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Lottery of Babylon: Apr 25, 2012; STRAIGHT TROPIN'

Captain Hygiene posted:

AITA for keeping my son's computer in the living room due to how he treats his little brother?

This seems to be a copy of a different thread with identical text but a different title:
AITA for keeping the status of my son's computer contingent on the way he interacts with his little brother?

Also:

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and punishment is the only way he learns.

Guarantee they put him through ABA. Acid vats aren't enough punishment for that.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 18:38

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# ? May 29, 2024 22:53

Guildenstern Mother: Mar 31, 2010; Why walk when you can ride?

Captain Hygiene posted:

It's time to play the old "Is this question title implying reasonable parenting practices accurate, or will additional information be revealed showing that the question asker is an absolute shitshow of a parent?" game!

AITA for keeping my son's computer in the living room due to how he treats his little brother?

I had no choice but to threaten to call the authorities and tell them he's acting out of line and for them to get him in line or else they'll remove him for being a threat and not obeying me and put him in foster care.

lol what authorities. "Hello Child Police? My kid isn't being submissive enough. Yes, they are a teenager. Yes I'll hold"

# ? Mar 26, 2022 18:40

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Cool Dad posted:

I am, I'm saying that. I mean, some people may not need therapy, but I think that most people don't have the emotional tools to deal with late stage capitalism and a global pandemic. There is no education available to most people for dealing with the incredible, intolerable stream of terrible information blasted into our minds on a daily basis and pretty much everybody should talk to someone about their feelings and learn tools for coping and processing emotions in a healthy way.

In short,

Therapist spotted

# ? Mar 26, 2022 18:52

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for trying to convince my daughter-in-law to start cooking?

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My son and his gf (both 29) aren�t married but they�ve been together for 7 years now so I�ll refer to her as my DIL. We have a great relationship and I�m very happy she�s the one with my son. We had some issues in the past with her being too shy and reserved but it�s all good now. They�re both doctors and are currently at the last year of their residency before becoming specialists. That means that they work a lot and have a lot of responsibilities as they both enjoy academic research, so work kind of never ends for them. They�ve been living together for 3 years now and according to them, this is their routine. Wake up at 6AM, go to the hospital, have lunch at the hospital cafeteria around 12, then continue to work until 17.00 and then return home.

My DIL doesn�t cook. I found out about it after they started living together and my son told me that they always ate at the hospital and on their off days they�d eat outside or order takeaway. I know for a fact that my DIL can cook well as she has helped me host family dinners and always brings something she�s made, however she never cooks for them. I have tried telling her that eating home cooked meal is healthier but claims that the hospital food is also healthy and balanced and that everybody eats there. I tried suggesting meal prep on sundays and then taking their lunch at work but she doesn�t want to. Apparently her mother told her not to send her energy doing things she doesn�t enjoy and she doesn�t feel like cooking and washing the dishes after, so she just doesn�t do it. Also she says they work hard enough and they�re able to afford eating out whenever they feel like, so she doesn�t see the need to spend her limited free time to cook.

I am a lawyer so I now what a busy schedule looks like but I still always found time to cook for my family 3 times a week. It�s not the most enjoyable task but seeing my son and husband enjoy my meals was reward enough. That�s why I�m trying to convince her to try cooking, especially since they told me they�ll try for a baby next year after their exam. Last time she was rude to me, she told me to stop trying to micromanage her and mind my own business but I�m just trying to look out for them. So AITA?

Edit: I guess I�m the AH. Pls don�t twist my words, I never said she should cook for my son nor that my son needs to eat homemade meals. I just suggested it as a way to eat healthier and save money. As for why my son doesn�t cook, I guess he never learnt. He never enjoyed it and I don�t think he has the time to learn at the moment. My relationship with my DIL won�t change because of that, we understand and appreciate each other despite our differences. But I appreciate all the comments.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 18:56

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Why doesn't my kid know a basic life skill? idk, guess he never LEARNT! That's not really my purview, as a parent. I was just supposed to make him successful enough to get a woman to cook for him, even if neither of them need to cook at all.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 19:00

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

For this particular cat, it worked; I had a spray bottle right inside the door, so if she ran at me, I'd raise it. Make my way back to my bedroom to change with bottle in hand or hanging off pocket, and when I came out of my room, set the bottle back inside the door area, then start calling her. It only took a few spray times for her to back off when I got home, and this was a last ditch effort to get her to knock it off.

