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Ohio-ness gets overpowered by any other culture in about ten minutes, it's like tofu
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Invisible Clergy posted:It's called "weaponized incompetence." It's an abuse tactic that comes up pretty often amongst the villains in these posts. I’m a few pages behind but ime an early tell with this are people who refuse to take responsibility for their own healthcare/automotive/banking/etc. The boring adult poo poo we all have to sort out and kinda sucks but we still gotta do. These days there’s multiple solutions for keeping track of this stuff - apps, texts, calls, reminders, keeping a handwritten calendar like my mom still does because it works for her - but the kind of people who weaponize incompetence will claim to just not understand how basic text messaging or a phone app work and demand the employees do every little step for them, or blame the business for screwing something up. It’s kind of like seeing how people treat waitstaff informs their character.
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Mar 3, 2022 21:36
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i would watch a movie about a frenchman in cincinnati. it would either be a hilarious slapstick comedy or an andy warhol type thing where he takes one bite of the chili and weeps in the corner for 2hr 45min
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Mar 3, 2022 21:37
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Ever read a title and say  ?AITA for locking our bedroom from the inside after my husband locked me in from the outside? quote:Our bedroom has two locks; the regular key lock (both sides) and a barrel bolt (inside only). Comment: quote:NTA byt what did they talk about and why were you so profondly against the friend coming in for a quick chat? OP: quote:That friend bullied my best friend into an abortion which has destroyed and devastated her.
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Mar 3, 2022 21:39
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I thought we weren't supposed to post stories of abuse here. That's domestic abuse and forcible confinement besides.
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Mar 3, 2022 21:42
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Ugh double post thanks to app
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Mar 3, 2022 21:44
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moonmazed posted:i would watch a movie about a frenchman in cincinnati. it would either be a hilarious slapstick comedy or an andy warhol type thing where he takes one bite of the chili and weeps in the corner for 2hr 45min It doesn't have to be the chili. It could be Montgomery Inn's boiled ribs.
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Mar 3, 2022 21:56
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moonmazed posted:i would watch a movie about a frenchman in cincinnati. it would either be a hilarious slapstick comedy or an andy warhol type thing where he takes one bite of the chili and weeps in the corner for 2hr 45min second one would probably be one of my favorite movies 'cuz i'm loving insufferable like that
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Mar 3, 2022 22:00
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my girlfriend that her hometown sucks and that I don't want to live here anymore? Based on the description I was afraid this was going to be St. Louis, which I guess says something about the general state of Midwestern cities. they definitely are cheap though
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Mar 3, 2022 22:07
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I guessed Kansas City myself.
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Based on the description I was afraid this was going to be St. Louis, which I guess says something about the general state of Midwestern cities. Based on his reference of Paris and Madrid I assumed just about any US city except the two he named and those without snow was likely. I was internally coming to terms thst it might be my city.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:14
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If you live in a major metropolitan city and end up in a long distance relationship with a random tourist you probably don’t have much going on in your own life, at least not enough to be complaining about living in a less interesting city.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:14
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I've heard that some of those Midwestern cities are cool, because not every interesting person in the Midwest has the resources to move to NYC or LA.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:16
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moonmazed posted:i would watch a movie about a frenchman in cincinnati. it would either be a hilarious slapstick comedy or an andy warhol type thing where he takes one bite of the chili and weeps in the corner for 2hr 45min Maybe he could become a DJ for a radio station in Cincinnati, like WKRP or something...
