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Mr. Lobe posted:not if you have dietary restrictions, which she does on account of being vegan Fair enough
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Armitag3 posted:Baffled here but if you live with others in a house isn’t it weird that you want your own private food stash instead of partaking in the communal household food? That's fine up to a point, but if you can't buy ingredients to use or make a particular item for yourself without it consistently disappearing by the next morning there's a problem.
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May 31, 2022 05:33
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Food isn't an interchangeable commodity, especially when there are medical needs involved. Also these people were eating food she had already prepared for herself or for some specific purpose They say they pay rent to live there, how much rent and how far below market? They should probably move somewhere else and take the financial hit just for the peace of mind, if they can
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May 31, 2022 05:34
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Armitag3 posted:Baffled here but if you live with others in a house isn’t it weird that you want your own private food stash instead of partaking in the communal household food? No?
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May 31, 2022 05:36
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snergle posted:lots of people refuse to get on aca either because of maga poo poo or because your in your 20s and cant afford 300/mo to subsidize the olds getting surgery then its all different per state which makes it huge hassle in some and a breeze + cheap in others. Way back when the ACA plans first rolled out I looked into the marketplace, and the base premiums were insanely expensive for what you got and I never could figure out what would be the actual final price. I didn't want to finalize the process only to find out the amount over the 9.5% of wages cap would only subsidized by a tax break. I think now there is like 1 or 2 plans left on the marketplace and they are absolute crap.
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May 31, 2022 05:38
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teen witch posted:Fenris was my beef thief.
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May 31, 2022 05:40
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Armitag3 posted:Baffled here but if you live with others in a house isn’t it weird that you want your own private food stash instead of partaking in the communal household food? Not necessarily. It's usually not this extreme, but it's pretty normal to want your own personal snacks that you know won't have been eaten. Sometimes you just want a bag of chips or some chocolate, and to know that these snacks will be where you expect them to be and won't have been eaten by a sibling. OP apparently is dealing with the other extreme, where they cannot have any food in the house that is theirs without it being literally locked up if they want it to be there when they look away for five seconds. "Ate half of the cake I got for my friend's birthday", jfc, what the gently caress. haveblue posted:Food isn't an interchangeable commodity, especially when there are medical needs involved. Also these people were eating food she had already prepared for herself or for some specific purpose Yeah. This is to the point where OP needs to move out, with or without the boyfriend. The family has made it clear that she doesn't get to have her own food or even bring any food into the house, and it's clearly a group effort. Maybe the family just hates her, who knows. But they're refusing to respect her food, and hands have been thrown over that sort of poo poo.
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May 31, 2022 06:21
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Mx. posted:How to deal with bf's family eating our food? How did the boyfriend not know his family was like this?
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May 31, 2022 06:26
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Beachcomber posted:How did the boyfriend not know his family was like this? People get used to this poo poo and internalise it as normal. I'll always remember a story from a while back possibly from a goon about confronting a chronic food thief at work, and he actually had to have explained to him from first principles the concept of respecting other people's property in a communal space, because when growing up in his family they'd do anything up to snatch food from other people's mouths.
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May 31, 2022 06:45
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My boyfriend wants me to move in but I find his house disgustingquote:TL;DR - My otherwise perfect boyfriend has no standards of cleanliness for his house and it is making me find excuses to put off moving in.
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May 31, 2022 06:52
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Or the gurglespurts pants, where the family's kitchen hygiene was practically nonexistent, and they'd just gotten used to constant food poisoning. To the point where they had a cute little nickname for sharting yourself and designated sharting pants.
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May 31, 2022 06:52
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surc posted:lol what no, that dude sucks poo poo and his response was insane, but this sounds like something a bully looking for validation would say. "Hah did you see how he reacted after a thing that upset him was done to him? Totally justifies it and obviously anybody would have had to do the same, also can you imagine how easy it would be to bully him in other ways just for hyperbole I mean, maybe something about how he dresses I bet I wouldn't even have to say anything big". The obvious response to me is, “don’t you have anyone that loves you? Oh, that’s sad.” I guess buddy isn’t a quick thinker tho.
