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Throwaway for privacy.

My husband and I don’t have the best relationship, but it is also not the worst. He has a habit of doing things behind my back, and I’m suppose to accept it because I’m a housewife. I cook, clean, run errands. Anything to do with domestic things is my responsibility. And I’d be fine with that if my husband didn’t throw it in my face. This being said I don’t take bs, hence why he is regularly frustrated with me. I stand my ground and withhold my responsibility when he does the same. And he doesn’t think this is right as I apparently do nothing all day ( I barely have no free time).

The issue is his parents lost their home due to terrible financial decisions. They asked to live with us and I immediately said no. I knew I’d have to clear after his parents while he goes out. Precise, they could’ve gone to his 3 other siblings houses so it wasn’t like we were their only choice. Despite me saying no to his parent staying with us, I come back from shopping with all their stuff moved in. I’m livid and argue with my husband and he says he pays the bills so I have to deal with it. Fine. But I’ll told him I not doing anything in the house anymore and he can fend for himself. He got cocky and thought I was bluffing. I lived up to my promise and could see he was getting more and more angry with my new freedom.

It all came ahead this weekend, when I went to the kitchen and made only enough dinner for myself. His parents asked if I can make another portion and I said no. His mum started berating me, then my husband got involved and yelled and called me a b. I simply put my airpods in and drowned him out. Walked away and ate my dinner in my bedroom. After some time, he and his parents came to me and I could see he was speaking . My husband then lifted up my hair and saw I had my AirPods in and was not listening to a word he has been screaming. He asked if I had them in the whole time and I replied back “of course”. His dad laughed and was clearly finding this amusing. Then all of a sudden, my husband burst out crying. Like seriously bawling his eyes out, sobbing I’m emasculating him in front of people. Me and his parents were silent and in shock by this. To paint the scene, he was crying loudly sitting on the floor, then his mother cradled him while his father looked like he was about to laugh. I thought the whole thing was ridiculous cos he brought this upon himself. I said I don’t why he’s acting like a victim, picked up my purse and left to go hang out with my friends.

The next day, my husband did not speak a word to anyone and slept all day. And looked depressed. His mother berated me again and said I’m “breaking her son”. If I’m being honest, I’m starting to think I handled the situation abit too petty.

Mx. posted:

AITA for not offering any help to my estranged sister or her family?

Evil Willow posted:

Name drama will never, ever fail to disappoint!

AITA for telling my sister in-law her daughters name isn't Irish?

Evil Willow posted:

While the kids may be innocent, they're both the product of an affair between OP's sister and at-the-time fiance. She owes then exactly jack and poo poo.

Mx. posted:

AITA for emasculating my husband.

Wurzag posted:

Seamus O'Ran

Mx. posted:

AITA for emasculating my husband.

Baron von Eevl posted:

Seamus Éireann.

Mx. posted:

AITA for emasculating my husband.

Electric Wrigglies posted:

My bro lived in Edinburgh for a long time and didn't talk to me for a month after I asked him via whatsapp to bring some extra Whiskey down on his way to visit me. He arrives with nothing and I'm verbally "where's the whisky?" and he replied "I aint buying whiskey in Edinburgh, you can go-on get hosed".

On sticking to cultural traditions stronger than the true scotsmen;

Same bro stopped gifting a bottle of single malt to our bro-in-law each visit as he used to do because one time he brought a very nice bottle and the bro-in-law just shelved it rather than breaking open the bottle for a taste that night (and subsequently drank it before my bro next visited). My bro never said anything so my bro-in-law didn't know why he was missing out on the otherwise unavailable in Aus single malt goodies. It eventually got back to him somehow and bro-in-law got a bottle of the same whisky that was originally gifted by my bro sent over by a mate from Scotland to Aus. He brought it out when my bro came through for a few wee drams and since that time my brother has resumed bringing a bottle of single malt to my bro-in-law each visit.

