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DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

My(22F) Brother In law (Mid 30s) is on Grindr

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My sister has been married to him for 10 years and dated him for 2 years before getting married. My best friend is gay and he found his account on grindr. He took screenshots and sent them to me.

My sister and her husband have such a great relationship. I don't know how this could have happened, Even I can't believe this. I am so scared and I know the right thing to do but I don't know how I will go about it. I love my sister and I know this will crush her. They seem so in love and I don't know how I can show this to her?
I am just really scared on how I will go about this and could use some advice.

TLDR : Best Friend found my BIL on grindr, IDK what to do?

Update : My (22F) brother in law is on grindr

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I decided to just tell her as quickly as possible so I called her and asked her if we could meet to get coffee and she was down. I showed her the screenshots and she wasn't surprised and the first thing she said was that he still isn't using the pictures she took for him.

She said she knew about it and it was not something I needed to worry about but she thanked me for bringing this up to me. She then changed the topic and we drank coffee and when I was about to leave she went quiet and then said that she wanted me to know it is not something she was bullied into and she didn't mind it at all. She said she had other partners too and that she is asexual. I told her that it was very different the image they projected but it was not my business and all that mattered was that she is happy.

It is pretty weird as I saw them as the old school puppy love kinda couple and it is wild that they date other people but at the same time but she seems happy and content. I think nothing else really matters.

TLDR : My sister is poly? and my brother in law is not cheating.

Probably the best possible outcome. Also, lol at BIL not using the pictures his wife took of him.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 20:43

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# ? May 29, 2024 21:59

Shithouse Dave: Aug 5, 2007; each post manufactured to the highest specifications

Arsenic Lupin posted:

My son had colic, where a baby screams all the time. I was breastfeeding him.

Nurse: You need to give up spicy food.
Me: Okay, so you mean hot peppers and like that?
Nurse: No, I mean onions and garlic.

Reader, I did. For about a week. The colic continued, and I was relieved to go back to my ordinary diet.

My brother-in-law is severely allergic to onions and apparently passed that down to my nephew. My sister didn�t eat an onion or garlic for a year while breastfeeding. Sounds like my absolute worst nightmare, but she manages to stay married with a total onion ban in the house.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 21:53

Soul Dentist: Mar 17, 2009

Ok you're gonna have to eat 300 McNuggies a day to prevent scurvy. That's 14,400 calories but your gums won't bleed.

Also lol at the asexual with multiple partners. There's a misnomer if I ever

# ? Feb 27, 2022 21:53

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for not letting my SIL wear my wedding dress?

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My (28F) husband (30M) have been married for almost six years now. At the time of our engagement, neither of us had much money, so there was no way I could have afforded the wedding dress that I wanted to wear. Thankfully for me, my mother is something of a seamstress, and offered to help me make my dream dress. We spent over a year finding the pattern, picking the fabrics, and making my beautiful wedding dress completely from scratch. It�s the first big project I�ve ever sewn, so I�m quite proud of it. Making it also brought me much closer to my mother, as the whole project was sort of a bonding experience. It also holds a lot of additional sentimental value as my dad passed away while we were making it, so I sewed a heart shaped cutout of one of his shirts into the lining of the dress in order to keep him with me on my big day. This dress not only brought me closer to my husband, but my family too. It means so much to me.

My SIL (F23) just got engaged recently, and is in a similar situation with her wedding. She just got out of college and started work as a teacher. Between her loans and a relatively low salary, she doesn�t have very much money to pay for her wedding. Dress shopping has been a bit stressful for her, as all the dresses that fit her taste are just so far out of her budget. This all leads up to Tuesday morning, when she called up my husband and asked if I would be willing to let her borrow my dress. She mentioned that it could be her �something borrowed.� My husband says that he would have to ask me first, because it wasn�t his to loan out. His sister told him that it wouldn�t be a problem and I�d barely miss it as it was just sitting in a box anyway. He still said he would have to ask me and forgot about it. He finished his work day and picked me up from my job and we came home to his little sister trying on my wedding dress and his mom clipping it in the back to fit her better. Seeing somebody else in my dress totally blindsided me. I was stunned and asked what they were doing, and my MIL said that they were planning alterations since SIL is significantly smaller than me. I told them that there is no way I would be loaning my dress out to anyone. It not only represents my love to my husband, but the bond with some of my family as well. This escalated into an argument that ended in my MIL calling me a selfish bitch and leaving with SIL. My husband thankfully grabbed the dress during the argument so they didn�t grab it when they left. I was really upset, but thought about it after I had some time to call down. I don�t have any uses for my dress, and I do love my SIL. I feel as if I maybe overreacted and shut them down too quickly. AITA?

