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epsilon: Oct 31, 2001

mind the walrus posted:

I mean that's sweet but... even with the bio-Dad obviously being a POS you should consider optics and social politics if you can't just cut the guy out for a good 3-6 years minimum. That "really special episode" moment of affirming father/son in private doesn't translate to the public as well as you think unless you're really willing to go full extended schism all the way.

I�m late but good lord you�re an idiot.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:40

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# ? May 29, 2024 00:52

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

quote:

My (24F) BF (26M) and I have been together for 3 years. I currently live with a couple roommates, but our lease is up in 6-weeks and they both decided they want to get different places. My BF lives by himself in a duplex and we've talked about me moving in with him before, but nothing too seriously. Now that I am going to have to look for a new place anyway, we've talked about it more in depth. We've talked about how we would split costs, which furniture we would keep, stuff like that.

One big hang-up though is that my BF has a dog. I have some dog-related trauma from my childhood and they can be a massive trigger for me. When I first started dating him, I would make him put his dog in the bedroom when I visited, which wasn't often. I would pretty much make him come to my place 90% of the time. Eventually, with my permission, he started introducing his dog to me in small amounts. I am now comfortable enough around the dog that the dog can be free in the house while I'm there, but my BF has to be there too. I can't be around the dog by myself.

My BF also has friends that have dogs and they bring them over to my BF's house to let the dogs play in the fenced-in backyard they have access to. Just the thought of unfamiliar dogs in and around my living space gets me on edge. I need to be able to feel safe and comfortable in my own home. I've had to leave my BF's house before when his friends had their dogs in the backyard because they are loud and big and I just can't handle it.

So I told my BF that if I'm going to move in with him that we need to get a crate for his dog so that I can have a place I can put the dog when I'm home alone. I also told him that his friends would no longer be able to bring their dogs over.

My BF did not take this well. He has always been very supportive and understanding of my needs regarding his dog, but he told me that I was going too far. He said he's not going to punish his dog by putting it in a crate every time he leaves and that this is as much his dog's home as it would be mine. He also said that my rule about his friends was controlling and he wouldn't agree to it.

We fought about it because he's never been this dismissive about my needs before and I didn't understand why he was being like that. Eventually, he told me that maybe it's not a good idea if I move in anymore. I was shocked and told him he was being an rear end in a top hat for putting dogs over my right to feel comfortable and safe in my own home.

I also told him that he was putting me in an impossible position because I haven't even looked at alternative housing options. I can't afford to live by myself so I would have to scramble to find roommates and possibly would have to live with people I don't know. He told me that he's sorry, but that he's already worked so hard to get me comfortable around his dog and he won't take steps backwards.

I've done a few quick searches for housing and I am pretty much screwed if I don't move in with him.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:42

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

haveblue posted:

Do you seriously think I'd invite you over if there remained the slightest chance of you affecting its outcome? I took that poo poo thirty-five minutes ago.

r/relationships: I took that poo poo thirty-five minutes ago

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:47

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

Cobalt-60 posted:

I guess she really got her...uh...

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:48

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

They have reasonable personal concerns about being around dogs, but I think that just means it was as much of a nonstarter relationship as disagreeing about religion or politics. I was actually surprised when I scrolled back up and saw it was a 3 year relationship rather than the 3 month one my brain substituted in, I have no idea how it lasted that long :iiam:

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:50

Silly Newbie: Jul 25, 2007; How do I?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

3 years
3 years
3 years

What the Christ.

Are there comments on this one that clarify whether or not the boyfriend knows they're dating?

Silly Newbie fucked around with this message at 06:54 on Feb 10, 2022

# ? Feb 10, 2022 06:52

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for siding with my mom over my wife about cheese?

quote:

We have a difficult relationship with my mom. I've had to set a lot of boundaries in regards to how she treats my wife. I did an experiment and decided not to call my mom and to see how long it would take her to reach out. It took her 9 months to text me something and 1.9 years to invite me over. I talked to my wife and she agreed that we hadn't seen my mom in a while and should go.