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Mar 3, 2022 22:18
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Slo-Tek posted:With some considerable regularity, I meet people in Seattle, or Austin, or Chicago who are interesting, pleasant, humble, and funny as gently caress, and obviously Happy people. Happy with where they are, happy with what they have accomplished, generally good company. With startling regularity, they are people from Ohio. And they are without exception people who don't live in Ohio any more. I know lots of people in Columbus from Cincinnati and Cleveland. I've never known anyone that moved to either Cleveland or Cincinnati. I actually don't know how Cleveland still has a median age below 40.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:24
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Maybe he could become a DJ for a radio station in Cincinnati, like WKRP or something... Nom de Dieu, je croyais que les dindes pouvaient voler.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:26
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SUPERMAN'S GAL PAL posted:I’m a few pages behind but ime an early tell with this are people who refuse to take responsibility for their own healthcare/automotive/banking/etc. The boring adult poo poo we all have to sort out and kinda sucks but we still gotta do. These days there’s multiple solutions for keeping track of this stuff - apps, texts, calls, reminders, keeping a handwritten calendar like my mom still does because it works for her - but the kind of people who weaponize incompetence will claim to just not understand how basic text messaging or a phone app work and demand the employees do every little step for them, or blame the business for screwing something up. It’s kind of like seeing how people treat waitstaff informs their character. I used to be really loving useless, and then I almost got fired even though I was trying really hard, and it turns out I just have really bad ADD. So my doctor gave me an Adderall prescription over a virtual appointment and now I make appointments, put poo poo on my calendar, cook more complicated things, and can actually make shopping lists, and just generally remember things. Oh, and I can actually do my job too. I draw the line at most automotive stuff though. My car's battery just died and I realized it was waaaay in the back, so that the negative terminal is actually under the dashboard and the positive is just barely peeking out. I'd have to do some serious dismantling if I didn't want to pay someone to get the battery out. A lot of automotive stuff is like that now, so that's just something the average person can't do themselves anymore. I feel like its a combination of people using ADD as an excuse, and people being absolutely adamant that they don't have it. Its probably MUCH more prevalent than people think.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:30
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European moves to US, is stunned that our highest culture achievement is the astonishing amount of asphalt we've managed to lay. US cities exist on a spectrum of walkability and mass transit somewhere between "downright awful" and "sidewalks are a sin". But then add on to that he's in Ohio, and tbh, the girlfriend is an rear end in a top hat for convincing him to move there.
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Mar 3, 2022 22:31
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8one6 posted:I guessed Kansas City myself. The Paris of the Midwest!
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Mar 3, 2022 23:22
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StormDrain posted:Based on his reference of Paris and Madrid I assumed just about any US city except the two he named and those without snow was likely. I was internally coming to terms thst it might be my city. Boston, Philadelphia, Washington DC, Chicago, Los Angeles, and San Francisco are all reasonably on the list of "US cities comparable to international population centers" if his reference points are Miami, New York, London, Paris, and Madrid. e: And these US metro areas account for over 20% of the population. You're not spoiled for choice in the US if urban life is the goal. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 23:40 on Mar 3, 2022 |
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Mar 3, 2022 23:35
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Boston, Philadelphia, Washington DC, Chicago, Los Angeles, and San Francisco are all reasonably on the list of "US cities comparable to international population centers" if his reference points are Miami and New York. definitely not Los Angeles lol it's basically Phoenix or Dallas with a beach
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Mar 3, 2022 23:38
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hawowanlawow posted:definitely not Los Angeles lol Have you been to Miami?
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Mar 3, 2022 23:45
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Have you been to Miami? no I have not been to Florida, but if you are implying that it is bad, I believe it
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Mar 3, 2022 23:47
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AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? quote:Even though I (23f) am American, my parents are immigrants and therefore I have a different cultural upbringing than most. One thing that was hammered into my head from a young age was to always, always bring a small gift when visiting anyone's house. It doesn't matter if it's family or friends or that one person you kind of know but don't really like, bringing something is a must.
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hawowanlawow posted:no I have not been to Florida, but if you are implying that it is bad, I believe it Miami is a fine city on its own, but if it's being presented as a city in the US that's acceptable by Paris/London standards it doesn't offer anything Los Angeles doesn't.
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Mar 3, 2022 23:51
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Miami is a fine city on its own, but if it's being presented as a city in the US that's acceptable by Paris/London standards it doesn't offer anything Los Angeles doesn't. one of his major complaints was you have to drive everywhere, so that pretty much eliminates L.A. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? the dad has a tiny little weiner
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Mar 3, 2022 23:55
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hawowanlawow posted:one of his major complaints was you have to drive everywhere, so that pretty much eliminates L.A. It might help to understand the qualifications that put Miami on the list, but if it's a half-assed public transport system limited to the downtown core, warm ocean water nearby, and presence of immigrants then it's check, check, and check for LA.