TLDR: My SIL wants to borrow my homemade wedding dress and tried it on without my knowledge. I freaked and said no.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 21:56

moonmazed: Dec 27, 2021; by VideoGames

she might have romantic partners :shrug:

# ? Feb 27, 2022 21:57

Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

Soul Dentist posted:

Ok you're gonna have to eat 300 McNuggies a day to prevent scurvy. That's 14,400 calories but your gums won't bleed.

Also lol at the asexual with multiple partners. There's a misnomer if I ever

You can have multiple romantic partners

# ? Feb 27, 2022 22:06

gay for gacha: Dec 22, 2006

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not letting my SIL wear my wedding dress?

I guess I never understand why these people do this stuff in secret and expect it to be okay.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 22:07

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for not apologising to my MIL after throwing up her food

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Hi please help me out because I am feeling extremely guilty even though at that time I thought I was in the right So I (f27) am married to my husband (m34) from past 2 years. My relationship with my MIL has been ok but we are not extremely close as we have different opinions on some matters.

Like last year during a controversial law implementation in Texas, we were having a discussion at family event and she told me how if I ever thought about giving up on a baby she will make my husband divorce me. But she laughed after saying that and said she was kidding. She had made similar kind of jokes regarding me having a girl child first as well.

Well fast forward to last night. She had come for a visit and brought food with her. She had made my husband's favourite dish and one other dish. She said she had brought the favourite dish only for my husband and the other dish was for me. Well we started eating and I tasted something bitter in my food. It wasn't that much so I just kept on swallowing it with water because I was afraid if I'll complain my MIL will get angry. As I dug deeper with my fork deeper into the food I saw something like black powder. It looked like the food was stuffed with it. I inquired about the same so she told me it was a new spice she got from a friend. I took a mouthful of that stuff and couldn't swallow it at all. I rushed to the bathroom and threw it all up. I got violently sick and my whole mouth became bitter.

When I came out my husband gave me some water. Suddenly my MIL got very angry at me and said I was intentionally doing this whole act of throwing up to show she is a bad cook. My husband tried to calm her down but she left our whole but took the food she brought with her while leaving saying we don't deserve it. She even emptied the plate I was eating from in a container and took it as well.

While my husband is on my side, others from his family has been very angry at us as well and asking me to apologise. AITA here?

Edit: As some of the comments are curious, I will ask the name of spice. I will call my SIL tomorrow. Although I don't think she was trying to intentionally poison me I am now really scared after reading the comments that said that's what she did. I'll update you guys soon.

Update: So my SIL just called me who got the whole story out of my FIL. My MIL got the spice from her friend like she said. It was called calnji? Kalnji? Something like that I'll Google it later but just wanted to update you all first. She was cooking that dish for their lunch and didn't know how much she was supposed to add and accidentally put too much. She tasted it and couldn't eat it. Instead of acting like a sane person and throwing it she thought that as she was going to visit us anyways so why not give it to me instead. Her reason was that as I am a horrible cook so I already have a habit of eating bad food ?!? She intentionally made a small portion of my husband's food so I will not take it. I am so so angry at her now and have told my husband she is not allowed in our house anymore. He still think he would like to discuss it with her I am just done with her bs. Thankyou all for your concern and while I am glad she was not poisoning me I am still shocked by her insensitivity.

Husband needs a backbone or wife needs to Pete out

# ? Feb 27, 2022 22:14

Fatty: Sep 13, 2004; Not really fat

AITA for not apologising to my MIL after throwing up her food

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Hi please help me out because I am feeling extremely guilty even though at that time I thought I was in the right So I (f27) am married to my husband (m34) from past 2 years. My relationship with my MIL has been ok but we are not extremely close as we have different opinions on some matters.

