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I mean the problem is she seems to have lied way more than necessary to protect herself. Presenting it as easy seems unnecessary for that and is absolutely misleading
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Maybe there was too much in this case but either way preempting her in a public setting to "set the record straight" is just a dogshit partner mentality. If the lie isn't doing harm, just roll with it and ask later.
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Jun 12, 2022 20:31
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The Bramble posted:This woman got immediately shamed and teased by her largely female friend/acquaintance group as soon as her husband told people "the truth" I don't think he should have interrupted to correct her, she's your partner and the mother of your child and you need to trust her enough to back her up in a situation like that. Talk to her afterwards if you want, but don't jump in and talk over her in front of her friends. That said per the (arguably maybe biased) story she was only teased for lying and not for what actually happened during the birth. I agree that her lying about what she went through was potentially damaging and contributes to a harmful culture, but I also don't know if I can really fault her for it either given her situation. That said, congratulations on your upcoming child. All births are natural, no matter the circumstances. If you want to talk about birth stories I'm happy to share my experiences as a father of 2 via PM.
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Foo Diddley posted:lol, surprise! i got you 15 years of obligation Dear god, this. Obligation and expense. Enjoy taking your time and energy house training and chew/bite training this dog! Enjoy having to walk it multiple times per day! Enjoy cleaning/replacing everything the dog pisses/shits/chews on, and hope none of it's expensive (all baby stuff is expensive). Enjoy spending ~$50 month on food, and hundreds to thousands every few months on vet care. Enjoy knowing if you want to go somewhere, even for just a day or overnight, you now have to find someone to watch the dog or kennel the dog. It'll be fun!
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Troublemaker posted:Dear god, this. Obligation and expense. Enjoy taking your time and energy house training and chew/bite training this dog! Enjoy having to walk it multiple times per day! Enjoy cleaning/replacing everything the dog pisses/shits/chews on, and hope none of it's expensive (all baby stuff is expensive). Enjoy spending ~$50 month on food, and hundreds to thousands every few months on vet care. Enjoy knowing if you want to go somewhere, even for just a day or overnight, you now have to find someone to watch the dog or kennel the dog. It'll be fun! lol you think they will be responsible dog owners? they will feed it scraps and never get it fixed / vaccinated / train it and it will stay in the back yard. V true. i didnt mean these people in specific just the type of person who would accept a random dog as a gift. snergle fucked around with this message at 21:01 on Jun 12, 2022 |
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Jun 12, 2022 20:58
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They're not going to be any kind of dog owner, they already gave it away to someone who can take proper care of it and that's why the giver called them an rear end in a top hat
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Jun 12, 2022 20:59
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snergle posted:lol you think they will be responsible dog owners? they will feed it scraps and never get it fixed / vaccinated / train it and it will stay in the back yard. They did the most responsible thing and rehomed the dog they knew they wouldn't be able to care for.
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Jun 12, 2022 21:01
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Anyone who treats a whole rear end puppy as an object is 100% a shitbag who needs to be fired into the sun. Dogs are magical perfect friends who have complex needs and who need families who can take care of them My own perfect sweet boy got out into our back garden for 30 seconds today, and managed to rub his forehead in cat poo poo. He's a sweet darling good boy but his head now smells like cat poo poo. I just had to wash my dogs head in baby shampoo because it was entirely smeared in cat poo poo, and that is 100% normal dog behaviour. I have a 22 year old parrot, and she is absolutely less weird and foolish than the dog. She loves the dog too, but she also thinks he's as dumb as poo poo.
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Jun 12, 2022 21:09
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dogs love rubbing them selves on stinky stuff. my own dog does it constantly on her walks. i also have to trick her into getting in the bath by giving her steamed brocolli
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Jun 12, 2022 21:22
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snergle posted:dogs love rubbing them selves on stinky stuff. my own dog does it constantly on her walks. i also have to trick her into getting in the bath by giving her steamed brocolli My good, stupid stinky boi also loves steamed broccoli What even are the odds?
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Pookah posted:Anyone who treats a whole rear end puppy as an object is 100% a shitbag who needs to be fired into the sun. 
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endlessmonotony posted:Age: 20. Everybody's favorite game: "Catfish, Nazi, or born August 8th?"
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if its a beagle or beagle related high i assume. i havent met another beagle owner whos dog wasnt obsessed with eatting poo poo / rubbing themselves on something that stinks and eatting anything in general.
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Bruceski posted:Everybody's favorite game: "Catfish, Nazi, or born August 8th?"
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mind the walrus posted:Also UK/Polish dynamic. I didn't learn this until I made some Polish friends living in the UK but apparently it's a whole "thing" over there atm. Dumb and hosed up. OP there was definitely being stereotypically racist, like one of those Brits who vacations in Spain yet still complains about all the brown people there. Why do a lot of the English have such a hate boner for the Polish? Are they the wrong type of white? E: I believe the OP is not from the UK, as they stayed there during vacation instead of going back home, and someone pointed out they don'r spell certain words the way someone from the UK would.
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The UK has a lot of polish immigrants so they basically slip into the role Mexicans have in the US
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Batterypowered7 posted:Why do a lot of the English have such a hate boner for the Polish? Are they the wrong type of white? Yes. The stereotypical "taking our jerbs" abused immigrant worker in England is Polish like the US bigots view Mexicans. Generally anything east of Germany is the wrong kind of White. The west side of the continent is disliked as well, but they usually retreat to historical justifications for that bigotry. "We fought a war a thousand years ago, therefore we're allowed to make fun of you."
