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Hughlander posted:Love all these manchildren who try to compete with the dead. I kind of understand being privately a bit hurt by knowing your girlfriend/wife would drop you in a second if her dead partner came back, but for gently caress's sake keep it all in your head. Edit: New page tax: AITA for hiding my son from my boyfriend? quote:Me and this guy (35F and 23M) had been dating for almost a year now. I didn't tell him that I had a 9 year old son at first, because I thought it might be a turn off initially, and that he might feel burdened because he'd feel he had some kind of responsibility he wasn't ready for. He's still really young, and I didn't want him to think I'd expect him to be some kind of father figure immediately. Of course I wasn't going to keep this from him for much longer, I'd actually considered telling him already but it just never seemed like it was the right moment. I was able to keep it from him because my son mostly lives with his dad, and I was able to coordinate the time I spend with him without it clashing with when I see my boyfriend. We usually prefer to go out, but when he does come over I try to hide all traces of my son, which I know seems very over the top but again, I was going to tell him when the time was right. edgeman83 fucked around with this message at 20:44 on Feb 16, 2022 |
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Hughlander posted:AITA for visiting my late husband’s grave on Valentines Day I forget if it was like a study or an observation by a goon who worked with abuse victims, but someone said a couple threads back that three years is how long anyone can keep a lid on being poo poo, and then the mask comes off. Often shorter, but never longer.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for shutting down my bf with something he hates being reminded of? What a baby. says he was trying to financialy abuse her and when she brought up comparing bills he was so excited because he thought he had her right where he wants her to really ramp up the negging. Instead it blew up in his face and now he feels utterally emasculated because a female proved him wrong. Even if I'm wrong she needs to dump him because I doubt there's any coming back from this.
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edgeman83 posted:AITA for hiding my son from my boyfriend? "I mean, what's a single year, really, anyway? Not even 10% of the age gap in our relationship, smh"
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for shutting down my bf with something he hates being reminded of? If either person in a relationship is downright disdainful of the other, it's better to just end it. Much less both.
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hazardousmouse posted:There's no pain when someone's poking around in your brain I was commenting on them trying to put an IV in by just jamming a needle in the patients arm and wiggling it around until they find a vein to put it in... Instead of you know asking a nurse who has done it a thousand times. This actually came up a lot with my wife when she was undergoing cancer treatment, she has great veins but good lord some people just suck at IVs and after one horrific session before surgery she ended up just stopping by the ER to have one of her co workers put one in before she went up for procedure.
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AITA for telling my boyfriend that if he wants me to dress and present a certain way, he needs to pay for my clothes and hair and nails and time?quote:I'm a woman in a career feild which really doesn't care about appearances.
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limp_cheese posted:What a baby. says he was trying to financialy abuse her and when she brought up comparing bills he was so excited because he thought he had her right where he wants her to really ramp up the negging. Instead it blew up in his face and now he feels utterally emasculated because a female proved him wrong. Dude seems like a douche but also there’s always buried leads in these things. Typically it’s the dude who is a dick in these stories but sometimes poo poo gets revealed in the comments, like the OP accidentally revealing “well BF actually makes 150k to my 50k and puts most of it into a savings after he pays all the utilities and is footing the bill for my student loans, as well as saving for a house for us to move into”.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend that if he wants me to dress and present a certain way, he needs to pay for my clothes and hair and nails and time? Boyfriend wanted to go to the work event with a high end escort, not a girlfriend, so it only seems fair he pays high end escort prices.
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Saw this opinion article on Reddit, clicked idly and quickly realised it's has some thread tropes: Spoiler alert: a NY Times columnist is a terrible person and justifies it in stereotypical ways. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/11/opinion/my-husband-and-i-dont-speak-the-same-love-language.html posted:Ms. Taddeo is the author of “Three Women.”
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Hold up. Is your mother's name "My Son;" or is she just a formal texter? Do you text in cuneiform? No, the anglicized version of her name would be Elizabeth, and "mother" in Assyrian is roughly "Yemma". I just call her mum. Yes, pretty formal. She's an Iraqi woman in her 60s with middling English who's just recently learning to text. Here's a sample No, just English, I never learned to read or write Assyrian and have forgotten almost entirely how to speak it, despite being fluent when I was a kid. My little sister never spoke it, but understood enough when we were young. I don't remember at what point we all started speaking English at home primarily.
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The Walrus posted:lot of people itt not recognizing that steaming is the best way to cook most veg
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limp_cheese posted:Boyfriend wanted to go to the work event with a high end escort, not a girlfriend, so it only seems fair he pays high end escort prices. I suspect that would cost way more than the $2K he spent but a good point never the less.
