonna be on the case? You do not want to mess with the Dad Police.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for excluding my wife and hanging out w/ my female friends that "ostracized" her? Achmed Jones posted:"translate to the public" what are you talking about? you think the paparazzi are gonna be on the case?
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Achmed Jones posted:"translate to the public" what are you talking about? you think the paparazzi are gonna be on the case? I'm a bit confused by this too, I grew up in a small town and even the biggest poo poo-stirring gossips would never bat an eye at that kind of stuff
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 05:13 |
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officer officer help! my son called another man "dad!" this is slander! libel! i know my rights, i hereby make a citizens arrest! you're going to DAD JAIL buster!
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Achmed Jones posted:officer officer help! my son called another man "dad!" this is slander! libel! i know my rights, i hereby make a citizens arrest! you're going to DAD JAIL buster! https://youtu.be/9tPcfJZnXu4
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# ? Feb 4, 2022 05:16 |
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sir, yes, this is principal jones. it's about your STEP son, i'm sorry to say you see, he wrote an essay. he.....he called you his...._dad_ in it. i'm sure you understand that is simply unacceptable here at the high school. i'm sorry sir, but the DAD POLICE will arrive shortly to take you away. i wish this had never happened, but when you play dad games you win dad prizes.
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Achmed Jones posted:sir, yes, this is principal jones. it's about your STEP son, i'm sorry to say SIR this is NOT a DAD JOKE!
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AITA for bringing up my brother's four [/kids to his fiance and potentially ruining an engagement?quote:Okay so I (22F) have an older brother (28) that we'll call Jamie. We've been roommates since I was about 17. In that time, I've seen a lot of girls come and go, even when he was in a relationship with different girls. I'm not a huge fan of his actions or how he treats women in general, but it's his life and he's free to mess it up as much as he wants so I turn a blind eye to it. therobit fucked around with this message at 05:32 on Feb 4, 2022 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for excluding my wife and hanging out w/ my female friends that "ostracized" her?
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therobit posted:AITA for bringing up my brother's four [/kids to his fiance and potentially ruining an engagement?
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therobit posted:Our parents agree with him and haven't been talking to me. ... *sigh* Who do you blame when your kid is a frat~
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PetraCore posted:But it also sounds like she probably doesn't have the best socialization period because of that so I'm guessing she came off too strongly enthusiastic and like she wanted to be best besties with the kid instead of hitting the proper social cues. *in southern lawyer voice* Now this ladies and gentlemen is what we call the "Michael Jackson line". One doesn't play with the child like a child yuhself, that entahs someplace that will set off alahm bells a' clanging in any parental head.
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mind the walrus posted:It does, it just doesn't sound like stepdad OP there is ready to go to war as much as he's reliant on moral posturing and the power of love to carry them through the waters of slander and libel. It is not.
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Scags McDouglas posted:I still think you might be taking a slightly more extreme side of this than necessary (which isn't an attack, I like your posts in this thread). She didn't need to go get a birthday present, and she certainly didn't need to be the one driving his mom home. The bizarre detail you're skipping is that she overrode her husband and volunteered, then did a really creepy job with it. Thanks for the clarification. I like your posts in this thread too. From the post, the wife had planned on dropping the mom off first and getting the present on the way back but realized it was later than she thought so made a stop on the way. Presumably she couldn't do it the next day because she would have work or errands or something and wouldn't be by the mall before she had to go the party or needed to get it home to wrap it or whatever. Despite how the husband is choosing to paint it, it doesn't sound to me like the wife maliciously planned to make the mother wait for 30 minutes ahead of time, just that she knew she'd need to run an errand anyway and was going to save a trip. If the mother weren't a habitual drunk bag of poo poo who regularly drives drunk and was made to wait for 30 minutes spur of the moment, I might agree the wife was perhaps slightly rude or inconsiderate, but since that factor is at play at the story, I do not feel an urge to pretend to feel bad for her, unlike the OP. mind the walrus posted:I mean that's sweet but... even with the bio-Dad obviously being a POS you should consider optics and social politics if you can't just cut the guy out for a good 3-6 years minimum. That "really special episode" moment of affirming father/son in private doesn't translate to the public as well as you think unless you're really willing to go full extended schism all the way. What are you talking about? The kid wants to call OP "dad" in public, the OP is comfortable with it, both relevant parties have consented. Why should the piece of poo poo ex-dad factor into this at all? It's not like cowtowing to the demands of an abuser make them behave better, it just teaches them the way to get what they want is by acting out. Evil Willow posted:AITA for excluding my wife and hanging out w/ my female friends that "ostracized" her? No fake transphobic agenda pushing stories please. What does this symbol mean? I see it a lot but it's hard to guess what the context is since it usually doesn't have extra text.
