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Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

I feel like if you're going to name someone after a deceased person, you owe the person they were closest to a discussion about it. It seems like common courtesy.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 21:53

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# ? May 30, 2024 18:20

Agents are GO!: Dec 29, 2004

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

Agents are GO! posted:

The Bramble posted:
Spoken like someone who has never experienced the unrestrained endorphin rush of having their post empty-quoted on these forums

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:01

Cool Dad: Jun 15, 2007; It is always Friday night, motherfuckers

Y'all are putting way more thought into toxic dad's reason for not wanting to buy pads than he is. Pads and tampons are mysterious gross girl things relating to vaginas but not in a sexy way, and it makes him uncomfortable to think about. That's it, that's as far as it goes, he will not reflect on why it is unthinkable he only knows that having to interact with this is intolerable.

Furthermore having an adult woman, a possible sexual partner (despite martial or relationship status) and inferior female chastise him makes him feel bad because now she's less likely to sleep with him, and it upsets his concept of his superiority.

I'm a straight white southern cis male and I know this because I have been like this. Unlike this chode I examined myself and got past most of this stuff when I was a teenager.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:03

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

I (32F) am in 4 year relationship with (33M) and hi says that “It is so hard to turn down females

quote:

TL;DR: I (32F) am in 4 year relationship with (33M) and hi says that “It is so hard for him to curve or turn down women, It’s so hard when women want to fk you and you know you can fk them.” He is getting Invisalign for his overbite and he is back in the gym. I am even helping him pay for the invsalign because i know it is an insecurity of his. I pushed him back in the gym because I have been on my fitness journey for months and feel amazing. But after his comment above he follows it with, “if it’s hard for me now imagine how women will be on me when I get myself fit and perfect smile, I won’t know how to act. Phew it is going to be so hard.” We are trying to build trust but this commentary makes me feel like I should not trust him.

I did speak up and told him that it is very odd that it is that hard to turn away women that approach you. If it’s that difficult for you then you don’t belong in a relationship.
Instead of talking about it he says here we go with you being insecure and sensitive, can’t ever tell be myself. I told him I just see a failed relationship because it is too hard to be faithful is what i am hearing. Needless to say we could not discuss the problem I brought up, we ended up arguing about my insecurities which I am actively working on daily. He including said you need to add to your morning prayers to give you confidence. This hurt my feelings.

I honestly feel confident and yes I have insecurities but his statement makes me feel insecure about the relationship not about myself. I just feel it is easy to turn away anyone who shows interest when you are in love with someone and committed. I am being approached on a daily, with hundreds of dms and has not been hard to turn anyone away, no matter how attractive they are. I just don’t comprehend the struggle. I need a third party to make it make sense.

Makes me feel like at any moment you will fall for it at a weak moment. It doesn’t make me feel secure in the relationship and just want to let him go. But then part of me feels like i am overreacting and I am messing up his peace on account of overreacting.

I told him he is simply not for me, we don’t have the same values. He says well let me tell you, that you will never be able to be with a good looking man because they will get hollered at all day everyday. I said for one I have been with better looking man than you but the difference they had no difficulty curving females. They made it known they had no chance. But you make it seem like they may have a chance under the right circumstances. It does not bother me that a female is going to give you the time of day. It’s how you respond to it knowing you are in a relationship. I don’t want to feel like i am in competition for no man.

Advice on how to handle this situation. TL;DR

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:16

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

Piell posted:

I (32F) am in 4 year relationship with (33M) and hi says that “It is so hard to turn down females

That guy is about to learn the difference between "better looking than I used to be" and "handsome".

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:25

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

WIBTA if I tried to ask a girl to hang out after she's ignored me since forever?

quote:

A girl that I like named "Chloe" moved into my dorm recently. Dorms are mostly for freshmen, but they're starting a pilot program where older volunteers who want to pursue careers in medicine and public health upon graduation promote wellness in student housing.

I first met Chloe when she presented to my floor about health topics like the dangers of a diet heavy in sugar and sleep hygiene. I tried to talk to Chloe about her presentation after and compliment her on how great of a doctor or epidemiologist she'll be and she just said, "Ha, maybe if I pass organic chemistry." I tried to ask her questions about the content, like, is sugar free Coke okay to drink excessively, and she just rolled her eyes at me and answered me curtly.

Chloe also lives on my floor and there was this one day when she wore eyeliner and a really cute and tight-fitting shirt. I thought she looked really attractive that day and I tried sitting next to her to study. She was in the halls because her roommates were asleep and she was still doing homework. I glanced her way, and she glanced back at me and rolled her eyes / glared. She didn't even talk to me.

