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It sounds like she mostly just wants him to put in a bit of effort rather than wearing the same poo poo he normally wears? There's not a lot to go on but "20 year old who only has one type of outfit" doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who's going to make his button ups really nice ones even. I can get it would be really frustrating for her to keep trying hard to look good or dress for an event while he just does the same low-effort poo poo every time, no matter what. It also sounds as if they're just not really into the same things. Whatever hobbies he's spending money on isn't intersecting much with what they're doing as a couple and the result is that from her perspective he just doesn't really care about hanging out. They're incompatible and they should break up. edit: ah gently caress, snipe. here's some content. Girlfriend was gifted an apartment and is asking me to pay her rent to move in quote:I've been dating my girlfriend for a year now.
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Bruceski posted:I have two suit jackets I got "in case I need them someday" (and one I actually used at the time I got it). Guess how many of them fit by the time I needed them? are they too big or too small like are we talking "i borrowed my dads suit to pretend im an adult" territory or "if i flex it will tear the arms asunder like a hulk transformation scene"
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Sep 23, 2022 23:39
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Bruceski posted:I have two suit jackets I got "in case I need them someday" (and one I actually used at the time I got it). Guess how many of them fit by the time I needed them? i got one decades ago and it still fits still got the same knot in my tie from back then, too. just gotta be careful taking it off is all
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Sep 23, 2022 23:50
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Always a classic tale AITA for telling my Ex Best Friend that he caused his divorce? quote:I 25(f) recently got into an argument with my now Ex Best friend lets call him Ben 30(m) who ended up divorced after he hosed up his marriage and I didn't support him as a friend should
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Sep 23, 2022 23:55
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Deformed Church posted:Girlfriend was gifted an apartment and is asking me to pay her rent to move in letting someone move in for free is a goddamn mistake, but gf should have told OP before he started moving in
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Sep 24, 2022 00:04
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blatman posted:are they too big or too small So tight across the shoulders that I can't straighten my neck. One of them's also clearly too small in other ways and it's not like the other's perfect, but that's the obvious issue. I was never a stringbean but I got broad at some point.
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Sep 24, 2022 00:08
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The OP clarified later in the comments that she just wanted him to put a little effort in when they go out on dates, I don't think that's too weird. But of course, the post has been nuked from orbit by the mods for "no ongoing conflict". 
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Beachcomber posted:I'm so bored of the rings at this point. Great book, though somewhat dated.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:00
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Solkanar512 posted:The OP clarified later in the comments that she just wanted him to put a little effort in when they go out on dates, I don't think that's too weird. It's not weird and it's fine to ask, for sure. But he might not change and that's okay too
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Sep 24, 2022 01:12
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Soylent Pudding posted:Always a classic tale The trash took itself out OP! You've won!
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Sep 24, 2022 01:22
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Foo Diddley posted:letting someone move in for free is a goddamn mistake, but gf should have told OP before he started moving in What the gently caress are you talking about? You think it's cool to charge your SO rent when you're not paying to live in the place yourself? It was a gift.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:24
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Borosilicate posted:What the gently caress are you talking about? You think it's cool to charge your SO rent when you're not paying to live in the place yourself? It was a gift. So can't charge rent if if was an inheritance? What about if she just bought it in cash? Cash that she earned? How about cash that she inherited? Sorry, but no. Just because someone in a relationship owns a home doesn't mean it's free to all their partners that would possibly live with them. That's like.....close to marriage level stuff. Not "trying out living together for the first time" stuff.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:33
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Borosilicate posted:What the gently caress are you talking about? You think it's cool to charge your SO rent when you're not paying to live in the place yourself? It was a gift. yes, i do, 'cuz it's her fuckin apartment, not her boyfriend's. whether it was a gift or not is completely irrelevant
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Sep 24, 2022 01:33
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Poor guy found out he was dating a loving landlord just in time
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AITA for driving away without my sister at the gym after she would not leave me alone about my workouts?quote:This happened last night and my parents are furious with me and have basically issued me an ultimatum that I apologize or I may be asked to move out. I feel like she had left me with no choice so I left her at the gym.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:47
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Anything over half the utilities/repairs is just asinine. That's your SO, not a tenant.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:48
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Why would you want to profit off of your boyfriend? Like, paying utilities and repairs and poo poo yeah, that's fine but him paying her rent is her becoming a parasite landlord to someone she supposedly cares about. She's not even paying a mortgage on the place so it's just her taking money from him every month for herself. That is gross and slimy.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:50
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Foo Diddley posted:yes, i do, 'cuz it's her fuckin apartment, not her boyfriend's. whether it was a gift or not is completely irrelevant The question wasn't 'Is she legally allowed to be a scumbag parasite and treat her SO like crap', hth.
