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AreWeDrunkYet posted:lol, if they're travelling internationally for a toy (and multiple times a month even without the toy) and the family owns property in another country, YTA regardless of the details. first world problems and then some. you take away a toddler's security toy on purpose like that, you need to go get it back it's not a toy, toddlers get really attached to specific things that make them feel safe (it's called a transitional object) and the dad deliberately got rid of it, he's lucky he can undo it for the price of an international plane ticket. the wife's absolutely in the right regardless of their finances
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AITA for encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight?quote:I'm 27 years old and have a girlfriend of 6 years who I live with. When we first got together she had an athletic body, that all changed the past couple years when she got promoted and started working longer hours. She has started smoking weed every night claiming that it helped her relax after a hard days work. She also started eating like poo poo. She's about 19lbs heavier than when we first met and on her 5'2 frame it definitely shows. After ignoring my subtle hints for the last year, I finally sat her down last month and said enough is enough. She needs to make an effort to get healthy. She agreed that and asked me to help since i'm in great shape myself. after spending a year making subtle digs about my gf's weight, i finally sat her down last month and really attacked her. reddit, why won't she listen to me? doesn't she understand that her only value is in giving me boners?
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Haschel Cedricson posted:The quinceañera story reminds me of when my daughter came home from kindergarten telling us that she had learned about Dia de los Muertos from her classmates and she wanted to make an altar too with pictures of my grandma, my great-aunt, my parents' dog, and our cat. I was uncomfortable with this because we are white as hell and I know that the ofrenda is for people and not pets. After Coco came out this was pretty popular amongst grade school kids, at least in our circles
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Kitfox88 posted:AITA for refusing to not get my daughter the new phone that she wanted because of something she said about her stepmom in her diary? Maybe Jake's girlfriend should take her Naz out of this kid's business.
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Crocobile posted:Sorry to double post but this one’s kinda fun!
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Mistayke posted:I never understood "mine" and "yours" for finances in a marriage. I'm married 32 years to a great woman, and we have a single joint bank account. All my pay goes into that as well as my wife's. Sorry to quite from forever ago but I see this sentiment come up a lot and wanted to provide a counterpoint. The was a story here where a woman had no reason to distrust her husband but he suddenly got in his head that his wife should become a SAHM and when she wouldn't he left and drained their shared accounts. If this was her only money she would have had that much harder a time getting judicial recourse in a hosed up situation. This is an example of why I want my wife to have her own money (we do have shared assets too) because I want her to be financially protected from everyone, even me. I love and trust my wife and would never willingly harm her but who knows, maybe I'll get Phineas Gage'd tomorrow and turn into a raging rear end in a top hat who's finacially controlling. If she has her own money she's safe no matter what. There's other reasons I like a mix of shared and single assets but that's the biggest one.
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sudonim posted:Sorry to quite from forever ago but I see this sentiment come up a lot and wanted to provide a counterpoint. Yup, I've seen enough people I know get financially abused (and one case where, as far as I know, one partner in a previously fairly healthy relationship had some sort of manic break and spent over $10k of their shared money in one night) that I will always have my own personal account no matter what.
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Yeah, we do the three account setup too. One for me, one for her, and one account we both pay into and pay all the shared bills out of. As long as we both keep the joint account fed we don't have to monitor each other's spending
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my wife is a stay at home, but i still make sure to do the 3 accounts thing there and try to make sure she has enough to not have to ask me for random stuff, I mean we still talk about bigger things but i want her to have her own money so she isnt just dealing with me looking at giant credit card bills and being like all micromanager about stuff.
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AITA for not letting my sister use our mum's name as her daughter's middle name?quote:So I'm currently 25 and married but since I was 14, I have wanted to name my future daughter by my mums name to honour my mum. My sister had already stolen my wedding thunder the year before where she randomly decided to marry her boyfriend of 2 months 2 weeks before my ceremony which I had planned 6 months prior. When this happened, I was not allowed to say anything but people did not help me with wedding plans because they were focused on her so much. So use the name? The cousin will have it in the middle, who cares? These people are exhausting.
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AITA for banning my neice from my grandmother's funeral after what she did at my mother's?quote:My grandmother just passed away. We're in the middle of planning her funeral, and I really only have one request. One particular person, we'll call her Shannon, needs to be banned from it. This sounds bad, but hear me out. Shannon is my sister's stepdaughter.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for banning my neice from my grandmother's funeral after what she did at my mother's? I feel like that's a hell of a thing to just mention in passing on the way to the main story
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Captain Hygiene posted:I feel like that's a hell of a thing to just mention in passing on the way to the main story yeah I was going to bold it but it feels better when you have to double-take in the normal text. AITA for ruining a prank because I cant smell quote:I (20f) was born without a sense of smell. No clue why since doctors don't know why but its never bothered me. The only time its really brought up is when someone who knows asks me to "smell this" and i have to remind them I cant smell or when I was younger and my parents were concerned with me moving out since I wouldn't be able to smell any hazards. gently caress prank culture. You ruined a tasty biohazard because you can't smell it! gently caress just imagine if it had leaked into carpet or brought ants.
