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Waci posted:It's ok, nobody will hurt you here Ack! I've been glomped!
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Ravenfood posted:There are three types of chronically late people: those who actually havent figured out time management like young kids, people with executive dysfunction who haven't figured out appropriate coping strategies, and the people who genuinely don't give a poo poo about others. There's also people who have to rely on public transportation. It's very common - your bus is scheduled to leave at 6:55, you get there at 6:45 to be safe, and then the bus doesn't show up until 7:30. Or, the bus is full and/or just drives by your stop. And we're often written off as irresponsible because of it, unless we have enough time to get places three hours earlier than we're supposed to.
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My mom is a chronically late person and I honestly don't think it comes from a place of being intentionally inconsiderate for her. In every other matter of personal interaction she's very considerate of people's feelings. She just seems to have this massive mental block when it comes to ever being aware of what time it is, and is real stubborn about it for some reason. She's never worn or carried a watch (she even avoids carrying her smartphone around most of the time and I think the fact that it's a clock is part of the reason), and when she built a private workshop where she does hobby stuff she made a big point about never putting a clock up in there. Her stubborn insistence on being unaware of time even works for her in some regards. She has this insane work ethic where she'll put her nose down and work indefinitely until she's solved whatever problem she's working on (she's worked in software development most her adult life), and there have been times where I worried that my mom would work herself to death, but it's earned her lots of accolades, money, and always put her ahead in her industry. I dunno. It's a weird mentality that I've never understood. Maybe some of these people had a traumatic childhood experience that involved being rushed and they spend their adult lives running away from that feeling. Or some people are just wired to ignore the concept of time and scheduling it.
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AITAH for taking my children out of a potentially dangerous situation?quote:Two years ago we adopted two little girls Mary (now 9) and Sara (now 8). They are sisters. The other day they asked to go to a restaurant which serves food from their home country. This particular restaurant is VERY far from our house. While there the girls asked if they could use their native language. We don’t really allow them to do so in the house but in this case we did. The waitress was really excited. She began asking the girls questions and she ran in the back. I asked the girls what was happening and Mary said “That woman knows our aunt” (The girls mother died when they were toddlers. The grandmother raised the girls but was becoming old. She did visit the girls everyday while they were in the “orphanage”) The aunt came out of the kitchen and began hugging and kissing my kids! I immediately pulled the girls away. I left the restaurant (we didn’t even order🙄). I vowed never to return. I was annoyed and I went to Facebook to rant While most people supported me saying I was protecting them against possible dangers, others called me an rear end in a top hat for taking them away from their family twice They definitely had cause to be wary of the supposed aunt, but the whole not allowing them to speak the natave language in the house is pretty Edit: For correctness. edgeman83 fucked around with this message at 03:43 on Mar 22, 2022 |
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Mar 22, 2022 02:31
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edgeman83 posted:AITAH for taking my children out of a potentially dangerous situation? It's not assholey. It's cultural genocide.
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Foo Diddley posted:especially considering how gruesomely rats generally die (for those that don't know, rats are *real* good at growing tumors. i think that's why they use 'em in cancer research) It's more that most animals get cancer and grow tumors once they're past a certain age, the genetic machinery just starts to break down. Rats, unfortunately, have very short natural lifespans and their biology has evolved with that fact. One negative consequence is that pet rats will almost invariably live far beyond what their biology is calibrated for as optimum lifespan, and thus tumor city. In nature that's no real drawback because it would be a vanishingly rare rat that lives old enough for that to be a problem.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:It's called undertaking. He also punched Piers Morgan in the face so I give him credit for that too.
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Halloween Jack posted:Yeah, I can't believe stories like this. Most men aren't blowing loads in their pants at the sight of a fully clothed bosom, so I doubt a watch fetishist is going to get a raging hard-on every time he sees a clock, unless he has an acute brain injury like Harry the Safety Pin Fetishist. My very first girlfriend was mostly attracted to me for my watch. It was pretty stylish. She would compliment it more than me. She'd get annoyed if it wasn't visible in photos people took of us together. She'd contort her body around and move my arm to make sure the watch was prominently displayed. She wouldn't hook up with me if I wasn't wearing it. I only found out because I took it off to go swimming and then when we were changing out of our bathing suits we were naked so I made a move. She stopped me and demanded I put the watch on. I had to get dressed again, go back outside, get my watch and come back in while she stood there naked getting impatient because it took me some time to find it. I lost the watch a few months later when I was sledding and she broke up with me. I was pretty upset at the time but now I'm pretty thankful that watch got lost. Mr. Grapes! fucked around with this message at 03:52 on Mar 22, 2022 |
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Mar 22, 2022 03:50
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Mr. Grapes! posted:My very first girlfriend was mostly attracted to me for my watch. It was pretty stylish. Can you imagine how crazy she and watch guy would have gone on each other?
