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Barudak: May 7, 2007

I feel like that would require me to send a legal document saying that following appropriate counsel we have moved forward as a couple with an offer of LMAO and further LOLs to be had later.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 05:13

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# ? May 30, 2024 11:11

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

duffmensch posted:

It was sad but why didn�t she just say no, that she was uncomfortable with the situation, or that she was hurt by him talking about this with another woman? Her ex is still a complete poo poo for what he did but she said she was game for it and then hangs around for what exactly?

According to her posts (which were made before the threesome) she had done all of that but he kept pushing for it anyway :shrug:

# ? Oct 10, 2022 05:21

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

QuarkJets posted:

It'd be great if she could accept a compromise where maybe they have a junk food night once a month so that the relative with a diagnosed medical condition can join them

Yeah, this would be the solution, but the aunt probably doesn�t even believe the kid has any sort of medical issue and probably also is the type of person that doesn�t let her kids have any sugar or processed foods at all. In other words, a piece of poo poo.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 05:24

sugar free jazz: Mar 5, 2008

Cowslips Warren posted:

Like I'm trying to scrap my head around this, but assuming you love your partner, and assuming you guys are both on with a threesome, wouldn't you notice if they're not feeling comfortable with it? And wouldn't that make you want to put a stop to everything?

Oh cool my wife said yes the threesome, but now that the other woman's here, my wife doesn't want to kiss me or want me to touch her, oh well I'm going to make the most of this and bang this other woman!

it is expected out of an adult that they can communicate their feelings, such as "i do not want to have a threesome and we should talk about this because it makes me uncomfortable", or more simply, "no i dont want to", particularly after it seems like they have given their consent without coercion.

that lady has very serious underlying issues she needs to deal with because everything about her response was unhealthy in a very sad way

# ? Oct 10, 2022 05:27

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not backing up for my family after my wife giggled at their news

This guy is 100% in the right for what he did and the decision he made, but he blew a chance for an all time hall of fame earth-scorcher of a Best Man's Speech/Toast.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 06:46

Kuiperdolin: Sep 5, 2011; to ride eternal, shiny and chrome

THUNDERDOME LOSER 2022

AITA for not giving my nephew my dog?

quote:

Just some background info. My (33F) sister (35F) moved in with me and my partner six years ago when my nephew Jayden (now 11) was 5. She was going through a really rough break up with Jayden's father and needed support. She started dating Steve about 2 years ago and they just recently moved in together.

About a year after they moved in, I adopted a husky mix named Flynn. My nephew loves Flynn to pieces. Flynn is a very well behaved but active guy. We have a fenced in yard for him and we also take him for two walks a day. He was kennel trained as a puppy while we were working on potty training, but now that he's older we never lock him in his kennel. The door is just open with his dog bed and toys in so he can lay in there as he pleases.

Here is where our issue started. My sister and Jayden just moved in with Steve. Jayden was really sad to be leaving our home, but we tried to make plans so he could come back and visit whenever he wanted and encourage him to give Steve and their new family a chance. Jayden asked me if he could take Flynn to his new house. I was very sympathetic and had a serious conversation with him about it, but I told him the answer would have to be no. Steve is afraid of big dogs, he always avoided Flynn while visiting in our home and would make comments about keeping him in his cage. Also as much as my nephew loves Flynn, he was never responsible for his care in anyway and I don't think he understands how much responsibility it takes.

I thought that was the end of the story but I recently got a phone call from my sister, furious that I wouldn't let Jayden have "his" dog. She said that Steve wanting to kennel the dog wasn't a deal breaker and I was just being selfish. I explained to my sister that Flynn needs a lot of exercise, we have a large, fenced in yard (she does not), we take him for multiple walks a day and we never keep him locked in his kennel. At this point he's five years old, he hasn't been locked away in his kennel since he was a puppy potty training. She argued with me that he would only be in the kennel until Jayden got home from school and overnight (that's the majority of the day?) and that she would make Jayden walk him. I told her that I was sorry but Flynn is my dog and I'm not budging.

