Pigsfeet on Rye posted:

Q. Are We Not Men?
A: We Are Manchilds!

AceClown posted:

that has to be the worst emojii I've seen on SA yet

edit: in before "turn your monitor on"

quote:

My fiancée and I recently had a couples shower. My family was invited despite some previous issues. The issues were mainly with my mom and her husband, not so much my sister (19). It was a little tense, but it seemed like a good olive branch because my fiancée will also be having a traditional bridal shower and didn't want them there.

It was a casual BBQ type event. My sister wore jeans, a white crop top, and pink sandals. I thought nothing of it, until my wife and future MIL pulled me aside and said that any type of white was bad form, and with the history they felt she was being disrespectful. My MIL pointed out that even if she gave my sister the benefit of the doubt, my mom definitely knew and should have stopped her.

We called my sister over and immediately she got an attitude about we're crazy and she can do whatever she wants. My MIL called my mom over and my mom asked if my fiancée was really this insecure. My fiancée said it was about respect and that if my sister didn't know she could at least take it gracefully. at this point my fiancée began crying and asked my sister to leave, because she was rolling her eyes. She said she is sick of feeling ganged up on and she knows my mom secretly wants to ruin the wedding.

My mom called us both loving stupid, and my MIL said my sister needed to leave. Suddenly my mom and her husband are yelling at me, calling my in laws new money for throwing too many parties, calling my fiancée jealous of my sister. Before I could even process my mom grabbed my sister and left, and now my sister has me blocked on everything. I thought I did the right thing but all of my friends have been giving me poo poo

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for backing my fiancée when she asked my sister to leave our shower over her outfit?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for backing my fiancée when she asked my sister to leave our shower over her outfit?

CharlestheHammer posted:

I…..don’t understand what’s happening there

AceClown posted:

that has to be the worst emojii I've seen on SA yet

edit: in before "turn your monitor on"

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for backing my fiancée when she asked my sister to leave our shower over her outfit?

quote:

"with the history they felt she was being disrespectful"
"it was about respect and that if my sister didn't know she could at least take it gracefully"

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for backing my fiancée when she asked my sister to leave our shower over her outfit?

Biplane posted:

drat, everyone you know including yourself sucks

quote:

Throwaway, names changed.

Me and my fiance Jack (29F and 38M) are getting married in a couple of months. I have 6 bridesmaids, including Jack's sister Mary and my cousin Cassie (25F). Jack has another sister, Anne (31 F) who wasn't invited to the wedding originally because of some family issues - this conflict has now been resolved and we later gave Anne a invite. Now, I initially planned to ask both Mary and Anne if they wanted to be bridesmaids, but obviously because of the issue with Anne I didn't end up asking her. Anne is now saying that she should be a bridesmaid as well, and while it's a bit last minute, I do think she should be bridesmaid since I was originally going to ask her anyway.

I still only want 6 bridesmaids, so I asked Cassie if she would step down so Anne could be in it. I told her I knew it was unexpected, we would compensate for her dress that has already been ordered and she was still invited as a regular guest. Cassie seemed confused and asked why I had asked her to be bridesmaid to begin with, to which i explained the scenario with Anne and that she deserves the spot more. Cassie eventually agreed - I thought that was the end of that, but some of my other bridesmaids said that I was being unfair to Cassie by 'kicking her out' and that I should apologize to her. I got mad at that because I didn't think I did anything wrong, perhaps not ideal but not wrong so i called Cassie and asked if she'd been badmouthing me to the other girls. She replied that she 'just said the truth' about me 'kicking' her out, to which I said that it wasn't her place to say it and I would've told them. Cassie argued that they had a right to know, I said that she was acting privileged and it isn't her right to be my bridesmaid. Jack and his family think I did the right thing by standing my ground, but my mom gave me poo poo for being harsh to Cassie, AITA?

(The reason I asked Cassie specifically to step down is because she was my last choice for bridesmaid anyway when I didn't ask Anne, and I've had some issues with her before)

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[–]dolomike_824

I can’t believe you typed all that out and didn’t come to the conclusion YTA by yourself


[–]baltimoron21211

Less self-awareness than a toaster oven.


[–]shawslate

I don’t know, that’s not being very fair to the toaster oven. Mine has a timer, so it knows when to stop, whereas OP does not seem to.

Kuros posted:

Who likes seeing OP get roasted in the comments? I do!

AITA for asking my cousin to step down as bridesmaid?

Comments:

Plenty more roasts in other comments.

Vim Fuego posted:

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for backing my fiancée when she asked my sister to leave our shower over her outfit?

Akratic Method posted:

what the gently caress even is this?

Akratic Method posted:

what the gently caress even is this?

Akratic Method posted:

what the gently caress even is this?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I’m pretty sure it’s from downtown.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

I think...? I'm siding with the guys mom? But it feels weird and icky?