Electric Wrigglies posted:

Same bro stopped gifting a bottle of single malt to our bro-in-law each visit as he used to do because one time he brought a very nice bottle and the bro-in-law just shelved it rather than breaking open the bottle for a taste that night (and subsequently drank it before my bro next visited). My bro never said anything so my bro-in-law didn't know why he was missing out on the otherwise unavailable in Aus single malt goodies. It eventually got back to him somehow and bro-in-law got a bottle of the same whisky that was originally gifted by my bro sent over by a mate from Scotland to Aus. He brought it out when my bro came through for a few wee drams and since that time my brother has resumed bringing a bottle of single malt to my bro-in-law each visit.

Mx. posted:

AITA for emasculating my husband.

Brawnfire posted:

I gotta say I wanna hear what the dad is thinking because he clearly has some views on his son (which are most likely highly hypocritical)

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FIL always called husband a “mummy b*tch” and never took him serious. So that has always been a sore point for him. I think hearing his dad laugh at him broke him, and has less to do with me.

edgeman83 posted:

It might be the Americaness in me but: why hold a grudge against someone you know doesn't know about your customs, so much so that you won't let them know what they didn't know they did wrong?

8one6 posted:

It's not an authentic Irish name if it doesn't use all the vowels at least twice each.

Mx. posted:

datajugend posted:

Isnt it pretty universal to at least offer a taste if someone brings good liquor?

Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:

Naming my first kid mac cumhaill Stevenson for the culture.

teen witch posted:

Fenris was my beef thief.



She was relentless when it came to beef, like she’d look me dead in the eye and try and take a chomp out of a brisket.

Sneak some scraps to your furry loved ones. My other four are being spoiled as they miss her as much as we all do. Mourning sucks.

edgeman83 posted:

It might be the Americaness in me but: why hold a grudge against someone you know doesn't know about your customs, so much so that you won't let them know what they didn't know they did wrong?

Malachite_Dragon posted:

I live in Texas and this is the first I've ever heard of it. But 1) what the South considers 'good liquor' and 2) my own low opinion of alcohol in general may be influencing this. Either way, if bro wanted to drink it then and there, he should've said so instead of being a poo poo.

Mr Teatime posted:

If it helps I’m Scottish and I wouldn’t know any of these “customs”. People can be incredibly tiresome about whisky.

Mx. posted:

AITA for emasculating my husband.

surc posted:

I feel like if you're mad that your gift to another person didn't get partially returned to you and you also recognize it's a faux pas to ask for some of your gift back, you are fundamentally missing the point of a gift and also why it's rude to ask for some of it back

teen witch posted:

Fenris was my beef thief.



She was relentless when it came to beef, like she’d look me dead in the eye and try and take a chomp out of a brisket.

Sneak some scraps to your furry loved ones. My other four are being spoiled as they miss her as much as we all do. Mourning sucks.

Remulak posted:

A consumable is often gifted with the desire to become closer to the recipient by consuming a portion of said gift together.

Like I dunno friends or something.

Remulak posted:

A consumable is often gifted with the desire to become closer to the recipient by consuming a portion of said gift together.

Like I dunno friends or something.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for suggesting my pregnant sister should put her baby up for adoption?

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As backstory, my (34M) wife (32F) and I have been married for 6 years and have one child (3F) together. Before getting married, we dated for about 7 years. My wife has always been sort of "tomboy-ish"...she had a thin frame, not many curves, shorter hair, and dressed pretty modestly. Regardless, she was drop-dead gorgeous to me. I guess I have a type. Anyway, one of her insecurities has always been her smaller breasts and rear and for a while now, has been talking about getting implants. Admittedly I've tried talking her out of it. In my opinion, she was absolutely perfect the way she was and I didn't think she needed to change.

We both make good money so getting high-quality cosmetic surgery wasn't an issue and she did. I tried talking her out of it up until her appointment but she wouldn't have it. She kept reassuring me that I'd love her new look. Well, she went from a 32A to a 32DD and got a pretty heft butt implant though I don't know the size. What she **also** was talked into were lip/cheek fillers which (IMO) drastically changed the look of her face. This was about two months ago and she's doing really well with the recovery. Overall, the work was very high quality and everything looks as natural as it probably could but I'm just...not attracted to it. I preferred the way she was before.

