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BIG-DICK-BUTT-gently caress posted:A physician calling themselves doctor outside of a clinical setting is lame as hell. Ha! I agree with that. Really, anyone with a doctorate asking people in a casual setting to call them "Dr." is lame. And I guess college classrooms are pretty casual. So maybe I agree with the posters above.  EDIT: A sweet and lowkey AITA tax for sniping. quote:AITA for taking my cat to the vet on a leash? OhAreThey fucked around with this message at 02:45 on Mar 20, 2022 |
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Formal titles are for formal settings. It's literally that simple.
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OhAreThey posted:
That’s not a risk I’d ever be willing to take with my cat no matter how well trained they are. It’s pretty dumb on the OPs part.
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MarcusSA posted:That’s not a risk I’d ever be willing to take with my cat no matter how well trained they are. 100% agreed. It's not worth it. The OP isn't necessarily wrong, but I do not trust other pet owners enough.
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titles are great because you can see who still believes in the meritocracy. "I spent 10 years EARNING my title. What was it you wasted your last decade doing... teaching public school in underprivileged communities? How embarrassing. Try contributing to society mayhaps???"
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carry on then posted:titles are great because you can see who still believes in the meritocracy. "I spent 10 years EARNING my title. What was it you wasted your last decade doing... teaching public school in underprivileged communities? How embarrassing. Try contributing to society mayhaps???" Again, if you're not using a title, then don't use it, I don't care. But if you've decided you're going to be formal, "Dr."'s the way to go with me. Don't like it? Don't be formal, or don't talk to me. Most people are capable of going with the latter if they can't deal with the former.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Again, if you're not using a title, then don't use it, I don't care. But if you've decided you're going to be formal, "Dr."'s the way to go with me. Don't like it? Don't be formal, or don't talk to me. Most people are capable of going with the latter if they can't deal with the former. Yeah, it's like when students I work with call me "Mrs. LastName". I'm not married, so I'm like "Call me First Name or call me Ms. LastName. But don't call me Mrs. LastName". I mean, it's not an exact analogy, but it's like...if you're going to add an honorific, at least get it right.
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I feel like if someone spends the time studying a field and presumably doing original research and expanding the collective knowledge of the field, they earned the drat title and in an educational or formal setting they are within their rights to not want to be called Mrs, Ms, Miss or Mr and instead be referred to by their title. If that’s hard for you then you might be an rear end in a top hat. I have earned no such title and will answer to “hey buddy” or “you rear end in a top hat.” Edit: that doesn’t excuse someone being a jerk about it unless they are a woman or POC at which point They aren’t probably rightfully pissed someone is downplaying their status. therobit fucked around with this message at 03:15 on Mar 20, 2022 |
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therobit posted:I feel like if someone spends the time studying a field and presumably doing original research and expanding the collective knowledge of the field, they earned the drat title and in an educational or formal setting they are within their rights to not want to be called Mrs, Ms, Miss or Mr and instead be referred to by their title. If that’s hard for you then you might be an rear end in a top hat. Well, hey, didn't you know that academics just write a big check for the privilege of getting a degree so they can poo poo on public school teachers? While twirling their mustaches and sipping their elitist lattes, no doubt!
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what is with all the assholes today
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moonmazed posted:what is with all the assholes today https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sen8Tn8CBA4
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therobit posted:
Yep, this.
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More actual content since I've contributed to this dumb derail enough. AITA for saying “How would you know?” when my husband told our families that our unborn baby was fine? quote:
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Again, if you're not using a title, then don't use it, I don't care. But if you've decided you're going to be formal, "Dr."'s the way to go with me. Don't like it? Don't be formal, or don't talk to me. Most people are capable of going with the latter if they can't deal with the former. People are conflating someone being a dweeb about their title to demand authority versus someone being a dweeb about somebody else’s title to dismiss a woman/minority as “not a real” whatever and these are entirely different situations
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8one6 posted:Get hosed tantrum lady. Lost your (probably well below market rate) childcare because someone brushed the dogs hair. Hispanic! At The Disco posted:Let him know that there are plenty of old gay men who will gladly be his sugar daddy.
