Evil Willow posted:

I’m (25F) straight, but my best friend (24F) keeps making comments that the way how I present myself is bisexual

therobit posted:

I’m gonna say that while what the 15 year old kid did was a discreet lovely act, the Dad and step-mom are the assholes for turning their home into a group home and adopting 7 kids when there are also two bio children there. I loving guarantee you that the bio kids are not getting gifts, choice snack food, and attention like the adopted 15 year old is and the bio 15 year old is obviously jealous. The parents are probably ignoring the bio kids in favor of adopting a million foster kids (probably for the money). This is not meant as a dig against people who foster or adopt a reasonable number of kids, but at a certain point you can’t do right by all of them.

Evil Willow posted:

I’m (25F) straight, but my best friend (24F) keeps making comments that the way how I present myself is bisexual

therobit posted:

Your friend is in love with you. If not bi, say Bye Bye. Actually since you have a boyfriend , just separate yourself whether you are bi or not. It will be better for both of you if she’s not sticking around as a Nice Girl. You can pick back up once she’s dating someone else.

OP posted:

I don’t think she’s into me because she’s stated many times that “I wouldn’t date you if you were queer/bisexual.” And, she’s also mentioned that me being straight “is a choice.” And “are you sure you’re definitely straight?” I’ve tried laughing it off, leaning into it, but even with all that and her knowing absolutely that I’m straight - I’m sort of uncertain how to proceed.

OP posted:

I think what really gets to me more than her undermining my sexuality and questioning, I guess literally everything, is that somehow I’m “queer baiting.” Like, she’s stated that if someone who’s bi were to walk up to me in a bar, club, or something and started talking to me, that my choice of dress and drink and etc. immediately signals that I’m bi/queer, even when I’m not trying to. I’m just dressing how I like, as you mentioned.

OP posted:

It’s more of - she keeps bringing up that how I dress, choice of food/drink, etc. indicates to her and might indicate to someone else that I’m bi/queer - and how that’s a problem for the community because I’m being someone I’m not. Even though I’m being authentic to myself, and my style, and all that.

Quackles posted:

I thought this too, but the OP tells a different story in the comments. And it's... weird.





Her friend sounds like she's on the skew.

therobit posted:

I wonder if all the skinheads of the world know that pegged jeans means you’re bisexual.

Evil Willow posted:

I’m (25F) straight, but my best friend (24F) keeps making comments that the way how I present myself is bisexual

Quackles posted:

I don’t think she’s into me because she’s stated many times that “I wouldn’t date you if you were queer/bisexual.”

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend a percentage of my raise just because he "predicted it"?

just... what

Arsenic Lupin posted:

The Cannonball Run. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j2hGFN8NlLQ

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My (22M) girlfriend (21F) loves horror. She told me about three months ago that she read Goosebumps in elementary school and it sparked a lifelong interest in horror, and that when she was a kid, all she ever wanted for birthdays/Christmas was a replica of Slappy, a creepy ventriloquist dummy. I'm kind of a wimp about that stuff, and I think the dummy thing is frankly insane, but I like her enough to ignore it.

Until last week, her birthday, when her mother bought her a Slappy replica (she's afraid of dummies, hence why she never got it for her as a kid). My GF was thrilled. You would have thought her mom had handed her the keys to a Tesla with the way she was acting. She was literally crying with happiness- when she saw the expensive necklace I got her, she just said thank you.

She's totally obsessed with the dummy. Her roommate thinks it's hilarious, and she carries it around her apartment like a teddy bear and even sleeps with it in her bed. I kind of snapped last night when I went over and she was holding the dummy when I answered the door. I told her it was creepy and she was being weird about it, and she needed to get rid of it. I'll admit I raised my voice a little bit.

My GF started crying, and her roommate told me to leave. Roommate and friends have been texting me, saying I'm not supporting her and the dummy is harmless. GF herself hasn't reached out to me. So AITA?

