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I have a medical condition which sent me to the hospital. I was taken to the hospital where my family and gf were waiting for me. This is the first time I've had an incident and my gf being available to come to the hospital (only happened 1 other time and I didnt tell her until after the fact). She came into my room once the nurse gave permission. She asked if I was okay, got me a blanket and helped me out since I couldn't move much. She couldn't stay the entire time because she had to work early in the morning and I told her to go home and sleep (got to the hospital about 10:30pm).

The next day she came to my house after work, I told her she had no right to be there yesterday at the hospital or even be in my room since she's not family and I didn't want her there. She told me my mom told her to go in her stead, as to step back and let my gf finally start letting her "be the one to be there for me and my medical issues" since we've been together for several years. Let her start taking "wifely duties" I guess. I told her I want her nowhere near me before or after my surgery (had to get surgery due to an injury from the incident). She seemed upset by all this and said I was being rude and hurtful. I told her I meant it and if she came i wouldn't let her in my room or the building.

About a week later my mom and gf were out and apparently my mom brought up about her being there for the surgery, which my gf then told her what I said and will not be going since thats what I told her. My mom said I'm an ahole for "being mean/an ahole and hostile" to my gf about it. I don't think I did anything wrong, even if I did yell at her. Aita?

SOME INFO: No I didn't tell her before I didn't want her to come.

It honestly just irritated me she came to my room.

My family was still allowed in after she left, 1 visitor at a time was the rule.

UPDATED MORE INFO: I didnt tell her I was going to the hospital my family did.

Yes I only consider someone family after it being legally binding on paper.

I mentioned what she did in the room because that's just how it went.

trashbadger posted:

AITA for banning my gf from my hospital room?

I mean sure, OP is within his rights to decide who he wants with him when he's in the hospital, but the level of hostility he seems to have for this woman he has been with for 'several years' is baffling. His gf does something completely normal and nice for someone in a relationship to do (that his mum also asked her to do), and he jumps straight to yelling at her, telling her that he doesn't consider her family and he doesn't want her anywhere near him, and now he's confused as to why this might be considered excessive.

Does he have a brain injury or something making him combative? My dad hit his head and got like this as a result of a concussion once, just angry and mean about everything with no rhyme or reason behind it, and OP himself doesn't seem to offer any reasoning for this beyond it annoying him.

trashbadger posted:

AITA for banning my gf from my hospital room?

I mean sure, OP is within his rights to decide who he wants with him when he's in the hospital, but the level of hostility he seems to have for this woman he has been with for 'several years' is baffling. His gf does something completely normal and nice for someone in a relationship to do (that his mum also asked her to do), and he jumps straight to yelling at her, telling her that he doesn't consider her family and he doesn't want her anywhere near him, and now he's confused as to why this might be considered excessive.

Does he have a brain injury or something making him combative? My dad hit his head and got like this as a result of a concussion once, just angry and mean about everything with no rhyme or reason behind it, and OP himself doesn't seem to offer any reasoning for this beyond it annoying him.

Elissimpark posted:

Have you ever read Wuthering Heights? I think I'd read P&P several times over that read that again. Just pretend Kate Bush made up a totally original story for the song.

Fsmhunk posted:

drat, from what I was reading I thought P&P must have been like 4000 pages or something, but it's like 400. I've read piece of poo poo fantasy novels I didn't even like longer than that, I would read that for my step kid even if it was the most boring poo poo ever.

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Oh yeah, never even going to touch that book. There's a whole genre of "classic" literature that is nothing more than mewling inbred old money white people moaning about the ennui of it all as they spend five chapters discussing the shocking time the vicar offered them cucumber sandwichs and one didn't have all the crusts cut off or how Lady Penelope once used the wrong fork.

Do it. Go on do it

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Oh yeah, never even going to touch that book. There's a whole genre of "classic" literature that is nothing more than mewling inbred old money white people moaning about the ennui of it all as they spend five chapters discussing the shocking time the vicar offered them cucumber sandwichs and one didn't have all the crusts cut off or how Lady Penelope once used the wrong fork.

