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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for hanging up on my homeless brother? Hmmmm On one hand, he was abused and homeless and he's sixteen and also my brother and he could take the couch On the other, "kids" like my sixteen-year-old brother are slightly inconvenient to live with
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Khanstant posted:People get weirdly hostile to the suggestion that kids be taught a non-verbal language in school, for all the, what I assumed would be obvious, benefits. The loudest response are usually people arguing there aren't enough deaf people to even consider trying to spend money teaching kids to talk to them. First of all, suggestion has nothing to do with talking to deaf people and everything to do with the fact that it would be useful to communicate with other people non-verbally. gently caress, just being able to sign a drink order at a bartender at a concert would be a blessing. But no, can never suggest improving education, especially not if it might inadvertently improve the world for someone else for even a moment. I appreciate that my husband's high school offered ASL as foreign language credit. His HS best friend has used it as a bartender/server with deaf customers, and it just seems really lovely to be able to go to a place as a deaf person and the bartender can at least (in his rusty high school ASL) understand "another, please" or "no thanks." My high school only offered Spanish, French, and Latin, and the second two aren't super useful in the US I'm learning Spanish on an app, and not only has my eavesdropping gotten MUCH better, but I've managed to have a few conversations with folks that I'm sure made no difference to them but just really made my week.
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May 10, 2022 03:27
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Foo Diddley posted:it seems like the good dads are a bit rarer than the good moms ITT, but i'm not sure if i'm being objective here It’s hard to say given whatever factors that might affect who would post about this stuff on the internet. When you go to more extreme examples of mistreatment by a parent’s new partner, it is extremely common for moms to allow someone to abuse their kid and just sit by and let it happen. My mother worked in a medical clinic that put her in contact with victims of pretty horrific abuse that left them with lasting signs that she would then need to report. It was nearly always “mom’s boyfriend” because the kid was “acting up” or “wouldn’t stop crying.” It is probably far more common in general for people to either be the type of person who wouldn’t be with someone who mistreats their kid in the first place, or to be the type of person who is willing to let it happen.
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May 10, 2022 03:31
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AITA for not buying clothes for my mother and leaving her at the store?quote:So my (18F) mother (33F) has a huge love for shopping. Her closet is a burst of colors and it’s cute but it’s also troubling. Atleast once a month, she’ll call me at the store and ask me to come and give her money. I’d say no but it’s literally after she gave her stuff to the cashier and they ring up the cost. She doesn’t bring money to the store. She’d wait in the front of the line or keep calling me until I come with the money for her. Either that or she stays in the back of the line. Anyway, she’ll blow up my phone
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May 10, 2022 03:40
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for not buying clothes for my mother and leaving her at the store? Is the mom actually the daughter 
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May 10, 2022 03:42
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AITA for forcing out a fart to get my mom to stop asking my girlfriend invasive questions infront of the whole family?quote:I know what it sounds like but I swear it's a desperate situation. colour me impressed
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May 10, 2022 04:00
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for not buying clothes for my mother and leaving her at the store? Mom had the kid when the mom was 15 
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May 10, 2022 04:17
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Mx. posted:sometimes it's about not jeopardizing the beans It’s always about not jeapordizing the beans you fool!
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May 10, 2022 04:55
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AITA for not going to my sister's 30th birthday dinner because they didn't invite my girlfriendquote:Things between my girlfriend Paige( who is 24, as am I) and my family are very sour and have been for the 7 months we've dated. They don't like her, she doesn't like them. My mom isn't one to hide her feelings, neither is my sister, nor is Paige so, getting them all together is like entering a mine field thats just all mines. They think Paige is a stuck up, image obsessed, spoiled, rich girl who never accomplished anything. To be fair, there are times where my girlfriend has said stuff that comes off tone deaf, but, I explain after the fact what the issue was. When asked about the "tone-deaf" questions..... OP posted:She asks my mom why she doesn't buy " nice waters" instead of water from the faucet, and asks my sister why she doesn't buy nicer brands of clothes. I pull her to the side and tell her why what she says comes off rude, she apologizes to me and we try to move on.
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May 10, 2022 04:57
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not going to my sister's 30th birthday dinner because they didn't invite my girlfriend Solid work on Paige's end for only being seven months in, gotta respect that effort
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May 10, 2022 05:00
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AITA for not attending a dinner my sister's throwing for Mother's Day?quote:My wife and I suffer from fertility issues. We've had only two successful pregnancies, resulting in a boy and a girl. Our son was stillborn and our daughter died at two months. Although our children are no longer with us, I still consider us to be parents.
