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B-Rock452 posted:If a trainer can't tell someone has been a professional athlete for years they are terrible at their job. Also you seem weirdly angry at this woman. You don’t understand he’s a “long time gym rat” I’m sure he has valuable advice to offer a professional athlete that he refers to like a child
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How about some more FREE CHILDCARE DRAMA AITA For kicking my sister out for trying to make me her babysitter? quote:I (F31) agreed to allow my sister Melanie (F21) and her 2 year old son Jacob to move in with me temporarily when her boyfriend kicked her out. I didn’t want to do this, but I allowed myself to be talked into it by our mother. I was very clear about my rules and expectations. I did not want her to pay any rent or utilities – I wanted her to save up for her own place instead. I was clear that this was temporary. I said she could have 4 months. I admit that from the moment she moved in I was counting down the days until she moved out. My sister and I don’t have the best relationship – we are very different people. I also have no desire to live with a small child. I love my nephew – but I want to love him in small doses. I was also very clear that I was not a babysitter for Jacob. I own my own business and, like the rest of my employees, I work from home. My office is the basement I was clear that neither she nor Jacob were to be allowed on that floor while I was working because I do not want any distractions. That one escalated even more than I expected from the title 
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Captain Hygiene posted:How about some more FREE CHILDCARE DRAMA Sounds like a self solving problem once OP grew a spine
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Mar 11, 2022 15:51
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B-Rock452 posted:Hey they said they are a "long time gym rat.". That is definitely the equivalent of an actual pro athlete The “miss professional athlete” comment in particular inspired me to go the extra mile by spending 30 seconds to look up his poo poo in YLLS and if he thinks wants to double down on this trust me buddy you really don’t lol.
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Mar 11, 2022 15:56
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Absurd Alhazred posted:No teachable moment here, alas: Updates: quote:Edit: one of my coworkers saw this post and pointed out the reason why Keira doesn’t have pictures of her family at work. Turns out she has a wife. We live in Texas. I feel like poo poo for dumping on her for not having so pics like the rest of us. But come on, Eddie Redmayne is still a weird looking dude. 
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Mar 11, 2022 16:08
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I still struggle to get my head around how so many people seem to have a "haha you touched it last so now it's your problem" attitude to children. Like all the stories of people who sneak a child into someone's house because then they'll have to babysit them.
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quantumwell posted:Perhaps miss professional athlete doesn't look as professional as she thinks, having a hissy fit over a trainer offering advice is a bit over the top and I say this as a long I can assure you that the times a man has been given unsolicited advice by a woman in a gym are many orders of magnitude smaller than a man has offered a woman his. In other words, please let me mansplain mansplaining to you.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:20
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Captain Hygiene posted:How about some more FREE CHILDCARE DRAMA
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Western mores I think have more of a bias against the person who is perceived to have “blown up” the situation while “face” cultures tend to assume the blame lies with the person who “instigated” it regardless of who actually is really at fault in either situation. So it makes sense there is a unwritten social more that making a huge deal of it is just a bad as doing it here despite it being insane to abandon your child to an unwilling stranger.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:28
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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:Yeah it’s something that in my family I would’ve wanted to know about, but I can see why they didn’t tell him from what he’s doing now. I don’t know why inheritance brings out the worst in everyone. If it's escalated to the point of dad's got to sell the house to get out of debt then it seems reasonable to involve all the siblings at that point and see if they can contribute. As it is, quote:She told me that she and her husband have been struggling to pay two mortgages for years while also raising four kids (not my kids, not my problem) and getting no income from the second house, but that was her CHOICE, and she got a house out of it. He's not wrong. He's kind of an rear end in a top hat for the not-my-kids and the apparent utter unawareness of anything going on with dad's life before showing up at the funeral going welp where's my third of the loot drop then, but sis did score herself the entire house out of it without giving her brothers a chance to contribute. Maybe they could have given dad the full value of the house if they'd teamed up and agreed on percentage shares... Though I find it hard to call her the rear end in a top hat for that, since it looks rather like both brothers buggered off and left her to do the daily dad maintenance stuff. I'd want to know a lot more about the family dynamics before pronouncing judgement on them all.
