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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for wanting the house built a certain way without paying? Oh gently caress all of this
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deety posted:Sounds like he wants the house finished before they get married so it won't be a joint asset. Either that or he's gonna dump her after she builds the furniture (and after all the money she's indirectly put into his dream home). It sounds like OP's boyfriend already owns the house, so even if he were amenable to OP getting some legal ownership on paper, there are no more mortgage payments or what have you to be made, so this is not possible. That's probably exactly what he wants and again, it sounds like he entered into the relationship owning the house, so it shouldn't be a joint asset in the first place either legally or morally. OP did not help pay for the house. He may well be planning to dump her. OP even acknowledges that the relationship is "shaky," which begs the question of why she's contemplating investing this much time, energy, and money into it if she is pretty transparent about how she has not been able to successfully bind herself to her boyfriend legally so she will be very easy to sever from without consequence later if that's what he wants to do. Since the bf owned the house outright before OP insinuated herself, I don't think he actually conceptualizes it as "shared space." He thinks of it as his house (OP even refers to it as his family house) and she is just someone who came over to stay there on a temporary or semipermanent basis. Like the non-divorced woman living with her husband in a duplex but also wanting a bf, there's nothing wrong with this unorthodox arrangement if everyone's onboard, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here. If the boyfriend won't let OP dictate how the kitchen is designed (without actually paying for it) and this is unacceptable to her, the fairest thing to do would be for him to pay her for the furniture she is designing and building for the house like he's one of her clients. That way, if he decides to kick her out once the house is all finished and is able to do so because she has no legal right to remain there, she is not left having done x months of work for free and has some money saved up to begin looking for a new place to live. However, like always, this middle ground approach is probably too mercenary for the sentimental OP, and too logical for the boyfriend who seems to want the benefit of OP's experience but doesn't want to compensate her for it. EDIT: comments on this one make it pretty clear OP's bf is an rear end in a top hat for various financial abuse reasons and independent of this specific scenario she has in fact been paying for all their expenses as a couple for quite some time while also serving as a bangmaid. Post was from a rare non-throwaway that's posted several similar threads about her terrible bf's abusive behavior none of which are funny or interesting enough to quote here. lower stakes one AITA for Telling my Friend he hasn't Really Watched The Sopranos? quote:The Sopranos is one of my (30M) favorite shows. I've watched the whole thing at least three times, and plenty of episodes probably a dozen or more. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 05:39 on Mar 8, 2022 |
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AITA for calling the police on my neighbor’s kids?quote:I’m a (20f) living with my friend in an Group of condos that’s owned by my friend’s grandma. I have a dad who’s kids run around between yards. I only know them on site. I was reading a book in my yard outside work in my school work and the dad says he has an emergency and for me to watch his kids. I don’t even know his kids names. He just leaves his two kids both under 6 with me. I’m confused as gently caress. I call my mom and roommate and they both say call the police. running across the neighbourhood, hucking my kids at random passersby because the last one to touch them is the one who is responsible for them
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 05:38 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for calling the police on my neighbor’s kids? Unexpected reversal of the GIVE ME YOUR [x] trope
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 05:40 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for calling the police on my neighbor’s kids? When that stops being how the law works, people like the dad will stop doing it. Good on OP for, for once, behaving reasonably and just dumping them with cps instead of being decorum poisoned into being their unpaid mommy indefinitely. Captain Hygiene posted:Unexpected reversal of the GIVE ME YOUR [x] trope Take my kids, please.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 05:41 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:It sounds like OP's boyfriend already owns the house, so even if he were amenable to OP getting some legal ownership on paper, there are no more mortgage payments or what have you to be made, so this is not possible. OP's awkward language (referring to knowing how to build a house, etc) left me not quite sure if she was talking about a house he already owns or if he was trying to build a new house just like the one he grew up in. It would definitely make more sense for it to be a remodel though. If he inherited a house that needs to be gutted and redone then that's obviously his alone, but she should never have been paying all their bills so that he could fund something she has no stake in. She was being taken advantage of there, so it's good that they've gone to 50/50. The person who does the most cooking should have a say in stuff like the kitchen counters, at least if the plan is really for this to be both people's forever home. There could be several things behind her boyfriend's insistence on having everything to his specifications even in areas that she'd supposedly use more. But none of them are great signs for a healthy long-term relationship.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 05:43 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for calling the police on my neighbor’s kids? Chalk up yet another case of 'unattached woman= free babysitting'.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 06:22 |
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Why does this person even want custody of his kids if he cares so little about them?
