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AITA for expecting my gf not to charge me rent when she owns?quote:My gf and I have been living together in a rented apartment but she ended up finding a condo that she bought. She asked me if I liked it when we toured it together but I had no involvement in the purchase of it and my name is not on the deed. We moved there together and she wants me to pay rent when she doesn’t even rent, she owns. She wants me to pay $600 a month to live in her condo and I don’t think this is fair because she’s not renting anymore. She told me if I wasn’t happy with that amount we could live separately and I could go back to renting for twice the price and she’s using that as an ultimatum. She never said I’d have to pay rent when moving into the condo even though we shared expenses renting but we were renting now she’s an owner. She’s saying that she’s giving me a fair half and I think she’s taking advantage of me charging me a lot to live with her
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sexpig by night posted:yea man it's almost like it's a hosed up thing to say with no good reads, great catch, blew the case wide open, gumshoe
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May 2, 2022 03:37
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Mx. posted:AITA for expecting my gf not to charge me rent when she owns? This is a great reason to break up tbh. If you don't agree on what's fair/what will work as a couple, then you're not compatible.
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May 2, 2022 03:38
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Mx. posted:AITA for expecting my gf not to charge me rent when she owns? Don't condos have a ton of fees? Wouldn't surprise me if she was still paying mortgage too.
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Mr. Lobe posted:Don't condos have a ton of fees? Wouldn't surprise me if she was still paying mortgage too. yeah whether she owns outright or has a mortgage changes the situation a bit in my opinion, but ultimately if he doesn't want to pay to live somewhere he should explore other options like
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May 2, 2022 03:46
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Nae posted:yeah whether she owns outright or has a mortgage changes the situation a bit in my opinion, but ultimately if he doesn't want to pay to live somewhere he should explore other options like Going home to momma, homeless shelter, or cardboard box Do hare krshnas pay rent?
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May 2, 2022 03:48
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Mr. Lobe posted:Don't condos have a ton of fees? Wouldn't surprise me if she was still paying mortgage too. She's bought in cash and apparently OP thinks that not having a mortgage is equivalent to $0 rent. OP doesn't understand taxes, insurance, condo fees, assessments, maintenance and upkeep, appliance replacement, and whatnot all adds up.
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Guildenstern Mother posted:I took it as he'll be making the birth control choices but I'm dangerously prone to giving the most charitable interpretation possible so it's probably way more likely it's a threat. There is no charitable interpretation. Him making the birth control choices is him telling her she gets no say in the relationship, her health decisions, or her life or reproductive choices. She has no bodily autonomy and no right of refusal. Everything about this screams abusive. He's telling her now that her decision not to have children doesn't matter, that she has no say in whether she gets pregnant, gives birth, and has to raise kids she doesn't want. The fact that he agreed with her earlier means that 1) his words mean nothing; 2) he said whatever he needed to in order to get her into a relationship but he'll go back on it now that he's "got" her (see #1, he'll say poo poo and make promises he has no intention of keeping; his words mean nothing); and 3) he doesn't take her seriously; she said she didn't want kids, but he can change her mind or run right over her desires to get what he wants. Of course, that's ignoring all the other screaming red flags, like him basically telling her to shut up and only speak when he's given her permission. The fact that he's so comfortable being an overbearing dickhead to her in front of his own mother means he sees nothing whatsoever wrong with the way he's speaking to her and treating her. He has zero respect for her, acts like he owns her and she doesn't get to have her own opinions or make her own decisions, and he's entirely comfortable with everyone knowing that. Girlfriend needs to run far and fast. It's three months in; his real personality and behavior is coming out and it's only going to get worse. EDIT: gently caress, I just reread the post and it's so much worse than I remembered. This part: quote:My boyfriend keep squeezing my hand under the table and kinda glaring at me. He said that I should stop being a kid and just grow tf up. I got angry at this and told him I can't stop acting like a kid because he doesn't stop treating me like one. We went back and forth and he told his mother "Ignore everything, I'll deal with her when I get home". I tried to say something and he asked me to leave the table. His mom told me to finish my food but he said there's no need for me to eat. Is horrifying. Motherfucker is pissed that she dare have an opinion that wasn't his, which is disrespectful (because only his opinion matters). He literally sent her away from the table and said she doesn't need to eat. Controlling AF. He definitely treats her like a child, and expects her to obey like one, yet demands that she "grow up." What would that look like, other than standing up for herself, which is totally unacceptable to him because any dissent is disrespectful to him? Note that he doesn't need to be respectful of her; he treats her like a child to be punished and trained to be obedient and only speak when and what he allows. Then: quote:We left home and the whole drive he called me names and told me I was disrespectful. He kept telling me that nobody has ever disrespected him like that. He told me that we don't have conversations at the dinner table and I've got no manners because I fought at the dinner table. He told me that we could've had the conversation at home and I should've just kept my mouth shut when he was asking me to. He told me women in his house were always submissive to their husbands and I need to learn. He's on a tirade calling her names, yet saying she's disrespectful. He flat-out tells her to be submissive, which he's going to make her learn; he's already started by punishing her for speaking up. She was bitched out and made to sleep on the couch, so he can teach her a lesson. His mother has put up with this poo poo from her husband and seems to accept that's just the way her son is going to be, too. gently caress all of that. Girlfriend had better hit the streets fast because this is going to get ugly (uglier) fast now that he's let his real self show. If she sees how he really is and sticks around trying to please him it'll never end. There is no amount of submission and appeasement that'll satisfy a guy like this. Troublemaker fucked around with this message at 04:30 on May 2, 2022 |