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There's gotta be a point at which rotting fish is hitting more than just the nose.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for ruining a prank because I cant smell Yes, OP, you are the rear end in a top hat for being born without a sense of smell, which you did maliciously as an rear end in a top hat-fetus to hurt your future friend. gently caress prank culture, but also gently caress all these OPs asking stupid questions about "ruining" pranks where they couldn't possibly be the rear end in a top hat. Remember the one where the friend stole OP's phone as a prank, and the OP (thinking it was just lost and not larcenypranked) used a find-my-phone app to locate it, and then wanted to know if they were the rear end in a top hat for taking normal sensible actions in response to something they didn't and couldn't know was a prank?
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Solenna posted:He should look up orthorexia and see if she hits any more of the warning signs. In the meantime if he wants to compromise he should make double batches of healthy food on days he cooks that and she can have leftovers on days he wants to eat something heavier. In the comments they tease out a few more details from OP, mostly that she has some sort of anxiety that she refuses to get treatment, and that her whole family behaves like this.
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Bonster posted:AITA for not letting my sister use our mum's name as her daughter's middle name? AITA for refusing to help my brother after he borrowed £200k from my husband without telling me first? quote:My brother borrowed £200k from my husband 2 years ago. I only recently found out because neither one of them thought this was something I should know about at the time. The only reason my brother told me is because he knows he won’t be able to pay him back and is poo poo scared now. He’s been avoiding my husband for the last 4 months and only agreed to have lunch with me because he’s out of the country at the moment. Talk about missing missing reasons...
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Is her husband in the mafia or something?
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AITA for not caring that my brother isn't a fan of shallow graves?
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Brawnfire posted:There's gotta be a point at which rotting fish is hitting more than just the nose. You mean like the prankster, or something else?
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for banning my neice from my grandmother's funeral after what she did at my mother's? quote:Yta, first of all the niece wasn't responsible at your mother's funeral and second, do you think the same thing will happen again like suppose she will kill her father and do a joint funeral and then make it all about herself. Yta grow up.
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Solenna posted:He should look up orthorexia and see if she hits any more of the warning signs. In the meantime if he wants to compromise he should make double batches of healthy food on days he cooks that and she can have leftovers on days he wants to eat something heavier. He should butt out of her eating habits. If she originally was athletic and food conscious she knows what needs to be done to get back into shape. For whatever reason she doesn’t want to do that anymore and nothing he does will change that. Instead he needs to come to her from a place of concern mentioning her poor eating habits and dope-smoking and sitting around. Perhaps it is depression or some other mental issue that is affecting her and he can offer support without attacking her weight and/or her eating habits. The fact that she’s hiding it is an indicator of a rift between them that needs to be addressed. Forcing an alcoholic to drink non-alcohol drinks means the alcoholic will get booze elsewhere. Forcing a depressed person to “be happy!” means the depressed person gets good at hiding it. Unless the underlying cause gets treated there will be lies, deceit and schism.
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Every part of that story is insane wtf
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Agrikk posted:He should butt out of her eating habits. You're conflating two different stories. Edit: I think between these two. Crocobile posted:AITA for refusing to cater to my girlfriend’s food preferences? Foo Diddley posted:AITA for encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight? fishing with the fam fucked around with this message at 16:39 on Aug 22, 2022 |
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fishing with the fam posted:You're conflating two different stories. Yep! Quoted the wrong post.
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fishing with the fam posted:You're conflating two different stories. I think all four of them will have a better time if they did a swap.
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight? jesus loving christ. 20 loving pounds. The only time this ever makes sense is if its drastically sudden or actually becoming unhealthy, and even then there are ways you loving address it, not like this fucker. like yeah if your partner gains 100lbs or something that's worthy of a "hey what's going on, are you ok? how can i help" type conversation. but god drat these people
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WoodrowSkillson posted:jesus loving christ. 20 loving pounds. The only time this ever makes sense is if its drastically sudden or actually becoming unhealthy, and even then there are ways you loving address it, not like this fucker. 20 pounds over the course of at least 6 years, at that. That's practically just what you'd gain normally anyway over that time period if you're not trying to maintain weight. Especially since they're both going into their 30s and their metabolisms are going to have started slowing down.