Well, it finally came out last night as she tried to initiate our first sexy time since the surgery. She basically modeled off some new lingerie and I guess she saw the lack of excitement on my face. She asked what was wrong and as gently as I could, I told her that while I was glad she was happy and confident, I preferred her body before. She proceeded to blow up on me and how I couldn't support her and her choices with *her* body and how I'm now telling her that I'm not attracted to her anymore. I reminded her that I tried to talk her out of it several times in several years but I still drove her to specialists, to surgery, to appointments afterwards, and helped her every way I could during recovery. I told her that I thought she was absolutely perfect the way she was and if I wanted a curvier woman, I wouldn't have married her.

Well she called me an rear end in a top hat and slept in the guest bedroom and is giving me the cold shoulder now. I personally don't think I did anything wrong. I didn't want to lie to her but I don't know if I was too harsh. So AITA?

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I’m (20f) half chinese from my mom’s side. I recently met a guy (23m) on tinder. When I told him my background, he started talking about how much he loves chinese food and asked me out to dinner and for me to pick my favorite restaurant.

There’s a great, authentic sichaun restaurant in our city so I suggested that. I warned him that it’s quite spicy, I have many american friends that say they love chinese food but what they really mean is they love panda express. Nothing wrong with that, I love american-chinese food too, I just wanted to make sure.

He said it’s fine, he’s been to that restaurant before and it wasn’t even that spicy. Then he made a joke about how he’s offended (after this I’m not sure if it was a joke) I don’t think he can eat spicy food, he has a lot of asian friends and can handle spice better than some of them. We agreed on a date and went to this restaurant.

I ordered my dish in chinese. I look white from my dad so if I ever order in english, I always get a pretty mild dish but if I order in chinese, they’ll always make it spicier. My date told me to order for him too, and that he wanted it very spicy. She asked me in chinese if he was sure, and I said yes, make it extra spicy, he can handle it.

Food comes out, and it’s spicy. A couple of bites in and he starts struggling. I asked how the food is, and he’s still putting up a strong front but he’s barely eating it anymore. The waitress came over and starts speaking to me in chinese, asking how the food is, the usual small talk and then said in english to him “too spicy?” and laughed a little. I didn’t think she was being rude, she’s probably used to people ordering food too spicy for them all the time and I laughed a little too. The second she walks away, he asked what I said to her in chinese, and tells me I ordered it extra spicy to make fun of him because he ate at this place multiple times but it was never like this so I must’ve said something. I try to explain the whole ordering in english vs chinese thing, that many asian restaurants will do “white spicy”, it happens to me at thai resturants all the time unless I’m with a Thai friend.

I tried a bite of his and it’s the same so he tried mine and he said how mine is way less spicy but even after I trade with him, he basically only ate rice for the rest of the dinner. After I got home, he texted me saying how it was rude that I purposely ordered and spoke chinese to the waitress in front of him (even though he asked me to order?), that I wanted to embarrass him on purpose and that I ruined his meal just so I can laugh at him not being able to handle it.

I told some of my friends so we can laugh about this ridiculous date, but they think I should’ve known better that he wasn’t going to be able to eat that food because he probably always got “white spicy” and was just being cocky/trying to impress me or something so I shouldn’t have told the restaurant to make it extra spicy just to prove that he can’t actually handle it.

Mr Teatime posted:

If it helps I’m Scottish and I wouldn’t know any of these “customs”. People can be incredibly tiresome about whisky.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for no longer being attracted to my wife?

Electric Wrigglies posted:

A big part of gifting a good whisky is it is the excuse to splurge on a bottle and get something that you would really like to try. Generally the art is getting something that the host will really like so you have to know the preference and tendencies of your host and what whiskys will go with those preferences when selecting a bottle. Getting to try and affirm you nailed it is a part of the fun.

If you are not getting to try the bottle, it takes a lot of motivation out of the effort selecting it, spending from a few 10s to a few hundred quid and beyond on each bottle and carting from Edinburgh through customs to Australia. You can only carry a couple of bottles so he still brought the full allowance, just gifted to people that would share a taste.

Asking for some of your own gift back is a bit of a faux pas, that's why it is an unspoken thing the breaking open a gifted bottle with the gifter. You don't make a scene, you just hit da bricks on bringing booze and gift something else.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

this just confirms that the one time I got given whiskey, it wasn't a gift for me it was a gift for the person bringing it, which just kinda pissed me off but ok - sure - the person not opening it is the jerk.