therobit posted:

From r/legaladvice

I was completely, blindsided- what do I do? & can I go home?

Most of the comments at the top were reasonable, specific to her situation advice, but there was a really great one a ways down which is why I’m posting it. Call it anticipatory schadenfruede over what could happen to this guy.

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Last Friday, I (20M) went to go eat at a restaurant with some friends. We all sat at the table & we ordered food. I ordered a steak with potatoes mac & cheese and other stuff. The problem started when I started eating my food with my hands. I don't eat food using food utensils. I've been eating like this since forever, it's kinda like a sensory thing, putting metal stuff in my mouth makes me uncomfortable.

My friends were really weirded out by this & said that I was embarrassing them because some people were looking at our table weirdly. They kept on telling me to eat with the fork because I shouldn't be eating with my hands because it's disgusting & that I'm not a baby or an animal. I still refused and continued to eat with my hands.

Eventually we were all done eating & we left the restaurant. On the way to the car, my friends kept telling me that I embarrassed them & that I need to get better food manners. I told them that it doesn't loving matter how I eat my food because I did not make a mess & I was clean with it. They later told me that they wouldn't be inviting me to go with them to any restaurants in the future (They were joking though lol)

Was I the rear end in a top hat here?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for trying to tell my son to man up?

Pomme de Terror posted:

Holy hell I'm gonna want follow ups for this one

Invisible Clergy posted:

militaryspouse.txt

Agree, that post has the potential for some very good updates.

AITA for refusing to eat with food utensils at a restaurant?

Little Junior Brown's reddit account:

Andrast posted:

that guy definitely did not wash his hands before starting either

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for going to a restaurant she likes, but I don’t order food?

okay, so i just learned that all bread is made of wheat

Invisible Clergy posted:

This filth golem has never washed his hands.

quantumwell posted:

It's so highly processed that it's tough to consider it beef, most of the nutritional value is lost. It's more like
meat glue to adjust the fat ratios in hamburger. Mostly people were upset that they didn't know it was in
their McDonalds burger. The industry was making a ton of it too. The process is forbidden in the EU

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

That's because idiotic Europeans didn't/don't understand the concept of using all of the animal.

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I've been with my boyfriend since March 2010, he was 22 back then, and I was 20. We both thought it wouldn't last so long, we started off as ''friends who were attracted to each other'' but day after day we realized we had a lot of chemistry and we caught feelings for each other. My boyfriend has always been a really handsome man, he has never explicitly bragged about his appearance, but he takes a lot of pride in that. He always talks about how he has rejected different women (and he's not lying about it) because ''hey, I'm not that easy, I don't drool over every woman who crosses my path''. He does this because he knows he's very attractive and he wants people to think ''look at me, I'm very attractive and hard to get'' but he does it in a way that doesn't piss people off, whenever we hang out with friends and we end up talking about dating life, sexuality or anything of that sort, he always talks about how he needs time to warm up, how he only cares about what a woman is like on the inside, how he doesn't care when he sees a random girl showing ''some skin''.

Other people are actually impressed by that, I have a female friend who secretly likes him because ''ahhh, he's good-looking and he's not shallow''. But I've spent more time around my boyfriend and at this point I've realized that he only says these things because he likes playing hard to get.

Anyway, I've always been a very skinny girl, but lately I've put on some weight and I've realized I look better with some extra weight because it accentuates my tits. I posted a picture on social media two days ago, a picture of my cleavage and I kinda quoted Taylor Swift's line ''draw the cat eye sharp enough to kill a man'' and turned it into ''a cleavage hot enough to kill a man''. He immediately got mad, he's popular on social media (and in real life as well) because he really likes talking a lot. He was like ''oh no, this ruins my reputation'' and he immediately shared a post in which he said that he was going to break up with me and he even said ''she has been dressing like a th*t lately and as a man, I'm smart enough to deserve better''.

So, we've been together for 12 years, he was showeing me with love and appreciation until I shared that post, as soon as he saw that post he decided to dump me, he kicked me out of his apartment and he won't even answer my texts.

I'm honestly very hurt and lowkey traumatized. Maybe a stupid question, but I need some support... would I be disrespecting myself if I tried to at least talk to him? If he's been with me for so long, it's because he genuinely was into me, I'm not the only one who has ever wanted him... I don't think someone can stop loving their so in a second, I wasn't expecting this from him.