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Sep 24, 2022 01:55
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rain dogs posted:Anything over half the utilities/repairs is just asinine. That's your SO, not a tenant. So if shae had a mortgage on the place it would be okay for charging half that plus utilities plus repairs? (which lol repairs are on a different scale) If yes, what if she paid the mortgage off while they were living together? He gets free board then? If so, why? If she was renting would it be okay to charge half the rent plus utilities? If so, how is this situation different than the situations above? When answering, please state if you have ever lived on your own or had to pay for yourself to live for an extended period of time all by yourself. With or without roomates. Also answer if she had enough money to pay off a mortgage or buy the place they are renting but had not if she could still charge.
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Sep 24, 2022 02:00
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okay yeah i'll pay all the taxes, all the hoa fees, all the maintainance, and you take up half my home and cry about how unfair it would be for you to pay rent that's a great fuckin deal, i can't wait to do that one again
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Sep 24, 2022 02:02
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To be honest if he was paying on the mortgage without actually having his name in it he would be an idiot as well. Your not partners your her tenant she sometimes sleeps with
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Sep 24, 2022 02:10
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Foo Diddley posted:letting someone move in for free is a goddamn mistake, but gf should have told OP before he started moving in Honestly, he was never told that he'd get to live there for free anyways. He was always going to have to pay utilities and upkeep...which also translates into rent. The problem, from the sounds of it, is that she's now asking for an extra $700 on top of that, without warning and when he's already partly moved in. Borosilicate posted:What the gently caress are you talking about? You think it's cool to charge your SO rent when you're not paying to live in the place yourself? It was a gift. The thread has, generally, sided with people going "if you're going to live here full-time, pay your share of the utilities and groceries at least". Where we've disagreed with the person trying to charge rent is when they're doing poo poo like "you were here three hours/overnight/for the weekend, pay me the cost of electricity you consumed during that time". HopperUK posted:Poor guy found out he was dating a loving landlord just in time
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It's the extra money I was talking about. The gross rent-seeking exploitative landlord bullshit.
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According to the story, the girlfriend owns the house outright and doesn't pay rent or mortgage, but does pay utilities and stuff. The OP was told that if they moved in, they'd have to also pay utilities, but not rent. While moving in, they had a fight with their girlfriend and she told them they had to also pay rent now, almost doubling what they were already intending to pay. That's what they're upset about. There's no mortgage, at least that the girlfriend is paying, and the OP was always going to pay for utilities and upkeep. I feel like the fact this happened after a fight is relevant.
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i have always just paid the dang mortgage. drat. guess I missed out on like almost 10 years of rent from my wife.
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Sep 24, 2022 02:29
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for driving away without my sister at the gym after she would not leave me alone about my workouts? Feels like bait. At the risk of lambasting someone with a serious medical condition, I can’t help but feel she’s self-diagnosed as “out of shape” and if her symptoms wouldn’t get better with some light exercise. Regardless, stranding your sibling with no phone and knowingly screening their call for help is an rear end in a top hat response for the crime of being condescending.
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Motronic posted:So if shae had a mortgage on the place it would be okay for charging half that plus utilities plus repairs? (which lol repairs are on a different scale) I've rented for 20+ years, by myself, with roommates, girlfriends, and a wife. I've never tried to make a profit off of any of them. If you think it's ok to profit off someone you're romantically involved with, well that's gonna be a yikesaroonie from me.