My mom and my wife fight over food a lot. My mom at one point got a fraudulent doctors note (she was sleeping with him) saying she medically could not eat my wife's food. My wife doesn't like my mom's cooking either and it is a big issue. I do feel my mom is weirdly territorial about cooking.

Anyway my mom made mac and cheese but it was with yellow cheddar, so my wife thought it came from a kraft box. My mom explained it was homemade but her husband hates white cheddar so she uses yellow. my wife didn't believe her that you could buy yellow cheddar cheese and they started bickering. i wanted to shut it down, so I said you can.

my wife then said that you couldn't find it in nature, so it is gross. Multiple family members started to verbally abuse my wife about how cheese is manmade and you can't fins any cheese in nature. I shut that down right away, but I did tell my wife my mom was right about the cheese and to drop it. I saw her begin to get emotional and took her hand under the table.

When we got home, I told her that I am going back to no contact for a while at least, because my mom's husband told the tow truck driver that he didn't know who owned my car and tried to get it towed and when I called him out said he "didn't owe me words" My wife blew up that I was selfish for going no contact for my own reasons and for humiliating her. She said she thought about it and realized we were right about the cheese, but that I shouldn't have just called it out because we are a united front. I apologized and I feel like crap, but at the same time I'm conflicted because it was just a fact that she was objectively wrong about.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

quote:

...So I told my BF that if I'm going to move in with him that we need to get a crate for his dog so that I can have a place I can put the dog when I'm home alone. I also told him that his friends would no longer be able to bring their dogs over...

On behalf of the boyfriend: The dog was here before you and it will be here long after you.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 07:01

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for siding with my mom over my wife about cheese?

how the gently caress does a women reach the age of being an adult and not know that yellow cheese exists?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 07:07

ShootaBoy: Jan 6, 2010; Anime is Bad.
_{Except for Pokemon, Valkyria Chronicles and 100% OJ.}

Yeah she became the rear end in a top hat as soon as she started in with the 'need to do X' crap. You don't get to dictate others pets like that, especially not when its been around a whole lot longer than you.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 07:07

SulfurMonoxideCute: Feb 9, 2008; I was under direct orders not to die
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I've definitely spent hours in the bathroom, but that was when I killed all my good gut flora after taking several antibiotics at once for months.

I have doubts that's the case here.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 07:59

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Cheese story is somehow about cheese but not actually cheese and it feels like some side soliloquy from Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead

# ? Feb 10, 2022 08:09

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Halloween Jack posted:

Yeah, I feel like I've seen a dozen stories about the parents who just give in to a spoiled child at the expense of their siblings, and this is the first one where the sibling has just called their bluff.

I feel it's a more common story than you'd think, and 'bratty, emotional teenagers' actually just being fed up with trying to behave and be good when their parents continue to be unreasonable and assume they're going to 'act out', so they might as well do it anyway.

Also the whole theory that the 'hormonal teenager' is actually a myth, it's just learned behaviour from boomer parents who exhibit the exact same behaviours.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 08:51

Sir Sidney Poitier: Aug 14, 2006; My favourite actor

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

The two things that surprise me about this:

1. The guy was cool with shutting his dog in a different room but not in a cage.

2. She's supposedly been in a relationship with this person for three years yet didn't already know how this conversation would go.

I guess #1 factors into #2.

We once hosted a halloween party and knew that a friend of a friend who was very afraid of dogs was going to be coming. Our large wolf-like dog's 'costume' was a good amount of fake blood around his mouth - he had a great time. She didn't.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 08:54

ShootaBoy: Jan 6, 2010; Anime is Bad.
_{Except for Pokemon, Valkyria Chronicles and 100% OJ.}

Sir Sidney Poitier posted:

1. The guy was cool with shutting his dog in a different room but not in a cage.

A room is much larger than a crate, and is also a temporary thing, as opposed to the crate that the hopefully now exgf would like to keep the dog locked in all day.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:01

Sir Sidney Poitier: Aug 14, 2006; My favourite actor

Depends how you view it - the headline for me is shutting them out, removing their ability to be involved. I can see how it'd open the door for someone unfamiliar to think the cage ask isn't unreasonable.