She told me that I'm not welcome in her home anymore and that I'm no longer allowed to see my nephew. This is not behavior that's normal for my sister and its made me wonder aita for not just giving my nephew my dog?

Give me your dog.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 07:04

DoubleNegative: Jan 27, 2010; The most virtuous child in the entire world.

I tried to decide between two different stories and in the end couldn't make up my mind. So por que no los dos?

AITA for coming home early from meeting bf�s parents?

quote:

My bf and I went to see his parents for the first time this weekend. It�s Canadian thanksgiving. We were suppose to stay Sat, Sun and fly back afternoon Monday. I�m writing this Sun night already back in my own bed.

My bf�s parents greeted us at the airport and brought us home. They then proceeded to ask me if I had drugs in my bag and I was pretty shocked because who asks that? I said only Tylenol and they nodded and showed us to our rooms which meant I got the guest room and my bf was to sleep in his old room. His parents were serving dinner and during dinner I was asked to pay for my portion of the thanksgiving dinner ($30). I was pretty shocked and angry because who does that? I�ve never been asked to pay for someone�s ingredient fees when a guest at their place.

I didn�t answer and then confronted my bf in his room and asked why I was asked to pay. He just says it�s something they ask of their friends as well, when they have a bbq they ask people to pay their portion. Honestly I�m shocked they have friends. I reminded him he has eaten at my parents place dozens of time and was never asked to pay. He claimed if they asked he would have but they never did. Because it�s rude to do that to a guest! But his mom came and got me and escorted me to my room. I was fuming and looking for tickets home and texted my bf to say I was going home tomorrow. He called me and begged me to stay saying his family already don�t like me for not agreeing to pay for dinner and I�m just making it worse. I ignored him and rebooked an early flight (which was very expensive) and got a cab to the airport in the morning. I told my friends this who had confirmed they�ve never been asked to pay for a meal while they were a guest. And if they were struggling why even invite me over? Is this normal practice? Their house was pretty big I don�t think it was a money thing for them.

A parade of :psyduck:

red flags. I'm pretty sure if I had a guest over and asked them to chip in for the cost of the meal, the spirits of my grandparents would spontaneously manifest and destroy me.

AITA for insulting my in-laws after MIL called me a whore?

Added paragraph breaks

quote:

TDLR: Cussed at MIL and insulted FIL after they kept disrespecting me for not being christian

My (f31) husbands (m34) family is Christian. Hubs and I aren�t. They�re from the USA, my husband moved to Europe , where we met. His family is pretty well-off and the house market here is crazy. So his family gifted us money to purchase a house as a wedding gift, for that exact purpose. We were very grateful and accepted. We�re childfree and never want to have children.

His parents are kind, but tend to push their religion on others. Per example, hubs and I weren�t allowed to sleep in a room together pre marriage, we must go to church with them every Sunday for multiple hours when we visit, I�m not allowed to wear shorts when visiting, I can�t wear a bikini when using their pool, - you name it. I accept it for the sake of family peace. FIL always seemed kinda creepy to me, for continuously staring at me and touching me unnecessarily. Husband wanted to call his parents out on multiple occasions, but I stopped him to not cause drama. We only see them like 1-2 weeks a year anyway.

But of course there still was drama multiple times, when I told them, I won�t be a SAHM, didn�t change my last name to his�, etc. This summer we visited and they hosted a large family dinner. I was enjoying the food and the chats with the family and all of sudden MIL looks at me and loudly says �X, you really should eat more healthy� I was stunned and asked why, she says slightly annoyed �Fat women give birth to unhealthy babies�, I responded, that I didn�t plan on having any and hubby sided with me, saying MIL knows were childfree. MILs Face turned red, shouting at me, that it was my marital duty to give my husband children and her and his father grandchildren and that I didn�t have the right to be so selfish and deny them what�s their right and that I must�ve been gaslighting my husband. I wanted to respond, but hubby just pulled me aside, we left to the guest room.

