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Being below-average height can absolutely be both a practical disability and a social issue and no level of "self-confidence" should be demanded of the victims of systemic bullying. That's why I took HGH and had medical interventions prolong my puberty in order to reach 6ft. Gender-affirming care.
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Invisible Clergy posted:
So... his girlfriend has some kind of job that's related to her hair or overall appearance, which means she spends extra time on grooming. And he thinks that damaging her hair in a way that'll be expensive, and maybe even impossible, to fix is a fun prank that'll get her to tone down her beauty routine? Dude might as well have posted, "I'm insecure about the fact that my girlfriend puts extra effort into being hot for folks who aren't me, so I want to take her down a peg and hopefully screw up her career in the process. April Fools means she must take this in the spirit of impish fun even though I'm planning it weeks in advance without bothering to google what non-professional dye could do to blonde hair. AITA?" I know that folks are quick to call for an acid vat around these parts, but personally I think lovely boyfriends who want to undermine their SOs should get that burned-in-a-bear thing from Midsommar.
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DoctorWhat posted:Being below-average height can absolutely be both a practical disability and a social issue and no level of "self-confidence" should be demanded of the victims of systemic bullying. Pffft, look at this weakling. Taking drugs to get taller instead of having a doctor break their bones and stretch them a millimeter at a time until they were taller.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I genuinely do not understand short guy insecurity. Like, I get how insecurity works and how people might have gotten poo poo on for their height and why it'd be uncomfortable were someone to address it, but there's so many stories of dudes who take personal offense at people around them having faces slightly further from or closer to the ground, and it is baffling to me. Standing upright is not an attack on you, my dude, and if you ever entertain the thought that it could be, you've got some severe reevaluating to do. I'm a short dude. And because I am lazy and clueless, I never actually knew my height for the longest time. I just told people I was 5'5" and got on with my life. So did everyone else around me. Until one day my brother said, "Hang on a second, you can't be 5'5", you're about my height, and I'm 5'7". So I measured myself against a doorframe and it turns out I am 5'6 and a half. I tell this story because, as you say, there are heaps of insecure people for whom that 1 1/2 inches would have been a huge deal. But to me, and all my friends/family it was just a shrug. No-one I know likes or dislikes me because of my height, and whilst I do suffer from all the grab bag of crushing self hatred issues that many goons do, being shorter than average is not one of them. And being short has never affected me in any way shape or form. I have had girlfriends taller than me, and also had a girlfriend who was shorter. And they all broke up with me for reasons other than my height. So to the wedding guy chucking a tantrum because his mates put lifts in their shoes to be taller than him, and the other dude having a whinge because he is the shortest in the photo: both of you are insecure arseholes. And that is a greater character flaw than being less tall than some other people.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 04:17 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA if I put food coloring in my girlfriends shampoo? Idiot should totally try it in his own hair first. But anyone who goes "my girlfriend loves her hair and takes a lot of effort to keep it looking good" and then decides "how can I use that to hurt her for my amusement" needs the acid swirlie machine.
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AITA for outing a squatter in my home after she damaged it and broke an agreement?quote:I let a friend of mine move into my home to escape from a bad marriage, under the conditions it was less than 2 months, and she not attempt to pull any poo poo with squatter/Tennet laws (she was staying for free), she had to be looking for a job and living situation while here, as well as some other stipulations. I even spent maybe 80 hours researching options and help that she refused to use when i gave the info to her. quote:I also have a very ..Texan.. view in how to handle thieves. Damaging my home is a form of theft. The iption i took was better than the others I was pondering. also OP posted:Lawyers and doctors ruin lives to squeeze money out of people. A few good ones doesn't redeem the incredible EVIL of the majority.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 04:22 |
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Idiot should totally try it in his own hair first. Food coloring washes out unless it's mixed with bleach, but for gently caress's sake pranking just needs to stop. Even when it's completely innocuous physically, what part of these people is broken that they get off on making people unhappy?