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axolotl farmer posted:I can assure you that the times a man has been given unsolicited advice by a woman in a gym are many orders of magnitude smaller than a man has offered a woman his. We had a guy at my old gym who was so bad with that, just this little twerp who would run over and lecture you about god knows what. He eventually tried to tell a woman who was literally on the us Olympic weightlifting team (and worked at the gym) that she was going to hurt her back by deadlifting the way she was. The end result was everyone started mocking him so bad he left the gym.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:31
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DACK FAYDEN posted:I feel bad that the shitbag lady got fired, I think the sister should have called CPS rather than that... but I mean it was also a totally reasonable thing to do, so I don't feel that bad. I would much rather be fired than have CPS get involved with my kids. I’m not anti-CPS; my wife is a social worker. But it’s a huge headache with massive risks if CPS comes knocking. Runcible Cat posted:If it's escalated to the point of dad's got to sell the house to get out of debt then it seems reasonable to involve all the siblings at that point and see if they can contribute. As it is, His sister got a house, but she paid most of the value (OP doesn’t mention how long ago she bought it so it could’ve been very close to the value at the time) and then did not collect any rent on the property, while also paying taxes etc. She may have come out ahead in the whole deal but for all she knew he was going to live to 90 and she would’ve taken a huge loss.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:33
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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:His sister got a house, but she paid most of the value (OP doesn’t mention how long ago she bought it so it could’ve been very close to the value at the time) and then did not collect any rent on the property, while also paying taxes etc. She may have come out ahead in the whole deal but for all she knew he was going to live to 90 and she would’ve taken a huge loss. Then why not involve the brothers to help with the finances and spread the load of supporting dad? It was a calculated risk with a prize of "we get the entire house" at the end. Ed: also the longer dad lives the less money the brothers get, which may have added a delightful tang of spite to the whole thing if the brothers were as neglectful as I suspect... Runcible Cat fucked around with this message at 16:41 on Mar 11, 2022 |
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Mar 11, 2022 16:38
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The sister bought the house for what was probably fair market rate at the time and was nice enough to let her dad live in the house. She owes nobody anything.
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Mar 11, 2022 16:40
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Runcible Cat posted:Then why not involve the brothers to help with the finances and spread the load of supporting dad? It was a calculated risk with a prize of "we get the entire house" at the end. We don't know that the brothers were even accessible or gave a crap until the siren call of "inheritance" pulled them back in.
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AITA for thinking my boyfriend should have gotten me a better gift?quote:I (23 F) and my boyfriend (27 M) have been dating for almost 3 years. For context our first year together we didn’t get each other gifts since it was early on in our talking stage. And the year after he said he was tight on money and couldn’t get me anything which I was understanding of. For his birthday a couple months ago I got my bf a gift for his hobby, it was around $400ish. I’m aware this is a pricey gift but I enjoy giving gifts and recently I’m doing well financially so I was happy to get something I knew he would love. My birthday was last month and my bf on the other hand got me a T-shirt.. his already used T-shirt… the one I wear when I last minute sleep over at his house. He says he likes to “give practical gifts” and he knows I like the shirt since I always wear it at his place but now its “officially mine”. I didn’t want to be rude the day of so I just accepted it. He has a better job now but still makes less money than I do but he always said he wasn’t a good gift giver so I just let it go. It’s been bothering me because although I don’t expect gifts to be equal monetarily, it honestly feels like he didn’t even attempt to get something for me. I just found out that for Christmas he got his best girl friend a diamond necklace and honestly that made me feel like crap. I brought it up to him today and now he’s mad at me saying that I’m a gold digger, that I shouldn’t expect expensive gifts just because I give them to others, and that his reasons for giving me the T-shirt were more meaningful than just some worthless necklace that every woman probably has. AITA for feeling like I should’ve been given a better gift? 
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Absurd Alhazred posted:We don't know that the brothers were even accessible or gave a crap until the siren call of "inheritance" pulled them back in. Yeah, that's what I'm saying, we don't know so we can't really judge. I like the idea that the brothers were checked out in every respect and sister scored herself the family home, but there's no way of telling from what's been posted whether the brothers would have helped out or co-bought the house if they'd been asked. But as far as we can tell from that post they weren't given the chance.
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, that's what I'm saying, we don't know so we can't really judge. I like the idea that the brothers were checked out in every respect and sister scored herself the family home, but there's no way of telling from what's been posted whether the brothers would have helped out or co-bought the house if they'd been asked. I think my main issue with how you’re framing it is that she didn’t “score” the house. At absolute best, she scored the difference in value between the house at the time she bought it and the price she paid, minus what she could’ve collected in rent over the (?) years she let him live there, and any taxes or fees she paid as the homeowner. There’s not nearly enough information provided to determine how much that score was, but it was well south of the value of the house.