My friends said that maybe I just need to tell her that I like her and ask her on a formal date, but my older brother told me that it doesn't seem like she likes me. WIBTA if I asked her on a date?

I'm scared to talk to her because she seems intimidating and sarcastic and like she'd laugh at me if I even tried to ask her out.

quote:

What do you like about her besides her looks? So far she�s�

checks post

rolled her eyes at you

not engaged in conversation, responding curtly

rolled her eyes and glared at you

ignored you completely
What qualities has she demonstrated (besides her attractiveness) that you want more of in your life??

OP posted:

Really hot even without makeup because of naturally gorgeous features.

Intelligent with lofty goals

Same snarky sense of humor

Perky and round breasts that her tight shirts show off really well

Cute smile

Gives me butterflies

quote:

NAH but don't ask her out. She's already telling you no.

OP posted:

How is she already telling me no? She's never said that she doesn't like me

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:27

CommissarMega: Nov 18, 2008; THUNDERDOME LOSER

Foo Diddley posted:

WIBTA if I tried to ask a girl to hang out after she's ignored me since forever?

I sincerely hope this is creative writing :stonk:

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:32

Dang It Bhabhi!: May 27, 2004; ASK ME ABOUT
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She should just shoot off a flare gun indicating her dislike.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:33

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Lots of high school age or immediately post-high-school age boys really are that dense/horny. Ask me how I know

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:34

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for posting a negative review about a salon my friend recommended?

quote:

So this situation has caused some drama with my friend (F25) and I (F24). I recently asked my for any recommendations for nail salons in the area because my current nail salon moved locations.

I went to this one nail salon she goes to regularly and it was starting out great when I mentioned I was referred by my friend. I mentioned I wanted a French tip for a special event coming up, but I was told only for acrylic and my nails were too short. No worries, I went with a baby pink color instead. The woman accidentally spilled acetone and it splattered into my eye.

I didn�t appreciate she laughed at the situation, but I figured accidents happened. Then the nail polish comes out really bumpy and she constantly runs to put it in a machine every few strokes. I asked about it and if I needed to pick a different pink, but I got literally no answer. I even repeated in case I was speaking too softly. When it was done it looked like really bad, patchy, uneven, and bumpy. I pointed it out again and got the manager. The manager told me they would do it again and make it right since I wasn�t happy. I did go with another nail color since the one I originally picked out was too clumpy. It came okay, but wasn�t what I originally liked.

I told my friend I wasn�t happy, but it was fine. I posted a review about the experience with photos of the nails before and after the manager did them. I didn�t give them zero stars, but in the middle because of the lack of communication when I got the color. I appreciated the manager made it right and did my nails themselves. I also didn�t appreciate the lack of professionalism at my eye stinging.

Here is where the problem occurs. My friend is mad at me because apparently it was the owner�s wife who did my nails and she�s been given the stink eye when she goes now. My friend says I made her look bad and now the relationship she has there is bad because I caused drama. She says they don�t talk to her like they used to and brought me up a few times. She said they even brought up the review I posted!

I told her that I posted a review about it and I pointed out the manager did make the situation right. I didn�t lie and even mentioned they may have had a bad day during the week. Besides, if they really appreciate her as a customer they would let this blow over as a less than stellar experience. Now my friend is mad at me because she says she has to find a new salon because of me.

(paragraph breaks added)

e: forgot the update

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I talked to my friend again and pointed out how I was hurt. I mentioned I called my eye doctor about it and thankfully nothing permanent happened when acetone got in my eye. She didn�t think it was that serious until I brought up I could have received a chemical burn on my eye and the owners wife laughed at the situation.

My friend admitted she felt bad because she recommended the place and felt responsible. I told her it�s not like she laughed at me and she wasn�t expecting the owners wife to be so unreasonable. She wanted to downplay it to make it go away, but she apologized to me.

To my pleasant surprise she tried a new nail salon and asked if we can try this new place out when I�m free since her manicure came out good. She liked the new salon a lot and the atmosphere there. Happy to say we will be okay :-)! We plan to get a mani-pedi together.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:35

greazeball: Feb 4, 2003

Foo Diddley posted:

WIBTA if I tried to ask a girl to hang out after she's ignored me since forever?

LMAO dorms are mostly for freshmen you say

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:35

quantumwell: Jun 22, 2013

Arsenic Lupin posted:

That guy is about to learn the difference between "better looking than I used to be" and "handsome".