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 04:30 |
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those durn doctors, ruining lives with their life saving medicines *snorts a line of ivermectin like it's coke*
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Food coloring washes out unless it's mixed with bleach, but for gently caress's sake pranking just needs to stop. Even when it's completely innocuous physically, what part of these people is broken that they get off on making people unhappy? There are good pranks but the person getting pranked has to find it funny too, imo
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 04:40 |
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Armacham posted:There are good pranks but the person getting pranked has to find it funny too, imo
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:17 |
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'Pranking' has pretty much just devolved into excuses for abuse.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:24 |
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Armacham posted:There are good pranks but the person getting pranked has to find it funny too, imo My favorite prank I’ve seen was in a wood shop where this guy’s coworkers stayed late the night before his birthday and had a “wrapping party” and wrapped EVERYTHING at his desk like a present, down to some loose individual screws and bolts he’d left on his desk. His desk was in a little alcove under the stairs so they blocked it off with more wrapping paper and put a big bow on it. It was fun until he had to actually find stuff at his desk. Also awfully wasteful, but I’d take it over the stuff in these Reddit stories like poisoning people or telling them their mom died in a car crash.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:27 |
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BrigadierSensible posted:I'm a short dude. And because I am lazy and clueless, I never actually knew my height for the longest time. I just told people I was 5'5" and got on with my life. So did everyone else around me. Until one day my brother said, "Hang on a second, you can't be 5'5", you're about my height, and I'm 5'7". So I measured myself against a doorframe and it turns out I am 5'6 and a half. This is the correct attitude to have. Megillah Gorilla posted:Idiot should totally try it in his own hair first. Yes but instead of using food coloring he should use acid. Ghost Leviathan posted:'Pranking' has pretty much just devolved into excuses for abuse. That's all "pranking" ever was.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:36 |
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Just for a lark, I googled images of men's shoes with 3" platforms and uh... they are not subtle.
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Crocobile posted:My favorite prank I’ve seen was in a wood shop where this guy’s coworkers stayed late the night before his birthday and had a “wrapping party” and wrapped EVERYTHING at his desk like a present, down to some loose individual screws and bolts he’d left on his desk. His desk was in a little alcove under the stairs so they blocked it off with more wrapping paper and put a big bow on it. A coworker of mine was moving away, and I wanted to do something nice but fun as a prank for or on her. She loved camouflage colors, and I was limited on cash. I found something either on the forums or some other social media about a dude who bought a ton of little plastic dinosaurs, glued magnets on them, and put them all over his city, and took pictures of them and where people moved them. Was cute. So I bought a bag of plastic army men, camo colored ones, and one day at work, on my break I found her car in the parking lot, and covered it with about 100 of the little bastards, staging out battles and using them to spell her name, etc. She loved it when she found them. AITA if I’m pissed that my dying mother baptized my children against my will? quote:About 7 months ago my mom got a terminal cancer diagnosis. They said 6-12 months left. My husband and 3 children moved in to her house to help take care of her till the end. I will be inheriting the house after she passes. I was going to ask how devout you can be if you baptize the kids yourself but then I realize these people might be loving snake handlers or poo poo. Wasn't there a Catholic priest who was kicked out recently, not for loving kids oh no, but because in his baptisms he said "we" instead of "I?"
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:47 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:That's all "pranking" ever was. It depends on who you and your friends are. The Jackass guys prank the poo poo out of each other and have a tonne of fun doing it. You need to know your audience for this sort of thing and if you're asking reddit for advice you definitely don't but it is possible for it to be fun for all involved even if others might justifiably lose their poo poo at something.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:49 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:Wasn't there a Catholic priest who was kicked out recently, not for loving kids oh no, but because in his baptisms he said "we" instead of "I?" See, that's a reason to oust a priest that the Vatican can understand!
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 05:51 |
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Send Nana a video of the kids saying the shahada and call it a day.
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The best prank I remember seeing was done at a star wars convention or something and people would get their photos taken with someone cosplaying Darth Vader or whoever and then Mark Hamill or another actor would sneak into the picture so you'd get your picture back and surprise! A cool famous person was in it too! Ok I got the details wrong but this is very sweet. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dz2UnciOIfI
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:14 |
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Re short dudes, maybe "quit being a big baby" isnt the anti-toxic masculinity slogan you all want it to be. I mean yeah, youre all bang on that these dudes shouldnt care at all but it's not as if these insecurities just breed out of nowhere and you cant just make them go away through rational willpower. That guy (short dude, not wedding dude but him too probably) needs therapy badly, not people telling him to bootstrap his brokebrain. Even he can tell theres a problem, hes so close! He just needs a positive direction.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:16 |
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AITA for feeling humiliated by my boyfriend’s extremely childish hobby?quote:My (23f) and my boyfriend (26m) S have been together for almost 8 months. I moved into his place a few weeks ago.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:22 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for feeling humiliated by my boyfriend’s extremely childish hobby? Wood chipper.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:34 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for feeling humiliated by my boyfriend’s extremely childish hobby? already gone and account deleted/banned. wonder what kind of support she was getting from her social group if "yeah I stole and sold his things" is something she freely admits to with no shame.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:37 |
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pentyne posted:already gone and account deleted/banned. Probably universal. After all, if someone's possessions aren't something you like, it's ok to steal, destroy, or sell them. There are a lot of stories like this.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:46 |
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Women and men are raised to have hateful contempt for each others' hobbies and belongings.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for feeling humiliated by my boyfriend’s extremely childish hobby? Whilst I will be talking about this one specifically, I feel that this, (like a lot of other ones that come up), is a tiny petty thing that could have been avoided with the smallest of communication, or understanding. How hard is it to say "My parents are super conservative. Can we take down the toys when they are here coz it would embarrass me?" Whilst it is his house, many people have done a lot more just to please the in laws, and it's not a huge imposition to chuck your toys in a box for a day. Even if just to keep the peace. Also, lets say you are embarrassed by your boyfriends toy collection and your parents raise an eyebrow, or comment on them when they come over: "That's a lot of toys for a grown man to have..." "You're right mum. But he collects them, and they make him happy. Also some of them might be worth lots of money some day." Bingo bango. Any normal parent, even a conservative one, would accept that as a slight quirk of their daughters manchild boyfriend, and move on with their lives. But secretly taking the ones he doesn't notice and selling them? Or hiding the fact that you are so image conscious in front of your parents that you must hide all evidence of your boyfriends innocent hobby from them? These are not normal things to do. And I just noticed that it wasn't even her house! They don't live together. Not saying that she would be entitled to sell his poo poo if they did, but she would have more say in how to "clean" up the apartment for her parents visiting.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 06:59 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Women and men are raised to have hateful contempt for each others' hobbies and belongings. Have we seen any gender flipped versions of this basic post archetype in this thread or threads past?