TL;DR boyfriend of 12 years got mad because of a post I shared and decided to break up with me

Serephina posted:

DO NOT unspoiler the ages nor duration of the relationship.

My boyfriend (34m) of 12 years has dumped me (32f) for the dumbest reason. What should I do?

It's the most absolutely humdrum story, but I'm positive the OP is fibbing about the ages and duration as this poo poo comes straight out of high school, right? I must be the oldest loving man on the planet if emancipated adults are acting like this nowadays.

ninja edit: Re-reading it... they're in their low twenties, right?

CharlestheHammer posted:

I don’t get the point if the first two paragraphs?

Serephina posted:

DO NOT unspoiler the ages nor duration of the relationship.

My boyfriend (34m) of 12 years has dumped me (32f) for the dumbest reason. What should I do?

It's the most absolutely humdrum story, but I'm positive the OP is fibbing about the ages and duration as this poo poo comes straight out of high school, right? I must be the oldest loving man on the planet if emancipated adults are acting like this nowadays.

ninja edit: Re-reading it... they're in their low twenties, right?

killerwhat posted:

What is a “th*t”?

hopeandjoy posted:

It was the former. People mad processed meat contains the little bit of meat that’s stuck to the bones that they power washed off and also did ammonia rinses with to kill the bacteria.

Processed meats have always been the scraps and I’d rather they use the scraps than throw out food.

killerwhat posted:

What is a “th*t”?

Woozie66 posted:

She's establishing that he frequently says he doesn't care about appearance, despite the fact he's breaking up over her dressing like a "th*t."

He was always going to be the AH, but that stuff just makes it extra AH-y.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

'it's just meat slime stewed in ammonia! it's perfectly edible, people are so picky'

somehow this doesn't feel in the spirit of 'eating every part of the animal' and it seems pretty disingenuous to try and make that connection or connect it to food waste, especially when the US actually has a problem with an overabundance of meat.

CharlestheHammer posted:

But you can do that in a sentence rather than gushing about how hot he is and how her friends want to gently caress him

CharlestheHammer posted:

But you can do that in a sentence rather than gushing about how hot he is and how her friends want to gently caress him

CharlestheHammer posted:

But you can do that in a sentence rather than gushing about how hot he is and how her friends want to gently caress him

erosion posted:

"Thot", originally an acronym meaning That Ho Over There. One of the worst things you can call someone. Also, it's the slang word that broke me and made me accept that language changes.

I'll never accept Hims, though, and I'm still kinda mad about it.

erosion posted:

One of the worst things you can call someone.

erosion posted:

"Thot", originally an acronym meaning That Ho Over There. One of the worst things you can call someone. Also, it's the slang word that broke me and made me accept that language changes.

I'll never accept Hims, though, and I'm still kinda mad about it.

Woozie66 posted:

Michaeldim posted:

I know the $800 pen story was a while ago but I just read it. I was wondering what the hoopla was about the Montblanc pens was so I went to their website and was greeted immediately with this and



The timing/price don't quite match up but I wanna imagine they got a $800 Naruto pen now

Bored posted:

Wait. Hims is something other than a company selling male beauty products and a word you use when speaking in baby talk about a little dog? The ad for the beauty product company cracked me up because I have only used the word in sentences like,”oh my! Look at him’s leedle foots!” or “Oh! Him’s so tuff babby dog!”…now that I think of it, I don’t know if I’ve ever used the word in person. Just commenting on pet pictures where I feel only really stupid words will convey the giddiness the pictures inspire.

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My sister has six daughters. My oldest niece is 16. My youngest niece is starting school in September so my sister started looking for a part-time job. She found something but it isn't a legitimate job. It is some kind MLM or "consulting" job selling/promoting karen phytoplankton supplements. The science and nutritional claims made by these supplements are completely false. I'm a hematologist and these supplements do not make any difference or treat any of the problems they claim to.

My sister truly believes in the supplements. There is a whole marketing campaign about how "karen" is the goddess of nature, is being kept a secret from the world by people who don't want to share her and how the karen memes are a distraction to keep the world from knowing the "truth" about her. My sister has completely bought into this even though the supplements are useless and have no medical value.

My parents asked me not to say anything to my sister because this is the first job she has ever had in her life and she was happy about finally being able to contribute financially. Also she thinks it means her and my brother-in-law will be able to rely on my parents and his parents a little less. When I talked to my sister about the supplements being a scam she got mad and my brother-in-law and my parents think I'm being too hard on her. My brother-in-law asked me to try and be supportive because my sister was so proud of herself when she got the job. But it isn't a real job and she's selling snake-oil. I found out about her job because she said I could offer them to my patients at the hospital who were having medical issues the supplements claim to solve. If I did that I would get fired not to mention letting my patients down and putting my medical licence in jeopardy.