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:04 |
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AITA for falling for the girl my parents blame for my sister's deathquote:When I was 21, my sister was killed by a drunk driver on her way home from her senior prom, with some of her friends in the car. All involved passed except for one of my sister's friends, A. While pretty much everyone talked about how tragic it was, and blamed the drunk guy, my parents fixated on the fact that A survived, and have blamed her for the last decade. Their reasons are things like "she should have sat on the other side of the car and let your sister sit there" to "A must have known the drunk and that's why he hit the side of the car your sister was on." quote:myparentshateher Ten years is a long time to hold a grudge against a then 17 yo child, good lord.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:09 |
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Nebrilos posted:Why does this person even want custody of his kids if he cares so little about them? because MINE. MY PROPERTY.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:13 |
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AITA for telling my wife that there will be no vacation until she sees a psychiatrist? quote:Wife and I have been married for a year and a half. Before we got married she did express how she’s a germaphobe, but nothing out of the ordinary.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:40 |
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value-brand cereal posted:AITA for falling for the girl my parents blame for my sister's death I thought he fell for the drunk driver which would've been hosed up but yeeesh, his parents need a staggering amount of therapy. How dare that girl sit in a random seat
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Brandfarlig posted:I thought he fell for the drunk driver which would've been hosed up but yeeesh, his parents need a staggering amount of therapy. How dare that girl sit in a random seat Some people just desperately need someone to be the antagonist.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:48 |
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But there is an obvious antagonist already! The drunk driver!Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my wife that there will be no vacation until she sees a psychiatrist? I did develop some obsessive-compulsive tenancies during the pandemic, but holy poo poo
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AITA for giving my daughter a stuffed bear filled with human hair?quote:My (33 M) wife (31 F) and I just had our daughter, our first child, three months ago.
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Nebrilos posted:But there is an obvious antagonist already! The drunk driver! Which "A" colluded with in order to kill off all the other girls in the car. Sheesh, weren't you following along?
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teen witch posted:AITA for giving my daughter a stuffed bear filled with human hair? Babies hair into their first caligraphy pens = kind of cute but a lil weird Baby hair saved for 30 years to make a really lovely stuffed bear because human hair is a poo poo stuffing to the point where there is no way this is a true story = too weird not enough cute
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value-brand cereal posted:AITA for falling for the girl my parents blame for my sister's death yeah reading some of the comments is like... jesus christ OP your parents are terrible they actually told the girl that she should have died instead, on multiple occassions. girl's parents got a no-contact order on them for her when she was a minor. fuckin. yikes.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:55 |
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"The drunk driver deliberately hit one side of the car and not the other because he magically knew A was in the car and wanted to spare her, so it's all A's fault" is some heartbreakingly convoluted thinking. I think these people may be unwell!
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Barudak posted:Babies hair into their first caligraphy pens = kind of cute but a lil weird I figured the bear was stuffed like a regular bear and just had like, some of the hair in the middle somewhere, not that the hair was the only stuffing in it.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 07:59 |
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for wanting the house built a certain way without paying? quote:(Edit: The response I got really made me realize what kind of relationship Im in. I made a couple reservations to see some cheap apartments near my work and am waiting for their response. I let him know how I feel and his response wasnt good enough for me to stay. Thank you) Yay!
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teen witch posted:AITA for giving my daughter a stuffed bear filled with human hair? This family definitely knows and is friends with the Timothy the Mouse family. I feel this in my bones.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Which "A" colluded with in order to kill off all the other girls in the car. Sheesh, weren't you following along? This sequel to Deathproof sucks and Deathproof is already not a great movie.