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B-Rock452 posted:We had a guy at my old gym who was so bad with that, just this little twerp who would run over and lecture you about god knows what. "smartest-guy-in-the-room" syndrome is so loving annoying
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Mar 11, 2022 16:55
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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:I think my main issue with how you’re framing it is that she didn’t “score” the house. At absolute best, she scored the difference in value between the house at the time she bought it and the price she paid, minus what she could’ve collected in rent over the (?) years she let him live there, and any taxes or fees she paid as the homeowner. Yeah, the details could easily flip the narrative. Like maybe the daughter convinced the dad to sell under market value, and she's actually an rear end in a top hat predator in that regard, but from the op get more of a vibe that the op and his bro are assholes.
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:Western mores I think have more of a bias against the person who is perceived to have “blown up” the situation while “face” cultures tend to assume the blame lies with the person who “instigated” it regardless of who actually is really at fault in either situation. So it makes sense there is a unwritten social more that making a huge deal of it is just a bad as doing it here despite it being insane to abandon your child to an unwilling stranger. there's a fantastic reddit post (not something I thought I'd ever write) kinda adjacent to this and very relevant to a lot of these AITA posts quote:Don't rock the boat. Changed to neutral gender because the original had a whiff of sexism about it (yay reddit)
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Mar 11, 2022 16:59
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Runcible Cat posted:If it's escalated to the point of dad's got to sell the house to get out of debt then it seems reasonable to involve all the siblings at that point and see if they can contribute. As it is, She didn't really "get an entire house out of it" considering she paid for it. By OP's own admission she paid at least 80% of the market value (probably more, since he's trying to paint her as the bad guy) and whatever discount she got was literally necessary for her to carry the mortgage on someone else's house. In all likelihood juggling two mortgage payments has probably eaten up every dollar she saved on the house and then some; it's entirely possible that she is net negative money out of the whole deal. Now granted, this definitely is something that would typically be a family discussion to allow the financial burden to be spread around for the net benefit of all, but I have a crazy hunch that the brother who swooped in to vulture dad's estate before the body got cold, declares that his nieces and nephews aren't his problem, and wants to sue his sister over a very low 5 figures of inheritance that she sacrificed and suffered to get probably wouldn't have been enthusiastic about ponying up tens of thousands of dollars to help out dear old dad.
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AceClown posted:there's a fantastic reddit post (not something I thought I'd ever write) kinda adjacent to this and very relevant to a lot of these AITA posts I guess yeah. The analogy there assumes the “instigator” and not the person who escalated is the one who is “wrong” which isn’t always the case because the reverse can Like for example take an equally homophobic white midwestern vs immigrant Chinese family, if it turns out the kid is gay and a adult makes a scene about it from my understanding and limited experience the white homophobes might still consider the person making the scene the rear end in a top hat while the Asian family would likely see the adult making a scene as simply responding to the “instigator.” Of course the same situation but it turns out the kid is a homophobe themselves rather than gay and someone is mad about it the Asian family would be more inclined in that situation to focus on the actual problem while I’d image the typical assimilated American family to still be biased against the person “making a big deal.” Dunno if I’m talking out of my rear end here but the videos budding alt righters used to do where they go out and calmhitler while recording “CRAZY FEMJNISR SJW PURPLE HAIR TRIGGERED” probably wouldn’t work in the context of a face culture. At least from my experience almost everyone in my insanely large extended family at least 3 generations in so pretty typical “western” context and it seems like if there’s any interpersonal conflict everyone seems to initially take the side of whoever seemed calmer. Butter Activities fucked around with this message at 17:36 on Mar 11, 2022 |
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Yeah, the details could easily flip the narrative. Like maybe the daughter convinced the dad to sell under market value, and she's actually an rear end in a top hat predator in that regard, but from the op get more of a vibe that the op and his bro are assholes. quote:I turned to my brother for support, but he just shrugged and said he couldn't find it within him to care about a house after we just buried Dad.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Updates: Super cool of the workplace bully to throw in an edit that outs this woman to anyone else that might recognize these details but not already know about Kiera's wife. He's clearly learned his lesson about minding his own business! the holy poopacy posted:She didn't really "get an entire house out of it" considering she paid for it. By OP's own admission she paid at least 80% of the market value (probably more, since he's trying to paint her as the bad guy) and whatever discount she got was literally necessary for her to carry the mortgage on someone else's house. In all likelihood juggling two mortgage payments has probably eaten up every dollar she saved on the house and then some; it's entirely possible that she is net negative money out of the whole deal. I agree with all of this. I also think that it should have been mostly up to the father about whether he wanted to check in with OP about the sale. If the sons weren't as close to him, dad may not have wanted to share his struggles with them. He also could have been trying to avoid any drama about the subject... because the kind of person who'd call his sister a thief for buying a house at a fair-sounding rate may have a track record of getting hotheaded about family stuff. And if OP is this mad over not getting more money, his father might have assumed that OP couldn't (or wouldn't) have helped out in the first place. I also don't think it would have been wrong if the father intentionally arranged things so that the kid who lived nearby and spent more time with him could get some extra value out of the house after his passing. The daughter was probably helping with more than just finances, especially since OP mentioned that some of their dad's money went to "treatments," which suggests an ongoing medical issue. It's good for families to be wary of potential cases of elder abuse, but this sounds more like OP was happy for his sister to be their father's main caretaker while he just stood by waiting on a check for a third of the house's Zillow estimate at the time of the funeral.