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Captain Hygiene posted:Lol, I really want to see that one. Like, how does that play out in practice? Do the tall folks just have to crouch around? Yes. Like when tourists take photos with buddhist monks. You have to sit or kneel lest you look taller than these (typically) very short men. Captain Hygiene posted:Chronically late people will just happily steamroll over you forever if you never call them out on it with any consequences, I would've said something a bit more direct and left my phone on silent just in case, but otherwise nothing has a chance of changing if you don't just start doing something concrete like that. They will steamroll over you forever even if there are consequences, as evidenced by her best friend dumping her over how lovely she is. There is nothing to be done about them; it's like rabies. I'm sure OP has tried being direct over his 5+ year association with this woman due to his lack of standards. In case of what? Hughlander posted:Guy blowing up his life for secretary reminds me of this one... This is a fantastic post. For once, one of these pieces of poo poo is actually punished as a direct result of his own actions. The victims of his crimes don't need to expend any effort to take him to task and can cleanly sever from him. haveblue posted:He's mad that someone in the passing lane (leftmost) will shift right to the non-passing lane, pass whoever was ahead of them in the passing lane, and then return to the passing lane. Which I'm pretty sure is illegal but as another driver it it not your job to do anything about it It's not illegal, nor should it be. If you're going so slow in the passing lane that it's necessary for another driver to pass you, then you should be in the middle or slow lane. Brawnfire posted:I'd actually really like to glimpse their thought process / hear their internal monologue because it makes NO sense to me. They never have good reasons, they never seem to absorb the level of frustration of those around them, they don't mind entirely missing things they wanted to do.... are they human? What's happening in there? They are self-centered pieces of poo poo: the end. There really isn't anything more to it than that. As far as understanding it goes, you might think of it as a specific manifestation of main character syndrome. When you're watching a lovely sitcom or whatever, the main character will always be late for school or work or an appointment or whatever and walk in while the thing is already in progress, because we the audience do not need to see them get there early and play with themselves while they wait for everyone to file in and for the thing to start. Bad people think that's how real life is and act that way on purpose. Or if you prefer a real life example, if there is like a dignitary visiting or someone giving an educational lecture or a CEO holding a meeting, then obviously it can't start until they get there because the event is for them. Idiots with an exaggerated sense of self-importance think of themselves this way even when it is just them meeting some friends for board game night, especially if they have decorum poisoned flying monkeys enabling them and saying no one is allowed to eat until aunt Karen gets here or she'll be a bitch to everyone, QED the only solution is to continue encouraging her to behave badly instead of simply not inviting her to things anymore. pentyne posted:In his words this sounds more like manipulative and controlling behavior. Yes, because it is. Chronically late people do it on purpose as a power move to bully people weak enough to continue associating with them. That's why they're never late to things they like or think are important. Electro-Boogie Jack posted:I've known a few people who are chronically late and I find it to be the most alien loving thing in the world. I'm really uncomfortable being late for anything because you're wasting other people's time, what kind of rear end in a top hat does that and the idea that someone wouldn't understand this or be acutely driven not to do it is just bizarre. I can't even try to get inside their heads to understand it; there's a level of disregard for other people that feels incomprehensible. They do it intentionally to show contempt for people around them and let them know they are beneath them, like "you will have dinner waiting for me on the table when I arrive home from my job, stepford wife." Waiting for someone is showing deference to them, so they refuse to ever be on the receiving end of this. It's where the idea of being "fashionably late" came from. AITA wife/mother wants a roomba after 4 day spa vacay. quote:My wife an mother of 2 boys under 5 wants a roomba. She is currently a stay-at-home mom due to lack of childcare facilities after recently moving. This is temporary until the autumn, we hope. I work an average of 50 hours a week including a minimum of 1-2 saturdays a month to make up for the current shortfall in income. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 03:58 on Mar 22, 2022 |
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Defiance Industries posted:Can you imagine how crazy she and watch guy would have gone on each other? I haven't talked to her in more than a decade but we are friended on Facebook. She married a woman and this lady has TWO watches on in their profile pic together!
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I can't believe no one's posted it yet, but watch fetishism is 100% a real thing, and thefplus has a very funny episode about it.
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Fork of Unknown Origins posted:Oh god my dad is like this. My friend's parents went to visit us when we lived in Korea. His dad brought his own set of collapsible forks/knives/spoons that he carried with him in a holster so he could deploy them in restaurants in case they only had chopsticks. He also carried a few cans of tuna and other such stuff that he would open and eat in a restaurant so he didn't have to try the bizarre and exotic food like barbecue pork or grilled bacon or ... fried chicken.
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Invisible Clergy posted:
what the gently caress? Buy her the roomba! Put googly eyes on it and a bow. gently caress you
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Mr. Grapes! posted:I haven't talked to her in more than a decade but we are friended on Facebook. She married a woman and this lady has TWO watches on in their profile pic together! Watch out!