I thought when I told my sister, brother-in-law and parents that the supplements are a scam they would believe me instead of defending them and saying my sister's job is a real job. They aren't normally anti-science or anti-medicine. They are all vaccinated, took the pandemic seriously and have never fallen for snake-oil stuff before. My parents said I should have out a sister before being a doctor because I really hurt her when I said the supplements are a scam. They say it isn't about medicine but about family.

(I'm 33 years and my sister is 34 years old.)

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I divorced my ex wife when our daughter was in grade school. My daughter and I have had a rocky relationship since I can remember and I do admit I could have been more present when she was growing up. We never connected like I did with my son; my son played sports I enjoyed and he was just warmer to me when he and my daughter would spend weekends at my house.

My daughter is very hardworking, smart, athletic, but there were times, I admit, I was hard on her. My now wife used to give her a hard time about always being hungry when she was growing up and playing soccer and track and I admit I have made comments about her body that I wish I shouldn’t have as she has never had a problem with weight. My daughter resented us for years because of this but I think we’ve started to make peace with the past.

Like I said my daughter is very athletic and smart and after high school she ended up getting into her dream school for sports and academics. During her growth years I often times felt closer to servers at breakfast restaurants I frequented than my daughter, and I became close with one server in particular. He was a great kid who was into film and I even invested into his filming projects and attended showings and other events.

Fast forward to recent - I was invited to his college graduation that is 4 hours away and decided to attend to support him.

I however chose to not attend my daughter’s graduation that was a week or two after my friend’s graduation. Her college is about 5 hours away from where I live and at the time I just couldn’t make the trip due to other obligations. She also said she wasn’t keen on walking in the ceremony and didn’t make a big deal about it so I assumed it would be fine if I skipped. However she’s now giving me the cold shoulder because she found out i attended a “restaurant server’s” graduation (he’s also a great friend) and not hers.

Since we haven’t been close I didn’t think much of it but she is obviously upset and I worry we are not ever going to have a good relationship. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

ETA: I have apologized for things I have said in the past, and so has my wife, but she still has a hard time accepting my apology because she thinks I’m superficial for judging her by what she eats and what her body looks like. I can’t help it but I was judged for this by my parents as well and maybe that is being projected on to her. I just want her to be healthy. I am proud of her but I find she is so unpredictable and hot headed and will talk to me sometimes and then cut me out or stop answering my texts without warning. She also has mentioned she hasn’t made peace with the fact that I divorced her mom (my ex wife) and married the mistress, even though my ex has made peace with it and we are all friends.

ETA 2: These comments are hitting hard and I do have guilt for what’s happened and it hurts that I’ve made her so sad again. For so long I felt like I was doing a good job with the child support and paying for her sports etc and also paying for my ex wife to go to school to become a teacher. My daughter’s schooling was funded by grants and scholarships she received for grades and sports. I really am proud of her success in school and becoming a hall of fame athlete at her college and I have a lot of making up to do. I also want to point out that my good relationship with my son and my “server” friend is not due to them being male and I’m mot a misogynist. I’m just trying to get some insight into how I can reconnect with my daughter.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not attending my daughter’s college graduation?


So So much to unpack. I can't wait till he's confused why she didn't ask him to walk her down the aisle...

erosion posted:

It is exactly that, a telemedicine brand, which includes the brand 'Hims and Hers'. I posted about it a while ago and was informed that Language Changes, actually.

Speaking of supplements:

AITA for telling my sister that the karen phytoplankton supplements she sells are snake-oil and have no medical value?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not attending my daughter’s college graduation?

erosion posted:

It is exactly that, a telemedicine brand, which includes the brand 'Hims and Hers'. I posted about it a while ago and was informed that Language Changes, actually.

Speaking of supplements:

AITA for telling my sister that the karen phytoplankton supplements she sells are snake-oil and have no medical value?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not attending my daughter’s college graduation?


So So much to unpack. I can't wait till he's confused why she didn't ask him to walk her down the aisle...

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not attending my daughter’s college graduation?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for not attending my daughter’s college graduation?


So So much to unpack. I can't wait till he's confused why she didn't ask him to walk her down the aisle...