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May 2, 2022 04:15
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Hughlander posted:AITA for suggesting my boyfriend wouldn't understand my work? quote:He's a bar-tender. He isn't rich but I certainly agree that he has skills that I don't and he is generally more self-sufficient and resourceful. quote:That may be true, he has mentioned that his friends who are in relationships tend to integrate with each other's friendship groups and it bothers him that I haven't tried to do that. To me, it seems normal to have separate lives outside the relationship. quote:I don't think he's stupid. He is less educated, that's just a basic fact. He is a lovely person and he has a lot of qualities that I'm sure I lack, but he isn't academic and he doesn't do particularly well with serious or technical discussions. He's even said himself that it makes him "feel stupid" so although I admit I was harsher than I should have been, I really don't understand why this came as a surprise to him. quote:I am not a "professor", I am a researcher. I sometimes supervise post-graduate research but I do not teach undergraduates. I also did not say I was "incapable" of explaining, I just didn't have the patience to do so at the time and it would have completely derailed the conversation I was trying to have. Feel like the fact the Ph.D isn't teaching goes a long way to explain his inability to talk to his 2 decades younger BF with respect.
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May 2, 2022 04:23
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Mx. posted:AITA for expecting my gf not to charge me rent when she owns? For me it all depends on whether the partner is making a profit off his rent.
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May 2, 2022 04:33
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Dear At A Loss, If your friend had been able to think of anything nice to say about your writing, she would have said it. Take a hint. Arsenic. Gimme my syndication money, dammit.
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May 2, 2022 04:38
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Ravenfood posted:You might be last to pick vacation, but everywhere I've worked has asked me if I have plans already scheduled around certain dates and put them on beforehand specifically for that reason! Yeah, if you schedule the vacation after getting the job you shoulda known better but we can't just put our lives on hold while hoping someone decides to hire us.
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May 2, 2022 05:04
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Dear At A Loss, I uh, appreciated, uh, your commitment to girth.
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May 2, 2022 05:05
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not being "submissive" and fighting while having dinner? I thought we didn't post stories about abuse. There's nothing to mock and are just sad. They seem to be posted here more and more.
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May 2, 2022 05:12
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AITA for favoring one of our nieces?quote:I (F37) am from a very large family. I have 10 siblings(including half and step siblings) and i hated having such a large family so i decided to stay child free and so did my brothers Owen(M38) and Elias(M42). The 3 of us decided to live together. We work hard and managed to make a considerable amount of money.
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May 2, 2022 05:24
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Hughlander posted:AITA for favoring one of our nieces? There are a lot of legal steps in that process that sound like they either didn't happen or he is straight up lying to her. I don't know what "give up the 10 year old affair child and never see her again" requires but I'd be absolutely loving shocked any judge would sign off on it.
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May 2, 2022 05:31
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pentyne posted:There are a lot of legal steps in that process that sound like they either didn't happen or he is straight up lying to her. If both parents are on board, you might be surprised. Mom doesn't want visitation and dad doesn't want child support? It's basically settled at that.
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May 2, 2022 05:33
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Hughlander posted:AITA for favoring one of our nieces? She was trying to save her marriage and one of the steps to do so was to get rid of the child. That's a new one! Usually it's have a child to save the marriage
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May 2, 2022 05:46
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AITA for refusing to have my tattoo removed even if it makes my future husband uncomfortable and insecure?quote:I was a widow for 3 years before I met my fiancé (Julius). I lost my husband and 4 year old son on a boating accident. When I got back on my feet after losing them, I had their names tattooed on my chest. Nothing grand, it's just their names in cursive and two hearts. Hopefully he doesn't take a hammer to the tattoos the way the other dude did to the rings...
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May 2, 2022 05:59
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nashona posted:I thought we didn't post stories about abuse. There's nothing to mock and are just sad. They seem to be posted here more and more. This is a story about someone who is thankfully going to get out before the abuse because of the fact that the guy can't hide his colossal red flags I hope Also there is absolutely something to mock: The guy who thinks women don't get opinions
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May 2, 2022 06:07
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Hughlander posted:AITA for favoring one of our nieces? Oh my god, gently caress you lady. Goddamn, gently caress you.
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SirSamVimes posted:This is a story about someone who is thankfully going to get out before the abuse because of the fact that the guy can't hide his colossal red flags I hope no one's mocking it. it's just horrifying and misogynistic. men controlling women, should be mockable, but it's usually just a bunch of  and acid vats. the post above led to a debate on how he's going to rape her or not to get her pregnant, that's not funny.