Like last year during a controversial law implementation in Texas, we were having a discussion at family event and she told me how if I ever thought about giving up on a baby she will make my husband divorce me. But she laughed after saying that and said she was kidding. She had made similar kind of jokes regarding me having a girl child first as well.

Well fast forward to last night. She had come for a visit and brought food with her. She had made my husband's favourite dish and one other dish. She said she had brought the favourite dish only for my husband and the other dish was for me. Well we started eating and I tasted something bitter in my food. It wasn't that much so I just kept on swallowing it with water because I was afraid if I'll complain my MIL will get angry. As I dug deeper with my fork deeper into the food I saw something like black powder. It looked like the food was stuffed with it. I inquired about the same so she told me it was a new spice she got from a friend. I took a mouthful of that stuff and couldn't swallow it at all. I rushed to the bathroom and threw it all up. I got violently sick and my whole mouth became bitter.

When I came out my husband gave me some water. Suddenly my MIL got very angry at me and said I was intentionally doing this whole act of throwing up to show she is a bad cook. My husband tried to calm her down but she left our whole but took the food she brought with her while leaving saying we don't deserve it. She even emptied the plate I was eating from in a container and took it as well.

While my husband is on my side, others from his family has been very angry at us as well and asking me to apologise. AITA here?

Edit: As some of the comments are curious, I will ask the name of spice. I will call my SIL tomorrow. Although I don't think she was trying to intentionally poison me I am now really scared after reading the comments that said that's what she did. I'll update you guys soon.

Update: So my SIL just called me who got the whole story out of my FIL. My MIL got the spice from her friend like she said. It was called calnji? Kalnji? Something like that I'll Google it later but just wanted to update you all first. She was cooking that dish for their lunch and didn't know how much she was supposed to add and accidentally put too much. She tasted it and couldn't eat it. Instead of acting like a sane person and throwing it she thought that as she was going to visit us anyways so why not give it to me instead. Her reason was that as I am a horrible cook so I already have a habit of eating bad food ?!? She intentionally made a small portion of my husband's food so I will not take it. I am so so angry at her now and have told my husband she is not allowed in our house anymore. He still think he would like to discuss it with her I am just done with her bs. Thankyou all for your concern and while I am glad she was not poisoning me I am still shocked by her insensitivity.

The food is fine! I'm just going to take all evidence of it.

Edit: drat you.

# ? Feb 27, 2022 22:14

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Blastedhellscape posted:

I think OP was using the term "steak and potatoes man" as a metaphor, and her son was on more of a chicken-nuggets-and-literally-nothing-else diet.

I can't believe no one makes a vitamin and fiber fortified chicken nugget

# ? Feb 27, 2022 22:48

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Ah, Tuesday. What a day.

AITA for insisting that my husband drive my MIL to the hospital instead of calling an Ambulance?

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My MIL was at our house a couple of days ago to see some new furniture I bought. She fainted and fell off on her back. My husband freaked out and went straight to call an ambulance, I told him that he should drive her to the hospital himself since his car was working instead of paying X money for an ambulance. He said no and insisted on an ambulence. I tried to convince him since the hospital wasn't far but he blew up at me and said that his hands were shaking and couldn't drive her there. He yelled at me to move out of the way and called an ambulance. I decided to step back but I was pretty mad. He went with her and got back in the evening.

He started going off on me about how I behaved while his mom was injured, I replied that there was no need to waste money on an ambulance ride especially since MIL was conscious and also since he had his car and could've driven her there himself. He lashed out saying that he was in no state to drive and that I was ridiculous to care about how much an ambulance ride cost instead of his mom's health. I told him it's my house too and he should get my input on wether to call an ambulance or not. besides that we have a policy to only call ambulance for the people who live in the house not visitors. he said I was mistaken for getting in his face and insisting there was no need for an ambulance.

He's been sulking claiming I don't care about hos mom's wellbeing and only care about money and refusing to let it go. AITA?