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Invisible Clergy posted:Have we seen any gender flipped versions of this basic post archetype in this thread or threads past? Probably. Am reminded of the thread where a woman flipped out that her boyfriend used an apparently rare tube of lipstick for writing on the mirror... though with the rub that it had been left in his bathroom drawer, and apparently she just leaves her makeup supplies literally everywhere in the house with no apparent organisation.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for feeling humiliated by my boyfriend’s extremely childish hobby? There was a variant of this one where the guy was collecting action figures in part because his dad was an abusive shithead who wouldn't let him have any as a kid, so of course the guy's wife called said abusive dad to come over and throw out all the action figures.
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AITA for losing it on my brother and SIL, calling them crazy and selfish after finding out who their sperm donor is?quote:This is an extremely weird situation.
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Invisible Clergy posted:Have we seen any gender flipped versions of this basic post archetype in this thread or threads past? oh yes AITA for hiding my girlfriend's skincare? quote:Basically I hid my girlfriend's skincare collection. I was planning on throwing it all away, until she freaked out about it. My girlfriend has had sort of an obsessive hobby with buying skincare since before me, and it's only gotten worse since we started dating (dating about 4 years, we're both 23 now). She picks up extra shifts on the weekend just to afford the newest, most interesting products. At first I was supportive of her hobby, whatever makes her happy I guess. But lately I've been struggling to understand why she buys these things. We have separate bathrooms and in every single drawer is another toner, cleanser, or exfoliant. She's in school to become a dermatologist, but seriously. I don't know anyone IN SCHOOL with this much of a collection. I've tried for months to tell her this isn't healthy and she needs help, but she tells me because she pays the bills in our apartment and for my food and "other hobbies", she's allowed to do whatever she wants with her extra money. But to me it's completely wasteful. She's already gorgeous with incredibly lovely, pillow-soft skin with not a single scar. She literally has the best skin everywhere on her body, it's like she's been loving airbrushed. This doesn't matter to her though, as she is always having packages show up and new additions to her "collection". Here's where I think I messed up. the details that come out in the comments are even better. It's revealed the GF is basically a trust fund kid who barely uses any of it, and just want to live a simple, somewhat aesthetic life aside from the expensive skincare she spends her own work-earned money on. The OP has every thing paid for by her as well. quote:She's said before she doesn't care where we live she just wanted to be with me and our cats. I just don't get if you have the means to have a nicer place, why wouldn't we get one? It's like she sees zero purpose in getting a place that is nice rather than just a bed and water. quote:I could get a job, but she has told me I don't have to if I don't want to because she has the means to pay for everything. quote:We live in a lovely studio apartment that she refuses to upgrade from. I just want to live somewhere nice we can relax together instead of constantly having her go to work and spend money to hang out with friends or get all her school hours in. It's like noone here or our friends sees my side at all. quote:That's not the same, the PS5 atleast provides some form of entertainment for the both of us. Her skincare hoarding only benefits her. quote:Just because she pays for everything doesn't mean I'm not entitled to saying what money goes to. I don't think she needs an expensive facial four times a week, even if I'm not paying for it. She's just throwing her money away.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 07:12 |
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that one's double amazing because like, dude why do you think her skin is so good
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 07:14 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:Have we seen any gender flipped versions of this basic post archetype in this thread or threads past? EDIT: beat me on the skincare one! Here’s a couple classics: quote:AITA for telling my wife I wanted her to wear something less embarassing? quote:
Wasn’t there also one with a girl who liked drinking out of mason jars and her boyfriend got rid of all of her glasses or something? Also the one where the guy threw out his indigenous girlfriend’s “smelly” leather pouch that had her umbilical cord and late dad’s cigarette butt in it. Goddamn these stories occupy too much space in my brain. Crocobile fucked around with this message at 07:31 on Mar 13, 2022 |
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There was also the guy that yelled at his girlfriend because she was crocheting instead of cleaning up after her roommate. I think part of his beef was that she was keeping the crochet animals she made instead of selling them? Like her hobby shouldn't just be for relaxation rather than profit.