The next morning we all had breakfast together. MIL stared at me, then said, that since I�m not willing to give her any grandchildren, I don�t need such a huge house and we should give them their money back. Husband intervened saying, it was a gift and they had no right to demand that and also, he won�t be tolerating them talking to his wife like that. MIL yelled we were disrespecting her religion and I was a wh0re for giving my body away without intending to birth children. I snapped and said, that were big words for a woman, who has to forbid her DIL to wear shorts, so her pervert, pseudo-christian husband (FIL) doesnt have a wank on the spot, because they only had sex for the exact purpose of her getting pregnant, which sums up to 4 times total in their entire 35 years marriage. We got up, packed our things and left to a hotel. AITA for cussing like that and causing drama?

Just imagine I bolded half of the last paragraph because :drat:

# ? Oct 10, 2022 08:29

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

sugar free jazz posted:

lol

# ? Oct 10, 2022 08:48

bell jar: Feb 25, 2009

DoubleNegative posted:

AITA for coming home early from meeting bf�s parents?

I didn't know people from Sweden moved to Canada

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:03

Booky: Feb 21, 2013; Chill Bug

DoubleNegative posted:

AITA for coming home early from meeting bf�s parents?

i don't know whats weirder, the drugs question or the part where they try to squeeze their guest out of cash :psyduck:

AITA asking my husband's friend if he was going to bring his wife's ashes when he moves in with us?

quote:

My husband's friend (31) lost his wife 4 monrhs ago. He had cremeted and used to keep her ashes in their home. He unfortunately had to lose their home to medical debts and asked me and my husband to let him move in with us and stay for few weeks til he figures it out.

He told us this during dinner. My husband said of course we'd welcome him to move in and stay in our house. I, for some reason kept thinking about his wife's ashes. Now I'm not of fan cremation but obviously I can't control how others choose to honor their deceased loved ones. But still, seeing ashes or bring around them gives off weird vibes that I cannot control. I decided tj speaj up and asked his friend if he was going to bring his wife's ashes as well. His friend got quiet and my husband gave me a death stare.

His friend left and then my hudband blew up asking what the hell possessed me to ask such question. I told him I was just inquiring about the ashes since he knows how I feel about it. He said this came across as insenstive and unwelcoming towards not just his friend but the deceased wife as well. We had an argument and he called me cruel and reckless to speak to his friend the way I did. He said I should've never brought it up and told me to get over myself and not expect his frirnd to part with his wife just because I'm uncomfortable.

We argued some more and he told me to apologize next timeI see his friend for the disrespect I'd displayed. But in my opinion he made a big deal out of a question.

the weird vibes of, haunted ashes

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:17

TinyPairOfScissors: Oct 7, 2022; by Hand Knit

Booky posted:

i don't know whats weirder, the drugs question or the part where they try to squeeze their guest out of cash

It's the latter, there's millions of drug-war lunatics in the world but asking a guest in your home to pay for the food during dinner (!!!) is the most insane breach of hospitality and etiquitte in basically any culture anywhere in the world that you can really imagine. That's intense even if you're hard up for money, but if you asked ahead of time and made it clear that you don't have the money for it then it would at least be understandable. As it is it's one of the most hosed up things I can imagine doing to a guest outside of like assault or other criminal acts.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:22

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

I�ve heard of lingering effects of catastrophes and other lovely things happening to people, that some people have some odd little things they do, like washing ziploc bags or reusing tin foil.

Not sure what the gently caress happened to that family

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:37

Nebrilos: Oct 9, 2012

Evil Willow posted:

My (m35) wife (f37) told me this morning that she wants a divorce after yesterdays threeway

The FMF is happening on Saturday (or Saturday next). Afterwards I�m serving my husband the divorce papers

It seems like husband approached his wife to ask for a threesome and already had a third person in mind. Isn't that usually a red flag?