You have a policy to what

# ? Feb 27, 2022 23:04

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not apologising to my MIL after throwing up her food

Husband needs a backbone or wife needs to Pete out

Huh, learn something new every day, I think.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nigella_sativa

# ? Feb 27, 2022 23:11

limp_cheese: Sep 10, 2007; Nothing to see here. Move along.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not letting my SIL wear my wedding dress?

Makes me wonder when the MIL was in their house without their knowledge in the past. Even if they get the key back from her they should still change the locks.

She should also start storing the dress in a safe or another location since I would bet :10bux:

the MIL is waiting until they leave the house again and forget about this fight to steal the dress.

Edit:

Mx. posted:

AITA for insisting that my husband drive my MIL to the hospital instead of calling an Ambulance?

You have a policy to what

If its the US that might be a prudent policy to have so you don't go deep into debt.

limp_cheese fucked around with this message at 23:40 on Feb 27, 2022

# ? Feb 27, 2022 23:36

Rescue Toaster: Mar 13, 2003

In the USA it makes sense to drive yourself if you're stable, because :capitalism:

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But the homeowner isn't responsible for the Ambulance bill? The person riding it is... which sort of explains the 'Don't call the ambulance for somebody else, hopefully unless they really need it.' So unless the mom is dependent on them financially why on earth would anybody else care?

# ? Feb 27, 2022 23:56

Ziv Zulander: Mar 24, 2017; ZZ for short

It�s okay to call an ambulance for a medical evaluation, and then tell the EMTs that you want somebody else to drive you there if they think you should go. They�ll even phone the ER and let them know you�re coming. You don�t have to pay to have them come and check you out, that�s only if they give you a ride

# ? Feb 28, 2022 00:31

Inceltown: Aug 6, 2019

Fell and hurt your back is classic get someone to check your spine out before moving a bunch. You really don't want to gently caress that poo poo up.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 00:38

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Inceltown posted:

Fell and hurt your back is classic get someone to check your spine out before moving a bunch. You really don't want to gently caress that poo poo up.

Well maybe but the policy clearly states�

# ? Feb 28, 2022 00:46

Pomme de Terror: Sep 30, 2021; Well, one of us must have killed him!

AITA For refusing to give my boyfriend my PIN number after he took my Credit Card without consent?.

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Title sound horrible but give me a chance to explain.

I f24 have been seeing my boyfriend Martin m30 for 8 months, He's super funny and sweet. He's currently out of job for health reasons but he's actively looking for a new job. This our first major fight and I'm not sure wether I was at fault here.

2 days ago, we spent the night together and he went to the store early in the morning to buy some groceries. unbeknowest to me, he took my credit card to shop with it. I got woken up by him calling asking me to give him my credit card PIN number, I was confused I asked why and he said he went grocery shopping with my card and forgot to ask me to give him the PIN before he left, I got mad and felt quite violated, I told him I was sorry but I gave no permission for him to go out and shop using my card, he sounded confused and said he was just trying to buy us breakfast and it only cost $20. I said I was sorry but refused to give him the PIN number. He obviously sounded upset and asked why. I told him because he didn't consider getting my permission to take my card and use it. He said "alright then, guess no breakfast for us" then hung up. I called and called but no response. He returned and handed me the card back then, went on to complain about how he was just trying to buy us breakfast and that he wasn't intending on making a huge purchase. I said I understood but it's all about consent to me, He seemed pretty irritated and upset though he said it was fine, He left after this and hasn't returned my calls.

He then texted that he wasn't intending on stealing from me and that he thought that I wouldn't make such a fuss about it and that he DID get my permission when he called to ask for the PIN number but I feel like it's just me feeling like he violated my boundaries. He's been upset since then saying I ruined our time together by making a huge deal out if it and embarrassing him at the store by making him return the stuff he bought at the register.

Gosh! I feel like I was such an rear end in a top hat here but ontoh I think that he could've asked first.

I wanna hear what you guys think of this. AITA or not?

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:11

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA For refusing to give my boyfriend my PIN number after he took my Credit Card without consent?.

I'm missing the explanation for why he couldn't buy the breakfast with his own drat money.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:26

wizardofloneliness: Dec 30, 2008

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA For refusing to give my boyfriend my PIN number after he took my Credit Card without consent?.