Do it. Go on do it

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I rent property to daughter (20's F) and daughter's partner, now spouse (30's M), for less than market rates.

They got into conflict with the local fire department and police department over burning on their property and neighbor complaints, which then got escalated to me as the property owner.

The couple told me they were being unfairly harassed and targeted by the fire department and some neighbors, and that their fires were following legal rules.

I told them to stop having campfires on the property until things settled down.

I also told the departments that I'd asked them to stop burning.

My daughter agreed but partner told me I'd betrayed him and he didn't want to be a part of any family who would take sides against him.

Anything I said turned into more conflict and he told me the only thing that would resolve it is me apologizing to him publicly.

They were also behind in their rent, and we were having issues over maintenance they'd agreed to do.

My daughter invited me to the house to talk about maintenance, and I tried to ignore the partner and talk to daughter. Partner asked for a truce, I said I don't know, and he started yelling at me and calling me names.

It seemed so ridiculous I laughed and asked what was wrong with him, and then he told me to leave and called the police telling them I was trespassing. He told my husband and ex-husband I was a psychopath and that I needed to be escorted any time I was in his presence.

Daughter broke up with him, and he wouldn't move out so she left for a few days, and I tried to evict him. He said his family is powerful and would "ruin" me. Then she went back to him.

I hired a property manager to deal with the property and I have no contact with the partner.

Daughter I see when she reaches out to me, but it's awkward because she wants me to forgive and forget. They've since gotten married.

She says I should share responsibility and apologize so we can be a family again, because I handled it badly by telling the fire department they wouldn't have fires anymore, which the partner claimed ruined his chances at filing a harassment suit against the fire department. She says I'm just being stubborn and holding a grudge.

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Oh yeah, never even going to touch that book. There's a whole genre of "classic" literature that is nothing more than mewling inbred old money white people moaning about the ennui of it all as they spend five chapters discussing the shocking time the vicar offered them cucumber sandwichs and one didn't have all the crusts cut off or how Lady Penelope once used the wrong fork.

Do it. Go on do it

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I(17f) met my friend, we’ll call him Peter(18m) at a popular local lot for car enthusiasts in the area on April 1st. Peter, that night, introduced me to my now-boyfriend (19m), we’ll call him Sam, and we have been on a group chat since that night. We are all car enthusiasts and became extremely close friends afterwards.

At one point, Peter and I were both applying to car-related jobs, and Peter asked me where I was applying. I gave him the list of local performance car shops to which I was applying. I didn’t think much of the fact he asked, since I had previously expressed these are where I would be applying and I like to keep my work life separate from my social life. He then gave me and Sam the name of a shop he would be applying to and asked for help writing a cover letter. I sent mine and told him that my cover letter was a good example of one to use. He then sent back his, but I was in class and I told him I would read it.

An hour later I was out of class, and I see a message saying that he decided to apply to another shop too and had sent in his application. Not only was the other shop one I told him I would be applying to that week, but I read through his cover letter and it was my exact cover letter, except with names switched out.

I ended up rewriting my cover letter and applying to the shops I initially said I would, and I heard back from one, which is one of the best-regarded shops in the area. Peter told me he was offered a job there but could not take it since it did not work with his schedule. I took the job and was told I would be doing basic services on cars. A week later, Peter says he made the job work, and takes the job. I show up for my official first day, and I am out on training for tires and Peter is put on the services job.

Due to many factors and mistakes, Peter was taken down from the services job and placed at my level. It has now been a week of working with him, and every mistake he has made the technicians have covered for him, while I have not made quite as many errors. He has taken tasks I have been told to do, and when I have taken it up with someone in a higher level, I have been told that Peter is above me and able to tell me what to do. I was just recently alerted that Peter likes to talk badly behind my back about me to the technicians. He is also extremely condescending and constantly having me clean after his messes.