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Electro-Boogie Jack posted:I've known a few people who are chronically late and I find it to be the most alien loving thing in the world. I'm really uncomfortable being late for anything because you're wasting other people's time, what kind of rear end in a top hat does that and the idea that someone wouldn't understand this or be acutely driven not to do it is just bizarre. I can't even try to get inside their heads to understand it; there's a level of disregard for other people that feels incomprehensible. With my own schedule I'm garbage. No sense of time, I can waste an entire day happily doing nothing. But the moment you add other people into the mix I do whatever contortions are needed to not keep anyone waiting.
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Mr. Grapes! posted:My very first girlfriend was mostly attracted to me for my watch. It was pretty stylish. She would compliment it more than me. She'd get annoyed if it wasn't visible in photos people took of us together. She'd contort her body around and move my arm to make sure the watch was prominently displayed. how can you not tell us the watch info? 
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Mr. Grapes! posted:She wouldn't hook up with me if I wasn't wearing it. If that brand's ad agency ever found out, they'd run a "this watch fucks" campaign.
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AITA for not talking during a comedy show?quote:In November of 2021, I (24, female) told my friend (22, female) that I wanted to see John Mulaney perform standup in December of 2021 (it was his last show in Los Angeles), so she invited herself and I purchased 2 tickets (she paid for her own ticket).
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beep boop why female laugh at comedy
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Picturing OP sitting completely silent and impassive at the Laugh Factory, occasionally nodding once to acknowledge a particularly good punchline
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A HUNGRY MOUTH posted:Picturing OP sitting completely silent and impassive at the Laugh Factory, occasionally nodding once to acknowledge a particularly good punchline If you include 'a slight frown on his face' then this would be me.
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moonmazed posted:beep boop why female laugh at comedy Op was also a woman
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Comedy should be appreciated, not enjoyed
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for not talking during a comedy show? I have read this more than once and she never says the other person is TALKING during the show, just... laughing and maybe looking to see if she was enjoying the show she mentioned specifically wanting to go to? And paid for her own ticket? Looking it up, OP is 5000x more insufferable in the comments, where they FINALLY clarify that the friend was also making comments. This person expresses this in such a douchebag way that I'm still gonna say they're the singular rear end in a top hat here.
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Invisible Clergy posted:
Is there a response that communicates "everyone is stressed out here"? This just feels like a brutal response to capitalism - mom has to stay home because it's more economical than working, feels overtaxed doing all the cleaning and childcare (fair) while dad has to work more than is reasonable making enough money to keep the house and feels overtaxed (fair), and there just isn't enough time or money to go around.
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Mr. Lobe posted:Op was also a woman Yeah but this is the /r/relationships thread, you can’t expect anyone to actually read posts.
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Bargearse posted:Yeah but this is the /r/relationships thread, you can’t expect anyone to actually read posts. eat my whole rear end
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moonmazed posted:eat my whole rear end Rude.
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nashona posted:how can you not tell us the watch info? I..... don't know! It was German and made of titanium and I knew absolutely nothing about watches (and still don't!) though I suppose it was a Good One because: - People would comment on it - It got me laid so that was nice - My dad got incredibly furious that I lost it sledding so I had to spend the whole night with a flashlight just digging through snow hoping to find a watch that slipped off me somewhere on a mountain
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for not talking during a comedy show? May as well be on another planet, really
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for not talking during a comedy show? This person is wild for thinking laughing during a stand up show is inappropriate. But I used to have a friend who insisted that you were expected to talk during comedy shows. She insisted that all stand up is supposed to be background noise like a jukebox at a bar. I only went to one show with her, but apparently she would try to have full conversations about her day and what movie she just watched whether she were at a small club watching amateurs or a nicer venue watching someone like Mulaney.
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moonmazed posted:eat my whole rear end It must be hard to post while illiterate
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Defiance Industries posted:Can you imagine how crazy she and watch guy would have gone on each other? That wouldn't work at all. They both want their partner to be the one wearing the watch. They couldn't be more incompatible.
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Mr. Grapes! posted:My very first girlfriend was mostly attracted to me for my watch. It was pretty stylish. She would compliment it more than me. She'd get annoyed if it wasn't visible in photos people took of us together. She'd contort her body around and move my arm to make sure the watch was prominently displayed. I'm pretty sure she just stole your watch.
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My (24f) boyfriend (35m) got irrationally angry because I progressed in a video game without him.quote:We've been together for about a year now.
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Mx. posted:My (24f) boyfriend (35m) got irrationally angry because I progressed in a video game without him. Dump him. No.
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Silly Newbie posted:Is there a response that communicates "everyone is stressed out here"? This just feels like a brutal response to capitalism - mom has to stay home because it's more economical than working, feels overtaxed doing all the cleaning and childcare (fair) while dad has to work more than is reasonable making enough money to keep the house and feels overtaxed (fair), and there just isn't enough time or money to go around. NAH for "no assholes here" is the response intended for such situations.
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Mx. posted:My (24f) boyfriend (35m) got irrationally angry because I progressed in a video game without him. Your boyfriend had 11 years to level himself up but he's still behind you.
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