This guy is so full of poo poo it's almost funny, his personality is totally broken. I can bet you no woman is going to
be forcing themselves on him no matter what he looks like.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:40

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

haveblue posted:

Lots of high school age or immediately post-high-school age boys really are that dense/horny. Ask me how I know

you either were one, knew one, or--and you have my condolences, here--dated one

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:42

nunsexmonkrock: Apr 13, 2008

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for threatening to evict my estranged dad and his family from the house they currently live in?
Some background:

quote:

Meanwhile, his wife got angry and called to scream at me, saying I was being selfish and that I didn’t need the house.

My first though was that I hope they said "Yeah, I don't need the house, that's why I'm selling it."

Sadly not the case

nunsexmonkrock fucked around with this message at 22:51 on Apr 30, 2022

# ? Apr 30, 2022 22:49

tired gay and dead: Apr 4, 2022; by Hand Knit

How the gently caress do you get acetone in your eye? I'll admit that I've never had a manicure or nails painted or anything on account of the fact that I'm a habitual nail-biter and it would be totally wasted money for me, but I feel like your hands are pretty far from your eyes generally??

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:02

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not giving my daughter the haircut she wants?

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My daughter (9) and I have been debating about haircuts for a month now. She has been wanting to shave her head entirely and I've protested that she should start with a shorter cut first. We got her haircut yesterday, and today she is crying and telling me she actually hates the cut and wants to shave it off now.

She's had a shaved head before. During the quarentine she had an asymmetrical cut that grew out. All of the salons in our state were closed due to the pandemic so a running joke between her and her dad ended up becoming a reality.

Truthfully, I wasn't a fan of the idea to shave her head the first time. But I supported her because she wanted it and I believe in bodily autonomy. Then my family members made the whole thing awful. The emotional abuse was so bad that I actually had to block their phone numbers, app profiles, and create a new Facebook.

I might be more for the shave if I didn't also know that there is a bully that picks on her hair and clothes. This has made previous arguments about her clothes make more sense. So now I am also at odds with the fact that she might be doing this as a response to the bullying instead of it being what she actually wants. I would do anything to make her happy, but right now I've taken a stand against a full shave.

AITA?

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:18

CommissarMega: Nov 18, 2008; THUNDERDOME LOSER

haveblue posted:

Lots of high school age or immediately post-high-school age boys really are that dense/horny. Ask me how I know

Sadly, I know, because I was TA when it happened in my school- one of the prefects had a crush on a girl, messed up badly when he confessed to her like it was one of his Japanimations, and both sides paid me to ferry messages between the two of them.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:24

B-Rock452: Jan 6, 2005

Piell posted:

AITA for not giving my daughter the haircut she wants?

Jesus Christ grow a loving spine and stand up for your kid. You never should have gotten to the point where you had to block family members for abuse because you should have unleashed the wrath of God against any shithead family member that gave a loving young child grief over a hair cut.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:28

CitizenKain: May 27, 2001; That was Gary Cooper, asshole.; Nap Ghost

haveblue posted:

Lots of high school age or immediately post-high-school age boys really are that dense/horny. Ask me how I know

Going by this thread, I'm not sure it ends to be honest.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:31

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

B-Rock452 posted:

Jesus Christ grow a loving spine and stand up for your kid. You never should have gotten to the point where you had to block family members for abuse because you should have unleashed the wrath of God against any shithead family member that gave a loving young child grief over a hair cut.

They also suggest the kid is bullied at school over it, ugh. And of course the only solution we can come up with doesn't involve dealing with the bully, because gently caress knows the school won't do poo poo.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:33

tired gay and dead: Apr 4, 2022; by Hand Knit

To be entirely fair, she's not wrong to think that the school will do absolutely nothing about it and the only way out is to not get the offending haircut. Schools don't give a single poo poo about bullying and never have, and depending on where she lives there's a pretty good chance they'd support the bullies and say that the kid deserves it for having a non-gender-conforming haircut.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:37

Troublemaker: Mar 12, 2007

Hughlander posted:

AITA for 'belittling' my friends grief after she named her daughter after my deceased one, and refusing to be her daughters godmother?

Yeah, this selfish, stupid woman is in no way honoring OP's deceased child. She just liked the name and wanted to use it. You typically know when you're doing something this terribly egregious; there's no way she wasn't aware of the pain she was going to cause, which is why she didn't say anything--there's no way she was going to give OP the chance to weigh in on it, because if OP told her she'd be really uncomfortable with her using the name, she'd have to be mature and agree to not use it. Instead, she was fine with knowing the hurt she'd cause just so she could have her way.