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May 31, 2022 07:11
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abigserve posted:LMAO!!! you thought there was going to be ONE THING and instead there's OTHER THING!!?! god this is so loving funny!! I'm such a prankster hahaha
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May 31, 2022 07:20
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AITA for suggesting my pregnant sister should put her baby up for adoption?quote:My (31f) sister (27f) was married to A for 3 years. Prior to their elopement, they were on and off for about 4 years. Because of their unstable relationship, my sister never introduced him to our family until they were married. Our family is very tight knit and traditional, so with this late introduction, me and my family never formed a close bond with BIL and our relationship was strained because of it.
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May 31, 2022 07:40
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DreamingofRoses posted:The out of pocket maximum on an individual being as high as $8,550 and whatever the insurance doesn’t cover. The play here is obviously to apply for Medicaid if you are too sick to work and if you aren’t then to use your employer sponsored plan. If you have to move to Oregon and get on OHP or California and get on Medical. Additionally, It is doubtful that she needed special treatments that were experimental and if so it was a long shot anyway. Known effective treatments are generally covered by most plans. Under $10k in medical bills wouldn’t even be worth declaring bankruptcy over. Of course, I guess you can multiply that by however many years of treatment there are. But you can nearly always negotiate medical bills down and then get on a payment plan. Generally you can get the treatments and worry about how to pay for it later if you have any insurance at all. If the story is real, the husband should have proposed one of the many available alternatives rather than divorce his wife. I have no sympathy for him.
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May 31, 2022 07:48
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AITA for not changing my order and ordering the same thing as my brother's girlfriend at a restaurant? quote:My brother has a new girlfriend and my grandparents, my parents and me went out to dinner to meet her. When everyone was going over the menus and I said my choice, his girlfriend said oh that's what I was going to order. She went back to the menu again but kept coming back to her that dish asked me if I was sure to which I said I was. My brother asked me if I could choose something else because his girlfriend really wanted to try that dish but right then the waiter came by and we ordered. His girlfriend was definitely upset I ordered the same dish and asked me after the waiter left if I was sure again before my grandma changed the subject. Both her and my brother were tense and the rest of the night was awkward. My nana ordered the same dish as my mom and his girlfriend asked both of them if they were sure but she didn't say anything else after they both said yes. I got asked again by her after I said I was sure the first time. Later he lambasted me for not changing my order when I knew his girlfriend wanted that dish and said she was nervous about meeting our family and what I did didn't help and got her disappointed and upset. It wasn't limited edition. Imagine going to a pub and ordering wings or nachos. There's always enough. It wasn't a special or rare dish. It was good but you can get this type of dish at many restaurants. I never tried to stop her from ordering it either. AITA here?
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May 31, 2022 08:01
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Metis of the Hallways posted:AITA for not changing my order and ordering the same thing as my brother's girlfriend at a restaurant? So she was being weird about ordering the same dish as someone else at the table? i.e. "I wanted to order the chicken, but now I can't because my boyfriend's brother has ordered it."? That is stupid. A restaurant doesn't care if it has to make 2 chickens, nobody else at the table cares if you order the same as them. It is entirely her weird hang up, and OP is under no obligation to change his order because of it.
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May 31, 2022 08:09
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Metis of the Hallways posted:AITA for not changing my order and ordering the same thing as my brother's girlfriend at a restaurant? and then she put her hair in a ponytail but didn't.
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May 31, 2022 08:27
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I generally avoid ordering the same as someone else and will change my own order if someone else wants what I originally picked out. I like seeing a heap of different dishes, talk about the different dishes or even try each others meal - but I aint ever asked someone else to change their order and if the first thing I liked is really the only thing I am interested in then I will just order the same. On the insurance, I assumed that the employee plan was one of those ones that includes pre-existing and/or inherited conditions - you generally can't get that sort of cover outside a big company group deal type one but was part of one of my employer provided ones - along with 100% coverage across nearly everything. If the insurance is just what you could get by spending a little money in the marketplace, then yeah he is dumb.
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May 31, 2022 08:51
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Electric Wrigglies posted:I generally avoid ordering the same as someone else and will change my own order if someone else wants what I originally picked out. I like seeing a heap of different dishes, talk about the different dishes or even try each others meal - but I aint ever asked someone else to change their order and if the first thing I liked is really the only thing I am interested in then I will just order the same. Probably the most popular part of the ACÁ was the end of health insurance companies being able to refuse to cover pre-existing conditions.additionally ex-wife was irresponsible as hell if she was not carrying insurance when she has two kids.