In terms of experience, I have significantly more experience than Peter, and I have worked at shops in the past and I had left those jobs due to my school hours overlapping with shop hours with no margin. I am on good terms with my previous employers.

I am angry and upset because I am stuck in a dead end while Peter gets all the opportunities at a job he would not have gotten if it had not been for me. I cannot simply bring up the cover letter issue to the boss, because as a woman in the car industry, I am very limited in terms of complaints to bring up since there is a lot of misogyny in the industry. I am having trouble finding alternate employment since I return to school in a month and no shops can work with a school schedule. I have blocked Peter on everything.

What can I do about Peter and my job?

TLDR: My ex friend applied to the jobs I wanted to apply to using my cover letter, ended up in the same job as me, and is now stepping all over me at work leaving me with no opportunities.

Captain Hygiene posted:

Ok here's the inter-familial drama I want expanded upon in novel form

AITA for telling SIL not to have campfires at their house

You can't limit my fires! I'll ruin you!

Captain Hygiene posted:

Ok here's the inter-familial drama I want expanded upon in novel form

AITA for telling SIL not to have campfires at their house

You can't limit my fires! I'll ruin you!

Midnight Voyager posted:

The funniest part is that isn't quite what Wuthering Heights is, it's more "the worst people you can imagine loving each other over to no real end." There's a scene where IN THE BACKGROUND, a child is hanging puppies by the neck. Just... apropos of nothing! That book baffles me.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

And don't get me started on Oscar-bait biopics.

Metis of the Hallways posted:

My (17f) ex-friend/coworker(18m) stole my cover letter and now my job[

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I cannot simply bring up the cover letter issue to the boss, because as a woman in the car industry, I am very limited in terms of complaints to bring up since there is a lot of misogyny in the industry.

Wii Spawn Camper posted:

This is really bizarre though, he doesn't give any reason for not wanting her there and seems to expect people to understand that.

Larry Parrish posted:

Austen sucks not because it's not a good satire of filthy upper crust/pretending to be upper crust Anglos, but because some of this annoying pretend aristocrat poo poo is still around and I hate it and I don't want to read about it ever. If I wanted that energy I could get a job as a caterer.

edogawa rando posted:

I don't know if this has come up in the thread before, but would it be possible to provide a link to the posts when you're putting them here?

teen witch posted:

Mean and cruel reminders time:

- Don’t link to Reddit posts, do the tedious work of copy and pasting. Reddit gets weird about it and likes to nix posts.

- report posts all the live long day, but if you want the fast track to my attention, PMs, email (someawfulwitch at gee male dot calm) or 500 kr in my bank account is best.

IKs don’t have access to reports and I’m not full modding, cause some goons are straight unwell.

Mvh
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Beachcomber posted:

Apparently he's had this condition since he was a baby, and he hates it.

So maybe he either doesn't want his GF to see him like that, or he's just used to mommy and doesn't want a change.

Not defending him, but there's definitely something fundamentally off.

Rescue Toaster posted:

I think we may have seen different Dunes.

exmachina posted:

Almost nobody sees (or reads) Dune right. Paul is the worst person in the universe. In Messiah (originally written as the end of Dune) he compares himself to Hitler.

Beachcomber posted:

Apparently he's had this condition since he was a baby, and he hates it.

So maybe he either doesn't want his GF to see him like that, or he's just used to mommy and doesn't want a change.

Not defending him, but there's definitely something fundamentally off.

exmachina posted:

Almost nobody sees (or reads) Dune right. Paul is the worst person in the universe. In Messiah (originally written as the end of Dune) he compares himself to Hitler.

Serephina posted:

Does Herbert ever say so, or is this just edgy internet articles?

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My(f23) boyfriend(m23) took me as his date to his sister(25f)'s birthday dinner yesterday. At the dinner my boyfriend's sister wanted to take a photo with him. However, during the photo, she put her arm around him and onto his shoulder(surprisingly she's a couple inches taller than him). I don't want people to think that she's my boyfriend's girlfriend.