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 07:28 |
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This reminds me of a flipped-gender Ms Frizzle story... AITA for dressing in a way that was “embarrassing” for my boyfriend? quote:So I’m a girl. I love to dress up on my days off, because I work full time and I just personally find it fun. EDIT: This story! AITA for not liking how my girlfriend dresses for work? quote:So I (43M) don’t think I’m in the wrong here, but my mother is very angry at me, and my best friend said I was a horrible person for saying what I did and I’d be lucky if my girlfriend didn’t put me out with the garbage, since I decided I wanted to act like trash. Evil Willow fucked around with this message at 07:34 on Mar 13, 2022 |
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Crocobile posted:The one where boyfriend had a rich girlfriend who was happy to be the breadwinner and have her boyfriend stay home and play videogames. He talked about how she had perfect skin and didn’t need to spend so much money on skincare so he put all her skincare stuff in a trashbag and hid it. Ah yes, I remember all of these stories. Thanks. Just to be clear, I had asked not in an mra/gotcha kind of way but to see how the ones where the man fucks up the woman's hobby are different and if they have a different shape to them. It looks like they kind of do. In many of these it looks like a line that can be drawn through them is the boyfriend sees something that is giving the woman joy that is not him so schemes to spoil or destroy it somehow. In the vein of the ancient greek dresses, this also calls to mind the one where the gf is a rich, nice, hardworking person who owns some pets and allows the bf to lounge in his mancave without getting a job or doing any housework since she can support them both and he made a long hateful post about how she's always showing him up with how much better she is than him as a person in all aspects of their lives. I think he tried (unsuccessfully) to sell, kill, or rehome her pets while she was at work and this finally conjured a spine in her body and she told him mildly it wasn't ok. He called her "fake" for donating to charities and she asked what he meant, he said "charity for x cause is not good, you should donate to charity for y cause" and she innocently asked him for suggestions on some for y cause which he of course could not provide because he was just being a piece of poo poo. Eventually, she came to her senses and left him. If anyone can find it, it was a good post. I think she might've owned lizards? (She was a responsible pet owner and not a pet hoarder) The medicine bag one hurt to read. In the first line, I was like "please, tell me the girlfriend isn't indigenous and OP threw out her umbilical cord bag" but of course that's what happened. Amazingly, she did get it back, and blessedly had the sense to take the bag out of the trash and put OP in. Evil Willow posted:This reminds me of a flipped-gender Ms Frizzle story... I love the Miss Frizzle story. I am reminded of its Dark Judge counterpart, the MPDG woman who dressed like a clown/the six flags old man mascot and her bf and friends were beginning to get sick of it. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 07:38 on Mar 13, 2022 |
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pentyne posted:oh yes oh my god yes, I saw that post and this was the first one I thought of Homeboy could've spent the entire rest of his life playing videogames and banging his hot girlfriend, but no, he blew it up over loving skincare products Evil Willow posted:EDIT: This story! Also this one Help me Reddit, my girlfriend loving rules, what do I do
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# ? Mar 13, 2022 08:01 |
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Here's probably the best ever gender swap for a "I didn't want a child" story I got a girl pregnant and she wanted to get an abortion but I didn't want that. She ended up not getting one but now she is not involved at all quote:We weren't in a serious relationship when she got pregnant. She has never met our son. Even after the birth she had no desire to see him. We went to court to figure custody and support could be figured out and I have 100% full legal and physical custody. Her name is on the birth certificate but she has no custody and no right to visitation or to make things like medical or education decisions. She didn't want any of that. Every month she pays 125% of the court ordered child support. She says that if I ever marry someone who wants to adopt him she will agree but until then she'll pay support. It's been this way since our son was born. quote:I never thought that she could turn her back on her own child. I honestly thought she would bond during the pregnancy and would eventually change her mind. Even if she turned down my offer to be in a relationship I never thought she would actually abandon him without a thought and without seeing him or even trying to know his name or sex. She was so drugged up during the birth that I don't even think she knows if he was born before or after midnight. I didn't expect it to go like this to be honest.
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Mx. posted:AITA for outing a squatter in my home after she damaged it and broke an agreement? Just so I know I'm not crazy, OP is saying that he would have murdered this woman if she didn't leave his home?
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Dazerbeams posted:Just so I know I'm not crazy, OP is saying that he would have murdered this woman if she didn't leave his home? Yes, despite him doing basically the only thing that neutralizes Castle Doctrine, which is invite her willingly into his house and have a formal agreement in place saying so.
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