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Achmed Jones posted:sir, yes, this is principal jones. it's about your STEP son, i'm sorry to say Hah, this reminds me of a funny anecdote about my eldest. I came into my kids’ life pretty early on, and quickly ended up spending more time total with them than their biological dad had. So, they ended up calling me dad, and him step-dad. Now, he had some drug problems, bad enough that the kids eventually figured it out. One day, we got a call from our son’s principal, saying that he was telling his teacher and friends that his step-dad did drugs, and how terrible it was that he was speaking like that about me. We then had to explain that when he says “step-dad”, he means “bio-dad.” Though it certainly doesn’t speak well to the school that they’d just assume a kid is lying about a parental figure doing drugs… Invisible Clergy posted:What does this symbol mean? I see it a lot but it's hard to guess what the context is since it usually doesn't have extra text. It’s “goonsay” - when combined with a quote block, it’s intended to suggest that a stereotypical goon is saying what’s in the quote, like a speech bubble. It usually suggests that the person being quoted is saying something somewhat out of touch or terminally online.
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Invisible Clergy posted:What are you talking about? The kid wants to call OP "dad" in public, the OP is comfortable with it, both relevant parties have consented. Why should the piece of poo poo ex-dad factor into this at all? It's not like cowtowing to the demands of an abuser make them behave better, it just teaches them the way to get what they want is by acting out.
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When a piece of poo poo makes an rear end of himself in public, he's made an rear end of himself in public. Anyone who investigates further would discover that this guy is a piece of poo poo and his son has made his own decision. Sure, it may make your life a little harder in the interim, but it makes the Kid's life better, and the kid happier. And as a parent that's the only thing you should be concerned about. When you take a socially expedient option to appease a peace of poo poo in public you have shown him that being a piece of poo poo gets results, harmed your relationship with your son, and given the piece of poo poo leverage over him. But at least you've maintained Decorum I guess.
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Blue Moonlight posted:It’s “goonsay” - when combined with a quote block, it’s intended to suggest that a stereotypical goon is saying what’s in the quote, like a speech bubble. Oh, ok, so syntactically it's the same as saying "what's his username?" Thanks for explaining!
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mind the walrus posted:Without ages it's really hard for me to assume a condescending position of superiority and tell every single person in this story except the kid to grow the gently caress up, particularly OP and her wife. *cracks fat and sagging back and knuckles* But gently caress. I'm gonna do it. Evil Willow posted:AITA for excluding my wife and hanging out w/ my female friends that "ostracized" her? Go nuts.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Oh, ok, so syntactically it's the same as saying "what's his username?" Thanks for explaining! Or source your quotes, yeah.
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mind the walrus posted:Lmao tf does this sociopath do for a living? Wash his rear end and eat food other than mcnuggets
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Kurieg posted:When a piece of poo poo makes an rear end of himself in public, he's made an rear end of himself in public. Anyone who investigates further would discover that this guy is a piece of poo poo and his son has made his own decision. Sure, it may make your life a little harder in the interim, but it makes the Kid's life better, and the kid happier. And as a parent that's the only thing you should be concerned about. yeah, biodad already treats his son and OP like poo poo and will continue treating them like poo poo regardless, kid might as well take what solace he can in pushing back.
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AITA for requesting my(25F) fiancee's(26M) sister(17F) not be at our weddingquote:My fiance proposed a few months ago and we're getting ready for our wedding. We're currently making a guest list and we will send out invitations in the next few months. ~*it's my special day*~
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Mx. posted:AITA for requesting my(25F) fiancee's(26M) sister(17F) not be at our wedding Self describes as “child free” and is a total narcissist. Who’da thunk?
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