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AITA for correcting someone at my wedding?quote:So I (F31) and my husband (M32) got married over the weekend. It was a lovely ceremony, but a small issue arose which has led to my new in laws somewhat freezing me out. WIBTA to challenge my unfair grade after 'disrespecting' professor's credentials? quote:I'm (21F) first-gen Chinese and my name is the ever-so-common pinyin translation, so it's literally google translation or how my Chinese name sounds in English when pronounced.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:AITA for correcting someone at my wedding? NTA, you bet Auntie Dearest would have called them Dr. and Mrs. Johnson if the credentialization were reversed. quote:WIBTA to challenge my unfair grade after 'disrespecting' professor's credentials? If only I believed that Title VI infringements by tenured faculty led to actual consequences in most institutions.
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The best doctor story in an iteration of this thread was a woman who got a PhD entirely so her mysoginistic FIL had to put her name first on cards. She used his "but decorum" against him and according to her he nearly had a stroke from anger at having to show her anything that even remotely looks like respect. Alas I've brought this up a few times but its lost in the deluge of posts.
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:People are conflating someone being a dweeb about their title to demand authority versus someone being a dweeb about somebody else’s title to dismiss a woman/minority as “not a real” whatever and these are entirely different situations Yes, people pretend it's about the former when called out for talking about how they would totally do the latter in the hypothetical situation where they went outside and talked to someone.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:AITA for correcting someone at my wedding? I always wonder why these people don't have a crew of people who can toss folks out of the building for stuff like that. You're at your own wedding, if there's any time that you can order your friends to form a goon squad it's then.
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OhAreThey posted:
hey now! 
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:What difference does it make. Titles are nonsense, and I would address her by the name she goes by without any honorific. Black people in academia have a lot of trouble being taken seriously. Many use titles that their colleagues might not because people assume they are not as well educated or capable, and that's one way of reinforcing that they have the degree and the skills. There's no reason to disrespect someone by not addressing them as they introduce themselves - if you want to be stupid and make up a dumb title for yourself, go ahead, just earn it first.
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nashona posted:hey now! 
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Defiance Industries posted:I always wonder why these people don't have a crew of people who can toss folks out of the building for stuff like that. You're at your own wedding, if there's any time that you can order your friends to form a goon squad it's then.  poisoning BIG-DICK-BUTT-gently caress posted:are U in the uk bc ive never heard this one lol (Probably, because he does not put a period after "Mr" or "Dr" which is how those honorifics are written in British English) 
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As someone working around a whole bunch of letter bearing fools it's Bobby to their face, Bobsun to the students and Prof Dugnutt in correspondence. There's a definite link between the assholes who demand their honorific used all the time and the dudes who treat the students and admin staff like poo poo as well. And yes, it's always old white men
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E: way beaten in the idea that women and minorities in medicine and academia often get denied titles they earned while the white men often get granted them despite not earning it. And your tryhard "lol I dont care about titles so I dont call anyone by their title at all!" appears loving identical to an outside observer as the racists and sexists who either consciously or unconsciously disrespect people by refusing to use a title for them when they otherwise would for a white man. Ravenfood fucked around with this message at 04:24 on Mar 20, 2022 |
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Serephina posted:Another funny anecdote for context on titles: According to all my medical friends, you are not to refer to the senior guy on a rotation as Dr, as everyone in the room is a MD already. He is to be called Mr, and will correct you on it. If I remember right in the UK (and possibly Ireland?) it's normal to refer to surgeons as Mister, and they will get pissy if you call them Doctor as that's a lesser position. That usage may be way out of date but it was true at some point. Dr Hobnob, D.I.C. A.R.C.S.
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Back in the middle of my high school years, we got a new principal that was one those people who required everyone to call them Dr. Whatever, no matter if they were student, teacher, or parent. I think they lasted maybe a year before being fired.
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OhAreThey posted:More actual content since I've contributed to this dumb derail enough. Holy poo poo that's depressing.