I told this to my boyfriend's sister and told her that in the future she should just take pictures with my boyfriend without touching him. She just looked at me weirdly and said "ummm sure I guess?". I think I might have seemed jealous of her. She added on by saying that people know that my boyfriend is her brother so nobody would think they are dating anyways. I feel kind of bad and embarrassed for what I said to be honest. AITA?

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How does she have more right to touch her brother than I do to my boyfriend?

A HUNGRY MOUTH posted:

My junior psychonaut hot take was that even though it's a congenital chronic condition of some kind, he was keeping GF compartmentalized away from it, consciously or not. When she showed up at the hospital it was embarrassing and "wrong" and now she's associated with the condition he hates. Even though she seems like she was totally loving and ok with it, he can't handle it.

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Last edit: I've read about 1k of the comments as they came in. Yes I am just that big of an rear end in a top hat, no this isn't made up and I wish it was. A lot of you really made me think about my actions and question why. So I will be seeking out therapy after my surgery. And I'll show her this post, she said if I did something like this, this would be the outcome and she was right. Thank you for all the YTA. I'll answer whatever questions come through now.

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27 and 25, I have epilepsy, I was keeping it out of the post Because if anyone who knows me saw it would be a dead giveaway. Tbh I don't know if I would. I want to say yes of course, but I can be an AH as you can see. Just growing up and people treating me different after seeing me after my seizures has messed me up, so I can be an AH for sure after I have one.

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I haven't, I'm an AH, so of course. I think it's partly from the feeling of how I've been treated my whole life once people found out or saw me in the condition I was in. And a bunch of other stuff I don't understand. Thanks for spit balling and the YTA

Captain Hygiene posted:

Ok here's the inter-familial drama I want expanded upon in novel form

AceClown posted:

AceClown posted:

tight aspirations posted:

And comes off worse!

It's a literal comparison, with Paul saying something like Hitler killed as he killed, by sending out his legions and going on to quantify the number of planets cleansed and people killed.

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his mom just died and all of sudden he put one of our older dogs down and put our puppy in his name and just informed me he’s moving out when our lease ends soon and taking the puppy with him. i can’t stop crying because i am so broken-hearted and he keeps getting mad at me when im crying too loudly because he says im making it a “depressing environment” and says he’s either taking me somewhere or leaving himself if I don’t stop. whenever we even try to talk he keeps saying things about how i can’t talk like an adult because im crying and keeps telling me about things about myself that have bothered him in the relationship that i know i have worked on over the course of time and gotten better at but he denies that completely

i suspect his friends and family are influencing him to do this because all of them are extremely unhappy and impulsive themselves; his sister just divorced her husband for someone she met over world of warcraft, his friend is wanting to buy a house and invited him to come and live with him when our lease ends and pay him a little rent so he can pay the mortgage. and they are trying to set him up with someone else they play games online with. also i just don’t think you should make any sort of large decision when you’re in a period of grief. he even said that to me before but then came back around and said he was leaving

im just so confused. im definitely not perfect myself i have made plenty of mistakes but like everyone else continued to work on them over time. five happy years in a relationship and a proposal and he instantly flipped the switch overnight it seems to not love me anymore. how does that possible? even when someone hurts me i don’t instantly stop loving them or care for them

i can’t pay rent on my own with my measly salary and i don’t have family or friends to help house me. my family is extremely emotionally abusive (they’ve been yelling at me for crying too) so i cannot move back in with them and I have nowhere else to go. i miss my dogs. i work from home so i was constantly with them and i miss my babies so much. i just want my fiancé and my dogs. i don’t know what to do

tl;dr my fiancé of 5 years broke up with me out of nowhere when his mom died, put down one of our dogs, and is leaving with our puppy and won’t speak to me. and im so confused and don’t know what to do

Ensign Expendable posted:

Am I [13M] the rear end in a top hat for being concerned that my mom [46F] hired a holy man [47M] to treat my hemo[removed]