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LMAO Matt did you seriously not think either of us would see this post? You only learned about this subreddit because V showed you some of the posts here in an attempt to get you to engage in any of her interests. Makes sense that you only care about it when it could benefit you. Idk whether this is some passive-aggressive power move to get V to text you back or if you're just that desperate for someone to agree with you, but either way I don't think it's working out like you hoped. Certainly works well for me since now I don't have to worry about biting my tongue for her sake.

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Until last week, her birthday, when her mother bought her a Slappy replica (she's afraid of dummies, hence why she never got it for her as a kid). My GF was thrilled. You would have thought her mom had handed her the keys to a Tesla with the way she was acting. She was literally crying with happiness- when she saw the expensive necklace I got her, she just said thank you.

Of course she was excited! It's something that she had wanted for years, and the fact that it came from her mom also made it special since she hates the thing. And you can act all wounded about her not being as thrilled about the necklace, but we both know that you're intentionally leaving out the fact that V fuckin told you previously that she doesn't like wearing jewelry, she doesn't like how a lot of it looks she has sensory problems with it. And no one asked you to spend a thousand dollars on a necklace that looks like the amazon logo for a girl you've been with for >7 months dude, to be honest it was just kind of weird.

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I kind of snapped last night when I went over and she was holding the dummy when I answered the door. I told her it was creepy and she was being weird about it, and she needed to get rid of it. I'll admit I raised my voice a little bit.

"Kind of" "a little bit" you blew up. The people from across the way came to check in on us after you left because of you yelling. Rather than talking to your girlfriend and expressing your reservations like a normal person, you bottled it up and then let it out on her with no warning.

I know for sure that V is done with you, but honestly for the sake of your future relationships I hope that you grow the gently caress up and learn to communicate without alerting everyone in the building of your issues. Also, get better taste, Goosebumps is awesome. YTA.

Edit: We're having fun watching goosebumps with Slappy https://imgur.com/a/5KXLk4k

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for telling my GF to get rid of her creepy dummy?

Absurd Alhazred posted:

All this, but don't sleep on:
"You would have thought her mom had handed her the keys to a Tesla with the way she was acting."

therobit posted:

If my mom handed me the keys to a Tesla then I would know she wanted me dead.

therobit posted:

If my mom handed me the keys to a Tesla then I would know she wanted me dead.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for telling my GF to get rid of her creepy dummy?

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And no one asked you to spend a thousand dollars on a necklace that looks like the amazon logo for a girl you've been with for >7 months dude, to be honest it was just kind of weird.

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So I’ve been married four years or so. Things generally great, couple kids, got a house, work stable yadayada.

But my wife has started to do this thing in the last couple of years, which I’m starting to find really, REALLY irritating.

Whenever I announce I’m going somewhere, my wife will, almost invariably, find me a task or a small errand while I’m out. It’s often fairly reasonable small stuff that doesn’t necessitate me going well out of my way, and often it’s stuff for the house. Sometimes it’s not though, and is a complete pain in the arse - really ruining the initial excursion.

Some examples:

Me: I’m just going to town. Her: Oh great, can you pick up a chicken while you’re there?

Me: I’m gonna take the dog for a walk. Her: Oh well can you pop into my parents on the way back and check if they…

Me: I’ll take the kids to nursery today. Her: Make sure you pick up my parcel on the way back.

Me: I’m going to take the car to the garage. Her: Swing by the decorator shop and see if the new paint is in stock.

Anyway this has got to the point where I don’t even want to announce if I’m going anywhere. It kind of feels like the control I had over making the decision to go out, and the flexibility that trip may have given me, has been snatched away. Sometimes I just want to go out, do my thing, and come back. No errands, no jobs; just my thing from start to finish.

Yes it has caused arguments - I initially tried pointing out the problem, but that didn’t work, so of course things escalated to a row. But she still does it, saying that it’s not unreasonable for me to contribute to the running of the household whenever I can. I’m not a lazy dad or husband, and I think I really do my fair share with the house and family - but I now resent this.