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:39

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

Different forum (if that's ok?), but I'm sharing it for the classy & classic reddit twist at the end:

r/MaliciousComplaince: No Leggings? No problem.

quote:

I was just reminded of this situation because of some creepy dad over in AITA hung up about his daughter showing off her "assets" by wearing leggings to church. 🤮

Anyway, I breifly worked in a repair shop for a luxury watch company. The dress code stated that you couldn't wear leggings. Cool, I'm not a leggings as pants person. Doesn't bother me.

One day I wore a cute grey dress and a pair of leggings UNDER it. Let me also quickly just say that we had to dress up even though we put a lab coat over our clothes and were never customer facing. I heard some chattering from a few of the older employees about leggings but ignored them because clearly they are overreacting, right? How is this different than wearing pantyhose? Because my feet aren't enclosed? 😆

I'm minding my business and, a few hours later, my manager comes over and pulls me aside. She walks me to the locker room and tells me I am being asked to go home and change because I'm wearing leggings. People have complained.

I'm floored, y'all. I live an hour away and you want to send me home because I have them on under a dress? I just looked at her, unbuttoned my lab coat, kicked off my flats, ripped my leggings off, and put my coat back on. Right in front of her. Dress code compliant with no gas money spent.

I had an awful case of chub rub by the end of the day, but everyone finally shut up. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Just ridiculous.

EDIT: Since 40 of you are going to ask individually instead of reading other comments, "chub rub" is when your "chub"by thighs "rub" together and chafe. It is a fairly common term (in the States) for a regular phenomenon that affects the majority of ~~women~~ people, who don't have a thigh gap. It has nothing to do with a penis.

Edit #2: Please don't inbox me for legging photos, pervs. The answer is no.

No prizes for guessing the spoiler.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 09:45

Angrymog: Jan 30, 2012; Really Madcats

Re: hospitality - asking your guests for money is insane. If you want guests to contribute the acceptable way is that everyone brings a food with them.

I've been shocked when guests decide to do the washing up.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 10:14

Dr. Stab: Sep 12, 2010; 👨🏻‍⚕️🩺🔪🙀😱🙀

I think helping wash up is a normal thing to do to show gratitude. Unless you're that person who threw away all the leftovers.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 10:49

Generated Wizards: Apr 16, 2016

Kuiperdolin posted:

AITA for not giving my nephew my dog?

Give me your dog.

I feel like the ideal relation to have with a husky is the same as the ideal relation to have with a boat - being a close friend/relative to someone who has one so you can reap the benefits without having to deal with the time-consuming and expensive upkeep. Seriously lady, let your sister do all the work looking after the large, extremely energetic dog that sheds everywhere and that your husband is afraid of and just send your kid over to her house to pet it and play with it. I guarantee an 11 year-old will not be able to handle being responsible for exercising it and I doubt it will take long for it to destroy its way out of the kennel to destroy the rest of your house if you leave it in there all day.

Why does she even want it so bad when by her own admission she plans to just keep it in a crate basically all day? Does the husband know about or get a say in this?

# ? Oct 10, 2022 11:37

Barudak: May 7, 2007

trashbadger posted:

I feel like the ideal relation to have with a husky is the same as the ideal relation to have with a boat - being a close friend/relative to someone who has one so you can reap the benefits without having to deal with the time-consuming and expensive upkeep. Seriously lady, let your sister do all the work looking after the large, extremely energetic dog that sheds everywhere and that your husband is afraid of and just send your kid over to her house to pet it and play with it. I guarantee an 11 year-old will not be able to handle being responsible for exercising it and I doubt it will take long for it to destroy its way out of the kennel to destroy the rest of your house if you leave it in there all day.

Why does she even want it so bad when by her own admission she plans to just keep it in a crate basically all day? Does the husband know about or get a say in this?

Husband already gnawed his way out of the cage and escaped

# ? Oct 10, 2022 11:40

axolotl farmer: May 17, 2007; Now I'm going to sing the Perry Mason theme

bell jar posted:

I didn't know people from Sweden moved to Canada

I'll bite.