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:My sister is suing me for financial support, is claiming filial responsibility idaho repealed that law and their law was rarely enforced and mostly toothless. pa otoh. if your parents move there gluck. the state is about to gently caress you up and make you pay all their bills and funeral costs. when my estranged dad died in az i had to learn about filial laws and ive kept up with it as much as i could.
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Jun 12, 2022 22:31
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The Bramble posted:YTA. My wife is due next week and the pressure she feels from friends, social media, and female family members to avoid "unnatural" birth plans is absolutely real. She harms no one by fibbing and maintains her social credibility with people who never need to know the truth anyway. What this guy did is equivalent to interrupting a story about how much she loved her visit to Mexico to say "yeah but don't forget about that weekend you had it coming out of both ends and couldn't leave the hotel, I had to climb the pyramid myself lol". Also this guy assuming his wife forgot about her childbirth experience because of hormones or whatever and helpfully mansplaining her birth to her is just awful. Do not publicly correct your partner unless not doing so is going to cause some kind of harm down the line. I'm going to quote a bit that I think is important: quote:My wife invited over her girlfriends and since they are officially all moms, they started talking about their birth stories. I heard some horrific things, and then we got to my wife. This suggests to me that all of the other moms were already talking about their "unnatural" births. She decided that she wanted to be the only one with a "natural" birth story Thus, I believe everyone sucks here: the wife for lying to her friends, and the husband for snitching
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Jun 12, 2022 23:21
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Not only the taking our jobs but also one I picked up on when I worked in England was all the hot Polish ladies going out with all the English lads which made the English girls sad. This might have just been specific to where I was though.
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They're sort of settling in now because most people have had a Polish coworker and it's tough for the press to sell them as being lazy benefit stealers when you can see them working twenty hours of overtime a week. We're all about dehumanising Romanians now. Also, immigration isn't a problem now Brexit has happened. The actual rate of immigration has hardly changed, yes, but collectively the public opinion is that its 2022, we've taken our country back, and that's all sorted out now. 
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Jun 12, 2022 23:30
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Lots of polish people living in Ireland now and they are hard to tell from national Irish people because they are extremely pale, negative about everything and funny in an extraordinarily Irish way. Poles are more Irish than many Irish people.
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run on sentience posted:This is kind of like saying queer people who don't come out are making it harder for others by not bravely setting an example. I think the husband should have kept his mouth shut, but come on.
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Jun 12, 2022 23:43
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LoudPipesSaveLives posted:Not only the taking our jobs but also one I picked up on when I worked in England was all the hot Polish ladies going out with all the English lads which made the English girls sad. This might have just been specific to where I was though. So Poles are basically superhumans, then? If you want me to hate a group of people you're going to have to do better than "harder working and also more attractive"
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Uncle Enzo posted:So Poles are basically superhumans, then? If you want me to hate a group of people you're going to have to do better than "harder working and also more attractive" I know right? Hanging out with the Poles was cool, just like hanging out with the Mexicans in California. Mexicans have better food though.
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Charity Porno posted:I think the husband should have kept his mouth shut, but come on. That’s especially funny because it was with other women who had their own stories which they shared. So that analogy makes zero sense
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It honestly almost sounds like the wife was bragging. Everyone else is telling their horror stories and she's all "Well mine was both natural and super easy!" I don't know how anyone is getting "she was facing social pressure to have a perfect natural birth" out of that. (she still didn't have to talk about it if she didn't want, but that's really an awful strategy if she just wanted them to pass over her.) Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 00:09 on Jun 13, 2022 |
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Pookah posted:Lots of polish people living in Ireland now and they are hard to tell from national Irish people because they are extremely pale, negative about everything and funny in an extraordinarily Irish way. No wonder the English hate them.
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Midnight Voyager posted:It honestly almost sounds like the wife was bragging. Everyone else is telling their horror stories and she's all "Well mine was both natural and super easy!" I don't know how anyone is getting "she was facing social pressure to have a perfect natural birth" out of that. She was, which is I’m saying ESH for that one. The husband shouldn’t have said anything, but it is actually pretty lovely to lie and say you had the most perfect and natural and easiest birth when all your friends are talking about how tough theirs were.
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AITA for returning the money my husband took from my family for attending our cookout?quote:For context: My f28 husband m33 comes from a wealthy family and he himself has inherited a number of assets from his relatives. One of them is this huge house (where we live right now) with a pool and a huge backyard with lots of features.
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Simply lie if you want, but if anyone can catch you in it, assume they will.
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Mx. posted:AITA for returning the money my husband took from my family for attending our cookout? Sever. Preferably with a guillotine.
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Mx. posted:AITA for returning the money my husband took from my family for attending our cookout? It does not surprise me that some rich failson would blow up his marriage for $275
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Mx. posted:AITA for returning the money my husband took from my family for attending our cookout? Hopefully including the house.
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bentacos posted:It does not surprise me that some rich failson would blow up his marriage for $275 Too long for a thread title but loving yeah
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Pookah posted:Anyone who treats a whole rear end puppy as an object is 100% a shitbag who needs to be fired into the sun. I’m reminded of the Farside cartoon where two dogs are on a date and the caption is “Gee, Ginger, whatever you rolled in tonight sure does stink!”
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The fact that some loser with an inherited McMansion would define it as a resort and say that working class people should be charged to spend a few hours at once is some S-rank classism bait and I am here for it.
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Mx. posted:AITA for returning the money my husband took from my family for attending our cookout? guillotine
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Lol, the truly wealthy thing to do would have been to lavish the other family without asking for anything in return. Hope he gets taken to the cleaners during the divorce.
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