She should dump him and then he can start going out with the girl who took her bf's credit card while he was asleep, also to buy breakfast, and then acted like he was the one in the wrong when he got upset. They can take turns stealing each other's cards, although I think she was unemployed too so that might defeat the purpose.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:27

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA For refusing to give my boyfriend my PIN number after he took my Credit Card without consent?.

lol, no credit card purchase for $20 requires a PIN. He had her debit card and was trying to use an ATM.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:32

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

lol, no credit card purchase for $20 requires a PIN. He had her debit card and was trying to use an ATM.

If you're in a chip-and-pin country, any purchase requires the PIN unless you use the tap (RFID) function.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:36

Blastedhellscape: Jan 1, 2008

Soul Dentist posted:

Also lol at the asexual with multiple partners. There's a misnomer if I ever

Asexual can mean a lot of different things and is kind of a bewildering spectrum. Generally it's a blanket term for a person who does not experience sexual attraction. For whatever reason they just never started getting horny for guys or girls or both during puberty the way most people do. Often times they still experience romantic feelings; getting crushes on people and the like.

Also lots of asexuals are grossed out by sex, but there are others who enjoy the physical act but just don't feel attractions to people. It gets pretty complicated.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 01:59

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for expecting my fiancee to uninvite her mom from our wedding?

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This is a messy situation, And I'll preface this by saying that my mom and my future mother inlaw (call her MIL) don't get along AT ALL. They fight so much it's ridicuolous. I believe MIL is the one with a problem here. for example, MIL made a huge scene just cause mom accidently threw away her gift bible for my fiancee. another example is MIL kept sulking after mom went dress shopping with my fiancee, my fiance sulked too but since mom begged then I had no choice.

Last week, there was a family gathering, mom was upset that MIL got an invite first and said that MIL is intimidating us into giving in to her. MIL got offended and argued with her, mom ended up ruining her dress by throwing drink on her during the argument. A huge fight ensued and dinner was ruined.

We went home and I told my fiancee that unless she wants what happened earlier to happen at the wedding then she should uninvite her mom because she's been acting aggressive and out of control. She looked shocked and said it was the complete obvious because mom is the one who threw a fit over a non-issue, I said her mom was part of the fighting cycle and is as much guilty as mom if not more. I told her she shoupd uninvite her from the wedding because I'm sure that even if mom stays quiet, she (MIL) while look for the smallest slights to start a fight and ruin the wedding. My fiancee started yelling calling me nuts to expect her to exclude her mom from the wedding and said that she wasn't the problem to begin with and suggested that I uninvite my mom, but I told her that this can't happen because as her only child, mom will be brokenhearted. And more importantly, I don't think she's the problem here. I told my fiancee that if she insists on having her mom there then she should be prepared for the outcome. She called me a hypocrite and said that looking at this fairly, mom is the one with the problem. I stopped arguing cause at this point I feel like she's just trying to deflect blame and turn it on my mom while turning blind eye on hers. We went back and forth and she kept saying I was ovetstepping to expect her to uninvite her mom who's been a victim of my mom's passive aggressive attitude.

AITA for what I asked?

Momma's boy is going to momma boy! Let's see in the case where he cherry picked all the time that his fianc�e's mom was at fault we have:
His mom threw away something belonging to his fianc�e.
His mom insisted on going dress shopping and not allowing his fianc�e's mom to go.
His mom threw a drink at his fianc�e's mom.

Yes clearly the fianc�e's mom is the issue. God I hope she wakes up and dumps him.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:29

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Blastedhellscape posted:

Asexual can mean a lot of different things and is kind of a bewildering spectrum. Generally it's a blanket term for a person who does not experience sexual attraction. For whatever reason they just never started getting horny for guys or girls or both during puberty the way most people do. Often times they still experience romantic feelings; getting crushes on people and the like.

Also lots of asexuals are grossed out by sex, but there are others who enjoy the physical act but just don't feel attractions to people. It gets pretty complicated.

This came up the story at the source of the thread title, a "tik-tok" asexual who constantly made a big deal of how grossed out she was by seeing physical affection and demanded the OP remove arousing/horny game mods to clear her space of any stuff like that as well as even ban her from playing adult games on her own time.