I have been to dinners where I was asked to contribute cash, but that was back when we were all broke-rear end students taking turns hosting board game and dinner nights.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 11:43

Malcolm Excellent: May 20, 2007; Buglord

If you have a bunch of folks over for cards or a game night asking $$$ for pizza or whatever is cool.

If you're hosting people for a special meal or celebration, it's definitely not cool.

Those parents were just looking for an excuse to treat that gal like poo poo

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:11

TinyPairOfScissors: Oct 7, 2022; by Hand Knit

Yeah if you've got people coming over for beers and hang out then of course you're probably all just gonna chip in on pizza or something, but hosting guests from out of town is a whole other thing entirely.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:23

Pocky In My Pocket: Jan 27, 2005; Giant robots shouldn't fight!

A friend social group doing a communal lunch where everyone chips in is fine (IF you make it clear before), even if its thanksgiving or xmas or whatever. Thats different from inviting a family member and their plus one and waiting until they're at the table to ask

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:41

axolotl farmer: May 17, 2007; Now I'm going to sing the Perry Mason theme

Maybe she shouldn't have gotten involved with a traditional Ferengi family. Sounds like the boyfriend has moogie issues.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:49

massive spider: Dec 6, 2006

Nebrilos posted:

It seems like husband approached his wife to ask for a threesome and already had a third person in mind. Isn't that usually a red flag?

The red flag in that situation is usually "they've been involved with the third person for a while now and theyre trying to get retroactive consent" but the husband showed his online communication with her and she was the initiator.

What the husband did wasn't objectively wrong and the way the wife handled it seems engineered to twist the knife in as much as possible rather than communicating her discomfort.

At the same time the fact they had a threesome he noticed she wasn't enjoying and no one called safeword/veto/whatever and he just...kept pounding this other woman? Suggests he isnt the most attentive partner and it was just the last straw in an already fracturing relationship. I mean at some point in this process you should notice that the consent youre getting is some levels below enthusiastic.

massive spider fucked around with this message at 12:56 on Oct 10, 2022

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:50

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for ending game night early after catching my friend snooping through my bedroom?

quote:

My husband and I have a game night every few weeks with a few friends at our house and everything was going as usual when one of my friends (I�ll refer to him as Nick) gets up to go to the bathroom. We all took a short break to wait for Nick to get back and we talked with each other for a while when we realized that around 25 minutes had passed and Nick hadn�t returned yet which was odd. I went to go check up on him but when I got to the bathroom the door was open and he was not there.

I called out his name but I did not get any response, so I started looking around the house for him. I caught him walking out of my bedroom and I asked him what he was doing to which he responded that he had gotten lost (btw, there is no bathroom connected to my bedroom so that isn�t what he was in there for). I found it hard to believe that he would�ve gotten lost as

a) My house is not large enough to where someone could be lost for over 25 minutes realistically.

b) He had gone to the bathroom during our last game night which was only a few weeks earlier and while he could�ve forgotten where it was then�

c) he could�ve just asked us where the bathroom was.

I was starting to get angry at Nick during our conversation because I knew he was lying to me and I kicked him out of the house. I ended up canceling the rest of the game night after explaining to everyone what happened since neither me or my husband were in the right mood to continue.

After everyone had left I searched the bedroom to try to figure out what Nick was doing, and I realized that he had mostly gone through my dresser as a lot of stuff was misplaced, primarily my underwear.

My friends were pissed off at me for �overreacting and ruining the game night� and they told me that I should give Nick another chance. I told them that I refused to let him come back to my house, and they told me that I was being childish about the situation.

So, AITA for kicking Nick out of my house and not giving him another chance?

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:52

Captainsalami: Apr 16, 2010; I told you you'd pay!

Time for new friends! Also publicly shame nick for going through your undies, goddam.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:56

Festus The Fetus: Mar 8, 2010

axolotl farmer posted:

Maybe she shouldn't have gotten involved with a traditional Ferengi family. Sounds like the boyfriend has moogie issues.