But I'm a guy looking to buy a bigger bed so my large dog can sleep on it too. I wouldn't shut my dog out.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:04

BabyFur Denny: Mar 18, 2003

Sir Sidney Poitier posted:

We once hosted a halloween party and knew that a friend of a friend who was very afraid of dogs was going to be coming. Our large wolf-like dog's 'costume' was a good amount of fake blood around his mouth - he had a great time. She didn't.

That seems unnecessarily cruel?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:06

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for siding with my mom over my wife about cheese?

I think a comment had it right that apparently everyone involved in this story is crazy.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:07

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Batterypowered7 posted:

AITA for embarrassing a lunch thief at work.

He stuttered out some nonsense about not knowing it was mine and I replied well you knew it wasn't yours right?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:31

Sir Sidney Poitier: Aug 14, 2006; My favourite actor

BabyFur Denny posted:

That seems unnecessarily cruel?

I can see why you'd think that upon first reading but he was really happy with it and loved the attention that it got him. At one point everybody cheered for him. The next year he had to have a cone on due to recent surgery so we added petals to make it a sunflower.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:34

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?

quote:

I had a credit card that I�d had for ten years. Two years ago, I added my ex to the card -- he has his own card in his name and everything but it�s just linked to my account and I pay for it. He�s been unemployed for two years or so.

When we broke up, I was paying the rent so he had to move out. I gave him a month to find a job (literally, any job) and a new place to live, but at the end of the month he hadn�t found (or done) anything.

He refused to leave.

Finally, he agreed to exit the premises, on one condition: that I keep open his credit card.

I wanted him to leave so badly at that point, I acquiesced.

I paid close attention to my credit card statements after that. What was he buying? Where was he living? He was only spending about $300-400 a week, mostly on food, but also some line items were not immediately apparent what they were, and I thought they might be gas stations for cigarettes or booze. I paid it off every time, but considering that this is more than he spent on the card when he was using it while we were together, paying it off was kind of tight each month.

One day I noticed a subscription for $1.00 and I asked him about it. He said he had no idea. I called the bank and asked them to put a stop payment on the subscription, and they did, but it popped up again the next week. I asked him about it again (maybe he was playing online games?) but he said (wearily) that he�d only been buying food and water and living in (his words, not mine) �a loving shithole shelter� and then he went on a rant about how hard it is to be homeless and how it was all my fault and I just hung up on him.

I got so sick of seeing a subscription charge every week, after endlessly going back and forth with my bank and them essentially telling me that they have used all their tools and I just need to check my own subscriptions, I was fed up and I canceled the credit card.

I am putting this in AITA but I believe I am not the rear end in a top hat because who honestly believes you�re supposed to completely support your EX (not even married) financially after you�ve broken up? Also, he completely blamed me for his homelessness situation when it was his toxic drinking behaviors and inability to make meaningful change in his life that led to the dissolution of the relationship.

I might be the rear end in a top hat because he was completely dependent on the credit card for survival.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:40

BabyFur Denny: Mar 18, 2003

Sir Sidney Poitier posted:

I can see why you'd think that upon first reading but he was really happy with it and loved the attention that it got him. At one point everybody cheered for him. The next year he had to have a cone on due to recent surgery so we added petals to make it a sunflower.

Obviously I'm talking about the lady. Either don't invite her or be considerate of her, that's just common courtesy.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 09:44

bell jar: Feb 25, 2009

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For giving my BF conditions on me moving in with him

Man, I'm not a dog liker, have lived in share house situations with people who own terribly untrained dogs, and came in to this 100% willing to be on this person's side.

