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Bruceski posted:I had one of those last month, though in my case it was "I could've sworn we friended each other years ago" where I caught just enough of them showing up due to mutuals that I didn't realize we hadn't officially conected. Only found out his brother died thirdhand.
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DemoneeHo posted:WIBTA if I turn off the gas before going on vacation? insure the house for a shitton of money and come back to all your MIL and money problems solved
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DemoneeHo posted:WIBTA if I turn off the gas before going on vacation? I had a very different image in mind the first time I read that they returned to their home "reeking of gas"  But yeah, that one is weirdly bonkers. I wouldn't want her in the house anyway even without the gas on, because she's either malicious or inept at life enough to blow up your house, who knows what else she'd get up to.
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Foo Diddley posted:insure the house for a shitton of money and come back to all your MIL and money problems solved There's no way the insurance company would ever pay it out tbh
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start leaving nursing home pamphlets around because "obviously you are a danger to yourself if we leave you alone" and see how quickly she straightens up
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AITA for asking for saying it’s ‘babysitting’ even if the baby is biologically minequote:I(22f) donated my eggs 3 years ago to my friends V and M (30m and 32 M) since they wanted to have a baby. I wasn’t the surrogate but just the egg donor. AITA for helping my boyfriend’s daughter with her period? quote:At first it might not sound like it, but hear me out. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 15:56 on Aug 10, 2022 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for asking for saying it’s ‘babysitting’ even if the baby is biologically mine When we don't need you you're a stranger, but when we do - you're a parent!
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for asking for saying it’s ‘babysitting’ even if the baby is biologically mine "You're a parent when it's convenient for us, otherwise go away." "gently caress you, pay me" is absolutely appropriate.
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The gas mother in law absolutely has dementia
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The_Franz posted:"You're a parent when it's convenient for us, otherwise go away."
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Fil5000 posted:Or she's putting it on low and there's a draft, specifically next to the range, that puts the flame out. Or every time she cooks the pan boils over and puts out the flame but she takes "pan has boiled over" as "dinner is ready" and just goes and eats whatever was in the pan. Either way, yeah, turn the gas off at the mains if you're leaving her in the house. I was about to point out that modern burners should be fitted with FFDs to cut the gas supply if the flame goes out, but apparently the US doesn't believe in stuff like that and there's no laws requiring one?? You learn something every day.
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darkwasthenight posted:I was about to point out that modern burners should be fitted with FFDs to cut the gas supply if the flame goes out, but apparently the US doesn't believe in stuff like that and there's no laws requiring one?? You learn something every day. 
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Booky posted:AITA for getting angry at my husband for getting the wrong bra size? r/relationships: He has a C cup on the side
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Most gas ovens I've used have had manual 'spark' buttons. Mother would just have to turn on a ring and not light it to start filling the house with gas.
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Elfface posted:Most gas ovens I've used have had manual 'spark' buttons. Mother would just have to turn on a ring and not light it to start filling the house with gas. but in all modern gas stoves I have used the gas will not continuing flowing if you don't either manually hold down the knob in the spring loaded "start" position or the flame is lit. I assume it is some heat driven valve because on an older stove can be cranky to start on a cold morning and you are having to hold it in "start" for a minute or two until the flame will stay lit. If they are committed to having mum in the house, maybe replacing the stove might be in order.
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AITA for not donating my kidney to my father?quote:So I(16m) have never met my father until recently. Not having a father figure growing up was tough for me, it definitely caused emotional damage. It started when I was 7 I see the other kids at school getting picked up by their dads and I just felt... jealous. I remember asking my mom once "Mom, why don't I have a dad like the other kids?", she basically told me the story about my dad and I won't go into detail for privacy reasons but long story short my father cheated on my mom and left my mom while she was pregnant. Going into my teen years not having a father figure was even tougher. This was when my resentment towards my father started. I have what you call "daddy issues", I honestly feel ashamed about it. I can't help but act clingy towards my male friends and be touchy with them, they're fine with it tho so no issue with them. I am grateful for my mom and she did not fail me in any way, I just wish I had a dad too. gently caress this dad, but also gently caress the mom for putting the kid in that position. Makes me wonder if they weren't talking $$$ before the kid got home.
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Almost every time a kidney donation story comes up, someone mentions you can tell the doctor you don't want to do it and they'll report that you're not compatible. Is that an urban legend or did this guy just not know about it?
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Ziv Zulander posted:The gas mother in law absolutely has dementia the fact it only ever happens when they go out is sus as all gently caress
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haveblue posted:Almost every time a kidney donation story comes up, someone mentions you can tell the doctor you don't want to do it and they'll report that you're not compatible. Is that an urban legend or did this guy just not know about it?
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AceClown posted:the fact it only ever happens when they go out is sus as all gently caress OP mentions in the comments that mom's been checked out for dementia and doesn't have it, so she's definitely doing it on purpose
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FMguru posted:Sounds like he didn't have a chance - the mother handled the blood test and got the results (which is entirely above-board - the kid is a minor and the mom is the guardian parent). One of the top comments basically says to slip a note to anyone he meets at any medical appointment: "I am being coerced into this donating a kidney to a man who abandoned me. I do not consent. I am a child. Help me."
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Same day feels like a very quick turnaround on a blood test (or blood tests? A quick google implies they usually do 3 tests, blood type, HLA and Crossmatch), but I'm no expert.