Soon enough I didn't need to hold the bottle at all, she would just wait for me by my bedroom door, then got lots of extra love when I was ready for her.

AITA For demanding my stepdaughter pay full rent and neither of my biological kids?

AITA I took my kids to Disneyland

Sounds like a dream come true for the mom, though? Dad takes kids out, she gets some time to recover and relax. But that would look bad on her Future Estrangement Parent Bingo card.

A doctor who says that Disneyland is "too expensive"?

Trying to figure out what the control angle is here. Obviously the "we're your parents we're allowed to lie to you get over it" is a pretty classic lovely parent tactic, but this sounds like even given their income the day trip nature is pretty cheap compared even to the typical 4-5 day vacation+hotel+eating out+travel costs.

Guessing the decision was "I'm pregnant and don't want to walk around for 8 hours" and she expected everyone to lock step follow her demands.

Going to be a fun divorce when the sides are lawyer vs doctor and the kids already know the mom is a controlling rear end in a top hat.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 19:02

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Lottery of Babylon posted:

This seems to be a copy of a different thread with identical text but a different title:
AITA for keeping the status of my son's computer contingent on the way he interacts with his little brother?

Ah shoot, well I still got to get mad at it anyway

# ? Mar 26, 2022 19:26

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

empty whippet box posted:

TIFU by hiring a professional cuddler.

"professional cuddler" is a good username.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 19:46

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for being brutally honest with a girl and contributing to a $900 ruined dress?

quote:

Obligatory throwaway and mobile mention. Not enough chars for tl:dr sorry.

I was in a relationship for 10 years, not married. It was not good. 6 years ago I left and shortly after met the love of my life. After 10 years and both of us living in a smallish town with shared friends I�ve tried to be amicable to my ex while severely limiting contact.

Ive changed a lot. I owe that to my wife�s constant support and the freedom she gives me to follow my dreams and passions, something that would never have been possible with ex. This last year especially has made me the happiest I�ve ever been because I�m a first time father and my wife and I have really been loving parenthood. It feels like my calling.

So for the first time in around 2 years I ran into my ex at the antique store. She was looking for a dress to a mutual friends wedding my wife and I were invited to but aren�t attending. So she strikes up a convo about the wedding asking if I�m going. I tell her no because things are really busy with my business and I need as much free time as I can get with my wife and kid right now.

She started getting very close to me and made some weird comment about how great it was to �see me like this� and how she always thought we�d get back together. I was shocked and asked her why she would ever think that because I was literally miserable with her and that she wasn�t a good person or partner. She asked why I was always �nice� to her since if I felt that way and I pointed out she had started dating one of my friends before our relationship was even over so I knew she�d still be in the friend group and I chose to suck it up and not making our lovely relationship everyone else�s problem but her thought we would ever get back together is disturbing to me and laughable.

She got frustrated I guess and threw the dress she was holding at me and I kind of ducked it. It landed on a rack with other clothes and I made to leave. She huffily went over and grabbed the dress where I�d let it land and the whole store (all four of us lol) heard the giant rip sound. Some lace think had gotten caught on a hanger or something.

I just left, but then I got some FB messages from mutual friends that it was messed up I chose to dump on her and it wasn�t the time or place and that she is now banned from her �favourite� store because she refused to pay for the ruined dress. Mostly I feel bad for the store owner, but I guess I also could have just shrugged off her comments or whatever.

It felt petty to bring up after so many years but I was just baffled someone who treated me so poorly could disrespect my wife and kid by what seemed like hitting on me and then imply I would even have such low esteem or self respect for myself to go back to that situation and I kind of snapped. I don�t like to speak from a place of anger so even though it was true I�m feeling guilty. AITA?

# ? Mar 26, 2022 19:50

Haji: Nov 15, 2005; Haj Paj

The citrus tree neighbors could always take some branches and graft them on to their own citrus trees if the fruit is so freaking special. We have a "fruit cocktail" tree that has all sorts of different pit fruits grafted on. Peaches, cherries, plums, apricots, nectarines. When grafting trees you just have to stay in the same basic fruit family.

I suspect that their real problem is that they just want the fruit with none of the work though.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 20:04

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Piell posted:

AITA for trying to convince my daughter-in-law to start cooking?

Wait, so let me get this straight. She doesn't think "I don't like doing it" is an excuse... but it's why her son doesn't know how to cook?

Invisible Clergy posted:

"professional cuddler" is a good username.