But gently caress me dead this is the most unreasonable set of demands I've ever seen, YTA, hope you enjoy single life.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 10:21

tinytort: Jun 10, 2013; Super healthy, super cheap

Barudak posted:

Dude doesn't realize it aint got poo poo to do with London and that also he's single now

If he's lucky, he's single. "Let’s buy a house in a different country, on a whim because a celebrity couple did it" is the suggestion of someone who wants to be Quirky, and sulking because he didn't react positively to such a wild idea is...well, best case, it's the behaviour of someone who wants to be the manic pixie dream girl in the relationship.

therobit posted:

AITA for not reacting right to a colleague telling me he is gay?

champagne posting posted:

What are you supposed to say anyway?

"Boss I'm gay"

"uhhh ok?"

Yeah. "Boss, I'm gay." "That's nice, what do you want me to do with that information?"

Halloween Jack posted:

<munchausen by proxy kid update>

Tarkus posted:

Soooo, like Hypochodria by proxy?

Munchausen by proxy, but yes. Hypochondria just means that you're prone to easily believing you have various illnesses. Munchausen is the diagnosis of "you’re making yourself sick on purpose, for attention", and Munchausen by proxy is "you’re abusing someone vulnerable in your care, to make them look constantly ill, so that you look like a put-upon saint who works so hard to care for them".

Doctors don't like hypochondriacs. They hate Munchausen patients, because the patient's mental illness means their medical history can't be trusted and they'll deliberately gently caress with their health to stay sick. Munchausen by proxy is even worse, because the victim is often a young child who doesn't have the agency to speak for themselves.

pentyne posted:

how the gently caress does a women reach the age of being an adult and not know that yellow cheese exists?

Hell, how the gently caress do you reach the age of "can go grocery shopping on your own" and not realize that yellow cheddar exists? Most commercially sold cheddars are Generic Yellow-Orange, to the point where white cheddar is the unusual variation in a grocery store.

I mean, there's a reason why KD is neon orange in order to make people think of cheese.

ShootaBoy posted:

A room is much larger than a crate, and is also a temporary thing, as opposed to the crate that the hopefully now exgf would like to keep the dog locked in all day.

Plus, he can let the dog out and escort it to the yard if it needs to go while the gf is around. If the gf is insisting the dog be confined whenever she's home alone with it, she's not taking it out for potty breaks and she's not going to cope well with the dog breaking its toilet training under strain.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 10:39

Captain Fargle: Feb 16, 2011

tinytort posted:

Hell, how the gently caress do you reach the age of "can go grocery shopping on your own" and not realize that yellow cheddar exists? Most commercially sold cheddars are Generic Yellow-Orange, to the point where white cheddar is the unusual variation in a grocery store.

I mean, there's a reason why KD is neon orange in order to make people think of cheese.

That's a very US/Canada sort of thing. White or pale yellow cheddar is the norm here in the UK and Ireland and the orange colour is usually only found in a variety known as Red Leicester or the cheap American plastic pretending to be cheese.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 10:50

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

tinytort posted:

I mean, there's a reason why KD is neon orange in order to make people think of cheese.

Tell me you're Canadian without telling me you're Canadian. :canada:

# ? Feb 10, 2022 10:57

quantumwell: Jun 22, 2013

Captain Fargle posted:

That's a very US/Canada sort of thing. White or pale yellow cheddar is the norm here in the UK and Ireland and the orange colour is usually only found in a variety known as Red Leicester or the cheap American plastic pretending to be cheese.

Do you guys have Velveeta over there ? I like to bask in its radioactive orange glow.......

# ? Feb 10, 2022 10:59

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for recycling my boyfriend's soda can "collection"?

quote:

I [25F] have been with my boyfriend "John" [22M] for about two years now. Everything was going great, until he graduated college last semester and moved in with me to my apartment.