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haveblue posted:Almost every time a kidney donation story comes up, someone mentions you can tell the doctor you don't want to do it and they'll report that you're not compatible. Is that an urban legend or did this guy just not know about it? https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1600-6143.2009.03010.x Some doctors do it, but it's an ethically dodgy area. Best practise would be to say "It turns out they aren't a suitable donor" and leave it at that. e: lol 'you shouldn't hold a grudge it's not healthy'. I'll take my chances with a grudge and two working kidneys thank you very much
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Hughlander posted:One of the top comments basically says to slip a note to anyone he meets at any medical appointment: I mean, definitely do what you have to in that situation, but can a kid have their parent just go "take their kidney, their opinion does not matter" and a surgeon will just do it? I legitimately know nothing about the situation, I know there's lots of hosed up things in the healthcare industry, but I would've guessed that involuntary organ removal would not happen with only parental consent since there's no medical need on the minor's end.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I mean, definitely do what you have to in that situation, but can a kid have their parent just go "take their kidney, their opinion does not matter" and a surgeon will just do it? I legitimately know nothing about the situation, I know there's lots of hosed up things in the healthcare industry, but I would've guessed that involuntary organ removal would not happen with only parental consent since there's no medical need on the minor's end. I assume the story takes place in the US, so I'm sure theyll have no problem at all stealing that childs kidney.
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I expect it's an emotionally abusive push into donations most of the time, what with Savior babies etc. I imagine it gets into a hosed area of medical ethics real quick though. There have been a few legal cases I vaguely recall where a child ended up in court and being assigned a guardian or emancipating because parents just want more and more invasive medical stuff to save the other sibling. At that's just in the case of marrow donations, I'm sure there's been "make a baby for it's kidney or liver portion" parents out there.
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Biplane posted:I assume the story takes place in the US, so I'm sure theyll have no problem at all stealing that childs kidney. Maybe if you find some backalley surgeon or something, but no, you can't harvest organs from a living person against their will just because you are their parent and they are a minor.
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I'm sure the idea with the coercion thing isn't that the kid is saying no while the parents say yes and the doctor just shrugs and starts cutting. It's more like the kid says yes to the parents because they don't want to make things worse but then tells the doctor the truth about what's up so the doc'll find a way to get them out of it. Also the whole concept of saviour babies is so disturbing to me.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I mean, definitely do what you have to in that situation, but can a kid have their parent just go "take their kidney, their opinion does not matter" and a surgeon will just do it? I legitimately know nothing about the situation, I know there's lots of hosed up things in the healthcare industry, but I would've guessed that involuntary organ removal would not happen with only parental consent since there's no medical need on the minor's end. He's what, 16? Can't he just get up and walk out of the hospital? What are they going to do, hold him down on the operating table?
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The_Franz posted:Maybe if you find some backalley surgeon or something, but no, you can't harvest organs from a living person against their will just because you are their parent and they are a minor. Or you're rich.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I mean, definitely do what you have to in that situation, but can a kid have their parent just go "take their kidney, their opinion does not matter" and a surgeon will just do it? I legitimately know nothing about the situation, I know there's lots of hosed up things in the healthcare industry, but I would've guessed that involuntary organ removal would not happen with only parental consent since there's no medical need on the minor's end. Yeah, the difference that the other poster was talking about is "not compatible" (which is a lie) versus "not suitable" (which is true, and also sounds like "not compatible" at first blush). A 16 year old is still probably situationally vulnerable, in that they're probably reliant on their parents or guardians for things like housing, and also legally vulnerable because they're a literal child. The surgeon would need to obtain assent for them to participate and should be able to recognize hesitation on the part of the child and talk through them about that. This sounds like a fairly straightforward transplant and probably isn't going to be a career-maker or be a research study where the doctor or health system might have an interest in performing this outside of clinical care for a patient. Transplant doctors want to help their patients for clinical reasons but they understand that live donors can be greatly impacted too, potentially more than the recipient, and don't take that lightly. Anyway it doesn't sound like this kid is being coerced particularly heavily, dad has no leverage at all and mom is like "you should stop being so angry and let him into your life" but doesn't seem to actually be angry at him or threatening him or anything.
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I don't see what's stopping him setting a price on the kidney. How about all of "Dad's" assets (including the house) plus $1,000,000? The Dad can take out a loan to cover it.
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Plucky Brit posted:I don't see what's stopping him setting a price on the kidney. How about all of "Dad's" assets (including the house) plus $1,000,000? Selling your organs is a very tricky thing in most countries, I think.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Selling your organs is a very tricky thing in most countries, I think. It's not selling her organs, its her father settling any past ParentingDebt before taking on FleshDebt.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not donating my kidney to my father? Yeah it's pretty hosed up this kid has Timon and/or Pumbaa as his mom.
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Good ball by Dixon posted:It means they deleted you, hth. Nah, they were surprised too. A few years back I scanned and restored an old newspaper photo of a bunch of us that got attention from people who hadn't spoken to each other in ten years, and we lost track in that frenzy of friending and catching up.
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SiKboy posted:Same day feels like a very quick turnaround on a blood test (or blood tests? A quick google implies they usually do 3 tests, blood type, HLA and Crossmatch), but I'm no expert. In hospital turn around here is about 4-6 hours. Not sure where / what country this is in, but 16 is old enough to provide informed consent one way or the other. (Consent to procedures is based on understanding the risks and consequences, and not generally tied to a specific age, at least here).
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I think I hate the mom in that story even more than the dad. The dude is doing the obvious thing to try and not die from kidney disease even though he's a piece of poo poo, but the idea that the mom would allow this poo poo to go on for even a second is loving insane.
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look, it's time you let bygones be bygones and also give up a major organ
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