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We had our first child last Thursday and as a new dad I am petrified of carrying him - I constantly worry about hurting his neck, pressing his soft spot or dropping him - any tips? Also burping - really struggle with that one. I can do over the shoulder burping but the one on the lap, I can’t get my head around
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Mar 3, 2022 12:57
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Manwithastick posted:We had our first child last Thursday and as a new dad I am petrified of carrying him - I constantly worry about hurting his neck, pressing his soft spot or dropping him - any tips? I spent almost the first month absolutely terrified of the same thing so i feel you there. No real tips other than babies are slightly tougher than you'd think. As long as you support the head without bending it too much you're doing fine. And i never figured out hoe to do the lap burp either.
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Mar 3, 2022 13:12
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Slaan posted:Baby just discovered today that I have chest hair. I'm not sure what's more painful, the far too strong to be a baby pulling or the billion tiny cuts from razor sharp baby nails Ours is now 10 weeks old and my wife is teaching her to grab my beard
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Mar 3, 2022 13:21
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Manwithastick posted:We had our first child last Thursday and as a new dad I am petrified of carrying him - I constantly worry about hurting his neck, pressing his soft spot or dropping him - any tips? Congrats!! Honestly it’s all practice. I was nuts the first like two days my son was born, and during his first bath my wife and I were both super anxious with like steadying his head but not letting him flop and whatever. Just keep doing it, definitely make sure you are comfortable but push yourself. Maybe start with just holding him while sitting down, trying a few different positions, then standing up and carrying when you feel like you have him secure. To take your mind off it you can also play some soothing music and rock the baby/sway back and forth. I have a dad friend with a 2.5 y/o and he constantly doubted himself to the point where he doesn’t do much with his son because the second the kid cries “mommy” or whines he thinks he is loving up or isn’t good enough or something and goes for the hand off to Mom. Kinda wild.
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Mar 3, 2022 14:19
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Manwithastick posted:We had our first child last Thursday and as a new dad I am petrified of carrying him - I constantly worry about hurting his neck, pressing his soft spot or dropping him - any tips?
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Mar 3, 2022 15:04
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You get used to it and the kid does too. It's a learning experience all around. The stuff you worry about during the first week or two fades away because you're used to it and also because there's new poo poo to worry about
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Mar 3, 2022 15:09
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No joke, this extremely bro-y YouTube video was something I watched in the hospital when my daughter was born and then I was slinging her around like a pigskin on Sunday. https://youtu.be/7yL9pnDP6jY
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Mar 3, 2022 15:11
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Manwithastick posted:We had our first child last Thursday and as a new dad I am petrified of carrying him - I constantly worry about hurting his neck, pressing his soft spot or dropping him - any tips? Welcome to parenthood! I had exactly the same fears when I had my kids, even with the second one when I had already been through it. They feel so fragile! As others have said, you do get used to it, it’s going to take time. No real tips other than remember to keep a hand under his head and not to freak out any time something weird happens - all of it will become routine soon enough.
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Mar 3, 2022 15:15
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I think it also depends on how developed the baby's neck muscles are at birth My cousin's kid had a limp noodle for a neck and nobody was allowed to hold him even at 6 weeks My baby came out very lean but had excellent neck control within 12 hours and got to be held by a bunch of people. All babies are different Edit: and yeah you'll gently caress up once or twice, it happens to everyone, their head is firmly attached though, don't worry, just don't make a habit of it
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Mar 3, 2022 15:15
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Meanwhile here we are at #4, I can carry a baby in my literal sleep and he'd already had his first tiny taste of Baja Blast freeze at 4.5 months. At some point you just get confident and used to it  (As a counterpoint, I about died when #2 was 2 months old and I whacked his head into a door frame carrying him.
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Mar 3, 2022 15:30
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My toddler is waking up at 5:30 every day and we know it’s time to push his bedtime back from 7:30 to 8 but drat it’s hard to give up more adult time in the evening.