Look up cuddle parties on the F Plus, they're low-key horrifying.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 20:09

Cacator: Aug 6, 2005; You're quite good at turning me on.

Blastedhellscape posted:

Lol. Yeah. She's definitely an overbearing psycho parent with a normal teenage daughter.

There's only one solution here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MGXSPf9b-xI

# ? Mar 26, 2022 20:11

Involuntary Sparkle: Aug 12, 2004; Chemo-kitties can have �accidents� too!

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA I took my kids to Disneyland

Sounds like a dream come true for the mom, though? Dad takes kids out, she gets some time to recover and relax. But that would look bad on her Future Estrangement Parent Bingo card.

Someone in SoCal would know better, but from what I know about Disneyland right now is that you can't just go on a whim, you have to buy tickets well in advance and make the park reservations for a specific day weeks in advance, especially now because of spring break. You can't just walk up without a reservation. I don't want to say it's fake because it feels like a boring post to fake, but the details don't add up. The money would have already been spent and you'd just be wasting the cost of the mom's ticket.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 21:32

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Midnight Voyager posted:

Wait, so let me get this straight. She doesn't think "I don't like doing it" is an excuse... but it's why her son doesn't know how to cook?

Look up cuddle parties on the F Plus, they're low-key horrifying.

Oh, I'm familiar. It's one of their best eps.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 21:32

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

AITA for playing Mario Party with my girlfriend?

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My girlfriend (30F) and I (31M) were playing Mario Party today. I had over 100 coins with no stars while she just completed her 2nd star. The star moved near me and then I rolled enough to use Boo to steal her star and then get another star of my own. I had 2 and left her with 1. I ended up winning the game. After the game, she was visibly upset and asked for apology. I refused because I don't think I need to apologize for playing to win.

My girlfriend and I are super competitive and she usually wins and then rubs it in my face. Whenever we have family game night, she usually always betrays me somehow with skips or steals or attacks on any game we play. I never say a single word or expect an apology. I don't want to set a precedent that she can just expect an apology whenever we are competing and I win over her. She is still upset and is expecting an apology from me. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

Biggest

in this thread, a functioning adult getting angry at a game that effectively weaponizes unfairness

# ? Mar 26, 2022 22:12

Hobnob: Feb 23, 2006; Ursa Adorandum

Midnight Voyager posted:

Look up cuddle parties on the F Plus, they're low-key horrifying.

I'm always kind of surprised how much this thread overlaps with F Plus topics, but I guess they both mine the rich vein of horrific people on the internet.

One day we'll get an r/relationships post about monkey mothers.

Or maybe an AITA about loving the car hot.

# ? Mar 26, 2022 22:36

endlessmonotony: Nov 4, 2009; by Fritz the Horse

Lottery of Babylon posted:

Guarantee they put him through ABA. Acid vats aren't enough punishment for that.

So many subtle details revealing "this is just plain child abuse, the mother should be in jail".

# ? Mar 26, 2022 22:36

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

AITA for firing the babysitter for being a bad influence

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Submitted an hour ago by indecentbabysitter

My wife and I hired a babysitter, Adeline (18) for our kids (8 months, 2f, 4f, 5m, 7f) a few months ago. Adeline is great with the kids and she's the only babysitter that can handle so many young kids.

A couple problems are that she's consistently late. It's usually no more than 5 minutes (she has been 10 and even 15 minutes late, however) but it's still irritating. Another thing is, after she gets everyone in bed, she spends the rest of the night on her phone or laptop. She never cleans up in the playroom because she claims it's always messy and she doesn't know where anything goes, and will only clean up what she did with the kids. For example, Adeline did an art project with my older 3 kids and cleaned the counters and the floor after that art project but she didn't pick up the toys that were in the living room or do the dishes. Another problem is that her outfits can be a little inappropriate for kids so young (crop tops, shorts/skirts/dresses that are a little too short, low cut shirts, etc.). I've asked my wife to talk to her about it (I felt that it would be more comfortable coming from another woman) but she refused, even though she admitted that she would like Adeline to wear slightly less revealing clothes.

My parents are in town and they wanted to take the kids on a walk. While on the walk, they saw Adeline on a run wearing a sports bra and shorts that barely covered anything. All of my kids had seen it and we heard about how they had seen Adeline without a shirt for days. my 5 year old has also been talking about how pretty she is and that he's going to marry her when he's older, which is completely inappropriate.