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deety posted:Super cool of the workplace bully to throw in an edit that outs this woman to anyone else that might recognize these details but not already know about Kiera's wife. He's clearly learned his lesson about minding his own business! Mostly I'm hoping there's a lawsuit in his future, but yeah, on second thought, it's more  .
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:Bro doesn't care, don't taint him with the OP's brush I think OP is the rear end in a top hat but so much is unwritten. I’m guessing they haven’t actually even started the formal process of dividing the estate and he’s already jumping the gun but it’s all vague enough to make him sound as reasonable as possible.
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DACK FAYDEN posted:I feel bad that the shitbag lady got fired, I think the sister should have called CPS rather than that... but I mean it was also a totally reasonable thing to do, so I don't feel that bad. If she got fired for that she was on thin ice to begin with. You don't get fired for a single incident.
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:I think OP is the rear end in a top hat but so much is unwritten. Comedy chaos option: Dad never updated his will to reflect the house changing ownership. All the money and the house goes to the lawyers.
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Bonster posted:If she got fired for that she was on thin ice to begin with. You don't get fired for a single incident. In the comments, OP says they get fired if they accumulate enough points, and points are handed out for call-ins, late arrivals, etc. It genuinely sounds like the sister was really struggling with childcare options and her job attendance suffered as a result. She couldn't afford daycare either. I feel pretty bad for the sister. I think the real rear end in a top hat in that story, as it is in so many stories, is capitalism.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:In the comments, OP says they get fired if they accumulate enough points, and points are handed out for call-ins, late arrivals, etc. It genuinely sounds like the sister was really struggling with childcare options and her job attendance suffered as a result. She couldn't afford daycare either. I feel pretty bad for the sister. I think the real rear end in a top hat in that story, as it is in so many stories, is capitalism. Yeah, I don't think OP was wrong at all, there just wasn't any overall great option for that situation.
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AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank?quote:I f22 grew up in a family where men prank and tease each others. eversince my fiance (Tim 23) and I got engaged, my cousin, brother, dad and uncle joked about running some 'tests' to see what "type" of man Tim is. They've done stuff like forcing him to play chess 4 times in a raw, secretly slashed his tires to see if he'd fix it himself like a man or get help like those "lazy" guys, They'd asked him questions like what joke he'd like to tell his future MIL, his opinions on abortion, jesus, gender equality etc. They also tested his fishing and hunting skills, overwhelmed him with hypothetical scenarios to test his decision making abilities/mental strength. They kept calling him slow and soft but he has medical condition (asthma) but they think he's making 'excuses'. I demanded they stop, but dad said this is just typical stuff men challenge each others with and said that I was ruining the fun.
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Is this wedding prank season?
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank? slashing someone's tires is a pretty funny prank
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"You know what's a good idea? Waging a campaign of harassment against my daughter's fiancée after being explicitly told to stop to make sure he's a "real man". I can foresee no negative consequences from this that I can't myself throw a tantrum to get out of." Jaysus gently caress some people.
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Lmao "did little Timmy come and tattle to you?" *Goes and tattled to the mom*
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Sisal Two-Step posted:AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank? This is so painful. I'm glad that tim has the OP so firmly on his side, because otherwise i imagine severing would be a good plan on his end
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Just send them an invite to the wrong venue, eight hours away. "It's just a prank!"
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Just send them an invite to the wrong venue, eight hours away. "It's just a prank!" And when they open up the door? Acid vat.
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