My apartment isn't huge, only about 1000 sq ft, but I made room for pretty much everything my boyfriend wanted to have with him when he moved in, like books furniture video games and etc. But he really really wanted to bring his soda can "collection".

He's really proud of it, but it's just soda cans. He has more than 100 of them, but they're just...cans. He says some are collectibles, like a Dr. Pepper can with the avengers on it, or some soda from Germany, or something with Pikachu on it, but otherwise it's a bunch of different energy drink or cola cans. There's different colors of them, sure, but it's just empty soda cans.

I told him I don't want them in my apartment. For one, the collection takes up a lot of space, especially since my bf hates when they get dented or scratched, but they're aluminum. It'll happen. And for two, I just think it's tacky to use garbage to decorate our living space, especially when it's an orange crush.

He got upset about that, but packed up his cans into those big storage tupperwares and I thought that was the end of it until yesterday, when I came home from grocery shopping and he decorated the walls of our hobby room with the soda cans. He at least had them on shelves, but I really didn't appreciate that he made that decision without asking me and I told him so. He got mad at me for that and said it wasn't just my apartment anymore and that if I wanted to be a good girlfriend I'd let him decorate, but he made a unilateral decision and that got me mad. So today, while he was at work, I took down his cans and put them in the recycling. He was really upset when he noticed, especially since the recycling truck already came by, but I feel like since he made a decision about decorating my apartment without my input, it's only fair that I do the same.

TL;DR I recycled my boyfriend's soda can collection without telling him, am I the rear end in a top hat?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 11:10

Shithouse Dave: Aug 5, 2007; each post manufactured to the highest specifications

Yeah, adding annatto to cheese is definitely a North American thing. NZ and Australian cheese is shades of white to buttery yellow depending on age and variety. The orangeness really weirded me out when I lived in Canada.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 11:22

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Shithouse Dave posted:

Yeah, adding annatto to cheese is definitely a North American thing. NZ and Australian cheese is shades of white to buttery yellow depending on age and variety. The orangeness really weirded me out when I lived in Canada.

Almost lost my mind when I first saw orange-yellow cheese. It was some blue cheese coloured with annatto that I forget the name of, but I like... Finally understood that cheese could be that orangey?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 11:27

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

as a wee witch, I would avoid �white� cheese like the plague. I hated milk, and milk made cheese, therefore white cheese is bad. Only exception was for pizza (VERY rarely), parmesean (whether Kraft or real, but NOT MELTED. I hated ANY melted cheese), or feta. �Orange� cheese was safe. Yes it could be the same drat cheese on the Mac and cheese but if it was white, it was verboten.

Now as an adult I�m lactose intolerant.

E: cream cheese was fine. Hell even as an adult I will risk toilet death for a toasted poppy with cream cheese.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 12:13

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for siding with my mom over my wife about cheese?

r/relationships: she got a fraudulent doctors note (she was sleeping with him) is incredible as title fodder.

Just overall, what an incredible post. OP hates his mom, his mom and stepdad hate him and his wife, he managed to go no contact for almost a year with no major consequences, but then at the 2 year mark decides to pull a pin on a grenade no one needed set off. I imagine OP is some kind of camel that stores drama in his hump and must periodically replenish reserves. This ought to be enough to coast off of for a while.

It's a pity the Iranian yogurt has already kind of laid claim to this summary, but

OP, this conflict is not about the cheese.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 12:16

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Need to Forget About This Embarrassing Situation ASAP. He Wasn't Sincere.

quote:

TL,DR: My boyfriend found out his ex got married in the middle of a NYE themed party. He made a scene and lost control over his emotions. It�s very clear that he still has feelings for her and he�s mortified that she married someone who�s successful. He lied about her chasing him.

Throwing it for privacy reasons. My (F39) boyfriend Nell (M37) has let me down so badly that I�m numb. He has destroyed my trust at soul level. I hate being led on and used.

