Invisible Clergy posted:

It's a 1 year old's birthday party. No one wants to go to those.

Invisible Clergy posted:

It must be exhausting acting like a misogynistic caricature from a 50s sitcom all the time.

Shwoo posted:

Where's even the joke in what he said? A little girl fell off the monkey bars and that makes her more monkey-like? Than the children who didn't fall off the monkey bars? The only context that even makes a bit of sense is racism.

But he doesn't see race, so that can't possibly be it.

Cloacamazing! posted:

How long until his daughter gets hold of an actual beer and drinks it, because she has been taught that this is her drink and can't distinguish between the alcoholic and non-alcoholic version?

mllaneza posted:

In some cultures a first birthday party is huge, because traditionally it means the child is likely to survive. So if the families are at all well-off, it's going to be big. A friend of mine from work is Caucasian Jewish and her husband is Mexican Catholic, with both families owning property in San Francisco. There were a hundred people there. They had to empty the two-car garage for the catering.; which included 3 baking-sheet sized trays of just deviled eggs. Then we all hung out and watched the sunset over the Pacific and started going through the good tequila.

If you get invited to a first birthday party, ask some leading questions about what the setup is going to be before you decline.

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No, some people literally set traps so they get to be mad at you no matter what you do. I've got a parent that does that and it suuuuuuuucks.

Mx. posted:

WIBTA if I sued my sister for the house that was willed to all three of us?

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My wife and I have been struggling for a few years. Her dad was in a lot of medical debt and needed to sell his only asset, his house, in order to afford to keep paying for care. My wife told me that leaving the home he shared with his late wife would be detrimental to his health, so I agreed we would take on a second mortgage and buy the house so he wouldn't have to move. He got a lump sum to pay off all debts and live off of, and we got the deed to a house we couldn't live in or rent out.

Over the past few years things have only gotten harder. My wife and I both had to take on second jobs. My oldest moved in with FiL, because he could no longer drive himself to doctor's appointments, clean up after himself, etc... So she took care of him, and he paid for her online classes.

We kept our financial struggles a secret from FiL, because my wife said he needed peace of mind to battle his illness. I reluctantly agreed. My daughter called one night, crying, saying FiL was having trouble breathing and she'd called an ambulance . We drove over immediately. FiL didn't make it.

I might be a POS, because, honestly? I was relieved. My wife and daughter were super close with FiL, and we got along, but he was suffering, and my most loved people were suffering watching him suffer. I did funeral arrangements, because my wife was too distraught.

Then, and I'm shaking with rage typing this, my BiL showed up. I might be a POS, but he DEFINITELY is. He's an aspiring food critic that spends all of his money eating at expensive restaurants and then writing blog posts about the restaurants that no one wants to read because they're long and boring. He also barely ever called his dad and didn't take his illness seriously.

So he shows up for FiL's funeral and immediately after the burial starts asking about when the house is going to be sold. My wife told him we bought it so FiL could pay debts and he gets red in the face and starts making accusations of impropriety. He also insinuated we should have paid FiL's bills out of pocket with money we didn't have. I was done and escorted my wife away, because she was bawling.

Since then we have both received several messages from BiL demanding documentation of the sale (provided), the house appraisal (provided), my FiL's debts (don't have that), my FiL's bank statements (don't have that either), OUR bank statements (no) and a bunch of other stuff. Initially I complied with his more reasonable requests, but eventually I stopped responding.

His messages got really abusive, so I got mad and sent screenshots to his boss at his actual job. I asked him if his company condoned this. BiL sent me a final text saying he was going to sue me for theft, elder abuse and now libel. I blocked him.

My wife is mad that I contacted his work. She said I threw gasoline onto the fire. Did I overreact?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for sending chatlogs to my BIL's work?

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For context the place was DoorDash and I’ve never had an issue. But this time the Dasher didn’t bother to check the name on the ticket. She gave me someone else’s order. Then she circumvented the app to send me a blurry photo of her driving away. Instead of messaging her though to correct it I went straight to customer service. I’m not sorry I did it because while I wasn’t inconvenienced much. That’s a whole family order that was mistakenly delivered. I left a one star review where admittedly I tried to defend the dasher. But did note that clearly the ticket wasn’t checked. And instructions blatantly weren’t followed. So am I the rear end in a top hat should I have eaten the cost or let it be?

Edit: I’m basing the firing part off two things. One, I doordash order regularly and my town is just small enough that you can tell with accuracy who’s dashing. And two, the CS rep asked no questions and even thanked me for not being a j*cka** about it. So I’m assuming given CS can see who the dasher is and likely communicate with them. That this isn’t the first time orders have been screwed up by said employee. I wasn’t asked any of the standard questions.

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for probably getting an employee fired?