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May 2, 2022 06:52
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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to have my tattoo removed even if it makes my future husband uncomfortable and insecure? I love how he just takes for granted that she's going to get rid of them. No conversation, just an assumption that now that he's her "man" she doesn't need the reminders of her loss
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May 2, 2022 06:54
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nashona posted:no one's mocking it. it's just horrifying and misogynistic. Have to say, this is a very good argument for not posting stories like this.
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Captain Hygiene posted:Don't they put hand and foot prints on the birth certificate? Or maybe my brain is just making that up based on some other vague memory. It was an episode of Full House
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AITA for refusing to pay for my SILs fertility treatment?quote:I (32M) am very wealthy. I sold my startup to a big company 10 years ago and invested my money well since. My wife (33F) and I have been together since high school. We have 5 kids (13F, 8F, twins 4M and 1F). We had our first baby young and were flat broke, unplanned, not ready etc. We made it work and luckily, I really succeeded financially afterwards. We made a deal back then that we would not have more kids unless we have the money to give them a nice life. We wanted a big family and since we have the money now, we were able to make our dream come true. My wife's sister (46F) is single, childless and does okay financially, but is not rich. She wants a baby and the treatments to cause her fertility issues would be almost 100.000 dollars total. It's more than she can afford. She asked us for the money a few weeks ago and my wife and I have been discussing it. She texts her or me every couple of days to "check on our deal". Yesterday the family way at our place for my 13yro's birthday and my SIL just blurts out "you two were poor when you had her, why won't you help me have one now that you're rich?" I told her to please let it go right now and we will talk about it in private. She called me a selfish and entitled AH in front of both our families. I got angry and told her that now she is for sure not getting our money.
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There is no need to post stories of no poo poo abuse, even if it is to mock the abuser. They ain’t seeing you dunking on them. If it’s a matter of not seeing a post where someone is abusive, that does happen - abuse, of any type, can be pretty loving insidious. That’ll happen. Regardless: be smart. Make fun of people sharting themselves while pontificating on tipping entirely with nickels at a wedding. On Tuesday. While taking nips of a hand that is feeding you gross greasy ranch potatoes (no I am not over it, and I have compiled a list goons who went “oh it couldn’t be that bad” who are first against the wall)
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teen witch posted:While taking nips of a hand that is feeding you gross greasy ranch potatoes (no I am not over it, and I have compiled a list goons who went “oh it couldn’t be that bad” who are first against the wall) The best thing about the ranch potatoes was the guy loving up the OPs potatoes whenever he got the chance too. Like, OK, cool, if you're cooking I guess you get control of the potatoes but crashing into the kitchen to dump cups of ranch dressing into the already prepared potatoes was a special kind of madness.
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AITA for eating the last cake egg?quote:So for easter my (17f) mum makes these really cool things where she takes an egg and blows out the yoke then pours cake mixture inside and then bakes them. So you peel off the shell and it’s cake. We also dye the eggs. We haven’t done this for the past few years but this year my mum and I decided to.
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Fil5000 posted:The best thing about the ranch potatoes was the guy loving up the OPs potatoes whenever he got the chance too. Like, OK, cool, if you're cooking I guess you get control of the potatoes but crashing into the kitchen to dump cups of ranch dressing into the already prepared potatoes was a special kind of madness. wait what the gently caress I kinda love stories of people's cooking derangements. One of those cases where people barge in wild-eyed and begin just smashing everything with a sledgehammer while screaming 'I'M HELPING!'
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How does anyone care that much about stale rear end two-week old cake?
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AITA for refusing access to my food?quote:There are 4 of us in the house. if only sherlock holmes was real and could solve this diabolical case of which housemate stole all of op's food
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Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:How does anyone care that much about stale rear end two-week old cake? Hey its me, the guy who likes stale cakes 
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Ghost Leviathan posted:wait what the gently caress Dug the post out of the reddit archive: quote:My husband is a chef. Started as a line cook some years back and slowly worked his way up so now he is working in a 3 star restaurant as a chef. I'm not saying my husband is a bad cook, because obviously he isnt. A lot of his dishes are delicious but one thing that is absolutely terrible is his potatoes. And let me be clear and tell you I'm being 100% truthful when I tell you that potatoes and spaghetti is all this man wants to eat.
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If I remember correctly the havarti-ranch potatoes guy was, to no surprise, a chain smoker.
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pentyne posted:Does he reveal it in the comments because I would bet it's something like history or philosophy. Barudak posted:Its gonna be communications Close but no cigar: quote:Editing to clarify some points a lot of commenter are making:
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Cureall posted:Close but no cigar: ahahahaha
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Billie Jean is not my loverDear Prudie posted:Dear Prudence,
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axolotl farmer posted:Billie Jean is not my lover Uh, well first, don't gently caress your cousin which I notice you never once deny
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