I decided to fire her because of the reasons I listed above. When I told my wife, she started screaming at me because she thinks Adeline is a great babysitter and is reasonably priced. I told her Adeline is a bad influence and I don't want her around my kids but she's refusing to speak to me until I call Adeline back and offer her job back. She even wants me to offer her a raise if she says no.

AITA for firing the babysitter for being a bad influence

Guess how much they're paying this paragon to sit 5 kids, 3 of them not potty trained?
$25/hour

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:02

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for firing the babysitter for being a bad influence

Guess how much they're paying this paragon to sit 5 kids, 3 of them not potty trained?
$25/hour

lmao, this guy in a week: "babysitters cost how much?"

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:10

Chef Boyardeez Nuts: Sep 9, 2011; The more you kick against the pricks, the more you suffer.

Biting the harlot hand that feeds my kids.

AITA for firing my babysitter for getting drunk on the job

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This is my throwaway account.

My (37F) babysitter (16F) has been babysitting for me for about 2 months. She’s a very sweet and quiet girl and is good with the kids (4F and 8M), we’ve only had small problems here and there but nothing major at all. When she first started babysitting for me I had asked her if there were any drinks or snacks that she’d like me to keep at the house as she’s here from 9-7 every day Monday through Saturday. She mentioned that she really liked seltzer water and I had bought them for the first month, but honestly I forgot after a while and never kept any in the fridge. A few days ago I bought hard seltzer’s for me and my husband, and didn’t think anything of it. A little bit after 2 pm she messaged me that she wasn’t feeling well and thought that she may have to go home, if it was possible if I could get off from work earlier. I asked her to try and hold out until the end of the day. Not too long after she called me crying, saying that something was wrong and she had to go home. She was drunk clearly, she drank the hard seltzer’s. I told her to leave and she walked home. She messaged me the next day and said that she now knew that hard seltzer’s were alcohol, and she hadn’t know, she never drank before as both of her parents were alcoholics and she has diagnosed PTSD regarding alcohol, she never planned on drinking in general. I told her not to come back as she put my children in danger. She called me crying and saying that she didn’t know, and that she cared deeply about my children and would never ever drink with them, or at all, and that she needs the money to pay for her drivers permit (she comes from a not so well off family). I told her to find a real job and that it wasn’t my fault she got drunk. My husband says I’m being very rude and that she did try to reach out when she wasn’t feeling well. My kids are upset to see her go. So reddit, AITA?

Chef Boyardeez Nuts fucked around with this message at 23:20 on Mar 26, 2022

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:17

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

Bonster posted:

[NY] I'm being evicted for violating my apartment's no dog policy. I have no dog.

I'm somewhat alarmed that I immediately guessed "adult onset schizophrenia."

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:17

sullat: Jan 9, 2012

Foo Diddley posted:

lmao, this guy in a week: "babysitters cost how much?"

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:30

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

Biting the harlot hand that feeds my kids.

AITA for firing my babysitter for getting drunk on the job

Yeah all teenagers getting sneaky underage drunk call an adult and ask to go home. It throws off suspicion

# ? Mar 26, 2022 23:38

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Many years ago I nannied for a family with an adorable toddler. She loved "cooking Jello" with me, which killed about an hour of time because she loving loved to stir that poo poo. So her moms would tease us about all the Jello we made, and one day I told them I'd make them Jello shots so they could have some adult form of it. Now, I don't drink, so getting peach Schapps for it was a pain in the rear end, and the next day J stirred her heart out because I made the Jello shots and she got to make our alcohol-free Jello. Both were in Tupperware totes, and I labeled them carefully. I also left the inch or so of Schnapps in its bottle, in the fridge because I figured they would drink it; the parents did drink wine and other liquors and knew I didn't. Parents came home, I didn't tell them about their surprise Jello because the workday had been so insane so passoff was quick.

The next day I came over and no one was home; it took some phone calls and some fuckery to find out what had happened. But one tray of Jello shots almost ruined a 30 year friendship. It seems some mornings when the parents were busy, they had a family friend/coworker watch J before I came over. A lady who was a recovering alcoholic. So the previous night they had found the mostly empty bottle of Schapps and smelled the Jello shots (but somehow didn't see the huge labeled container with their names on it) and presumed their friend had had a relapse. They knew for a fact it wasn't MY alcohol because I didn't drink, but they were horrified their friend had had a near entire bottle of alcohol while watching J.