Why did OP assume the driver got fired? I don't think it's possible to get fired from any of these apps.

Mx. posted:

AITA for making inappropriate noises when my mother inlaw called my husband's phone at 2AM?

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I hate living with my apartment mate, he's made my life incredibly annoying and I rue the day I met him at our stupid company's meet and greet and decided to split an apartment with him. The Bay Area is ridiculously expensive and it's hard to find a good rent control place.

But enough about the general situation. He has a hippie girlfriend who is completely out of her mind. She's a legit certified nymphomaniac. Emphasis on the maniac. She almost constantly propositions sex and doesn't understand boundaries. She smokes up in our place (sadly legal) and often ends up bringing smoke into the common areas. I don't like it. I'm trying to relax after working from home and need a change of scene.

She literally goes almost NUDE sometimes in the kitchen when she's fixing snacks or whatever between their copious drug-addled gently caress sessions. It's exhausting and UNSANITARY.

I wrote to the landlord about everything she did and told him that my apartment mate is violating the terms of the lease having her over.

They threw a bit fit, called me an incel, and told me I'm a straight up prude who is ruining their lives. I told them keep it up and the next step is the police. They are lucky I didn't go there first.

Unfortunately for me, the landlord doesn't care and told me I can move on after the lease is over. They seem to have all the power. They haven't damaged anything and that's all the landlord cares about. We split utilities but my roommate just straight up pays all the utilities (probably because his girlfriend his hardly using any) and I have no recourse.

AITA here or should I continue to dish out as much as they harass me throwing their stupid hippie relationship and sexuality in my face when I'm just trying to relax.

teen witch posted:

AITA for telling my apartment mate and his girlfriend that they're lucky I didn't call the cops but only the landlord on their exhibitionism?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mc3QsZHu5SI

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My (26F) sister Anna (24F) married my friend Lance (27M), he was the cool guy in our friend group, handsome, misterious, smart, quiet. I don't know how he ended up with my sister, she's the total opposite, loud, funny, outgoing. She's beautiful tho, really beautiful, and when they got together everyone said how good they looked.

Anna seemed to be really in love with him ALL THE TIME, she used to say how dreamy he was, how good he treated her and how spoiled she felt, but Lance was always so stern and quiet, she would revolve around him at family gatherings but he wouldn't engage that much with everyone but me and her. I was surprised when he asked her to marry him.My sister never took the wifey role too serious, she had a non-traditional wedding and Lance when along with it, she made a bunch of rules that he agreed to and then they moved to his house. Anna banned house utensils from the wedding gift list, she doesn't work, didn't finish her studies and they don't plan on having kids.

My sister is pretty much only into her looks (And I didn't think Lance cared for that before), she's always on Snapchat or Instagram, I thought that after getting married she would dress more appropriate since she used to use crop tops, blouses, dresses and shirts that showed her cleavage, short skirts or tight jean, but she says that Lance likes her just fine.

Last week was my dad's birthday and we had a party, my sister and Lance came and she was wearing a pretty short floral dress, nonetheless most of the men were looking at her including my dad's friends, Lance was as stoic as always and my sister came to my mom and I and saying that she didn't know why he was so quiet since he's not like that (HE is like that wtf) so I told her that if she didn't dressed like that he might take her more seriously.

She got sad and sat quietly the rest of the night and I didn't think much of that, but a few days ago Lance texted me and said that he would appreciate if I didn't comment on her wife's way of dressing again. ??? Did I miss something?

IM NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM

Invisible Clergy posted:

She is 100% already doing this. The literal baby does not know what beer is. It's not like she can read the label or smell the alcohol from closed bottles of non-alcoholic beer. The OP just likes giving her beer because he thinks it's funny/is an alcoholic himself and wants to drag his daughter down to his level lest she cause him to think about his own relationship to alcohol consumption.

pentyne posted:

there's a thing you can do where the people who start freaking out about something benign like that being unsanitary is to ask them the last time they cleaned their bathroom.

It's never "last week" and if they say that they are lying.

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My (26F) sister Anna (24F) married my friend Lance (27M), he was the cool guy in our friend group, handsome, misterious, smart, quiet. I don't know how he ended up with my sister, she's the total opposite, loud, funny, outgoing. She's beautiful tho, really beautiful, and when they got together everyone said how good they looked.

Anna seemed to be really in love with him ALL THE TIME, she used to say how dreamy he was, how good he treated her and how spoiled she felt, but Lance was always so stern and quiet, she would revolve around him at family gatherings but he wouldn't engage that much with everyone but me and her. I was surprised when he asked her to marry him.My sister never took the wifey role too serious, she had a non-traditional wedding and Lance when along with it, she made a bunch of rules that he agreed to and then they moved to his house. Anna banned house utensils from the wedding gift list, she doesn't work, didn't finish her studies and they don't plan on having kids.