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May 31, 2022 08:56
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AITA for only feeding one child frozen foodquote:My son is Indian, and his friend, who is White, are both 9. My son brought his friend over after school on the bus. I messaged his mom and asked if this was okay and how late he was staying. She asked if he could stay until 10. I serve dinner around 8, so he would be eating with us. I cook a lot of Indian cuisine in my house because that's what I grew up making. My son told me his friend was picky and asked if I could make him something else. I keep fries and chicken nuggets for when my son has picky friends over. So we all sit to eat, and my son's friend seems happy with the nuggets, and they go to play after dinner. The boy's mom picks him up a little after 9. I get a text later asking why I fed her son frozen food when I cooked a fresh dinner for everyone else. I told her my son said the boy wouldn’t eat what I was making. She said I should have made him something also instead of just getting freezer food. I told her I provided free childcare without notice, and her kid chose not to eat what everyone else ate. I continued that when I was a child, my mom didn’t offer anyone alternatives to what was made, so he’s lucky I accommodated him. She told me she wouldn’t let her son stay with a child abuser anymore. seems like this is a problem that solved itself
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May 31, 2022 09:00
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Mx. posted:AITA for only feeding one child frozen food To be fair, she deprived the child of Indian food, which is pretty much abuse. I mean, I know the kid chose not to eat it, but if a kid chooses to self harm you are supposed to try and stop them!
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May 31, 2022 09:05
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lol thinking back to that post from a while back where the white parents were upset because their kid loved his friend's mom's Indian food so much and they were horrified for his sensitive lil' tum-tum 
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Biplane posted:and then she put her hair in a ponytail but didn't. lol yep
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Name drama will never, ever fail to disappoint! AITA for telling my sister in-law her daughters name isn't Irish? quote:I'm Irish. My husband is American. We live in the US currently but met back in Ireland. His sister has always been obsessed with my accent, my name and the fact that her brother married a real Irish person.
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May 31, 2022 11:17
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Mx. posted:My boyfriend wants me to move in but I find his house disgusting quote:What do I do in this situation without being naggy or controlling, or ending the relationship?
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Evil Willow posted:Name drama will never, ever fail to disappoint! maybe something like Neve? Irish spelling would be Niamh
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May 31, 2022 11:21
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therobit posted:To be fair, she deprived the child of Indian food, which is pretty much abuse. I mean, I know the kid chose not to eat it, but if a kid chooses to self harm you are supposed to try and stop them! That's an experience the kid will never forget.
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May 31, 2022 11:22
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A shitload of stories itt are just people who were put into a no-win situation by unreasonable and occasionally outright insane assholes and feel guilty about it.
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May 31, 2022 11:29
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Metis of the Hallways posted:AITA for not changing my order and ordering the same thing as my brother's girlfriend at a restaurant? How did someone not just say "you can order it too, this is not hard" jfc
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May 31, 2022 11:30
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sebmojo posted:maybe something like Neve? Irish spelling would be Niamh She told the Irish person she'd picked the "least dumb spelling". And lived.
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May 31, 2022 11:35
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It's those extremely low-stakes little conflicts that delight me most.
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"I wanted an Irish name. I chose the least dumb spelling" girl u didn't really want an Irish name then
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I'm still pretty sure Samus Aran is an Irish name.
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My daughter Shivan.
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May 31, 2022 11:52
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The Moon Monster posted:My daughter Shivan. My daughter Shiwan Khan.
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It's not an authentic Irish name if it doesn't use all the vowels at least twice each.
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Evil Willow posted:Name drama will never, ever fail to disappoint! So I'm guessing sister-in-law and that family are not even part of the Irish diaspora. I know a lot of descendants of the Irish diaspora go....all in on "I'm Irish" as a sort of way of....trying to reclaim lost culture, I guess (like my third generation US rear end slowly trying to learn Gaeilge), but they tend to go for the really Irish names, with the correct spelling.
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AITA for not offering any help to my estranged sister or her family?quote:My sister (34f) and I (32f) don't talk anymore. I cut her out of my life 7 years ago after learning she was sleeping with my ex-fiance (34m) and that her daughter who was 2 at the time was his, as well as the baby she was carrying. I broke up with my ex and my sister in one go. I told her she was dead to me and made it clear to my family she was not going to be in my life anymore. They were understanding and actually tried to keep us apart because it was more painful for them to be around the tension and the hate I have her for than it was to never see us in the same room.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I'm still pretty sure Samus Aran is an Irish name. Seamus O'Ran
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