She not only failed to pay the entrance fee, they had to ask her to chip in for dinner. Not only that the filthy harlot was fully clothed the whole time!

And she's shocked she made a bad first impression.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:56

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Booky posted:

i don't know whats weirder, the drugs question or the part where they try to squeeze their guest out of cash

I think the drugs question wasn't asking about "drugs" in the usual sense (cocaine, heroin, etc) as much as it was the parents trying to probe for prescription medicines they don't approve of - e.g., antidepressants because they think only weak people have mental illness, birth control drugs because good girls shouldn't need them, something like that.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 12:59

RenegadeStyle1: Jun 7, 2005; Baby Come Back

You should name and shame your friends and name them "the panty sniffer boys crew". You don't know if he sniffed them but it's funnier to name them that anyway.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 13:11

Fatty: Sep 13, 2004; Not really fat

Probably a vegans are bad fakepost, but couldn't get over the bolded line

AITA for telling my daughter we are disappointed she is not vegan anymore?

quote:

My wife and I went vegan over 20 years ago. Back then, we only had the children from my first marriage (her step children) and the daughter this post is about, who started being raised vegan around 3 years old.

My wife and I have always made it very clear about our ground rules regarding diet in our house:

1) No meat or dairy can be consumed inside our house.

2) Neither can it be consumed outside our house. (In my view, this still violates house rules, because those foods will eventually be expelled into our toilets, which I am not comfortable with either.)

All my children have respected these rules. As my first set of kids eventually moved out, I believe they changed their diets over time. But my wife and I's children (daughter and another son), were raised vegan very young (my son since birth) and have always openly expressed their deep support of veganism, health-wise and ethically.

Two weeks ago, however, my daughter (now 25) moved out, and the other day, she called and told us she is no longer vegan. It floored me. But when she said she actually hasn't been vegan for the past two years, it upset me. She shared that even before she moved out, she's been eating what she can buy at the store (yogurt or canned fish) in the car at parks.

Now, just recently, she bought out our car when its lease ended and we transferred the title to her. But even before the car became hers, she was doing this sneaky park eating. Yes, it was a car we bought for her to drive, but it was technically still our car, thus, she has been violating our rules. Not to mention she had been living a lie in front of the whole family.

She said she switched her diet for "health" reasons, and I told her she hurt and disrespected us, and yes, I said felt disappointed about her decision to now murder animals and that she was making a big mistake healthwise.

We will visit this weekend, perhaps we can talk about it more, but I know it will hurt to see the meat and other foods in her fridge now. AITA?

Keep your meaty shits out of my pipes!

# ? Oct 10, 2022 13:46

Peg Sliderskew: Jan 4, 2010

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

You should name and shame your friends and name them "the panty sniffer boys crew". You don't know if he sniffed them but it's funnier to name them that anyway.

Let Nick come back but refer to him as Nick-er sniffer at every opportunity.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 13:48

Lottery of Babylon: Apr 25, 2012; STRAIGHT TROPIN'

I think the first post threesome divorce wife made is really important here:

The moment my husband suggested a FMF the marriage was over in my heart. Am I overreacting?

quote:

Please I need help sorting out my feelings or maybe controlling them because my emotions are controlling me 100% rn. About 2-3 weeks ago after making love, my husband and I lied in bed for some after play and he told me that it would be awesome to have a threesome. I kept my cool but he must have noticed that I stiffened in his arms. my heart was yelling this can�t be happening!! this is so over! this is so so over! but my mouth said I don�t think this is something I would ever want to try. I have been avoiding him like the plague ever since which has been a very hard task because he�s a very affectionate man and always wants to touch and hug and kiss. I don�t know if he�s noticed anything yet because I have been busy with work and the kids but he�s bound to notice soon. I�ve only told my best friend and confidant about it but she thinks that I�m being overly sensitive and dramatic. But I swear I�m not playing or trying hard. I just can�t control my heart especially when it�s playing the same tunes as my brain. I want divorce on repeat every time I see him. She (me best friend) told me that it was just my Pride.