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May 10, 2022 05:03
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:AITA for not attending a dinner my sister's throwing for Mother's Day? "accused my wife of being self-centered and making everything about her" Easy way to avoid that is to not single them out
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May 10, 2022 05:06
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Mx. posted:AITA for forcing out a fart to get my mom to stop asking my girlfriend invasive questions infront of the whole family? This OP is destined for greatness.
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May 10, 2022 05:06
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:AITA for not attending a dinner my sister's throwing for Mother's Day? she does not have good intentions with the gift
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May 10, 2022 05:10
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Good god at the redditor WELL TECHNICALLYing her state of motherhood 
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May 10, 2022 05:19
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Mx. posted:AITA for accidentally wearing white to a wedding? AITA for wearing all white to my best friend’s wedding? And refusing to apologize quote:My (30F) best friend (32F) invited us (husband and I) to go on vacation with them at S padre island. She told me to bring the dress I wore to my last annivarsary dinner for the special dinner/event she planned during the vacation. I said sure.
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May 10, 2022 06:16
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DeeplyConcerned posted:It makes more sense if you assume the intelligence of these people is basically equivalent to a dog. if you leave a bowl of chocolate on the floor and a dog mindlessly wolfs it down and dies it's sort of your fault. in much the same way you're responsible for making sure your dumb as a dog coworker does not mindlessly stick his face into whatever you're trying to eat. Was a serial food thief who came up a while back who when cornered eventually turned out to have been raised with no concept of boundaries with food, and had to be patiently taught the whole concept that people in the real world actually respect other people's property and don't snatch food out of each others' hands. Also the whole weirdly aggressive social aspects of weddings came up enough with nosy aunts playing Pregnancy Gestapo, but surprise weddings? Decorum is a horrible trap.
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May 10, 2022 06:33
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not going to my sister's 30th birthday dinner because they didn't invite my girlfriend The comments are furtherly illuminating. quote:Aside from the way she looks, what “great” qualities does she have? Being a rude, selfish, snobby bully makes it really hard for me to imagine she has any real redeeming qualities. OP posted:When she's around me, unless she's mad at me, we have a blast together and in those times she's fun, sweet, and loving. quote:Oh, so she's fun, sweet and loving as long as everything is going her way? What happens when she gets mad at you? OP posted:pouting, silent treatments, ghosting for a few days. And: quote:How often is she getting mad at you in a 7 month relationship? You haven’t even left the honeymoon period yet OP posted:every once in awhile, when she thinks I'm being harsh. quote:Would "being harsh" include standing up for yourself and your family? Have you now programmed yourself to stop "being harsh" to avoid her tantrums? OP posted:I've basically learned which buzzwords will set her off quote:So you walk on eggshells? And what buzzwords "set her off"? OP posted:spoiled, entitled, pampered, self centered To sum up: Abort! Aboooooooooort!
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also I should actually post some content AITA for donating candy that I got from dumpster diving to my child's classroom? quote:Throwaway because I don't want anyone to find my real account.
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May 10, 2022 06:38
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Quackles posted:To sum up: Abort! Aboooooooooort! She has to be an unbelievable smoke show to stick around.
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May 10, 2022 06:52
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You're all so wrong about the acid vat. That's a horrible idea. Why would you do that? What you want is a vat full of piranha solution.
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Captain Hygiene posted:Good god at the redditor WELL TECHNICALLYing her state of motherhood eh, if you are at an all day event with people with a common interest you probably going to want to talk about the common interest everyone has. Is it really going to be a good relaxing day talking about (amongst other things) how kids behave, how silly little ones are, their first words, old stories of hijinx and challenges when it is quite possible it would be a social faux pas to reminisce living kids around a someone that has only experienced miscarriages? They probably don't want to have an entire day where they would feel awkward to mention their living children at a family day (say as opposed to a race meet or show jumping where you can talk cars or horses all day). VVVV ahh ok, yeah that's different VVVVV Electric Wrigglies fucked around with this message at 08:07 on May 10, 2022 |
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I think Captain Hygiene was referring to the rear end in a top hat who didn't get his wife anything for Mother's Day because her 7-year-old died a few months ago and he was like, "Well, TECHNICALLY you're not a mother anymore, so . . . "
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vortmax posted:You're all so wrong about the acid vat. That's a horrible idea. Why would you do that? Is this something that you could bottle and apply an effective amount without the hassle of lugging a whole vat around? This could be a real time-saver for people in this thread!
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May 10, 2022 08:28
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vortmax posted:You're all so wrong about the acid vat. That's a horrible idea. Why would you do that? quote:Piranha solution, also known as piranha etch, is a mixture of sulfuric acid (H2SO4) and hydrogen peroxide (H2O2) So an acid vat then....