My sister is pretty much only into her looks (And I didn't think Lance cared for that before), she's always on Snapchat or Instagram, I thought that after getting married she would dress more appropriate since she used to use crop tops, blouses, dresses and shirts that showed her cleavage, short skirts or tight jean, but she says that Lance likes her just fine.

Last week was my dad's birthday and we had a party, my sister and Lance came and she was wearing a pretty short floral dress, nonetheless most of the men were looking at her including my dad's friends, Lance was as stoic as always and my sister came to my mom and I and saying that she didn't know why he was so quiet since he's not like that (HE is like that wtf) so I told her that if she didn't dressed like that he might take her more seriously.

She got sad and sat quietly the rest of the night and I didn't think much of that, but a few days ago Lance texted me and said that he would appreciate if I didn't comment on her wife's way of dressing again. ??? Did I miss something?

IM NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM

MarcusSA posted:

Contacting his work is pretty weird ngl

MarcusSA posted:

Contacting his work is pretty weird ngl

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

I'm 5'7" and I've met a fair few people who expect me to be insecure about that, so I'm guessing that's the range where it starts being common, but we also had that one story of a 6'1" guy who had a major Napoleon complex some pages back, so it's not like there's an upper limit.

When I was a tot, my sister and I would always try to sneak into the living room when my parents had guests over and steal whatever dregs we could find. When we got caught, my parents put a stop to it by making the alcohol and children were never left unattended at the same time, like normal people. I don't even dare think what my life would have been like if they just thought that was cute and they got us hooked on non-alcoholic beer.

Hispanic! At The Disco posted:

If the BiL sent the messages while working (which the timestamps will show), then it's justified. Especially if he used a work phone/e-mail address.

Hispanic! At The Disco posted:

If the BiL sent the messages while working (which the timestamps will show), then it's justified. Especially if he used a work phone/e-mail address.

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Throwaway account

My brother "Jerry" (M21) and I (F26) were close for most of our lives. We’re two of nine adult children in a very dysfunctional family.

Jerry recently got engaged to "Jessica" (F20). I've tried to be welcoming since she started dating my brother, but she hasn't really reciprocated. Once COVID restrictions were lifted, I hosted a "getting to know you" party to introduce the women in the two families. I've also taken her family to lunch/dinner several times, and co-hosted a wedding shower for our extended family. I've been careful not to give my opinions on the wedding, and have tried to be supportive as Jerry’s and my parents are causing drama.

Two weeks ago, Jerry called me to say that they were inviting all of their other siblings to be in their wedding party, but they aren’t inviting me. He didn't say why. I told him that I wouldn't be making a fuss and it was their wedding to do with as they choose.

This weekend, Jessica texted me at the last minute to attend an invitation addressing party and to bring a dessert. I was upset at the request (it was a last-minute invitation to a pre-planned event, and they'd already excluded me from their wedding party), but I decided to make cupcakes and stop by briefly.

When I arrived, Jessica handed me a stack of announcements and gift registry cards for the people who aren’t invited to the wedding. She also gave me a list of names and addresses of these people. Lo and behold, my name is on the list of non-wedding invitees. I found the list of wedding invitees, and my name isn't on it so I'm truly not invited.

Here's where I might BTA:

1. After realizing I'm not invited to the wedding, I took my cupcakes and left the invitation-addressing party. I didn't make a scene, but I didn't tell Jessica or her mom (who was hosting) that I was leaving.

2. Jerry texted me about how rude I was to leave when his fiancee needed help, and said I was selfish, spoiled, and cheap. I replied that it was awful for them to demand my help for an event to which I was not invited, and that I wasn't going to be involved in any drama.

3. Jerry and Jessica went to my apartment yesterday while I was gone. They banged on the door and yelled in the windows, so my next-door neighbors (who don't know him called 911. J&J managed to talk their way out of trouble, but texted me angrily. I told them they caused a disturbance in my building and not to come over again.

4. J&J came to my work today, told the receptionist we had a family emergency, and made her pull me out of a meeting. Once it was clear that no one was dead or injured, I told them to leave and not come to my work again.

My entire family thinks I'm the rear end in a top hat. I think the bride and groom can determine who they want to invite to their wedding/bridal party, but they can’t demand unpaid time, labor, and hosting from non-invitees.

TL;DR: I'm not invited to my brother's wedding, but he and fiancée want my help with the events around it and made public scenes at my home/work.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Hi, yes, hello. Reposting stories is now an automatic sixer 'round these parts and if you have any complaints I'll fart in your mouth.

hot cocoa on the couch posted:

does anyone remember that story of the guy who drinks at work because he wants to be like the guy on mad men (the main character i think)? he offers clients whisky during meetings or something. does anyone have a link to that one?