JUST?

* He asked you and you said no and he respected that.

Please can I fix this? Any one with the same experience? I have three small children and we share a beautiful life together. Help?

Hi again! I hope it�s okay to make a comment here. Thank you for trying to help me. So you (the majority anyway) think that I�m overreacting, that�s what I suspected coming here. Also the majority suggested I would speak to him now! I was thinking that I needed to know what I wanted first before talking to him but I guess you�re right. I need to speak to him. Deep down I know this is over however. I just know it.

Hi again!

I have a little update here:

I�ve talked to my husband now. Only a little bit after him asking me why I�m so absorbed in my phone. I told him that I was thinking about his request and how it has affected me. He said he�s noticed me being distant and sad but that he didn�t know how to approach me. We talked a bit more and I asked him if he still wanted a 3some and he answered in the affirmative.

So I asked him if he�d thought a candidate and he said yes. That she actually was the one who suggested it. He showed me her insta. It was all I could do not to freak out and to keep my head cool. I have all the information now and the ball is in my court now I guess.

I commented earlier that I was already having �flashbacks� with him and a faceless woman and these �flashbacks� are haunting me. Now the woman has a face.

I need to talk more to him. We just talked for a few minutes but I just couldn�t talk more tonight. All my being is screaming give me a divorce so I�m waiting until I�m less irrational.

If anything else happens I will update. I appreciate you for wanting to know how this is going. I really thought he broke me with his request, until I asked for more details and he provided. 💔

I�m off to bed now.

I think the information here is relevant to a lot of people's reads of the situation. Why didn't she just say she was uncomfortable in the first place? She did; she said she didn't want a threesome ever, in no uncertain terms, and then told him how upset the request made her, and then he said he still wanted a threesome. Didn't he do the right thing by putting all his cards on the table in the first place? He didn't; he just said "I really wanna gently caress someone else" right after they had sex, leaving out that he already had a third in mind and was halfway to setting it up.

She definitely still has issues, don't get me wrong, but it sounds like she voiced how she felt and her husband made it clear what was important to him.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 14:03

Dumpmaster General: Sep 8, 2022; by sebmojo

Fatty posted:

Probably a vegans are bad fakepost, but couldn't get over the bolded line

AITA for telling my daughter we are disappointed she is not vegan anymore?

Keep your meaty shits out of my pipes!

'keep those meat turds outta our pipes' aside I always love when these weirdos talk about poo poo like 'her choice to now murder animals'. Like yea dude she's going into the field with the bolt gun and picking out the cutest cow to make her burger, as we all do.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 14:14

Runcible Cat: May 28, 2007; Ignoring this post

Lottery of Babylon posted:

her husband made it clear what was important to him.

It was pretty clear even when it was just him going "she didn't seem very into it but she's shy", but yeah. Enjoy your lifelong post-nut triste, rear end in a top hat.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 14:17

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for making my sister buy me groceries after raiding my entire kitchen while I was on vacation?

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I went away this past weekend to Maryland and I asked my sister to come over and water my plants. This is the only thing I asked: come over, water the plants, leave. I never told her to help herself to any of my food. I am currently living paycheck to paycheck and can only buy what I need, I unfortunately don't have the luxury of buying whatever I want. While I'm away, she takes it upon herself to raid my fridge, pantry, and anywhere else for food. She does this the entire time I'm gone. When I returned home, I went to grab something for dinner, but found it completely barren. There wasn't even enough milk for a full glass. I called her and shouted at her, demanding why she ate everything in my house, but all she told me was to buy more groceries if it was that big of a deal. I told her it was a big deal and that it was MY food I paid with MY money. Luckily, my family and bf are on my side. She doesn't think she's done anything wrong, but after demanding she pay for my groceries, she's completely evading my calls and texts. AITA

# ? Oct 10, 2022 14:22

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

trashbadger posted:

Why does she even want it so bad when by her own admission she plans to just keep it in a crate basically all day? Does the husband know about or get a say in this?