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Mar 3, 2022 15:34
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D34THROW posted:
Now 20 months-ish later, he just fell off the couch and my check was "oh he got up cool he's fine"
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Mar 3, 2022 15:43
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Evergreen comic (I can't even remember where I saw it, here?): 
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Mar 3, 2022 15:48
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One thing my mom always reminded me was that babies are meant to survive. They're not as fragile as we think. (Prematurity or other health concerns aside, of course.)
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Mar 3, 2022 16:54
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When my son was like 9 months old and first crawling around I accidentally tripped over him and fell on top of him. He had a bit of blood around his eye and I immediately assumed I must have given him a concussion or blinded him for life. He ended up being fine after 15 minutes, though he had a nasty black eye for a week. Anyways yeah they are tougher than they look and I’m a terrible father.
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Mar 3, 2022 17:28
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Me the first week after my daughter was born: If I look at you funny you'll shatter! Me the second week: Yeah I'm just gonna hold you in one arm while I open doors and poo poo. Your confidence will go up quickly as you learn what works.
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Mar 3, 2022 18:00
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When I gave birth to our daughter, I was so afraid of holding her the wrong way. When I was struggling to position her while we were both learning to breastfeed, the nurse told me "Don't worry, you're not going to break her." And hearing that from a professional really helped me feel more confident about handling her. Babies are hardier than you think! Support the head and you'll be all right!
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Mar 3, 2022 18:18
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My kid has hurt herself a lot with no permanent damage yet. She fell off the changing table once, she’s fallen off the couch a few times and fallen out of the glider. Just yesterday she fell off a dining room chair. She’s been climbing them like mad and even though I was right there, I was just a split second too slow to catch her. She cried a lot, but then she was fine. We’re going to have to do something about the chairs though, since I can’t turn my back without her climbing them. Just after Christmas she fell face first into the side of her cardboard toy box and cut her lip open. It was horrifying to me to see blood come out of her mouth. She was fine after a few minutes though and we let her have some ice cream.
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Mar 3, 2022 20:09
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King Hong Kong posted:Lmao two weeks of daycare closure and all the kids in the room are sick again after a single day back. My 11 month old had a settling in day at nursery on Monday. All good and he dived into everything with no fear, but he's producing an incredible amount of snot and being about 20% more cranky now.
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Mar 3, 2022 20:52
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As a corollary to babies are reasonably sturdy chat (because they are)- do get serious and pay attention on the stairs while holding kids. Especially while sleep deprived and when they go through those ‘randomly throw their head back’ phases. I’m not trying to increase anxiety, but to channel it towards a constructive point in the house.
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Mar 3, 2022 21:27
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notwithoutmyanus posted:My 7 year old is a wonderful kid a lot of the time. Though as far as comedy and fart jokes she lets em rip, metaphorically and literally. Sometimes however, she goes hard rebel mode and hates any hits to her pride and gets stubborn about learning anything ("I already knew that"), especially things she doesn't already know. I'm trying to help her realize how to be more humble but feel like she's just a stubborn kid the same way I was. Anyone have book recommendations to help a stubborn kid, assuming that'd even what it is?
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Mar 3, 2022 21:30
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My 20mo had a poo poo night sleep-wise and decided to double down with a very short nap and a "I'll fight all attempts at more sleep you rear end in a top hat" type attitude today so that's fun
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Mar 3, 2022 22:07
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Oh, I too have a "kids are tough" story. I learned this by him seeing a blonde girl at the playground (possibly for the first time) and literally walking off the playground equipment, falling flat on his face from a height of 2-3 feet into mulch. Lots of crying, and a cut lip, but in 5 minutes he was wanting to follow the little girl around the playground.l and get her attention. My poor dude is gonna be a goon alright.