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Antivehicular posted:This family definitely knows and is friends with the Timothy the Mouse family. I feel this in my bones. They probably also live on the same block as the trunk full of teeth family.
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Brandfarlig posted:I thought he fell for the drunk driver which would've been hosed up but yeeesh, his parents need a staggering amount of therapy. How dare that girl sit in a random seat Survivor's Guilt by Proxy
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Nebrilos posted:Why does this person even want custody of his kids if he cares so little about them? Status and control
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 08:24 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:Status and control Yep, I've mentioned him before by my friend's ex demands custody of his kids he doesn't want to support in any way simply for that sweet sweet control over their lives. It's purely used as a weapon against their mom to prevent them from going on longer vacations or seeing family out of province.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 08:30 |
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Another contender for the acid vat! My (28F) BF's (27M) best friend is driving me insane with his pranks quote:throwaway because I suspect they use reddit
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Evil Willow posted:Another contender for the acid vat! Roommate is jealous. Either he's trying to get into the boyfriend's pants or can't maintain a relationship of his own for obvious reasons.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 09:02 |
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Hughlander posted:AITA for being mad at my parents because they withheld information about my medical history from me? private because...that was proof they lied to him and didnt give a poo poo about him all those years. if I was such a piece of poo poo i refused plug in the drat humidifier for my own kid - or give them life-changing medication -I'd keep that poo poo private too. I mean that's just basically making GBS threads yourself as a parent
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AITA for not celebrating my daughter’s 18th birthday?quote:Myself 40F and my husband 42M have a daughter (S) who just turned 18 and an only child. She has barely talked to us over the past few days and I wanted some perspective.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 09:51 |
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Nebrilos posted:Why does this person even want custody of his kids if he cares so little about them? To hurt and inconvenience his ex-wife and/or because he views children as possessions and just wants to have them tallied up as points for his team. He's not actually interested in caring for them and will dump them on the nearest female-shaped person or scarecrow as soon as he gets the chance. Plus you pay less child support the more often you have custody of the kids. Pretty common character archetype in r/relationships land and also real life. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my wife that there will be no vacation until she sees a psychiatrist? Ghost Leviathan posted:Some people just desperately need someone to be the antagonist. Nebrilos posted:But there is an obvious antagonist already! The drunk driver! In the comments, OP clarifies the drunk driver who murdered his sister died in the crash, so is unfortunately impossible to punish. Absent that, his lovely parents have latched on to abusing A instead for some reason. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 09:59 on Mar 8, 2022 |
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Thumbtacks posted:Pete alert This is 100% a pete reskin
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my wife that there will be no vacation until she sees a psychiatrist? I swear that this is a rewrite of an old one about an extreme germaphobe whose reaction was to getting a bacterial infection, and they've just shoehorned COVID into it. Does anyone recall what I'm talking about/have the original and its update?
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AITA for calling out my hypocritical holier than thou uncle for having a mistress?quote:My (20f) uncle (48m) is one of those "good christians" who always breaks the rules he preaches to everyone else and loses his poo poo when called out on it 🙄. stones, nukes
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Hughlander posted:AITA for being mad at my parents because they withheld information about my medical history from me? r/relationships: My mom said they didn't try medication because it was too much of a hassle to remember to give me the pills.
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 10:43 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for calling out my hypocritical holier than thou uncle for having a mistress? Uncle Slutsky is at it again.
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Mx. posted:AITA for calling out my hypocritical holier than thou uncle for having a mistress? "Don't cause drama and keep the peace" *Uncle prints out photos of his niece's sex work that he stumbled on "accidentally" and distributes them to the family*
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# ? Mar 8, 2022 11:13 |
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Who are we murdering here? Surely not the husband who we can all agree did nothing wrong?
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Breetai posted:I swear that this is a rewrite of an old one about an extreme germaphobe whose reaction was to getting a bacterial infection, and they've just shoehorned COVID into it. That sounds dimly familiar. Do you remember any useful search terms from it? I'm having trouble finding anything about bacterial infections.
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