It'd be hard enough on OP to just deal with hearing about this little Luli her entire life, but her "friend" actually expects her to be her godmother and be totally involved with everything. I can't think of any way this wouldn't feel like being stabbed in the heart every time someone talks about Luli. gently caress that. There's no way this woman understands the depths of OP's grief to pull something like this and expect OP to just deal with it. OP needs to block the friend and anyone that's going to comment or share Luli's pictures and life updates.

# ? Apr 30, 2022 23:45

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

quantumwell posted:

This guy is so full of poo poo it's almost funny, his personality is totally broken. I can bet you no woman is going to
be forcing themselves on him no matter what he looks like.

OP is gonna be like the open relationship girlfriend of the bi guy who became a cool gym bro while she couldn�t find anyone to gently caress

# ? May 1, 2022 00:01

B-Rock452: Jan 6, 2005

tired gay and dead posted:

To be entirely fair, she's not wrong to think that the school will do absolutely nothing about it and the only way out is to not get the offending haircut. Schools don't give a single poo poo about bullying and never have, and depending on where she lives there's a pretty good chance they'd support the bullies and say that the kid deserves it for having a non-gender-conforming haircut.

I mean it also seems like the person hasn't done anything about it either so we don't even know what the school would do. It really seems they don't want to do anything except pat themselves on the back for supporting body autonomy.

# ? May 1, 2022 00:11

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

OP is gonna be like the open relationship girlfriend of the bi guy who became a cool gym bro while she couldn�t find anyone to gently caress

No she�s moving out tonight in a later post.

# ? May 1, 2022 00:15

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Hughlander posted:

No she�s moving out tonight in a later post.

Yeah and then he finds out that still nobody wants to have sex with him.

Thank god she�s just pulling the plug on this dipshit early

# ? May 1, 2022 00:33

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Husband thanks everyone during his acceptance speech - except me

quote:

My husband of six years (27m) is a basketball coach at a private school, and this year they hosted a big banquet awarding and honoring the staff and teachers for their amazing work. It was a really big deal, and my husband was beyond excited. We�re both invited and attend, and the dozens of speeches began. When my husband finally had his moment to speak, he thanked a bunch of people, talked about his time at the school, the kids on his team, his fellow staff members - but he didn�t mention me (28f) once.

He sits down, I clap for him and smile, but on the way home I didn�t say anything, holding back tears. Everyone else who spoke thanked their partners, why didn�t he say anything about me? I was the one that told him to pursue coaching because I knew it was something he�d love. Had I not been anything but supportive and encouraging, cheering him on every step of the way?

Now, a couple of days later, I feel conflicted. I don�t know if it�s ridiculous to be this upset over a silly little speech, for a night that wasn�t even about me anyway, or if it�s completely valid. My husband has absolutely no idea what he did or that he even hurt me. Should I bring it up to him or let it go? I�m still processing and don�t know how to approach this.

tldr: The school my husband works for held a banquet, during his speech he doesn�t thank me, and now I�m upset and don�t know what to say.

# ? May 1, 2022 00:37

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA, my hill to die on.

quote:

I have a stripper pole in my bedroom because I like to pole dance for fun. Im not very good at it lol- - - but I get better with practice.

I also babysit my 4 year old neice every other weekend fri-sun because my bro and SIL work. I love this arrangement. I get plenty of time with my little love. when she is there I dont practice on it. But its a pain in the rear end to get down so I just leave it. My neice asked my what is was for so instead of lying I told her i use it for excerise. when her mom was working out at home yesterday she suggested that she excerise on the spinny pole that auntie has in her room. My sil freaked out and told me when her daughter is here I am too take the pole away and its not optional.

I said no obviously. Because shes 4 and doesn't know its a stripper pole she doesn't know what a stripper is, she just knows that I exercise on it. My Sil has a long history of being demanding when it comes to my neice. so now shes threatening to stop my time with her. I am willing to make this my hill to die on because I keep her over night for free. But now I leave my bro without childcare when they need it the most, I just want him to have his wife calm down.

# ? May 1, 2022 00:41

Troublemaker: Mar 12, 2007

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

Yeah and then he finds out that still nobody wants to have sex with him.

Thank god she�s just pulling the plug on this dipshit early

No doubt. When your partner tells you what a hard time they're having resisting all the people who are throwing themselves at them, you know when (not if) they cheat they're going to say they warned you.

