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AxGrap posted:If I feel like we are doing too much screen time I get a big piece of wood or cardboard and paint, if it's big enough that's a solid afternoon haha yea, my habit of incessantly buying stuff, plus geo isolation that makes Amazon our best bet for some staple-good things, means we usually have sort of unreasonable amounts of cardboard, kiddo instantly decides based on shape "that's a car, that's going to be a rocket, that one we just paint all over" Frankly I enjoy being in solo mode except for those moments when the older kid won't stop screaming because she minimized the PBS kids app and can't get back to it meanwhile the younger kid desperately needs to be changed and the cats won't shut up. So, aside from that 40% or so of waking time, it's great XD
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my favorite thing about solo dad time is that my kids enjoy it and don't loathe it the way I did as a kid. I'm just glad my kids like me and aren't afraid of me.
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Sep 22, 2022 20:00
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:my favorite thing about solo dad time is that my kids enjoy it and don't loathe it the way I did as a kid. I'm just glad my kids like me and aren't afraid of me. That's a sad low bar to clear 
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Sep 22, 2022 20:09
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I am solidly ranked #2 behind mom and when we visit the grandparents, I subsequently drop to #4 It's ok though, nobody does voices better than me for bedtime reading
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Sep 22, 2022 20:20
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Stay at home dad days means toddler demon gets to go to the park so he's happy about it
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Sep 22, 2022 20:44
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My mom is the absolute favourite og my 5 year old. The reason: she has Nutella (and very few limits says his parents). But yeah, every weekend morning we discuss whether mom is allowed to sleep and he can crawl into my side of the bed. It almost always ends in him getting into his mother's side, but occasionally me and him both get up and go downstairs. Sleeping with dad is not an option.
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Sep 22, 2022 20:47
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Got the bill for our five-week NICU stay: $340,000 before insurance. Now to resume the hunt for daycare that will cost $1,500-$2,000 a month and won't have infant slots open until next August. Why don't more people have kids?
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Sep 23, 2022 17:23
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one has always been the correct number and we'd be happily extinct by now if people had kept to it from the beginning
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Sep 23, 2022 17:31
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BonHair posted:That's a sad low bar to clear yeah it turns out not everyone had a great dad! who knew?
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Sep 23, 2022 18:00
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There's nothing quite like dozing on the couch and waking up to a hyped-up toddler scream-giggling and charging into a leaping headbutt straight to your gut
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Sep 23, 2022 18:14
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My partner is interviewing at an influencer "talent" management and training company ( to be a C Suite, not a content producer) and I made the mistake of teasing her about it in front of our kids by doing a silly voiced pretend vlog about my lunch yesterday. The kids were inspired and won't stop acting out fake social media posts for us about eating at McDonalds and watching The Simpsons and it's loving hilarious. I don't think my partner will continue the interview process lol Another Bill has issued a correction as of 18:30 on Sep 23, 2022 |
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Sep 23, 2022 18:19
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DR FRASIER KRANG posted:yeah it turns out not everyone had a great dad! who knew? I can be an overly stern prick to my kids when they're misbehaving and it's something I very much have my attention and effort on. My own dad had the same tendency, I would say more strongly, even though we always had and continue to have a close and good relationship. His accounts of my grandfather make it sound like he was even more stern, very distant, and had all this stuff in spades. That guy's father was a right fuckin prick who left his family, started another, then left THAT family and started another. My own take is that this stuff percolates down through the bloodlines, but it can get better.
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Sep 23, 2022 18:23
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I recognized very quickly the stuff I did/do that is cut right out of my dad and I just try to shed all the lovely terrible stuff.
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Sep 23, 2022 18:52
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My wife is pregnant with our second (we've had an ultrasound confirming a heartbeat and exactly one embryo, no more information at present) and has migraines and goddamn that is a very bad combination. All her usual meds are unsafe to take while pregnant. Her doctor recommended a medication because it doesn't increase risk of miscarriage or defects, but, it's apparently a dopamine blocker and long-term use of it can cause brain damage and people have reported developing permanent facial tics from taking it like once and so instead she just took an Excedrin and is spending our 2-year-old's entire nap also napping and hopefully that helps because gently caress that poo poo
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Sep 23, 2022 19:50
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loquacius posted:My wife is pregnant with our second (we've had an ultrasound confirming a heartbeat and exactly one embryo, no more information at present) and has migraines and goddamn that is a very bad combination. All her usual meds are unsafe to take while pregnant. that stinks dude. hope its an uneventful pregnancy. kid 2 coming in like 4 weeks. pulling all the baby junk out of storage and its actually starting to sink in.
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Sep 24, 2022 10:08
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kecske posted:going from 1 > 2 is way easier than 0 > 1 imo. I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever 
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Sep 24, 2022 11:22
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kecske posted:I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever awesome
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Sep 24, 2022 11:25
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bitmap posted:that stinks dude. hope its an uneventful pregnancy. The first year I kept thinking "why did I do this to myself" Recently I've been thinking more along the lines of "well, if we had another..."