That was like the most normal thing about that post though as the comments kept getting worse and worse.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:34

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for walking out of the restaurant after my boyfriend started drinking his juice with 3 straws?

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I F, 30 have been with my boyfriend M, 32 for few months. Unlike him, I come from a well off background and last week I invited him out on an upscale restaurant for a dinner together.

We got there, sat down at our table and chatted for some time. He ordered some orange juice then asked the waitress to bring him 2 more straws besides the one he had with his juice. I was puzzled I asked if he was expecting one of his friends and he laughed and said "ohhh no...not after what they did to me last night" I was like ???? but watched to see what he was doing. The waitress came back with the 2 straws then took our orders. The minute she walked away my boyfriend put the other 2 straws in his juice and basically started sipping with the 3 straws making an unbelievebly absurd and annoying sound. I was floored I asked what he was doing and why. He nonchantly smug smiled and said so he could drink faster. I got mad and quite embarrassed cause people were literally side eyeing me since I'm a regular. I told him to stop but he didn't. I said that I'd leave if he wouldn't and he made eye contact and kept sipping. I had it, I said I wasn't going to continue to be humiliated anylonger and grabbed my stuff and made my way out. He shouted for me to wait but I didn't.

30 minutes later, he started rage texting me about how I overreacted and how I keep ruining good timrs worrying about what those "snobs" think. Then talked about how ridiculous I was to walk out like that and repeatedly texted about how I should stop being a pretenious snob just because I hang around them which I found really really offensive. He ecpected me to apologize for "making a scene" and walking out like that over something so stupid and harmless.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:46

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Mx. posted:

AITA for walking out of the restaurant after my boyfriend started drinking his juice with 3 straws?

He's a button pusher

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:48

wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

Mx. posted:

AITA for walking out of the restaurant after my boyfriend started drinking his juice with 3 straws?

What kind of upscale restaurant brings you a straw in the first place?

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:49

TengenNewsEditor: Apr 3, 2004

Pigsfeet on Rye posted:

He's a button pusher

i got a button for this guy :murder:

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:49

limp_cheese: Sep 10, 2007; Nothing to see here. Move along.

wizardofloneliness posted:

She should dump him and then he can start going out with the girl who took her bf's credit card while he was asleep, also to buy breakfast, and then acted like he was the one in the wrong when he got upset. They can take turns stealing each other's cards, although I think she was unemployed too so that might defeat the purpose.

The entire relationship is just this comedy skit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nTh9qpzhunE

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:50

Dik Hz: Feb 22, 2004; Fun with Science

Rescue Toaster posted:

In the USA it makes sense to drive yourself if you're stable, because .

But the homeowner isn't responsible for the Ambulance bill? The person riding it is... which sort of explains the 'Don't call the ambulance for somebody else, hopefully unless they really need it.' So unless the mom is dependent on them financially why on earth would anybody else care?

Homeowner might get sued for it.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 02:55

Blastedhellscape: Jan 1, 2008

That three-straw juice slurping move seems like something a manic pixie dream boy would do in a very bad indie movie from the late 90's.

Not that I even think the post was fake. There are people out there who base their lives on thinking "What would a manic pixie dream boy/girl from some lovely late 90's indie movie do?" and then do it.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 04:07

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

Evil Willow posted:

Tell me you're a side chick without telling me you're a side chick.....

My (23F) fiance (31M) refuses to introduce me to his mom and makes me hide when she comes over

Update: My (23F) fiance (31M) refuses to introduce me to his mom and makes me hide when she comes over

quote:

Thank you so much for all your advice on this post

The day I posted this, his mom had actually came over and he had me hide in his room again. After reading all your comments and thinking about this some more, I went home and decided to break up with him because I�m just tired of feeling like he is not proud of me. I told him I want to be with someone who isn�t ashamed of our relationship and of our engagement. I�m tired of hiding.

He showed up at my place and we talked about it. He explained to me that his mom is overbearing when it comes to him and his brother�s relationships, that she has her own criteria as far as who they should date and if she doesn�t agree with their choices, she goes out of her way to destroy the relationship. She is also "prejudiced" (so basically she�s racist) and he doesn�t how she�ll react because of my skin color (black). He said he didn�t want her to come in between us, reason why he wanted to marry me first before letting her know about me.

