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I think it's just a difference in expectations for space? I remember seeing some post from an american redditor talking about how she lives in a 1000sqft apartment and it's barely enough for one person and my gfs family lives in a 900sqft apartment with 3 people and regularly hosts guests overnight 
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Nov 28, 2022 00:54
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Cowslips Warren posted:I wonder if they were trying for a boy. I know that is a poo poo thing to assume but whenever I see a family with many kids of one gender, I presume they kept trying to get the other one. Oh, no, they weren't trying for any of them. The twins were their only planned pregnancy and it wasn't planned for them to be twins. The other two happened on birth control. Only need to plan space for the kids you want, I guess? Xun posted:I think it's just a difference in expectations for space? I remember seeing some post from an american redditor talking about how she lives in a 1000sqft apartment and it's barely enough for one person and my gfs family lives in a 900sqft apartment with 3 people and regularly hosts guests overnight What? That American Redditor is nuts, you can put a family in an apartment that size. That's just a crazy person. Asses per toilets/bodies per shower is a useful metric to have though. Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 01:00 on Nov 28, 2022 |
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Nov 28, 2022 00:56
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Midnight Voyager posted:There's also some Dutch guy saying that it is literally unheard of in the entire country for anyone who isn't a billionaire to have multiple bathrooms even if there's ten people in a house and that having more is such massive privilege they can't even imagine it. Anybody Dutch in here? I dunno about Belgium and the Netherlands, but every newer house I've been in from Germany to Croatia has had more than one bathroom in it, because it's the 21 century and why not? I grew up in a house with 1 bathroom for 4 people and, while it usually worked out, there were times when it was a squeeze. The few times when everyone had a bad stomach at once were… not fun. AceClown posted:Same in most of the UK, you might see a new build house with a downstairs guest toilet but for the most part we just have one bathroom Yeah, but the UK is a weird, backwards island that still hasn't moved on from plumbing and electrical standards from the turn of the 20th century. It's the only place where I've seen separate hot/cold taps in houses that weren't 100+ years old and they're still petrified of electrical outlets in the bathroom even though the rest of the world figured out GFCI/RCD decades ago.
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Nov 28, 2022 00:57
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The_Franz posted:I dunno about Belgium and the Netherlands, but every newer house I've been in from Germany to Croatia has had more than one bathroom in it, because it's the 21 century and why not? I grew up in a house with 1 bathroom for 4 people and, while it usually worked out, there were times when it was a squeeze. The few times when everyone had a bad stomach at once were… not fun. * turns on both taps and alternates dipping my hands under the ice cold or boiling hot water to wash my hands *
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Nov 28, 2022 00:59
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The best part of that is that is is an artifact from them using non-potable water from roof cisterns that birds crap in and they didn’t want to use valuable potable water from the mains for showering and washing because? And then they just never corrected this grave error and some homes still have. These disgusting cisterns.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:16
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Midnight Voyager posted:Oh, no, they weren't trying for any of them. The twins were their only planned pregnancy and it wasn't planned for them to be twins. The other two happened on birth control. Only need to plan space for the kids you want, I guess? Reminds me of a family I knew where the parents were casually dating before she got pregnant; they ended up married shortly after she had their son. She wanted another kid, he was more on the fence. Then they had twin girls. Another few years and he was debating about a vasectomy, but apparently didn't reach the decision before she got pregnant again, this time one girl. He finally got the vasectomy. AITA for following family tradition? quote:My relatives and I always go to our family cabin for Thanksgiving. This year, I brought along my fiancé, Kat, for the first time to celebrate with my family. New remake of Ready or Not looks boring as gently caress.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:17
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therobit posted:The best part of that is that is is an artifact from them using non-potable water from roof cisterns that birds crap in and they didn’t want to use valuable potable water from the mains for showering and washing because? Imagine being afraid of getting Legionnaires' Disease in 2022.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:18
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therobit posted:The best part of that is that is is an artifact from them using non-potable water from roof cisterns that birds crap in and they didn’t want to use valuable potable water from the mains for showering and washing because? iirc, it was so that homes had a local water supply in case the Germans started bombing them again.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:19
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Cowslips Warren posted:
lol, owned. “I didn’t want to scare her off” with your weird rear end tradition, how’s that working out? The ex-fiancé rules, just immediately twigs onto what her future is going to look like with these nut jobs and ghosts.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:34
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for following family tradition? hahahahaha great job, dipshit. "sorry, it's tradition; we have to humiliate you in front of the entire family"
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Nov 28, 2022 01:37
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Midnight Voyager posted:Why's that? Genuinely curious here. With enough people in a house, it just seems like a real irritation to have one bathroom. we also have a LOT of houses that look like this:  good luck getting more than one small bathroom and maybe a downstairs piss closet in a terraced house
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Nov 28, 2022 01:40
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AceClown posted:we also have a LOT of houses that look like this: That makes sense. I mean, doesn't seem like a good time, but I see how you get there.
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Nov 28, 2022 01:42
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therobit posted:What the gently caress Just coming back to this, the post itself says: quote:Bob started sleeping with Amelia because she was willing while my mom wanted to wait until marriage Guessing OP mixed up Jane and Amelia's names. At least I hope they did!
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Nov 28, 2022 01:43
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Evil Willow posted:Just coming back to this, the post itself says: quote:Bob moved away and barely saw my cousins but he always sent me cards, presents, and messages. I also didn't find out until later but he actually paid for my college in secret so I didn't have any debt while Amelia and Bob only got partial help from him. This is the part that confused the poo poo out of me. Bob only got partial help from Bob? are there two Bob???
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Nov 28, 2022 01:45
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for following family tradition?