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My(29f) Bf(31m) is considering joining the Ukrainian Militaryquote:
Putin is destined to lose this conflict because his military planners did not take into account the force multiplier of mentally ill, untrained, english-speaking foreigners joining the Ukrainian military at the last minute.
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Mx. posted:AITA for expecting my husband to ask before changing a dish? Ah, we've found the guy who makes a recipe from an online site, changes it entirely without even trying it straight up once, and then leaves a review about how "I just substituted this for this, added this, added this, and it was amazing!" Uncle Enzo posted:OP doesn't have to be friends with anyone and the neighbor is putting on a lot of pressure, which is wrong. The vacation thing is pretty lol. I'm sure she'd have had a great time with this crazy Christian conservative lady that she has literally nothing in common with and who wants to mash their children together and yell "LIKE EACH OTHER". She just gave you a whole dissertation on how a deep friendship isn't going to happen, does that not sound like she tried? Seems like she'd be fine with a casual neighbor thing, but this lady aggressively wanted something very specific.
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The Bramble posted:My(29f) Bf(31m) is considering joining the Ukrainian Military Pretty sure a foreigner can't just join the Ukrainian military out of the blue so he is probably talking about joining one of the neo Nazi militias that operate out of there... Azov battalion is one that lets foreigners join and they are outright Nazis so she might want to find out if that's what he wants to do...
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edgeman83 posted:I kind of understand being privately a bit hurt by knowing your girlfriend/wife would drop you in a second if her dead partner came back, but for gently caress's sake keep it all in your head. IMO if they still have a straight up memory shrine in the living room you should just break up with them. Eight years since he passed and she still has a table permanently set up with pictures and candles in the living room of the house you share? That's a straight up in-your-face statement of "You're my second choice and always will be". Even if that's the truth(it's definitely the truth), she should at least be tactful enough not to rub it in his face like that and stop dedicating a section of their living room to making her current partner feel like a third wheel in her relationship with a ghost.
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B-Rock452 posted:Do you sleep on your stomach cause proning is a simple way to help someone breath easier Back or side. Left side when my stomach hurts. The whole thing was weird because my oxygen was back to normal the next day, when the previous morning I woke up with 80% oxygen on the oximeter, which is a bad number.
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The Bramble posted:My(29f) Bf(31m) is considering joining the Ukrainian Military I read an article about this couple whose son did just this. He was really into Eastern Europe and the Donbass conflict and such and one day just up and left and they had no clue where he had gone, until they found out he was in Ukraine. He stopped messaging them one day, and like 2-3 years later an informant tipped off a private investigator that he was stabbed to death in a bar and his body was thrown in a ditch or something So uh, that's something for this person to look forward to I suppose EDIT: here's the link, but it's WSJ paywalled: https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-fbi-lost-our-son-11570806358 - I probably misrepresented it because it's been a couple years since I read the article but still
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Huh. I knew the FBI has links to Neo-Nazis, but I thought they were all in the US.
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Lone Goat posted:No, the anglicized version of her name would be Elizabeth, and "mother" in Assyrian is roughly "Yemma". I just call her mum. ...Yeah ok that's just sweet. You've found one instance in which referring to someone as brony is cute, well done.
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quantumwell posted:I suspect that would cost way more than the $2K he spent but a good point never the less. Sounds about right for 3-4 hours.
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a podcast for cats posted:Saw this opinion article on Reddit, clicked idly and quickly realised it's has some thread tropes: Maybe find somewhere else to work out your issues
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Lone Goat posted:No, the anglicized version of her name would be Elizabeth, and "mother" in Assyrian is roughly "Yemma". I just call her mum. And what?!?!
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Khizan posted:IMO if they still have a straight up memory shrine in the living room you should just break up with them. In general yeah I agree but the dead husband is also the father of her child. Once that comes into the picture I think it's pretty understandable to still have photos of the dead husband around and visit his grave on his birthday. Unless the shrine is some huge obnoxious thing
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Uncle Enzo posted:OP doesn't have to be friends with anyone and the neighbor is putting on a lot of pressure, which is wrong. The vacation thing is pretty lol. I have a real, genuine question, something I've wondered for a long time. Why do people say stuff like this about a situation that a person, at the very least, doesn't want to deal with? I've seen this before in responses to people who didn't want to befriend or talk with their childhood bullies years later and someone would say it was a shame they couldn't get over it- or even a little while back when those two different guys posted on Reddit about not wanting their mothers in their lives. I don't understand it. It's like saying it's a shame I didn't have some of that delicious peach pie when I don't really care for peaches. Uncle Enzo, please explain this to me. Because I've only ever been on the other side. Content from Ask a Manager: quote:How do I warn a hothead personal trainer I’m on the verge of firing him?