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My [32F] boyfriend [40M] is embarrassed buying condoms, and it lead to a fightquote:The last few weeks my boyfriend has been refusing to get a hotel and has been insisting if we have sex it has to be car sex. So yesterday he finally booked a hotel for today, and I told him we needed more condoms. I asked him to grab some last night, and he said, "No, I'm never comfortable doing that myself. I want you to go with me." I agreed to, so we went today.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Again, if you're not using a title, then don't use it, I don't care. But if you've decided you're going to be formal, "Dr."'s the way to go with me. Don't like it? Don't be formal, or don't talk to me. Most people are capable of going with the latter if they can't deal with the former. You seem like the person to ask: How should I handle meeting Dr Mario? What's the protocol there? I mean, I'm pretty sure the guy doesn't actually have a medical degree but if I point out that he's just a plumber with a stethoscope people might assume I'm being racist. Just kind of smile and nod and don't force the issue?
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The buried lede in that story is nuts.
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aardwolf posted:You seem like the person to ask: How should I handle meeting Dr Mario? What's the protocol there? Practicing medicine without a license is illegal, "Dr." Mario is just an unlicensed pill-pusher.
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I grew up at a national laboratory and the general stance there was that new hires took a year or two to learn that everyone else had a PhD too and nobody cared. That was when you could start teaching them useful stuff instead of busywork. Of course if someone was giving a presentation or some Senator was on-site the titles would come back out. They had their place.
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Evil Willow posted:My [32F] boyfriend [40M] is embarrassed buying condoms, and it lead to a fight So like your married BF right? Also just fuckin order them on Amazon you can get a big box with no fuss no muss.
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Bruceski posted:I grew up at a national laboratory and the general stance there was that new hires took a year or two to learn that everyone else had a PhD too and nobody cared. That was when you could start teaching them useful stuff instead of busywork. Of course if someone was giving a presentation or some Senator was on-site the titles would come back out. They had their place. So how long before they stopped calling you "Specimen 8394X"?
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Silly Newbie posted:Holy poo poo that's depressing. Especially how she reflexively hid the issues when her father and father-in-law both sensed she was having issues. From the comments the pregnancy was planned, so her husband acting the way he has is doubly concerning and she needs to let other people know before he gets worse.
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(54M) My fiancee (54f) is always tired and constantly avoiding sex.quote:So we have been together less than a year and stared out hot and heavy as a Dom, (me) sub,(her) couple. To me it seems like once we decided to get engaged and be a permanent couple our sex life has taken a serious dive. She has put on about 30lbs in 7months, and is just letting her self go to poo poo. WTF? Starting to Hate my fiance. quote:She f(54) m(54) will not initiate sex but always says Can my (54f) fiance be so selfish, so self centered, or am I (54m) being played? quote:We have lived together for a year and she (54f) has not contributed a dime to the household, and manages to spend every dollar she makes Evey week without buying me a single thing or offering anything for anything. How bad is this ?? quote:I caught my fiance in a lie. I stopped by her work and dropped a Palm Rose in her car it's a convertible. I went in said hi talked and left. I forgot all about it till we were getting in the car to go out and WHAM the devil took over her tounge. She F(55)reaches in the car pulls out the palm Rose and says,," my boss gave it to me he gave one to all the girls at work he said he went to church and prayed for us." I said M(55) no I don't think so. Know she starts swearing and ready to start a fight and I am telling her I left it there. Got quite for a second....... Then it became my fault for being so insecure. Red flag yes enough to call off an engagement??? Help all same OP
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Fiancée doesn’t care how I feel and goes out every dayquote:My fiancée (23F) and I (24M) are (were?) engaged to be married this fall. We’ve been having a string of arguments over petty little things and I got burned out. So I sat her down this past Sunday and told her I wanted some time to think about if I was going to break up with her or not. Cue the tears, the begging, what have you. She cried all day and night Sunday. It was really sad to see. She moved to the guest room and didn’t leave at all except to go to the bathroom. She looked terrible.
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Evil Willow posted:Fiancée doesn’t care how I feel and goes out every day lol owned.
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