AITA?

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for refusing to do little chores and errands every time I declare I’m going somewhere?

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Throwaway because my mom follows me on my regular account. I (F20) have known my family friend Riley (M11) ever since he was little and I was in middle school. My mom (F47) is high school friends with his mom Jessica (F46), so our families have been friends for a while. I saw Riley and Jessica again yesterday, as I left my campus and visited my hometown for the weekend. My mom and I went over to their place so she could have coffee with Jessica, and I went to go chill with Riley. We did the same thing as always, eating chocolate and caramel popcorn, watching a scary movie, and playing COD. I've always loved the kid like a younger brother.

This is when the shocker comes in. Riley said he had been curious about something for a little while, and that he was curious about how people were made. He told me his parents kept dodging the question when he asked, and he wanted to know. I honestly couldn't believe it when I heard it. I had figured it was common for people this kid's age to have known that by now. I was honestly shocked Riley's parents hadn't told him, or that his school's health class hadn't educated him. I might've been an rear end in a top hat by overstepping boundaries, but I decided to give this kid the talk. I told Riley about how when a man and woman love each other, they'll stick their private parts in each other and make love. Riley asked if I've done it, and being pretty open, I told him I have a boyfriend (M20). Riley thanked me for helping him, and I said no problem.

However, Jessica later texted my mom, furious that I had told her son about the talk and told him I've had sex, and demanded an apology. My mom is pretty split, as she understands why I felt I needed to tell Riley, but that it was also the parents' place to do that. I'm considering apologizing, but is it really 100% necessary? I honestly am cringing typing this all out, and I wish I was joking. AITA?

DeeplyConcerned posted:

wow. sorry picking up a chicken on the way back from Home Depot is such an albatross.

I have an easy solution to this problem. divorce your wife! when you're single nobody can ask you to pick up anything.

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My husband rented his aunts home before we got married. He signed a month to month lease when he moved in. I moved in with him after our marriage because the rent was super cheap. My parents recently came to me asking if they could park their RV at our home. I didn’t see a problem with this. Our yards are really big and there is space. Because of city ordinance the RV has to be parked in the back yard. There was no RV gate in the fence. My husband went to his aunt and asked if we could install a rv gate? His aunt said no.

My husband relayed the message to me and my parents seemed upset when I told them. 2 days ago. I came home from work and saw that my dad had a construction crew at our home and had removed part of the fence for the gate. There was a apple tree in the way. They couldn’t fit the RV in the yard. My husband angry told my dad not to continue and that they needed to repair the fence. At this point I felt like it was pointless.

The fence guys already built the columns for the gate. It would cost a lot more money to rebuild the fence. I told my dad to finish the job but make sure it was left super clean. That it looked nice. I planned on talking to the aunt later and explain what happened. What I didn’t know was my dad told the guys to remove the tree. My husbands aunt came by and saw the tree cut down and started to cry. She has refused to talk to my dad or me. When my husband came home he found a 30 day notice on our door. Terminating our lease. He tried to call his aunt and she didn’t answer the phone. He then called my MIL and she went to talk to our aunt. Later I got several messages calling me an A for cutting down the aunts late husbands tree. I had no idea he planted the tree. Now my husband and his whole family are really angry at me. I never told them to remove the tree. I feel like I am being thrown under the bus here. Am I the A here?

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My(19F) parents adopted a baby(1M) a month ago. I hate babies. He cries all night and I had to give up my room because we only have 2 bedrooms and I moved in the basement which is not big enough so I had to get rid of some of my stuff. One night I couldn't sleep anymore. He kept crying so in the morning I tried to talk to my parents and tell them that I'm moving out but they were "busy" and didn't even listen. I called my aunts and uncles to see if I can stay with them for a few days until I find a place but they all said no and made different excuses so I thought screw them all. I packed my stuff and went to my friends home but left my phone at my parents home because I knew they'd be mad if I move out.