This was all confirmed by his brother who I had already met a couple times. We all had dinner together and his brother basically explained to me how their mom is the reason why his kid�s mom (also black) left him and broke off their engagement. Their mom is so bad that she�s not allowed to see her grand kid anymore.

So now I understand a little more why he was hiding me but at the same time I feel like it�s not fair for him to have kept this all away from me until now. Why wouldn�t you tell someone all of this before they fall in love with you, or even before they say yes to marrying you? It sounds like this woman could try to make my life hell. Didn�t I deserve to know ahead of time? And is this even worth it? The engagement is off the table until I figure out what to do. Advice?

# ? Feb 28, 2022 04:13

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Vim Fuego posted:

I can't believe no one makes a vitamin and fiber fortified chicken nugget

When things like fortified breakfast cereals and wonderbread started coming out, that wasn't the companies putting vitamins in there out of the goodness of their hearts; the government passed regulations about these kinds of staple foods that if they were so hyper-processed, important nutrients got leached out of them, the companies had to put some vitamins back in there so very poor people who got a substantial amount of their calories from such things did not get sick. AFAIK, there has not been similar laws passed regarding fast food because we don't regulate things anymore due to the growing power of lobbyist groups, so there are no fortified tendies served because no one is being forced to do so.

Mx. posted:

Ah, Tuesday. What a day.

AITA for insisting that my husband drive my MIL to the hospital instead of calling an Ambulance?

You have a policy to what

Since they have to pay for ambulances, OP is probably American. If someone has a slip and fall on your property here, your rear end is liable and they have the ability to sue to get their unreasonable medical expenses paid for by your homeowner's insurance. This includes things like a 4 or 5 figure ambulance bill.

While the homeowner may not have to pay the ambulance bill that moment, it's possible for the slip and faller to sue to recoup money they paid for the ambulance from the homeowner's insurance, so in effect it's the same thing.

In a perfect world, a free ambulance would strap her to a stretcher in case she hurt her spine and spirit the mother-in-law away for similarly free healthcare, but in america, OP is pretty much 100% in the right. You fall and get a boo boo, just drive or be driven there in a normal car. It's not like the EMTs are going to do anything different vs if she'd had a heart attack or stroke or something. She probably could've helped her case by offering to drive the MIL herself or calling an uber since her husband had an acute onset of weaponized incompetence, but perhaps she dislikes her MIL for other reasons and did not want to help her.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 04:20

sullat: Jan 9, 2012

Invisible Clergy posted:

In a perfect world, a free ambulance would strap her to a stretcher in case she hurt her spine and spirit the mother-in-law away for similarly free healthcare, but in america, OP is pretty much 100% in the right. You fall and get a boo boo, just drive or be driven there in a normal car. It's not like the EMTs are going to do anything different vs if she'd had a heart attack or stroke or something. She probably could've helped her case by offering to drive the MIL herself or calling an uber since her husband had an acute onset of weaponized incompetence, but perhaps she dislikes her MIL for other reasons and did not want to help her.

In a perfect world nobody would fall at all...

# ? Feb 28, 2022 05:04

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for snapping at my friend for being too involved with my unborn child?

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Sorry if my formatting is off I�m on mobile and I�m also sorry for grammar, spelling and sentence structure errors, I�m dyslexic. So I, 21f, recently snapped at my longest close friends for being, in my opinion, way too involved with my unborn child. She�s 20y/o, let�s call her A. Recently A lost her child a few months before I found out I�m pregnant, I really feel for my friend. Losing a child is hard on anyone and she was super excited to be having a child.

When I found out I was pregnant, I was shocked and excited as it was super unexpected as me and my boyfriend weren�t trying at all. I told A about my pregnancy as I was really happy and wanted to share the news, I was about 4 weeks. Everything was fine, we spoke about baby things. She was the first of my friends I told. I didn�t wanna tell anyone else until I had my 12 week scan. However in the weeks leading up to the scan A became VERY clingy to my child, making plans for a gender reveal (although me and my boyfriend don�t want to know the gender), making plans for me and her to have a baby bump photoshoot and telling me she�s going to be the godmother (she�s not, we�re not having one). Shes said and done more, I don�t remember them off the top of my head. I have told her multiple times that this isn�t just my child as my boyfriend is very much involved and doesn�t appreciate her inserting herself where he should be as the father.