Thankfully I was able to clear it up by showing the parents the large Tupperware with their names on it, but holy poo poo that almost went off and nuked some professional relationships.

AITA For not letting my 16yo daughter have my 10yo son's room?

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We are in the process of moving into a new home. The house is more spacious then the old one but has limited rooms. It only has 3 rooms.

My wife and I have 3 daughters 16yo/14yo/12yo and one son 10yo. The problem that's been tearing the family apart right now is that my 16yo daughter is refusing to share a room with her 2 sisters, She wants her 10yo brother's room. Her argument is that her brother is too young to have his own room and that she deserves more privacy and space since she's the eldest. Thing is we, as a family always give the boys their own rooms no matter the age while the girls share a room together. This method has proven to be workig cause girls naturally share while boys don't and they fight a lot.

My daughter threw a rage fit and got my wife involved. My wife called me unreasonable for thinking it's fair to make the 3 girls share one room while our son gets an entire room for himself, and he's the youngest!! So he's the one with the "least" privacy. I told her that it's been like this for years and just cause we're moving into a new home doesn't mean things have to change, to be honest part of me is thinking that my 16yo is doing this simply because she's against the idea of moving in the first place and is looking for excuses to not move in to the new home, my wife argued that moving our 12yo daughter with our 10yo is the best compromise, but my son won't accept this and I already know that. all I'm looking for is for everyone to be happy and comfortable and to my understanding, my daughter was fine with sharing a room with her sisters then, why Change her mind now?. My wife still sided with her and said that I should be careful because the girls are beginning to sense some sort of favoritism towards my son which isn't true at all. but it's all about what we're used to and what is the norm in the family,

They're both not speaking to me and are acting somewhat hostile towards me.

ETA for those who are saying I was in the wrong for buying a 3bedroom house, well our financial situation isn't the best right with everything happening in the world and real-estate prices getting higher and whatnot. Also, those who are saying I'm favoring my son, I'm not, I treat him the same as his sisters in pretty much everything and I 100% guarantee it, I accept my verdict nonetheless but still wanted to make few points clear. Thanks anyway.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 00:04

Involuntary Sparkle: Aug 12, 2004; Chemo-kitties can have �accidents� too!

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA For not letting my 16yo daughter have my 10yo son's room?

Thing is we, as a family always give the boys their own rooms no matter the age while the girls share a room together. This method has proven to be workig cause girls naturally share while boys don't and they fight a lot.

I was reading this one earlier and hooooly poo poo all of these kind of things piss me off. From the OP:

quote:

What I meant to say is that this is a common thing in my family that I grew up with.

quote:

It's always been the same with my family, I grew up with 2 sisters who shared a room while meand my brother got our own rooms. No one complained about what was/wasn't fair at the time, we still had a good childhood. I think that kids these days are somewhat too sensitive.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 00:27

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA For not letting my 16yo daughter have my 10yo son's room?

thing is we, as a family, always treat women like subhuman trash. this method has proven to be working cause :biotruths:

# ? Mar 27, 2022 00:31

uvar: Jul 25, 2011; Avoid breathing
radioactive dust.; College Slice

Drama in progress:

r/MadeMeSmile: I�m a father today! My wife didn�t want me to share any pictures with family yet but I can�t stop smiling and I can�t hold it in. He is perfect and since none of you are family, I�m just hoping I can spread my joy.

Picture of a perfectly identifiable man holding a baby.

Currently just below the top of r/all.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 01:10

Iamyourking: Oct 27, 2007; Only courage in the face of doubt can lead one to the answer.; Toilet Rascal

The OP of the room sharing thread is unquestionably in the wrong, but making the son share a room with two of his sisters isn't really a good solution. They'd probably be best off converting another room into a fourth bedroom.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 01:49

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

My (30s M) sister (40s F), who can't write - and has never written - thinks she's going to be an oscar winning screenwriter - how do I, a professional screenwriter, deal with her delusion?

quote:

TL:DR - my older sister thinks her first screenplay ever is going to sell for millions - and is getting weird and competitive with me. I don't really want to talk to her anymore - but I also don't want to cause bad blood as our parents are super old. Does anyone have a suggestion on what to do?