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Mar 3, 2022 23:56
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? This reminds me of that episode of The Sopranos when Tony gets super-pissed at Meadow's boyfriend for offering to pay for their meal together. Also I'm betting boyfriend cheated or otherwise did something heinous and is trying to make the breakup about her.
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Mar 3, 2022 23:57
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Nom de Dieu, je croyais que les dindes pouvaient voler. Tres bien, mon ami.
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Mar 4, 2022 00:00
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There was some international bank commercial where groups from 2 different cultures where one side considered it the height of rudeness to leave food on their plate and the other considered your guest not leaving a few bites left over to be the mark of failing as a host with the ensuing hilarity. I guess advertising works because random stories about culture clashes still remind me of that. Whatever bank it was. I don’t remember that part.
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Mar 4, 2022 00:01
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? So the boyfriend is definitely lying to the OP. But is he also lying to his parents? I'd love to find out why the parents decided she's no longer welcome to dinner.
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Mar 4, 2022 00:02
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? gently caress that is sad. I'm a little squirrely about gifts. Don't feel right about the way I accept them, don't want them in the first place, but a bottle of wine or some cut flowers from somebody who is coming to dinner with you is something that there is plenty of cultural and social programming for even here in the wild wild frontiers of America. These people are dicks, and they are picking a particularly miserable and pointless way to demonstrate it. Possible that they are working the "we are family, why are you treating us like we are on a first date" angle, but doesn't sound like it.
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Mar 4, 2022 00:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? It sounds like this woman is bringing over extremely normal hostess gifts, but the reference to "treating them like charity cases" makes me imagine her bringing, like, a box of pantry staples and a bag of Goodwill clothes every time she visits. Driving up with a pallet of Super Bowl Champion t-shirts from the losing team
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Mar 4, 2022 00:03
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Tobermory posted:So the boyfriend is definitely lying to the OP. But is he also lying to his parents? I'd love to find out why the parents decided she's no longer welcome to dinner. She’s a POC parents aren’t.
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Mar 4, 2022 00:08
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AITA-I need a special diet and I’m bringing my own meals on a family vacation.quote:This is something that is bugging me. I have severe GERD and Barrett’s esophagus disease. Because of this I prepare VERY bland meals for myself. I will make my family normal meals. We are taking a multi family vacation this summer and I plan on making and freezing my own meals for the trip. It’s usually steamed or grilled meat and some fresh veggies. Here’s the problem: My in-laws LOVE to cook. We’re all from the New Orleans area and grew up cooking with all the spices and yummies that go with it. My extended family is saying there’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just picky and a drama Queen. They’re telling me it’s rude to not eat what everyone else is eating. Here’s the thing-if I DO eat that it will take days to weeks to get my system back to normal and deal with the pain. It’s miserable. Immediate family can see both sides but will back whatever I decide to do. "Both sides"
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Mar 4, 2022 00:11
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I would bet money it's more: "Son how come you never bring your mom flowers like Cool Girlfriend does?" "Because I am not made of money, jeez! She's making me look bad." "Oh no that scarlet jezebel is flexing on our son by spending money on thoughtful gifts, how dare she disrespect us like that!"
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Mar 4, 2022 00:12
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Hughlander posted:She’s a POC parents aren’t. quote:That it was a cultural thing but then he got even madder and told me to stop imposing my culture on everyone and it's weird since I'm white. I guess this could be interpreted as OP saying that he is white and not that OP is white, but even if OP is white it's a p weird line of thinking that giving gifts is a.) bad and b.) something only non-whites do (which is probably what makes it bad)
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thing about racists is they don't have any problem deciding someone's the wrong kind of white
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Foo Diddley posted:thing about racists is they don't have any problem deciding someone's the wrong kind of white I've been told that Spanish people are "low-tier white".
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Batterypowered7 posted:I've been told that Spanish people are "low-tier white". I grew up in a very insular community, college was something of a shock to my system. I try to be better now, I swear. 
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