It took them FOUR DAYS to realize that I don't live there anymore. They say I'm an rear end in a top hat because according to them when they realized me and my stuff are gone they called me and when I didn't answer they called the whole family and when they realized no one knows where I am they panicked. I told them I'm not the rear end in a top hat because I literally told EVERYONE that I'm moving out. It's not my fault that no one listened.

Everyone is mad at me now and my parents told me I have to come back and apologize and they are not talking to me now until I do as they said

Cowslips Warren posted:

TREE LAW meets RENTAL.

AITA for my husbands aunts tree being cut down?

Cowslips Warren posted:

TREE LAW meets RENTAL.

AITA for my husbands aunts tree being cut down?

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for moving out like this?

"you know, i haven't seen whatshername around lately"

Absurd Alhazred posted:

NBD, just walking in on my parents destroying my rental property and going "eh, just go ahead, I don't need to call anybody about this."

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YTA for letting it continue when your husband said no. the aunt said no to the gate and no is a complete sentence. Your parents removed a tree from a yard they DO NOT own. How stupid and selfish of them. Everyone is the AH besides your husband, his aunt and family. The Aunt can hire a lawyer and sue your parents and the company who did it without her permission. And honestly I hope she does

OP posted:

I hope not. I am willing to talk to her and try to come to some kind of resolution. She won’t talk to me. All my MIL said was our aunts wants us use to move out. I wish we could come to some sort of compromise with her I do love the house.

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YTA. NONE of this is fair to your aunt, and it doesn't matter if the tree was a random tree growing on her property or had a special meaning; you broke the lease and cost her damages and I would expect to be sued for the loss if I were you.

OP posted:

She wants us to move. I am not sure if she will if we don’t move. I am still hoping we can find some sort of compromise. I don’t think we can find a place to live around what we pay her rent for.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for telling my GF to get rid of her creepy dummy?

Foo Diddley posted:

i like how dad isn't even the one renting the place, he just brings a construction crew over to his daughter's husband's aunt's place. three degrees of audacity right there, the owner probably doesn't know him from adam

e: lmao OP really doesn't get it







yeah good luck finding some sort of compromise

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YTA. She said NO!

Why do your parents have an RV that they have no room for?

Why did your father even think any of this was appropriate?

Let me reiterate - she said NO!

OP posted:

My parents bought the RV to live in. They are wanting to retire and sell their house. Just like I didn’t know they didn’t know of the cities ordnance on RV’s

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Why did your parents start putting in the gate when the aunt said no, in the first place?

OP posted:

My dad said he had no choice. Their yard is really small and he didn’t know about the city’s zoning laws

Absurd Alhazred posted:

It gets worse (or maybe I just didn't get it from the original post), if I'm interpreting this and similar exchanges:

They were expecting to move to OP and husband's aunt backyard as a living arrangement?! Without the aunt's permission!?

Foo Diddley posted:

e: beaten

anyway, dad's a piece of work, alright. i feel a little bad for OP 'cuz she's probably never managed to tell him no before, but still

Foo Diddley posted:

yeah good luck finding some sort of compromise

killer crane posted:

Lol at "he had no choice!" Like, she's right, he didn't have a choice, aunt said no, there's no choice involved for her dad.

Hopefully husband sees how she treats "family" and leaves.

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So you're saying that they weren't just going to park the RV, but were going to live in it in your backyard?

Where was the water and electricity going to come from, what about sewer?

What happens to the yard when an RV is parked there long term? No wonder his aunt said no.

Even if you weren't TA before (you were!), you are now after this new info! YTA

OP posted:

No they still have to sell their house. Once the house sells it will free up some of their monthly income and they can move the RV then.

Foo Diddley posted:

Foo Diddley posted:

I hope not. I am willing to talk to her and try to come to some kind of resolution. She won’t talk to me.