First off, I love my sister. We have a decent relationship, but she's really selfish and that has gotten in the way over the years. (like, she just expects me to do what she asks, when she asks, and will guilt-trip me if I have something else going on)

She's one of those weird people who thinks they don't need to do any legwork to succeed. She's had a ton of different "professions" but she always fails because she thinks that the first job she should get is like CEO or VP or something. She's never had a low-level job where she's had to work to get to the top - and has basically lived off our parents her entire life. My dad once said to me "I could never leave you enough money in my will to make it even between the two of you."

Anyway, big surprise, she now wants to be a Hollywood screenwriter. She's written one script - and to put it kindly, it reads like someone who has never studied screenwriting, read screenplays, or even like watched a five minute "how-to" on youtube about it. There's no story, the formatting is all off, and it's so amateurish it's painful.

The problem for me is I'm a screenwriter. I've had ups and downs in my career, but I've worked my butt off for 15 years to get where I am. I started as a PA getting coffee, I went to film school, and I put in the hours.

So now she thinks this one script is a ticket to the big time. She's sure that someone is going to give her MILLIONS of dollars to make it. She keeps coming to me for my thoughts on how she can market it, and I'll tell her, but then she argues with me and does it the way she wants. I suggest books for her to read for the basics - but she doesn't read them. Because (I think) she thinks she's already a pro.

Today I was talking to her about a recent professional success and she seemed visibly upset - like she was feeling competitive with me. But I've been doing this for 15 years!!!

I told her recently that if she doesn't want to take my advice, there's nothing I can do to help, but she keeps asking me questions (but it really seems like the only answer she wants to hear is "you're right"). I am trying not to start a family feud, but I'm REALLY PISSED OFF that she thinks that this is some easy thing where you write a script and you go to the big time.

And I'm EXCEPTIONALLY pissed off that she seems jealous or competitive with me, when this is like one of 20 "careers" she's had and I've been working my tail off for years.

My mom says that I should be nice and keep offering to help - and my dad basically says that she's crazy, I should ignore her, and "maybe he shouldn't have shook her as a child" (which I think is a joke?)

The parents are old and I really don't want to get into a whole thing where when they die there's going to be bad blood between us, but I also kind of hate talking to her because she's so narcissistic and delusional. What should I do? Does anyone have a sibling like this?

quote:

ha! I know it sounds like she lives at home, but my dad bought her a house. (he's not that rich, even though he sounds like it!) She's actually married with children, her husband has a steady job - but she has a live-in nanny because she's focusing on "writing"

# ? Mar 27, 2022 01:55

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for making my parents live without electricity for a week?

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I(26F) was always into sports, science and other things my parents thought were too strenuous for a young girl. I took coding in school and went on to the cs in university. My parents were disapproving because they wanted me to be a teacher because that was a responsible career for a girl and was worried I wouldn�t be able to get a husband because men would hate it that I had a lot of male coworkers. Lots of issues surrounding of differing opinions like me wanting to be childfree and travel and them wanting me to marry, have kids and quit my job to be a housewife caused us to break contact for a few years. We started communications again but infrequently.

Recently my parents called me because they were having issues with their electricity but all the electricians in area were unavailable. They lived in a small town where there are only a few electricians and it would take a week for them to get to them. I�m not an electrician but I�m quite handy so I told them I�ll take a look. I drove 3h to their place and the first thing my dad said to me was couldn�t you dress nicer? Im in jeans a green jacket with my hair in a bun because Im going to be doing work! I was pissed but let it go because he�s always been critical of my clothing, my weight (I�m a size 4) and other things he doesn�t think are feminine enough. I start working and their house is from the 1940s so the wiring is so old and definitely not up to code. I start Googling what a lot of these things are and my mom sees and complains I�m playing on my computer when I should be helping them. I said I am and she smugly says I shouldn�t have gone into engineering if I didn�t know how to do the work. I was so pissed because I�m working for free helping them and all they do is insult me. I�m not an electrician but apparently they think a software engineer and electricians are the same thing. I walk out and they yell after me what I was doing and I told them I�m just a weak little girl that can�t possibly help them so they�ll just have to wait for the electrician. My parents were pissed and screaming and yelling at me as I back out of the yard. They did get their electricity back but it took a week and obviously they blame me for not helping them. AITA here?

This hand that feeds would taste a lot better cooked, if only we had power!

# ? Mar 27, 2022 01:57

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

Iamyourking posted:

The OP of the room sharing thread is unquestionably in the wrong, but making the son share a room with two of his sisters isn't really a good solution. They'd probably be best off converting another room into a fourth bedroom.