# ? May 1, 2022 00:42

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Mx. posted:

Husband thanks everyone during his acceptance speech - except me

drat that was a good spoiler lol

# ? May 1, 2022 00:48

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Mx. posted:

Husband thanks everyone during his acceptance speech - except me

# ? May 1, 2022 01:09

Tendales: Mar 9, 2012

Mx. posted:

Husband thanks everyone during his acceptance speech - except me

Clevin?

# ? May 1, 2022 01:13

SirSamVimes: Jul 21, 2008; ~* Challenge *~

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

drat that was a good spoiler lol

I don't get it

# ? May 1, 2022 01:28

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for reporting my cold coworker?

quote:

So I (33f) have been working at a medical co for 8 mths. Since I've started I've noticed a coworker- Blair (30ishF) is cold & not social (she never goes out to lunch when our bosses take us out, or attend events). She does laugh and joke with other coworkers, but not with me.

I've noticed she receives special treatment: has largest office, sets her own hours, and never has to answer the phones. She also gets to work from home when no one else is allowed to.

I questioned this, and was told she's been there for over 12 yrs, does their websites, licensing, contracting, inventory, checks over all the billing, and works several accounts. Our boss also says she has some type of personality disorder where she doesn't like to interact with other people but that she has a high IQ. Anyways, since she's such a 'genius' they have everyone put all orders worked in her tray before they are billed and if there are errors she's supposed to give them back to us to fix.

I'm being trained by another, but she's not very good at it and Blair catches a lot of my errors and will email detailing what they are and asking me fix them. She's never out right rude and will tell me what needs to be fixed, but I would prefer for her to come to me in person so that I can learn better that way. At first, she did do that, but then went back to emails.

I complained to our boss (owner) and nothing changed. She continued to send errors by email. She also started being even more cold by not saying 'hi' when I saw her in the halls. So I complained again. And nothing changed. After the 4th or so complaint, the owners pulled us into a meeting and I explained how I felt Blair is cold, and not friendly. I also said I would prefer her to take the time to go over these errors in person so I can learn from her. Blair said that she's not there to train me, and that she's too busy. Which the owners seemed to accept.

After work that day I caught her in the parking lot and flat out asked her what her deal was, and she laughed and said she never was intentionally being cold to me, but that after I reported her to the owners so many times she began to dislike me. I asked why, and then she got really frustrated and said that her job isn't to babysit 'f*ckt*rds' who cry to the boss when their feelings get hurt. She then basically told me she doesn't care how I feel and that I need to move on.

My husband thinks I'm the AH for reporting her instead of speaking with her directly (but she's so cold she's intimidating) so I never felt comfortable doing that. Am I the AH or is she?

# ? May 1, 2022 01:36

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

God forbid someone just wants to do their job lol

# ? May 1, 2022 01:42

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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But... I'm me! I'd want to help me, and say hi to me...

# ? May 1, 2022 01:58

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for reporting my cold coworker?

Wow guess Blair just doesn't understand how a team of millennials are supposed to behave at work.

# ? May 1, 2022 01:58

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Dang It Bhabhi! posted:

She should just shoot off a flare gun indicating her dislike.

She should shoot a flare gun right into his crotch and then make s'mores over the bonfire that used to be his genitals.

# ? May 1, 2022 01:59

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for reporting my cold coworker?

blair rules

# ? May 1, 2022 02:00

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# ? May 30, 2024 18:20

Pigsfeet on Rye: Oct 22, 2008; I'm meat on the hoof

Hughlander posted:

No she�s moving out tonight in a later post.

"You�re right, I am moving out tonight. To be fair I was financing his image before he showed me who he really is. When you love someone you help where you can. But he will be paying for his own Invisalign�s going forward."

He sounds similar to guys who lose a ton of weight, but haven't dealt with their self image yet. Suddenly the interest that's attracted is different and they don't know what to do with it. This is going to take some time before he's used to it.

"A friend told me it may be that he sees me leveling myself up physically, mentally and financially for the past year. He may be jealous and making it seem like he has so many prospects and it�s just so difficult to turn them down. But to me it sounds like a lack of self control and idk how to trust that it won�t go further than it just being difficult for him to turn down anyone who looks his way."

What situation? You two don't have the same preferences. He wants a non-exclusive relationship and you want an exclusive one. Break up.

"Funny part is I stooped down to his level and told him well I guess I will respond to the sexy men in my inbox since it�s so hard to turn down ppl while in a relationship. He went ballistic calling me corny and desperate. But I am moving out tonight."

# ? May 1, 2022 02:13

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