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Pope Corky the IX posted:What the gently caress is that supposed to mean? It just seems like every thing he says about her is some autistic trait. Likes books and studying more than socializing, and everything she says is interpreted as rude or sarcastic. Could also just be a teenager who likes to study and is a brat, but, it just raised a lot of flags for me is all.
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Bets are she's just "rude" because she refuses to play along with whatever stupid bullshit family dynamic they've got going on.
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Oct 14, 2022 03:46
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Noticing a lack of examples of anything she said, just vague assurance that whatever it is, it is, definitely, sarcastic. People deciding that because they don't like the content of your words then theyre going to interpret the tone as rude is a problem my dumb, spectrum-inhabiting rear end had for years.
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Oct 14, 2022 03:46
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Sorry I'm still dying of laughter at "mom ring" not being a typo for "mom's ring" but actually being a ring made out of a mom
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Oct 14, 2022 03:50
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InediblePenguin posted:Noticing a lack of examples of anything she said, just vague assurance that whatever it is, it is, definitely, sarcastic. People deciding that because they don't like the content of your words then theyre going to interpret the tone as rude is a problem my dumb, spectrum-inhabiting rear end had for years. Oh yeah, that was what jumped out to me, alongside reacting to it in some of the most stunningly bad parenting choices.
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Oct 14, 2022 03:52
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Dr. Stab posted:It just seems like every thing he says about her is some autistic trait. Likes books and studying more than socializing, and everything she says is interpreted as rude or sarcastic. Could also just be a teenager who likes to study and is a brat, but, it just raised a lot of flags for me is all. She could be depressed. She could hate the family and be concentrating on her studies until she can get out of there at eighteen. She could have any of a dozen other conditions or disabilities. I’m sure you could have used a more general term instead of further stigmatizing autism there doc.
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Oct 14, 2022 03:54
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AITA for asking questions about my co worker's daughterquote:My co-worker has a daughter who has a bit of fame, she's not a celebrity or anything but she is "public", to give an idea, she's verified on twitter and has a Wikipedia page, albeit small and outdated by a couple years.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:She could be depressed. She could hate the family and be concentrating on her studies until she can get out of there at eighteen. She could have any of a dozen other conditions or disabilities. I’m sure you could have used a more general term instead of further stigmatizing autism there doc. I didn't mean to stigmatize it. It just resonated with my experiences growing up. Anyways, more from the great parent: quote:She loves being the best. She goes to a special school for gifted kids and even there she is the top of her class. All her teachers love and admire her and she enjoys it so much quote:It sounds like you’re bothered by the fact that she likes studying, books, and school. quote:No I'm bothered by the fact that its the ONLY thing she likes
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Oct 14, 2022 03:57
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Pope Corky the IX posted:She could be depressed. She could hate the family and be concentrating on her studies until she can get out of there at eighteen. She could have any of a dozen other conditions or disabilities. I’m sure you could have used a more general term instead of further stigmatizing autism there doc. As someone autistic myself, I had that read too. How is it stigmatising?
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Oct 14, 2022 04:01
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Mx. posted:AITA for asking questions about my co worker's daughter you loving dipshit
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Oct 14, 2022 04:02
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Bad Dad "I'm bothered by the fact that it's the ONLY thing she likes" And there we have it. Girl is quiet, likes studying/reading/being on her own. Doesn't like whatever of a thousand bullshit things her dad wants her to like. Doesn't like whatever of the thousand of other bullshit things the dad himself likes. Doesn't even pretend to like either of those things. Thus she is rude. And thus I am justified in taking away her only source of joy. I am also interested in the fact that we don't have any instances, or even broad brush stroke ideas of how she is being rude. But also we don't know what the mum thinks, (it was the daughter being "rude" to her that started the study ban).
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Oct 14, 2022 04:04
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Stigmatizing in that there’s not enough information to immediately reach for the autism button and we’re not that far removed on these forums from using that as an insult or dismissal. As I said, saying something like “punish his daughter into not having a disability or condition of some sort?” would have been better. EDIT: This is not to deny anyone their experiences growing up or anything, and I apologize if that’s actually what I’m doing here. Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 04:12 on Oct 14, 2022 |
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Oct 14, 2022 04:08
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Stigmatizing in that there’s not enough information to immediately reach for the autism button and we’re not that far removed on these forums from using that as an insult or dismissal. As I said, saying something like “punish his daughter into not having a disability or condition of some sort?” would have been better. It kinda seems like you're talking down to people who have a disability and telling them how they need to talk about it regarding posts that are obviously familiar to the poo poo that they've put up with in the past. Kinda a bad look. If you take the word "autism" as an automatic insult then you're the one with the problem, not the people talking about it.
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Oct 14, 2022 04:13
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Read the edit please. I didn’t realize this person was speaking from personal experience at first, as it wasn’t in the original reply. I was going by this forum’s horrible history with tossing that word around and overreached. It wasn’t that I thought they were using it as an insult, but that they picked it easily out of a hat of other reasons, if that makes sense.
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Oct 14, 2022 04:15
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Read the edit please. I didn’t realize this person was speaking from personal experience at first, as it wasn’t in the original reply. I was going by this forum’s horrible history with tossing that word around and overreached. It wasn’t that I thought they were using it as an insult, but that they picked it easily out of a hat of other reasons, if that makes sense. would saying "beat the depression out of her" been stigmatizing depression? Or can we just not say that about autism? Nothing about that statement was insulting to the girl.