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"How do I warn a hothead personal trainer I’m on the verge of firing him?" I'm betting some combination of meathead and steroid abuse.
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a podcast for cats posted:Saw this opinion article on Reddit, clicked idly and quickly realised it's has some thread tropes: My husband just doesn’t understand my love language. All I want is for him to do everything I ask immediately and brook no complaint ever, and I also need him to constantly convince me that I will never die.
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Just fire him.
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My love language is being in desperate need of therapy while refusing to attend it.
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My love language is humiliating myself in print.
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* One's "love language" can also be one's vulnerability * My husband's love language is touch * He's not getting poo poo until all my demands are met * That's my love language you're not allowed to criticize it * PS my love language is also lying and manipulation because we're talking about ME here what could be more important
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trickybiscuits posted:I have a real, genuine question, something I've wondered for a long time. Why do people say stuff like this about a situation that a person, at the very least, doesn't want to deal with? I've seen this before in responses to people who didn't want to befriend or talk with their childhood bullies years later and someone would say it was a shame they couldn't get over it- or even a little while back when those two different guys posted on Reddit about not wanting their mothers in their lives. I don't understand it. It's like saying it's a shame I didn't have some of that delicious peach pie when I don't really care for peaches. Uncle Enzo, please explain this to me. Because I've only ever been on the other side. My thoughts were specific to the exact situation in the post. Yes, the neighbor is a random stranger, but that also means there isn't a history of bad blood like with a bully or lovely mom. That's a huge difference. The neighbor was coming on psychotically strong and like I said OP is 100% ok to just not talk to her. It also might have worked to lay down some boundaries and insist on taking things slow. "Well Karen I'm flattered but I really don't know you very well yet, what if we got coffee Friday?" As for why go through the trouble, this is me projecting my life onto OP's: in my experience, the world is a big, cold, uncaring place and finding friends especially as an adult is hard. Other than coming on way too hard it didn't seem the neighbor had really set off red flags? If we voted here (which thank god we don't) I'd vote NTA. But with a different perspective.
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Lone Goat posted:No, the anglicized version of her name would be Elizabeth, and "mother" in Assyrian is roughly "Yemma". I just call her mum. Ever think about trying to pick it back up? It might be easier than you think if you still retain any knowledge of it.
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Uncle Enzo posted:My thoughts were specific to the exact situation in the post. Yes, the neighbor is a random stranger, but that also means there isn't a history of bad blood like with a bully or lovely mom. That's a huge difference. Seems like you've got some Geek Social Fallacies to work through. When someone projects "I am unhinged" at you so blatantly as soon as you meet them, the correct response is to block them off immediately, not give them ins to mess with your life.
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OP gave an inch by having the audacity to be standing outside while unpacking and the neighbors immediately tried to take 10 miles.
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a podcast for cats posted:Saw this opinion article on Reddit, clicked idly and quickly realised it's has some thread tropes: If the christmas tree is ruining your life that much then move it yourself. This isn't a weird video game where men and only men can interact with trees.
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duck trucker posted:In general yeah I agree but the dead husband is also the father of her child. Once that comes into the picture I think it's pretty understandable to still have photos of the dead husband around and visit his grave on his birthday. I wouldn't have a problem with having some pictures and mementos up on the walls in the living area or with having a table like that set up in the kid's room. But having a full out candles-and-pictures table set up permanently in the living room would cross a line for me. I would not want to like, cuddle on the couch during a movie while sitting across the room from a full on memory shrine to her deceased husband. Ugh.
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a podcast for cats posted:Saw this opinion article on Reddit, clicked idly and quickly realised it's has some thread tropes: lol, I enjoy how she tells made-up facts to get what she wants and thinks it's quirky, cute and is perfectly justified to do so. What's even funnier is that she made herself look like a real loving rear end in a top hat in other ways and probably thinks that what she just admitted was NBD. I mean I guess in the grand scheme of things the things she admitted aren't that bad but people in her life are going to look at her differently now.
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There's a conversation to be had about what is the appropriate balance between remembering a a dead partner and making room for a current one, and I think the easy answer is "don't be in that relationship if you feel threatened or overshadowed by a person who is literally no longer around," because the alternatives are pressuring your partner to erase a portion of their life, which is lovely and breeds resentment, or stewing in your own resentment in the hopes that they'll take the hint. Like it's possible to gracefully suggest moving the shrine from the living room to the child's bedroom or something similarly appropriate, but also this dude wanted to propose on her dead husband's birthday; outside of the severe abuse stories, that's about the most psychotic thing I've seen in this thread.
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