Because she doesn't recognize the dog as a sentient being. It's a toy that her child wants and keeps agitating her about.

# ? Oct 10, 2022 14:52

sugar free jazz: Mar 5, 2008

Lottery of Babylon posted:

I think the first post threesome divorce wife made is really important here:

The moment my husband suggested a FMF the marriage was over in my heart. Am I overreacting?

I think the information here is relevant to a lot of people's reads of the situation. Why didn't she just say she was uncomfortable in the first place? She did; she said she didn't want a threesome ever, in no uncertain terms, and then told him how upset the request made her, and then he said he still wanted a threesome. Didn't he do the right thing by putting all his cards on the table in the first place? He didn't; he just said "I really wanna gently caress someone else" right after they had sex, leaving out that he already had a third in mind and was halfway to setting it up.

She definitely still has issues, don't get me wrong, but it sounds like she voiced how she felt and her husband made it clear what was important to him.

She said no and immediately, silently, decided on divorce. He respected the no and dropped it.

Later, she, unprompted, brought it up again, asked if he still wanted to, and asked if he had someone in mind, all the while still planning on divorce.

This woman has very serious issues

# ? Oct 10, 2022 15:08

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

AITA for returning my daughter's birthday cake after I discovered that my wife made changes to it?

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I (M37) have a daughter (now 13) "Olivia" from my former relationship. Currently, I'm married to my wife who has adaughter (16) "Britney"

So, Britney is the opposite of Olivia. for example, Britney s a social kid, Olivia is introvert. the list is long but they're just the complete oposite.

Olivia's 13th birthday was 2 days ago. She loves chocolate and I decided this is the flavor I was going to go with when I contacted the bakery. However, my wife objected since Britney absolutely hates chocolate and suggested we go with Vanilla. I said no way because for one, Olivia hates vanilla and it's also her birthday so, she gets to have her cake with her favorites flavor. My wife got upset and took it as in I had no regard for Britney and that we should just choose another netural flavor instead. I shut that down and said no more discussing this because I'd already decided to go with what Olivia wanted.

At the day of the birthday, I was supposed to go get the cake but I was surprised to see my wife coming home after picking up the cake from the bakery. I looked at it and discovered that it wasn't a chocolate cake but a vanilla cake with small pieces of chocolate on top. I got pissed thinking they got my order wrong and was about to contact them, but my wife said there was no mistake and that she called the bakery the day before and made "slight changes" to the cake to please both girls. I was stunned I lost it on her and asked why the hell she did that. She got defensive saying that birthdays are no "excuse" to show favoritism and that her daughter is "watching" and "observing" how I'm treating both girls. I told her off since I was the one paying then called the bakery and explained what happened. I had the cake returned and replaced with a chocolate cake. although this one is smaller but it was fine.

My wife declined to take part in the celebration and later we got into a huge argument where she called me controlling and selfish for returing the cake instead of using this opportunity to teach Olivia to compromise so everyone's happy. now I'm teaching her to be "selfish". I said that my daughter gets to act "selfish" on her birthday and that she (my wife) was teaching her daughter to be entitled. Word for word and it led to a bigger argument. We're not talking as of now.

AITA for returning the cake and not taking my wife's input into consideration?

I will never understand these people. I bet anything that when Britneys bday comes around there's zero compromise on that end too

# ? Oct 10, 2022 15:13

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Mx. posted:

AITA for ending game night early after catching my friend snooping through my bedroom?

yeah you should give nick another chance to jack off in your underwear drawer. it's game night, come on

# ? Oct 10, 2022 15:31

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titty_baby_: Nov 11, 2015

teen witch posted:

I�ve heard of lingering effects of catastrophes and other lovely things happening to people, that some people have some odd little things they do, like washing ziploc bags or reusing tin foil.

Not sure what the gently caress happened to that family

I was raised to do both those things....

# ? Oct 10, 2022 15:40

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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