We met 4 years ago and hit it off. It was a great change for me at first. I�ve had trouble finding a true friend within my relationships. Nell was awesome at listening. We share the same food tastes, we love the same cultural stuff, we read a lot. I thought he was sincere but now it�s become clear that he�s been mimicking.

He asked me to move in with him, but I was resistant for months. I�m really focusing on my career and work with lots of male colleagues, which makes him very uncomfortable. This leads to unpleasantness on his side (saying hurtful things to make me jealous, also talking poo poo about my male coworkers). He turned around and changed his attitude after I fully expressed how he was making me feel. We had an intense negotiation before I moved in. I have a good job. I never required him to make tons of money but after 3 months of living together, I began to notice that he lied about his education (he said he has an MBA, but is unfamiliar with very simple concepts).

For background, I�ve lived with him for an entire year. Xmas 2020 was fantastic. I�d never had such a lovely and romantic holiday. This makes me so mad because it was a charade. He never loved me. All he did was offer what I needed to hear. I hate him.

He began to get comfortable. I don�t need a big CEO or an Elon Musk wannabe as a boyfriend but I need to know that my guy is a doer. He would sit in front of his gaming console and let his so-called career goals slip away. Everything offended him. He turned down an assistant job because �he�s a leader, not a follower�. He wouldn�t even hear it when I suggested he worked his way up.

I moved to this town under false information. He told me he was popular and respected. I believed him because it's a small town so that happens in small communities. That didn�t really matter, except that his town�s people don�t seem to think too highly of him, so now it matters because he lied. I�ve seen people giving him cynical looks. I got scoffed at for accidentally repeating one of his (presumed) lies.

I�ve come to resent him very deeply. He loves pranks and it easily gets out of hand. I�m so disgusted to say this, but he engagement-pranked me last Fall. He knelt and handed me a box. I cried and although my mind was raising (I didn�t know if it would be the right decision), I cannot deny that I was happy. The box had a pair of earrings. I was very embarrassed but tried to cool down and avoid ridicule. He was very amused and asked me what I was expecting.

We went to visit his friend Paul (disabled, important to the story) and his wife. The wife�s face changed when she saw us show up at their pre- New Year�s dinner party. She and Nell have a very tense relationship. She had a hostile reaction when Nell started talking business with Paul, who�s now back home after an extended stay in the hospital. The wife said she was fed up. Paul tried to calm her down but she got even angrier and yelled at her husband because the dinner party was supposed to be to celebrate he was out of the hospital, not to attract people who always need something. I just wanted to leave. She disappeared for a while, but then came back and started passing her phone around so that everyone got a peek at Nell�s ex (FB profile) wedding pictures. She was mean (not judging her, she surely has her own reasons) and went all out about how wealthy, successful, feared and respected Nell�s ex�s new husband is. These are things that Nell yearns for. He was embarrassed, and I could understand. But so many things came out that I lost all respect for him.

He painted his ex as the needy crazy who stalked him and tried to argue his way into gaining composure. People were laughing. He got out of control and embarrassed me by engaging in a huge confrontation with Pauls� wife. He wasn�t making any sense but it was clear to me that he was hurt because his ex moved on.

I had to drive us back while he was having a tantrum inside the car, vowed revenge and all types of bullshit, claimed he will �destroy the guy� (groom) and said he will make her �crawl back�. It was like I wasn�t there. Obviously, the wedding took him by surprise. He�s been drinking, crying, and self pitying for weeks.

Yesterday was the last straw. I tried to talk to him and he said he has no joy in this life and that �all the good ones are taken�. I won�t be a caregiver for someone who despises me and himself. I�m not interested in staying. I would be reduced to being a provider. gently caress him. He passed out drunk, despite alcohol altering his blood pressure. I spent last night in a hotel and didn't even bother to announce that I was moving out.