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AITA for asking my friend’s boyfriend to buy me tampons?quote:A few days ago, I (20F) started my period and I completely forgot to buy more tampons after my last period so I only had a couple left and I was also on a tight schedule so I didn’t have much free time to run to the store.
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May 10, 2022 10:18
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Motronic posted:The best way to piss off posters who talk about their "LDR" is to ask them to define it: you live an hour apart and see each other most weekends? Nope, never that one. It was mine - well, more like 3 hours by train, and we've been married six years now. But then I've never posted on r/relationships, to be fair.
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If it wasn’t for an LDR with a goon, I’d have never become a Swedish citizen. We’re friends now, but I say if you can handle it, go for it. Despite the ending it was absolutely worth it.
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Quackles posted:To sum up: Abort! Aboooooooooort! I like how she gets furious when a anybody uses words to describe her behavior.
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WIBTA if I failed my student because she speaks with different dialect than I teach (language degree)?quote:We are having exams coming up and I have a huge moral dilemma. I am a lecturer at a university and one of the subjects I teach is related to phonology and pronunciation. We teach our students Castillan Spanish.
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Funktastic posted:WIBTA if I failed my student because she speaks with different dialect than I teach (language degree)? Yeah you are excellent but because I hate the people where your dialect is from, I gotta fail you sorry this is the way it is.
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therobit posted:It’s hard to say given whatever factors that might affect who would post about this stuff on the internet. When you go to more extreme examples of mistreatment by a parent’s new partner, it is extremely common for moms to allow someone to abuse their kid and just sit by and let it happen. My mother worked in a medical clinic that put her in contact with victims of pretty horrific abuse that left them with lasting signs that she would then need to report. It was nearly always “mom’s boyfriend” because the kid was “acting up” or “wouldn’t stop crying.” It's because men know that single mothers are usually looking for a father figure and tend to want to settle down more quickly and likely miss red flags. They'll also be more reluctant to end the relationship because they don't want to upend the kid's life again. The only problem is that the kid exists in the first place. vortmax posted:You're all so wrong about the acid vat. That's a horrible idea. Why would you do that? That's literally an acid vat you fool.
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May 10, 2022 12:55
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Mx. posted:AITA for asking my friend’s boyfriend to buy me tampons? How are there so many people that don't seem to understand what tampons actually are or how they work, even women? We can't go more than a few days without someone reacting like it's a box of dildos.
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May 10, 2022 13:32
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Mx. posted:AITA for asking my friend’s boyfriend to buy me tampons? I expected this to be the bf going ewwww no but no the twist is he was just a normal person about it and the gf is freaked out about him buying hygiene products for someone else. Also thinking that asking someone to buy tampons... is flirting??  I don't know what the hell she thinks her tampons are for but they sure as hell aren't sexy for everyone else
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:How are there so many people that don't seem to understand what tampons actually are or how they work, even women? We can't go more than a few days without someone reacting like it's a box of dildos. American sex ed sucks and a lot of parents aren't up to covering for them
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There's also the toxic masculinity aspect. Boys are constantly asked if they're wearing a tampon or pad or if they're on their period when they don't want to bully the gay kid or throw rocks at cars or play chicken on the railroad tracks.
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May 10, 2022 14:03
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It's because she feels that taking care of someone's intimate needs is something a partner does, not a casual friend. People have varying levels of how intimate they consider something like menstruation, and some people feel it's a normal everyday thing and some people feel like taking care of that for someone is sort of like taking care of them when they're sick - an indicator of intimacy. I understand there's some doozies in the thread sometimes, but that doesn't mean we need to be totally shocked by fairly run-of-the-mill awkward human behavior about private bodily functions and the shifting boundaries that exist regarding those.
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Funktastic posted:WIBTA if I failed my student because she speaks with different dialect than I teach (language degree)? This reminds me of how my first Spanish teacher was from Mexico and my second was from Spain, and then I finished up highschool with the one from Mexico again and now I have no idea when I'm saying anything right
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I'm honestly kinda shocked at how no one is flinching at 'someone was at the store so I sent him on a task for me' bc to me that's actually what's most insane IMO. Who hears that an acquaintance is shopping and thinks 'ok cool now they can do a chore for ME' but then I have a partner who is my family who does these things so I probably take that for granted, to me that's something I ask my partner not some random friend out at a store
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Chocolate Bunny posted:I expected this to be the bf going ewwww no but no the twist is he was just a normal person about it and the gf is freaked out about him buying hygiene products for someone else. Also thinking that asking someone to buy tampons... is flirting?? "Th-thank you for buying my tampons, step-brother! Now I need some help putting them in!"  is probably an entire porn genre...
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