An alcoholic posted:

AITA for drinking whiskey in the office at 10:30 in the morning?

I (38M) work a stressful job in finance. After years of climbing my way up the corperate ladder, I finally became a VP at my firm - which comes with its own office!

I’m consider myself a ‘classic’ kinda guy, and one of the things I admire most about the workplaces of the 1960s (think Mad Men etc), is that the characters always have a jar of whiskey in their hands no matter what time of day it is. Back when I worked the trading floor, it would have been uncouth to do such a thing in front of my colleagues - but I figured no one would care about it now that I have my own office.

I recently purchased some whiskey jars, and a premium bottle ($500+) which I store openly on my desk. I work with some high-end clients, and I’ll always offer them a glass when we have important meetings. Unfortunatley, none of them have ever accepted. So, not wanting to let the whiskey go to waste, I’ve started sipping on a couple of glasses by myself throughout the day, sometimes as early as 10:30 AM.

That was until yesterday morning, when one of my bosses (CTO) burst into the office unannounced, and caught me sipping. He looked shocked, turned his back, and left. At this point the bottle was about half-empty, so it probably looked pretty bad to him. (Although I must add that this was consumed over the course of a whole week - I was drinking slowly enough that it didn’t affect my work in any way.)

He sent me a long e-mail about how I have problem and that he’s going to contact HR. In the heat of the moment, I sent him a reply telling him maybe he needs a glass or two to lighten up. (I’ll admit to being the rear end in a top hat for that part.) I’m scheduled to speak to HR tomorrow and I’m making GBS threads it. Reddit, am I really the rear end in a top hat for sipping whiskey privately in my office?

EDIT: It seems that I’m TA I’m going to ensure the whiskey / drinking is hidden from public view in the future + no drinking before lunchtime. Still sucks that I don’t get to be Don Draper though

hot cocoa on the couch posted:

is this @ me? i just want to share a funny story with friends but i can't find it

haveblue posted:

IIRC there was an update to that where without thinking he offered the HR person a drink and the meeting went downhill from there

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FINAL EDIT / UPDATE:

Oh boy, so I met with the HR lady early this morning, and I, very stupidly - out of pure reflexive habit - offered her a drink before we started. She was not amused to say the least. After that I basically got on my knees and begged for forgiveness. They've let me keep me job, but I'm relegated to sitting at a tiny desk in a shared office under the constant eye of the CTO. Moreover, word has gotten around the floor about my old-school antics. I've already had a couple of colleagues jokingly call me 'Don', 'Donny boy', or even asked me for whiskey themselves. I'll take it, but this isn't what I imagined being a Mad Man would be like.

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Crocobile posted:

AITA for leaving a family party and telling bro and future SIL to not come to my home or work anymore?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Hi, yes, hello. Reposting stories is now an automatic sixer 'round these parts and if you have any complaints I'll fart in your mouth.

haveblue posted:

IIRC there was an update to that where without thinking he offered the HR person a drink and the meeting went downhill from there

Pope Corky the IX posted:

No, it was for Soylent Pudding posting a story that welcome to hell had posted forty minutes earlier on the same page. Reposting or linking to classics is just fine, don't you worry honey.

Fork of Unknown Origins posted:

DemoneeHo posted:

The most baffling thing that stuck out for me is the invitation addressing party. What the gently caress is an invitation addressing party

Pope Corky the IX posted:

No, it was for Soylent Pudding posting a story that welcome to hell had posted forty minutes earlier on the same page. Reposting or linking to classics is just fine, don't you worry honey.

DemoneeHo posted:

The most baffling thing that stuck out for me is the invitation addressing party. What the gently caress is an invitation addressing party

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Hi, yes, hello. Reposting stories is now an automatic sixer 'round these parts and if you have any complaints I'll fart in your mouth.

Crocobile posted:

AITA for leaving a family party and telling bro and future SIL to not come to my home or work anymore?

OP posted:

Due to character limitations I didn't go into much detail about my family.

In a nutshell, we're in a very conservative, religious culture. As an unmarried, childless, 26-year old female, I really don't fit in. Jerry (my younger brother) has conformed more to the mold, especially now that he's getting married.

Initially he didn't say why I wasn't included as a bridesmaid, but in his subsequent angry texts he said it was because all the other women over 21 in the bridal party are married and I would "be the weird one out."

As for me not being invited to the wedding, when Jerry made his remark about my being "cheap" he said THAT'S why I'm not invited to the wedding. According to him, Jessica is mad because I held her "intro to the family" party in my apartment and didn't rent a private space/room in a restaurant. They're not inviting the other members of our family who co-hosted one of their wedding showers for the same reason--they expected a higher-end venue for the shower.

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this isn't what I imagined being a Mad Man would be like