Akratic Method posted:

what the gently caress even is this?

Akratic Method posted:

what the gently caress even is this?

El Spamo posted:

dynamite going boom

quote:

{Throwaway because I know my bf occasionally uses Reddit.}

So last week, I(19F) and my boyfriend(32M) live in a apartment currently, and he decided to host a “Boys-Get together.” at our apartment.

I didn’t know this at the time, so I was kinda surprised at the sudden guests in our home, but I managed to shake it off as he kinda has a tendency to spring up things at the moment.

It was like a hour or two into the whole get-together when I was just sitting on the couch scrolling on my tablet when he pulled me aside, a bit of disappointed expression on his face as he asked me about the food. I was confused of course and asked him what he meant, to which he basically told me he expected me to cook something up for him and his friend, as I enjoy cooking and he wanted to ‘impress’ his buddies.

He also claimed he kept sending me glances and signals but I guess I never noticed.

I refused because I was tired and just wasn’t the mood to cook anything, telling him to do it himself or get take out.

After that, he just rolled his eyes and huffed and just got food from a fast-food place I believe.

Ever since that, he’s been upset and moody, claiming that I embarrassed him in front of his friends and the fact that he had to get fast food.

I’ve been feeling kinda bad as I guess it wouldn’t have hurt if I just made something, but I’m just conflicted. It feels like I’m making this whole situation overblown.

AITA?

Piell posted:

AITA for refusing to cook for my boyfriend’s friends?

I(19F) and my boyfriend(32M)

OP posted:

He was a family friend, and so I’ve known him for a while and we kinda just clicked.

Captain Hygiene posted:

quote:

I would say around 15 or 14, we live in those type of small southern towns where everyone knows everyone.

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I know how the title sounds, just hear me out. I (25M) have been sharing an apartment with my flatmate Linda (27F) for almost a year now. She has a boyfriend Joe, but they don't live together because their offices are pretty far apart and rent in any middlepoint location is pretty steep. Now the walls of the flat are a little thin, so there is a tendency for sound to leak from time to time. While moving in Linda informed me that she and her BF are pretty "active" during the night which may cause noise. I usually have earbuds on and use a white noise machine while sleeping, so no issue there. Jumping to 3 days back, I had come back to the flat late at night. On my way to my room I heard muffled yells, followed by a man's voice exclaiming "QUIET". This was really weird so I paused and listened closely. I could hear Linda saying "No.....PLEASE DONT". I immediately thought the worst had happened, so I grabbed a knife from the kitchen, and kicked down the door. In front of me was Kinda, handcuffed with her Joe on top. They immediately started screaming at me incoherently and i ran out of the room. Apparently Linda and Joe have some really extreme kinks. Both came Outta the room, and started angrily confronting me. I tried explaining that from my perspective it was like Linda was being attacked, and honestly I went into flight or fight. Plus the police takes a minimum of 15 mins to reach anyways, which could have been a long time. Neither of them understood my point, and asserted that im the a-hole for acting like an idiot, and ruining her door. She's also suspicious of me now, thinking that I listen in on them which is absolutely insane! Now 2 of my friends are siding with her saying that (a) this is a common kink and (b) i should have called out from outside to make sure if things were fine or not, before taking any action. I thought I was trying to do the right thing under the circumstances, but was i being unreasonably rash? AITA?

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

When asked how old she was when they met

Solenna posted:

Spoiling stuff that sounds bad but it's actually funny.


AITA for busting down my flatmate's door?

Maybe give your roomie a heads up if you're yelling stuff that sounds like something has gone terribly wrong but is actually sex if you don't want them assuming things have gone terribly wrong. The mental image is hilarious though.

DeeplyConcerned posted:

**banjo strumming intensifies**

Solenna posted:

Spoiling stuff that sounds bad but it's actually funny.


AITA for busting down my flatmate's door?

Maybe give your roomie a heads up if you're yelling stuff that sounds like something has gone terribly wrong but is actually sex if you don't want them assuming things have gone terribly wrong. The mental image is hilarious though.

Solenna posted:

Spoiling stuff that sounds bad but it's actually funny.


AITA for busting down my flatmate's door?