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Mar 4, 2022 16:36
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So far it seems that my kid gets more upset about anything you try to do to address his injuries than the injury itself. Sure he's going to cry when he trips and busts his lip because of course he will that hurts, but a little hug and holding will clear it right up. If someone tries to wipe the blood off his face or ice a bruise you'd think he was being murdered.
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Mar 4, 2022 20:39
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Why is one of my almost 5 year old twins crying? Because water went up his nose during bath and he is afraid he won’t be able to smell anymore.
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Mar 5, 2022 01:14
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No idea how we got a chore baby but the kid spent nearly an hour after getting home tonight doing chores. He loaded the laundry into the basket to go wash, emptied the trash, emptied the dishwasher then "cleaned" the grill (unsuccessfully) then started picking up leaves and putting them into the compost bin. Kid, youre not even 2. You'll be doing chores your whole life. You don't gotta start now.
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Mar 5, 2022 05:36
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7 1/2 months old and now my baby is getting fussy with milk. Since the new year began he drank his bottle like a champ but the past two weeks he fights after about halfway, every time. No change in formula or bottle. He is usually getting two meals of real food a day but he still cries like he wants his bottle...but then gives up much earlier. Only when he's incredibly sleepy will he knock down the whole thing.
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Mar 5, 2022 16:41
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L0cke17 posted:No idea how we got a chore baby but the kid spent nearly an hour after getting home tonight doing chores. Roll with it. If you stop him from doing chores now, he might never pick them up again. It’s a fun game to him, I promise he’s not suffering! (FWIW, ours stopped spontaneously doing stuff like that before she turned three. But I’m happy she at least retained some good habits, like throwing her trash in the bin herself, helping to carry the recycling and other small things.)
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Mar 5, 2022 23:14
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how do other folks manage their kids wanting to schedule playdates with every rando at the park? my 6yo loved this one kid today and wrote down his name on a post-it and everything. i usually just let it go and assume they'll either never see each other again or, on the off chance they do, then maybe connect with the kid's parents. anyways, kids are funny.
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Mar 6, 2022 09:13
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L0cke17 posted:No idea how we got a chore baby but the kid spent nearly an hour after getting home tonight doing chores. Our toddler does the same, unprompted. She'll grab folded laundry by the armload and run to her room to put them in her dresser. Sometimes she'll grab clothes I haven't sorted or folded yet so I have to stop her sometimes! We got her a Melissa and Doug mini broom and mop set so she loves to sweep when we do and then pick up food from the floor to run to the trash can. She'll also grab a rag and start wiping the floor. The enthusiasm is very cute!
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Mar 6, 2022 19:40
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citybeatnik posted:Our daughter's done the "i'm going to stand next to the bed while you sleep staring until you wake up thing" and it's loving unnerving as hell. My daughter's decided she wants to scare us by hiding in the shower, so she'll wake up before us and go hide in the shower until we wake up and go into the bathroom so she can jump-scare us. But she'll wait there for like over an hour, so patient.
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Mar 6, 2022 20:56
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I’m finding it hard not to compare my son to my daughter when it comes to developmental milestones. Looking at old videos of her, when she was nine months, she was crawling and saying “uh oh” and making all kinds of other noises. My son still hates being put on his belly so he hasn’t figured out crawling yet, though he is good at standing up unsupported while holding on to furniture. He just started “bababa” a few days ago. He’s also so small compared to her, but she was 98%ile and he has been 20%ile. I know he’s still considered normal, but it’s hard to not feel like he is behind. If a friend was telling me that this was her experience I would say “ppsssh don’t even worry about it,” but it’s so different when it’s your own kids.
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Mar 7, 2022 09:41
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We're having the same deal comparing our son and daughter, except our son is the older one. He was an inert lump for the longest time, didn't reliably roll over until he was like 5 months old, took a long time to crawl and walk and didn't really say any proto-words until he started using actual words shortly before 2. Our daughter rolled over twice at 5 weeks (jesus christ) and shows an inclination to repeat these attempts any time her nappy is off, and even at 7 weeks is so much more mobile than he was. I'm curious to see if she'll follow the same timeline as him on the gross motor skills or if it'll happen much faster for her. He's also being strongly resistant to potty training so we'll see in time if she is too.