The other day I snapped at A because I have my gender and anomaly scan at the beginning of April although me and my boyfriend aren�t going to find out the gender, she wants the letter we�ll be getting if we change our minds. This was my breaking point, this is how our conversation went (basically)

A: �please can I have the letter you�ll be getting for the gender?�

Me: �I get you�re excited but this is my child, not yours. You�re not going to have the letter, you�re going to have to wait to know after I give birth�

A: �Please? It�s eating me up, I wanna know�

Me: �No. Me and my boyfriend don�t want anyone to know as we�re not going to know. It�ll be unfair if I let you know but not my family� (my bf doesn�t talk to his family)

A: �I won�t tell anyone , I won�t even make hints�

Me: �No. I�m done talking about this�

A: �fine . But I�ll be there at and after birth.�

Me: �No you won�t, this is my baby. This isn�t your baby. I can have whoever I want to what me and it will be my bf. After birth, we�re having a few days to chill and workout a routine with our child, we�re not having visitors straight away. If you want me to have a stress free pregnancy, please back off and stop talking about my child as if they�re yours.�

A: �fine!� She hung up the phone after that.

I feel like an rear end in a top hat as I know she can become attached to ideas and people very quickly and easily, as well as losing her child recently. Am I The rear end in a top hat?

Edit: I just found out that she�s got my scan pictures as her lock screen on her phone (taken off my fb announcement post), I�m going to assume she�s had them for the past 2 weeks (about how long ago I made the announcement) I know people have also told me to next time be more gentle, how can I now address this issue more calmly?

Edit 2: I put a comment below explaining what I�m going to do and have done for my safety. I will also update you all on the baby when it�s arrived and safe to do so, if you want me to. I can�t thank you all enough for making me feel less like an rear end in a top hat and helping me open my eyes wider on the situation, I knew it was bad but didn�t realise how bad.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 05:04

Troublemaker: Mar 12, 2007

A is going to kill her and take the baby.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 05:30

doomisland: Oct 5, 2004

Vim Fuego posted:

I can't believe no one makes a vitamin and fiber fortified chicken nugget

While not exactly that... https://www.perdue.com/products/perdue-chicken-plus-chicken-breast-vegetable-dino-nuggets-22-oz/80700/

# ? Feb 28, 2022 05:50

8one6: May 20, 2012; When in doubt, err on the side of Awesome!

Mx. posted:

AITA for snapping at my friend for being too involved with my unborn child?

She is deffo going to steal that child.

# ? Feb 28, 2022 06:09

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# ? May 29, 2024 21:59

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for telling my sister to get her own life

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I (21 f) have a twin (also 21 f). Basically my sister wants my life and chases what I have. I'm getting married in March and I have a 1 year old. She's going to college and has had MANY flings/boyfriend in her 3 years going. She always says she doesn't want a baby after babysitting my son, and says she isn't ready for marriage because she wants our last name on her degree because she was the one who worked for it. She chases guys and is now dating a guy we don't like (but we get along with for her sake). Anyways she was showing me her new phone and when showing me the camera I saw a picture of her holding a pregnancy test, I pretended like I never saw it. She still hasn't told me to this day.

Her boyfriend is different and I told her one day that I didn't like the way he picked on her and I thought it was mean, and she said that she liked him and I just need to mind my own business. I honestly thought she was right so I shut up. And later she said that not everyone is like my "perfect finance" and I told her not everyone is but if she just focused on school and stopped trying to chase what I have she wouldn't have anything less than him and she ran out crying. So AITA? Edit- I'm not claiming to invent the marriage and kids concept, I know that it is a goal. She wants to ruin her life goals because she realized that my life is going in the right direction and she can't seem to find herself.

r/relationships: I (21 f) have a twin (also 21 f)

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# ? Feb 28, 2022 06:19

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