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Sep 24, 2022 11:45
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kecske posted:I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever yeah your initial statement really, truly is fantasy 2 is way more than twice as many kids as 1
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Sep 24, 2022 12:24
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On the other hand, maybe if I have a fourth kid they'll all occupy each other...
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Sep 24, 2022 13:38
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PerniciousKnid posted:On the other hand, maybe if I have a fourth kid they'll all occupy each other... Yeah as long as there's a big enough gap, older kids will in fact help out with younger. At least, that's the theory.
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Sep 24, 2022 13:43
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kecske posted:I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever choosing not to believe this
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Sep 24, 2022 13:45
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kecske posted:I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever I haven't slept through the night, since 2017. I don't even know what it would feel like to do that anymore. Fortunately it looks like the end is in sight, the little one had a check up and is going to see some specialists to address his feeding issues. Once that's all taken care of he should be sleeping better. This guy was trouble even before he was born!
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Sep 24, 2022 14:36
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other than teething my girl slept 12 solid hours her whole 5 years of life i would be a fool to temp fate on another
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Sep 24, 2022 15:13
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kecske posted:I'd like to revise this and go the other way. They seem to have come to some arrangement where only one is ever asleep at any given time so there is zero downtime at all ever Heh yeah that's the spirit. I can tell people I didn't sleep through the night more than 10 times (seven consecutively on the same holiday) in the three and a half years after my 2nd was born but nobody really gets it until they get a sample. e: After I typed this I found my partner looking at dogs that need rescuing. We already have a puppy. The worst part is I kind of want to do it but it would be total chaos. Another Bill has issued a correction as of 17:44 on Sep 24, 2022 |
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Sep 24, 2022 17:39
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Today I tried introducing the 3yo to Nightmare Before Christmas. We didn't even get halfway through the first song before she decided it was too scary lol
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Sep 25, 2022 05:53
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:Today I tried introducing the 3yo to Nightmare Before Christmas. We didn't even get halfway through the first song before she decided it was too scary lol Our soon to be 5 year old LOVES that movie and anything with monsters. I'm not sure what he would have thought at 3. I'm debating if I want him to watch any of the Simpsons Halloween episodes.
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Sep 25, 2022 11:16
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how does peppa pig invade the minds of children so effectively
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Sep 25, 2022 12:28
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she loves it. all she wants is peppa. I could put the same episode on repeat for 4 hours and she'd just be glued to it.
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Sep 25, 2022 12:29
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bitmap posted:she loves it. all she wants is peppa. I could put the same episode on repeat for 4 hours and she'd just be glued to it. my kid is like this with daniel tiger lol. i think we've been on season 4 for like a month now, he either doesn't know or doesn't care. sometimes i wish i liked something that much.
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Sep 25, 2022 13:24
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I remember reading that they love knowing what to expect. So much the world is baffling and unpredictable at that age.
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Sep 25, 2022 13:47
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remember when you thought "im not gonna let my kids look at screens for too long" lol
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Sep 25, 2022 13:52
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bitmap posted:remember when you thought "im not gonna let my kids look at screens for too long" lol did this for a while. then, we all got covid, which resulted in him watching encanto 50 times while we were all bedbound. sigh.
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Sep 25, 2022 14:06
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bitmap posted:remember when you thought "im not gonna let my kids look at screens for too long" lol I feel like we did pretty well until COVID started and we had to homeschool the kids with no babysitters in perpetuity. Then it was either TV or duct tape then to the wall so I can take a nap.
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yeah covid obliterated any sense of screen time moderation for us. it's impossible to reel it back in it seems.
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Sep 25, 2022 14:23
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I feel like if screen time makes your kid dumb, it's probably because you let them watch dumb crap and didn't curate their time one bit. Like another poster said, they usually just want to watch the same comforting video or movie over and over because formatting a new brain to function in this world is a painful and confusing process. Just keep an eye out and block dumb stuff whenever it crops up. Please look forward to my future posts about how I hate my kid trying to become an influencer because of my lax screen time rules.
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Sep 25, 2022 14:29
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We restricted screen time pretty heavily when our oldest was born, but the younger one has been watching those simple songs on youtube while I work out every morning for almost his whole life. I do feel a little guilty about it.
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Sep 25, 2022 15:26
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bitmap posted:remember when you thought "im not gonna let my kids look at screens for too long" lol refusing to even consider remembering this
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Sep 25, 2022 16:03
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my eight year old asks for a phone every few months because I guess one of his friends has one but I'm struggling to think of any possible reason a kid who never leaves the basement needs with a cell phone.
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Organic Lube User posted:I feel like if screen time makes your kid dumb, it's probably because you let them watch dumb crap and didn't curate their time one bit. I made a point of keeping a list of nature docs going for whenever I was watching TV with my little kids, and we watched COSMOS a couple of times and now they enjoy that kind of infotainment still. We especially enjoy docs about apex predators like wolves and sharks. 
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