People keep asking OP how this house is "more spacious" given that it has the same number of bedrooms, and :crickets:. Everybody suspects that the new house has a home office, or a man cave, or a really big recreation room.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:02

quantumwell: Jun 22, 2013

Foo Diddley posted:

thing is we, as a family, always treat women like subhuman trash. this method has proven to be working cause

You don't understand, the 10 year old boy won't put up with sharing a room with a younger sister! This genius ought to be renting
a house with more rooms rather than running a sardine factory.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:23

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Lottery of Babylon posted:

AITA for saying I told you so after the captain landed the plane for a bullshit reason?

Holy poo poo, I never want to be within a thousand miles of any craft OP is piloting.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:28

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

"It's fine, airplanes make loud noises all the time! One more loud 'bang' doesn't mean anyth-"

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:29

Troublemaker: Mar 12, 2007

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for trying to spoil my pregnant wife and take care of her when she couldn�t do it herself?

"My wife," "my house," "our pregnancy"

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:32

ScienceSeagull: May 17, 2021; Figure 1 Smart birds.

Found this story of a scientific misconduct that reminded me very much of Soup Tube Guy: https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/2019/08/20/did-that-bottomless-soup-bowl-experiment-ever-happen/

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:40

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

Mx. posted:

My (30s M) sister (40s F), who can't write - and has never written - thinks she's going to be an oscar winning screenwriter - how do I, a professional screenwriter, deal with her delusion?

My dad once said to me "I could never leave you enough money in my will to make it even between the two of you."

quote:

my dad bought her a house. (he's not that rich, even though he sounds like it!) She's actually married with children, her husband has a steady job - but she has a live-in nanny because she's focusing on "writing"

OP's father is going to leave him nothing

# ? Mar 27, 2022 02:42

Funktastic: Jul 23, 2013

WIBTA if I announced specific rules for my wedding?

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I�m currently very mildly planning my wedding, meaning I�m still in the idea stage for specifics. While I�m still not sure about a few things that I want I do know that there are things I absolutely can�t stand that I know some of my family would probably do. Rather than not inviting the group and dealing with the drama of that I figured I could possibly send a list of �rules� for attending my wedding. Here�s the list I have:

For gifts I only want things from the registry I DO NOT REQUIRE OR CARE ABOUT HAVING A GIFT

If you can�t handle not mentioning God or Jesus for the duration of the wedding, you�ll be asked to leave bc I find it disrespectful at my wedding (I am a different religion from my extended family and am having a religious ceremony)

If you bring children under 12 or a date you barely know they will not be allowed in

If you record or take pictures you will be asked to leave

If you complain to me or (husband) about anything that is simply a matter of taste you will be asked to leave

Really what it boils down to other than the bit about the registry is I just won�t be tolerating disrespect or unnecessary stress. I know it might seem like a lot but if I�m spending money and trying to have a happy day I would sooner ask people to leave for ruining anything for me (important things and emergencies aside) than I would just deal with it. I�d definitely find a better/nicer way to word things but WIBTA?

Edit: part of me is deeply hoping they just wouldn�t come bc of it. I anticipate just not inviting them to lead to worse responses than the rules will

Edit 2: I understand there are nicer ways to say these things and I would do that. I won�t really be policing just hoping it would set a standard. I�m well aware I sound like a bitch with how i put it bc wedding planning is terrifying and I�m still trying to figure out how to run smoothly

Edit 3: rules 2-5 will be for ceremony only

I get it if you disagree with me but I�m really just here looking for constructive criticism as someone who�s never had to plan a wedding and has never even gone to one as an adult. I�d really appreciate feedback without the purposeful insults. You can be harsh but no need to wish me divorce or loneliness

# ? Mar 27, 2022 04:24

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Lottery of Babylon posted:

AITA for saying I told you so after the captain landed the plane for a bullshit reason?

I can�t fly anything bigger than a four-seat single engine prop plane but even I was taught that the safety of your passengers is your top priority.

If the flight attendants are all on his side there�s no way I�m getting within a hundred miles of any aircraft belonging to that airline.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 04:25

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# ? May 29, 2024 22:53

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Funktastic posted:

WIBTA if I announced specific rules for my wedding?

It really does seem like a lot of these problems come about from people genuinely having no idea how to set reasonable boundaries or what they should be when they grow up surrounded by lovely people and arbitrary rules that don't actually help anything.

# ? Mar 27, 2022 04:43

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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