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LawfulWaffle posted:Feels like bait. At the risk of lambasting someone with a serious medical condition, I can’t help but feel she’s self-diagnosed as “out of shape” and if her symptoms wouldn’t get better with some light exercise. Regardless, stranding your sibling with no phone and knowingly screening their call for help is an rear end in a top hat response for the crime of being condescending. It’s even funnier. She thinks that because she has “8 disabilities” Ssi is going to give her 77k/year
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Motronic posted:So if shae had a mortgage on the place it would be okay for charging half that plus utilities plus repairs? (which lol repairs are on a different scale) It's normal and expected to share living expenses. Utilities and repairs are living expenses. A mortgage is a living expense. Charging rent is fine up to the point of paying for shared living expenses (HOA fees, taxes, insurance, etc.) but the point of shared living expenses is that they are shared, not unidirectional. She wants to charge an additional fee for the privilege of living with her. That's not cool or good. It's especially not cool or good to spring this additional rent amount on someone while they're in the middle of moving in, after you had told them that they wouldn't be paying an arbitrary amount of additional rent, after they had let the lease on their old place lapse. QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 02:57 on Sep 24, 2022 |
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Strangers who are roommates: both contribute financially towards housing Friends who are roommates: both contribute financially towards housing Married couple: both contribute financially towards housing Unmarried couple living together: one of the partners should pay 100% and the other should pay 0
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rain dogs posted:I've rented for 20+ years, by myself, with roommates, girlfriends, and a wife. I've never tried to make a profit off of any of them. It's not a profit unless you're really bad at reading what you responded to. Cerekk posted:Strangers who are roommates: both contribute financially towards housing Yeah, this.
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being bad at reading is a time-honoured r/r thread tradition
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It costs more to live in a place than just the mortgage payment. I live in a low property tax state and still pay like $450/mo in property taxes, roughly a thousand a year for insurance, anywhere from $100-300/ month just doing the maintenance I can handle myself. Next month I am having a $30k roof put on. I’ve been here almost ten years so it amortizes a little but it’s still a lot of loving money. Now, I’m in an older house and not a condo, but with condos you just pay an HOA fee so that you prepay the maintenance. You can still get hit with a big assessment for a new roof for the whole building or to replace the parking lot. You still have property taxes and insurance, albeit a little cheaper. And the type of partner that balks at paying a reasonable rent and instead thinks they should get a fee ride is also the type of partner who is going to say, “Why should I pay to repair YOUR apartment?”
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Shwoo posted:According to the story, the girlfriend owns the house outright and doesn't pay rent or mortgage, but does pay utilities and stuff. The OP was told that if they moved in, they'd have to also pay utilities, but not rent. While moving in, they had a fight with their girlfriend and she told them they had to also pay rent now, almost doubling what they were already intending to pay. That's what they're upset about. There's no mortgage, at least that the girlfriend is paying, and the OP was always going to pay for utilities and upkeep. Yeah, this... he said he was fine actually paying for utilities and poo poo, is everyone missing that?
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Motronic posted:It's not a profit unless you're really bad at reading what you responded to. And I said that paying for half the utilities, upkeep, taxes, whatever is fine. There are no loving housing expenses.
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therobit posted:It costs more to live in a place than just the mortgage payment. I live in a low property tax state and still pay like $450/mo in property taxes, roughly a thousand a year for insurance, anywhere from $100-300/ month just doing the maintenance I can handle myself. Next month I am having a $30k roof put on. I’ve been here almost ten years so it amortizes a little but it’s still a lot of loving money. i unironically love posts that explain things everyone knows
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how are so many people so goddamn bad at reading the loving story
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Motronic posted:It's not a profit unless you're really bad at reading what you responded to. They had already talked about him paying $800/mo for his share of expenses like utilities and taxes, so what is this new $700/mo amount paying for? In what way is it not profit?
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sugar free jazz posted:i unironically love posts that explain things everyone knows A lot of goons literally think that the rent they pay is nothing but pure profit for their mustache twirling landlords.
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Deformed Church posted:Obviously I'd have to pay for myself in terms of hydro, repairs, tax etc, but just wouldn't owe any of them rent money. therobit posted:A lot of goons literally think that the rent they pay is nothing but pure profit for their mustache twirling landlords. So $800 is everything that is not "pay me for the privilege of living here". That's fees, water, power, repairs, all that poo poo. Is this the bit you are missing from the story?? Perhaps you are confused because the writer said it "includes" those other fees when they clearly meant "doesn't include." The writer does say "Includes" but if those fees take the price up to $1500, then they clearly meant "does not include." Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 03:16 on Sep 24, 2022 |
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