Maybe give your roomie a heads up if you're yelling stuff that sounds like something has gone terribly wrong but is actually sex if you don't want them assuming things have gone terribly wrong. The mental image is hilarious though.

quote:

Throwaway as I wish to remain anonymous from the artist (they are on reddit)

I found an artist I really enjoy and commissioned them recently. I want to preface this with the fact that everything went extremely smoothly so far. I am very happy with the outcome and the art is exactly what I pictured. Only one issue though. They left their signature on it. To be fair, it is small, off to the corner, not very noticeable. I just feel that it is unprofessional, as I commissioned them the artwork does not belong to them anymore. I asked if they will remove it for me and they seemed kinda annoyed and asked me if I read their TOS (admittedly, I skimmed), where it apparently states that they will not remove their signature. I told them what I said above, which is that I own the art now. They then told me I somehow don’t and then quoted me a HUGE markup price for “commercial rights” and they only remove their signature for that purpose. I said I don’t need commercial rights and tried to compromise by offering to send them $5 to remove it (which is utter bs in the first place, I shouldn’t have to pay extra for this). They refused and I had essentially told the artist that if they don’t remove it then I will simply photoshop it out myself (considering that it’s mine, I can do what I please with it). They then informed me that I will be blacklisted from commissioning them if I do so. Spoiler alert, I did it and now i am not to mention blocked from then as well.

AITA?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for asking an artist to remove their signature from the art I commissioned?

quote:

It’s important to note that I’m (34F) a lesbian who isn’t completely out but I’m not completely in the closet either. I’m “out” when I’m with my close circle of friends. No, I don’t live in a conservative area….it’s just a personal thing and I have my reasons for keeping it this way at the moment.

So I work with a guy (31M). We’ve worked together for roughly 6 months. We aren’t close but I’d say we’re work buddies. We don’t follow each other on any socials but we do chit chat here and there at work about insignificant stuff. Our political views align so that’s mostly what we talk about when we do talk.

Last week we were walking out of the building together at the end of shift and he asked me if I was single. We’d never really asked each other anything that personal before so I was taken a back a bit. I’ve had plenty of men in my life hit on me and usually it’s no big deal to let them know im not interested….but I’ve been single for almost a year now and I’ll admit my relationship status is kind of a sensitive thing at the moment. I told him something along the lines of “sorry but im not interested”. He stopped me and said he wasn’t asking for himself. I was just trying to get to my car and leave work and I felt really annoyed at this point. I told him I wasn’t going to hook up with his friend and I’d appreciate it if he just left me alone.
He stepped back and asked me “what's your problem?” I told him if his friend was anything like him then I really have zero interest. As I walked away he said “no wonder you’re single!”

When I told all this to my roommate/bestie they told me my reaction was extreme and that I was the AH in the scenario. I felt he was out of line and doubled down.

The following day I told our manager what happened and that the whole event made me uncomfortable. The manager had a “coach and counsel” talk with my co-worker. That was yesterday. My co-worker has been radio silent with me ever since. I expected he’d apologize, but nothing. The manager and I are friends outside of work. She knows im gay. When I asked her how the talk went she told me I should have heard him out. I was confused and asked what she meant…..turns out he wanted to set me up with his sister. How did he know I was gay? He told our manager it was the Xena warrior princess screen saver on my desktop and his “gay-dar” from growing up with 2 lesbian sisters. She knows this employee somewhat well and gave me his sisters name and said to check her out on instagram…..yeah, she’s a 10. Walks that fine line between butch and femme perfectly and looks very liberal like myself.

Now I feel bad because not only did I miss out on possibly meeting someone but I was beginning to think I was indeed the AH and he just caught me at a bad time. I’ve always had issues interacting with men. The next day I planned on apologizing but he put in a shift change request and got moved to 2nd shift. I have his phone number but I’ve been blocked.

So, reddit. Was I the AH here?

quote:

For some context, I need to break my current lease about 3 months early. My roommate has known about this for 5-6 months, as my fiancé and I need to move to a new state. When my fiancé and I started planning this, I told my roommate immediately, giving him about 5-6 months of notice. He asked what I planned on doing with all the items I brought in, I informed him that I planned on selling them, this includes the washer and dryer (our unit didn’t come with any), dinning room table, 2 couches, a recliner, TV, tv stand, and media shelf. He had asked if I could leave some of the stuff with him, I offered to sell them to him, but he protested saying that isn’t fair. I bought these items myself, not asking for any money from my past or current roommates to split them.

Fast forward to now, I posted everything up for sale and items are gaining traction and selling quickly. The first things to go were the washer and dryer. When my roommate saw they were gone he got upset again, asking “What the F**k am I supposed to do?” I told him he could buy the other items if he would like, and reminded him I told him I was going to sell everything when the move came closer. He again thinks I should just leave them for free.

A new layer is that his mom has messaged me on Facebook asking what I’m doing and asking if I can leave stuff for him. Keep in mind my roommate is a 27 year old man. I was polite and told her that I gave her son about 5-6 months of notice, and that prior to my move my intention was to sell everything I brought in, but I did give him first bids privileges, that he denied.

AITA for selling shared items my roommate and I use, but I own?

ibntumart posted:

AITA for reporting a co-worker who wanted to set me up with someone then trying to apologize after i became interested?