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Found a nice one from r/relationship_advice i just got a letter from my alcoholic dad after 5 years of NC, i’m feeling conflicted. quote:I (23m) got a letter sent to my work 2 days ago and when i opened it when i got home, i discovered it’s from my dad who i haven’t had contact with in 5 years. UPDATE: i just got a letter from my alcoholic dad after 5 years of NC, I’m feeling conflicted. quote:So after thinking on everything that’s happened for a week or two, I did decide that I wanted to establish contact with my dad.
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Crocobile posted:AITA for embarassing my husband? UPDATE: quote:Not 100% sure how this update thing works - or if any of you will see this. But I'm kind of overwhelmed by the response this got. To address some recurring remarks - my sister is actually older than me, but, in response to this post - she did share with me a few instances in which my husband made her uncomfortable. I'm floored.If you'd told me a year ago that this is where I'd be - I wouldn't have believed it. Out of love and respect for someone I've spent almost a decade with, I won't go into deep specifics. But I can reflect on the past few months and see a lot of signs of emotional abuse, and perhaps even though I don't want to admit it, before then.For everyone suggesting couple's counseling - I appreciate it. I'm just not sure I'll ever be able to forgive someone who's embarassed me, and more importantly, made my sister feel unsafe. I contacted a divorce attorney today. Another thread winner!
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AITA for clashing with BIL over lack of funeral plans after my sister died of cancer.quote:Sorry if this isn't allowed here, please remove if not. OP continues to be an rear end in a top hat in comments. quote:She was always in contact with my parents and I. Her husband was the one who was never in contact.
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Captain Hygiene posted:You mean like the prankster, or something else? I just imagine the smell evolving beyond, into something tangible, difficult to breathe, that would trip the gag reflex even if taken in through an unsmelling nose. The kinda smell you taste. The kind that leaves a film.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for clashing with BIL over lack of funeral plans after my sister died of cancer. BIL did what my family should've done when my dad died and wanted to be buried in his hometown 500 miles away. Instead we ended up with two loving funerals within two days, my sister screaming at my aunts, and a dinner of random food grabbed from the Sheetz across the street from our hotel.
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Foo Diddley posted:r/relationships: That collar was mine. There is no dog.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for clashing with BIL over lack of funeral plans after my sister died of cancer. IANA Catholic, but I had the impression you could ask your local church to arrange a special mass for someone who's died? Unless pop culture lied to me, that seems a reasonable way for the family to do their own thing with their own spiritual advisor without even bothering the husband about it. Or is it more about forcing the husband to acknowledge/witness their performative grief? ...Nvm, just answered my own question. wheatpuppy fucked around with this message at 18:37 on Aug 22, 2022 |
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wheatpuppy posted:IANA Catholic, but I had the impression you could ask your local church to arrange a special mass for someone who's died? Unless pop culture ahs lied to me, that seems a reasonable way for the family to do their own thing with their own spiritual advisor without even bothering the husband about it. Or is it more about forcing the husband to acknowledge/witness their performative grief? I would think it's more about the poster and their family still living in denial pretending this woman was ever "going back to the church". With a kicker of blaming her husband for her not doing so.
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Crocobile posted:Found a nice one from r/relationship_advice
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Crocobile posted:Found a nice one from r/relationship_advice
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wheatpuppy posted:IANA Catholic, but I had the impression you could ask your local church to arrange a special mass for someone who's died? Unless pop culture ahs lied to me, that seems a reasonable way for the family to do their own thing with their own spiritual advisor without even bothering the husband about it. Or is it more about forcing the husband to acknowledge/witness their performative grief? Absolutely, even if you don't go for a whole mass being said for them, it's also a thing in a Catholic mass to have the names of the recently deceased read out and for the priest to ask the congregation to say a prayer for the repose of their soul. I haven't been to mass in years, but I remember lists of names being read out of - the recently dead, people whose death anniversaries are near, or (this is an Irish thing), people who died a month ago. Month's mind is, I think a very Irish Catholic death thing. Also, if you just want to sent a little prayer upwards for the dead, you can always light a candle. Even though I left the church many years ago, I occasionally get the urge to light a candle in her church for my grandma, because she would have been happy that I did Pookah fucked around with this message at 18:47 on Aug 22, 2022 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for clashing with BIL over lack of funeral plans after my sister died of cancer. Jesus as someone whose wife was diagnosed with cancer a month after our youngest was born (full remission now) I would absolutely go scorched earth on anyone dumb enough to think they have any say in a funeral. gently caress that person so much you obviously weren't loving close with your sister
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