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Mar 7, 2022 09:56
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Anyone with older kids (like older than 4) remember if/when tantrums started to taper off from happening at least once daily to every once in awhile? And when they decreased in length? We just had the longest tantrum in awhile yesterday, over the iPad he had forgotten existed for months. We were gonna let him use it while he sat on the potty to poop, and he wanted to use it now. He was not in the mood to negotiate. He will be 4 soon, and I was hoping these tantrums would decrease in length and frequency. He was absolutely unable to listen yesterday and would not comply with a single thing, including staying in time out, and not ignoring us completely. To give a better picture, we do not typically let him walk all over us or give him reason to think we won’t follow through when we threaten consequences. He just seems to be able to handle consequences given and will scream and cry to get his way, regardless of the fact he knows we will follow through. Tamarillo posted:We're having the same deal comparing our son and daughter, except our son is the older one. He was an inert lump for the longest time, didn't reliably roll over until he was like 5 months old, took a long time to crawl and walk and didn't really say any proto-words until he started using actual words shortly before 2. Our daughter rolled over twice at 5 weeks (jesus christ) and shows an inclination to repeat these attempts any time her nappy is off, and even at 7 weeks is so much more mobile than he was. I'm curious to see if she'll follow the same timeline as him on the gross motor skills or if it'll happen much faster for her. He's also being strongly resistant to potty training so we'll see in time if she is too. Our daughter is doing things much faster than our son did. She’s been starting to balance on her legs and take a few steps to get to us, all on her own. She’s ready to go places, and she will be walking within the month I’m sure.
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Mar 7, 2022 15:39
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Tantrums really depend on the child. Oldest is 6 and has about one weekly tantrum, and it's been that way for about a year. She still had emotional outbursts, but can talk her way through them. Twins are almost 4 (in less than two months): boy twin has at least one tantrum a day, while girl twin has fewer tantrums than our oldest. She has a much sunnier disposition. We work a lot on emotional intelligence, naming their emotions, developing calming strategies, getting through that negative emotions are acceptable, and that showing negative emotion is acceptable, but certain actions to show it after not (hitting, breaking, extreme screaming). Emotion work had really cut down on tantrum length... But sometimes kids just get tired, and just can't regulate themselves.
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Mar 7, 2022 16:20
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My almost one year old did a brief flop-on-his-back tantrum yesterday when he didn’t get to look at a book his sister was using. His almost three sis never really did that style of tantrum. Ah, how different kids are 
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Mar 7, 2022 16:28
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My daughter's almost 6 and still throws at least one tantrum a day on average when she's with us. But she's having to deal with horsehumper waking her up at like 5a to get her to school on time during his possession periods. Plus the usual separation anxiety when her friends have to leave after a playdate; or getting upset that we won't let her sleep in our bed/sleep in her room like her "other dad" does. So it's understandable if frustrating. Our son's mostly a giggly hellion but has been super fussy the last few days. Poor little dude's currently home with a fever.
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Mar 7, 2022 16:32
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My 9 year old throws daily tantrums but he's in therapy to deal with things like that.
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Mar 7, 2022 16:45
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My almost 8 year old throws more tantrums than my almost 5 year old. She can be coached through them, but her threshold for emotional overwhelm is just relatively lower than my son’s. Also bonus, her tantrums include slamming doors and screaming that I’m so mean and the WORST mommy in the world. So that’s great.
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Mar 7, 2022 16:53
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On Wednesday we told the kids that there was a baby in Mommy's tummy. On Saturday, after getting our SneakPeek results back, we told them the gender with a box full of helium balloons. #4 is still carrying his completely deflated balloon around like a pet. #3 and #4 are also going through their things and deciding what to give the new baby when they come. 
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