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Oct 14, 2022 04:21
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Once again, I did not think they used it as an insult, but that they picked it because it’s unfortunately commonly used as a quick armchair diagnosis. I have autistic people in my family so I tend to overreact, and I incorrectly interpreted it as an offhand “Oh she’s probably autistic” and I was clearly wrong. I suggested saying “disability or condition” and then backed off of that and apologized when I realized they were speaking from personal experience. And where did physical abuse come in? At all? Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 04:28 on Oct 14, 2022 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Once again, I did not think they used it as an insult, but that they picked it because it’s unfortunately commonly used as a quick armchair diagnosis. I have autistic people in my family so I tend to overreact, and I incorrectly interpreted it as an offhand “Oh she’s probably autistic” and I was clearly wrong. I suggested saying “disability or condition” and then backed off of that and apologized when I realized they were speaking from personal experience. When I misremembered the exact word they used was "punish". Because my own disorder makes my memory flaky at best.
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Oct 14, 2022 04:29
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Understandable, don’t worry about it, I just wanted to make sure I didn’t miss something else while I’m piling up Ls here.
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Oct 14, 2022 04:31
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All right now that's all cleared up let's get some of that sweet sweet content up in here
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Metis of the Hallway posted:Sorry I'm still dying of laughter at "mom ring" not being a typo for "mom's ring" but actually being a ring made out of a mom I have family that want this and their literal only stipulation was that they not be used for engagement rings so that they can always be a protected asset from the marriage and stay within the family Their dream is that everyone in the family do this so that eventually we're like passing down an ancestral crown or something I don't know.
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Barudak posted:I have family that want this and their literal only stipulation was that they not be used for engagement rings so that they can always be a protected asset from the marriage and stay within the family So they want you to always protect the family jewels?
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Mx. posted:AITA for asking questions about my co worker's daughter Don't mind me, just casually glancing at her social media occasionally, just idly cataloguing her entire post history going back 6+ years to make sure I've tallied every post she's made on certain topics, you know, casually
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therobit posted:So they want you to always protect the family jewels? Its frankly just good advice in general
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Lottery of Babylon posted:Don't mind me, just casually glancing at her social media occasionally, just idly cataloguing her entire post history going back 6+ years to make sure I've tallied every post she's made on certain topics, you know, casually She’s entertaining. And interesting.
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Oct 14, 2022 05:04
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"My child is enjoying life too much, I have to ruin it." *a few moments later* "My child is disrespecting me! This is an outrage!"
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Captain Hygiene posted:
This girl is going to ace the Coast Guard entrance exam.
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A new Parent Of The Year contender has appeared!
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Barudak posted:I have family that want this and their literal only stipulation was that they not be used for engagement rings so that they can always be a protected asset from the marriage and stay within the family
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Oct 14, 2022 05:33
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The 'college bully' story has some updated infoquote:Edit to answer people's questions
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:AITA for not handmaking cream cheese? So I was thinking about this, and I bet that when the OP says "cream cheese" she actually means the filling of the cheesecake. Or whatever you call the part that's not the crust, made from actual cream cheese, sugar, eggs, etc. That explains the juxtaposition of "the cream cheese" vs "the shell", and it makes a whole lot more sense than someone using from-scratch cream cheese to make a cheesecake.
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Barudak posted:I have family that want this and their literal only stipulation was that they not be used for engagement rings so that they can always be a protected asset from the marriage and stay within the family Yeah my mom wants to be made into a diamond when she dies. She hasn't specified what setting she wants or who should keep it, she just thinks it's a cool idea.
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Festus The Fetus posted:Yeah my mom wants to be made into a diamond when she dies. She hasn't specified what setting she wants or who should keep it, she just thinks it's a cool idea. Those places are all scams, they take your ashes and then give you a regular lab diamond and just say it’s made from them. The cremation process destroys all the carbon in the bones, it couldn’t be done even if you tried https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/cremation-ashes-diamonds-scam-fake
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Ziv Zulander posted:Those places are all scams, they take your ashes and then give you a regular lab diamond and just say it’s made from them. The cremation process destroys all the carbon in the bones, it couldn’t be done even if you tried Thanks, I'll share with them. It looks like its a scam or at best "we used a molecule or two of the loved one with the already prepped feeder material" but the person pushing it as all scams I see is part of the Diamond Producers Association and complains about synthetics so I think its a scam but I hope it drives him out of business.
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Ziv Zulander posted:Those places are all scams, they take your ashes and then give you a regular lab diamond and just say it’s made from them. The cremation process destroys all the carbon in the bones, it couldn’t be done even if you tried
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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to give my girlfriend a ring when I proposed? Start keeping that ring in a safe buddy, things might get weird.
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FMguru posted:The 'college bully' story has some updated info quote:She has big green eyes that they were jealous of. Why is this so funny? It's like something a witch in a fairy tale would say. edit: To clarify, I do not find bullying funny, just this specific phrase is so weird.
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Ziv Zulander posted:Those places are all scams, they take your ashes and then give you a regular lab diamond and just say it’s made from them. The cremation process destroys all the carbon in the bones, it couldn’t be done even if you tried
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AITA for calling my gf and her family snobby?quote:My gf and her family have some snobby habits.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for calling my gf and her family snobby? What if Goofus posted an AITA?
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