I�m getting hate from his family. They are acting like I�m entitled for being irritated. I�m fed up with so many things. I made the mistake of looking into his ex�s old pictures and found that the hairstyle he insisted that I wear is very similar to hers. We�ve been going to restaurants and watching series that are either a part of her culture or her personal preferences. I didn�t know this. I came to build a life with him and I ended up digging a poo poo hole. Thankfully we don�t have kids, or joint finances or anything. I�ll just remove myself from this poo poo show and hopefully, his misery will drive him into more ridicule.

His mother called me insensitive and selfish after I said he is nothing but a moocher and a Mr. Nobody and good on his ex for tossing him. I�m gonna change my number. I blocked everyone but every time I get a call from an unknown number, I get really tense. I need to figure out a place to live (probably two cities away from where I used to live and closer to my employer) and will have to start over in terms of my personal life.

Can somebody offer any advice, or words of wisdom? I hope this wasn�t too long.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 12:24

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Mx. posted:

Need to Forget About This Embarrassing Situation ASAP. He Wasn't Sincere.

Fire, and lots of it.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 12:36

darkwasthenight: Jan 7, 2011; GENE TRAITOR

Mx. posted:

Need to Forget About This Embarrassing Situation ASAP. He Wasn't Sincere.

I mean seems like you've got this one. What advice are you after exactly, apart from a big Internet pat on the back?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 12:50

8one6: May 20, 2012; When in doubt, err on the side of Awesome!

therobit posted:

AITA for canceling the credit card my ex was using?

quote:

... He was only spending about $300-400 a week...

You loving doormat! You should have ~~never added them to your card in the first place you moron~~ canceled the thing the second he was out of the apartment. $1200-1600 a month for an ex?

# ? Feb 10, 2022 13:25

Dr. Stab: Sep 12, 2010; 👨🏻‍⚕️🩺🔪🙀😱🙀

How does one person spend 400 dollars a week on food? That's 19 dollars a meal.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 13:44

8one6: May 20, 2012; When in doubt, err on the side of Awesome!

Dr. Stab posted:

How does one person spend 400 dollars a week on food? That's 19 dollars a meal.

Eating out for every single meal.

# ? Feb 10, 2022 13:45

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for going nuclear over a pen?

quote:

So this is stupid, but I swear to god I am telling the truth. I have receipts if you need them.

For context, we have a pretty lax work environment at my job, and I love my coworkers. I value their opinions and I have no problem with accomodating them at all. I have a weird complex about hurting people's feelings, and this has bothered me way more than it should.

When I first started my job around a year and a half ago, I would keep my pens in my lab coat and they would disappear constantly. I'd argue that that's what I get for leaving my pens out, but I also think it's appropriate to want to keep my pen throughout my shift at least. I was joking with one of my coworkers and labeled one of my pens to say "eat poo poo pen stealer" and we laughed to find out it was our center manager, who thought it was hilarious. I've kept my pen in my scrubs since then and I haven't lost it to anyone yet.

BUT NOW

I let my friend borrow it for her nighttime shift, and she left it in a drawer to return to me when I came to work in the morning. I was supposed to work the next day, but our center closed for bad weather through until Friday, and I was off this weekend. One of my coworkers found my pen and scratched the label off this weekend, and I was really concerned because I didn't know she had been upset by it.

So I talked to her today, and she told me that my pen was unprofessional (truth), in the way (truth?), and that nobody gets to have their own pens (wtf). She said if she saw any of my pens, she was going to take them and take their labels off. I told her I didn't mind censoring or even getting rid of them if she had just told me, and I don't mind it if it really bothers her, but she was not budging on messing up my pens.

Now I'M pissed off, and in a moment of rage I went to the bathroom and ordered 300 customized pens that say "you suck pen stealer" and "we live in a society". My thought is that I can give them to whoever wants one, and if she wants to take them all, she'll have to get some drat acetone and an assembly line to make a dent in this plague I'm about to infect our center with.

I think I let my anger get the best of me. AITA for raging about my poo poo pen? And WIBTA for going through with my evil plan?

I have the feeling I am.