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Nov 28, 2022 02:06
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They buy more chairs for “family”. You can’t bring two people who aren’t blood relations but once you get hitched (or engaged?) they buy a chair I guess. They just want to make sure there’s a baked in way to make someone feel like poo poo on the holiday as a tradition, and this year the person who was going to be humiliated was the person they wanted to join the family. Sorry, if I need to partake in a hazing ritual to join your clan I simply will not.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:14
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Midnight Voyager posted:Why's that? Genuinely curious here. With enough people in a house, it just seems like a real irritation to have one bathroom.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:15
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The_Franz posted:I dunno about Belgium and the Netherlands, but every newer house I've been in from Germany to Croatia has had more than one bathroom in it, because it's the 21 century and why not? I grew up in a house with 1 bathroom for 4 people and, while it usually worked out, there were times when it was a squeeze. The few times when everyone had a bad stomach at once were… not fun. In Australia it’s common for older houses to have one bathroom but this was never much of a problem, even for a big family, because the toilet was in its own little separate room. You could have someone tying up the bathroom having a long shower, and someone else taking a horrific dump at the same time no worries.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:17
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r/relationships: I brought her plate over to the punishment chair and jokingly gave her the (ironic) dunce hat.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:22
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Midnight Voyager posted:This is the part that confused the poo poo out of me. Bob only got partial help from Bob? are there two Bob??? Yep! The son (Amelia's brother) was Bob Jr.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:24
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Bargearse posted:In Australia it’s common for older houses to have one bathroom but this was never much of a problem, even for a big family, because the toilet was in its own little separate room. You could have someone tying up the bathroom having a long shower, and someone else taking a horrific dump at the same time no worries. Also, in that age of house, you can flush the toilet to encourage whoever's in the shower to get it over with quicker.
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Nov 28, 2022 02:28
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The Maroon Hawk posted:r/relationships: I brought her plate over to the punishment chair and jokingly gave her the (ironic) dunce hat. 
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Nov 28, 2022 02:36
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The Maroon Hawk posted:r/relationships: I brought her plate over to the punishment chair and jokingly gave her the (ironic) dunce hat. that's some midsommar poo poo IMO
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Nov 28, 2022 03:07
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for following family tradition? The best part of this is the day is soon coming where they sell the cabin/a younger person who doesnt know the uncle puts the foot down/etc. and the tradition dies and OP here realizes they lost a chance at love over poo poo nobody cares about
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Nov 28, 2022 03:22
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Barudak posted:The best part of this is the day is soon coming where they sell the cabin/a younger person who doesnt know the uncle puts the foot down/etc. and the tradition dies and OP here realizes they lost a chance at love over poo poo nobody cares about dumb motherfucker doesn't even know that he's single rn, he ain't gonna realize poo poo
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Nov 28, 2022 03:25
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I wish I knew whether the uncle is cackling evilly from beyond the grave or endlessly frustrated at being unable to cut off that bullshit while stuck outside the mortal plane
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Nov 28, 2022 03:29
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Captain Hygiene posted:I wish I knew whether the uncle is cackling evilly from beyond the grave or endlessly frustrated at being unable to cut off that bullshit while stuck outside the mortal plane It's not even clear this was happening while he was alive, or if it started after he died because he only happened to have a table with 10 chairs or whatever.
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Nov 28, 2022 03:34
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Rescue Toaster posted:It's not even clear this was happening while he was alive, or if it started after he died because he only happened to have a table with 10 chairs or whatever. He is trapped in limbo as a ghost until some idiot brings another chair to the table. AITA for wanting compensation after my new neighbors felled my trees? quote:Earlier this year I had new neighbors move in and before they even introduced themselves they removed three large, healthy trees from my front yard. They claim it was entirely the tree service‘s mistake and they insist they are not responsible for anything, let alone compensating me for the 4 figure damage. They are not helping with getting a response out of the tree service either (who unsurprisingly claim they just did as they were told). Am I the rear end in a top hat for taking the neighbors to court? I do not think I will see any compensation otherwise. They insist we are neighbors and should „fix the issue“, but they have not made any offer as to how they want to fix anything. It is not like we have been good neighbors for years and then they had a little mishap while doing yard work. They moved in, went berserk in my yard (the before and after photos still make me cry), and now are expecting me to absorb all the damage in the interest of good neighborly relations. I feel like I am being taken advantage of for initially extending some good will and suggesting we could talk about it. Somewhere a tree lawyer just got a hard-on and doesn't know why.
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Nov 28, 2022 03:49
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Rescue Toaster posted:It's not even clear this was happening while he was alive, or if it started after he died because he only happened to have a table with 10 chairs or whatever. I took it as the latter, for funniest possibility Foo Diddley posted:dumb motherfucker doesn't even know that he's single rn, he ain't gonna realize poo poo Like 10 years from now as he watches a younger family member get married and they joke that dumb ol chair game
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Nov 28, 2022 03:50
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oh hey, an update to something i don't think got posted: AITA for telling my mom if she wants to plan a wedding to get remarried? quote:I (32f) recently started planning my wedding with my fiancé (31f) and my mom immediately jumped to help us plan. I thought at first it'd be ok but she will call vendors and venues she likes, will give them my information so they call me about a scheduled time and my mom swoops in to say "it'd be rude not to go since they invited you." It was obvious it was her after the third time when she wouldn't stop giggling and admitted to calling before hand and making appointments. I wouldn't take issue with this but my mom and I have wildly different tastes, every time me or my fiancé tell her something like how want to have this color for the table clothes or these flowers she'll tell us that they look bad and will give us her own plan. She recently showed us a massive binder of different ideas she wants us to look through. UPDATE: AITA for telling my mom if she wants to plan a wedding to get remarried? quote:Hello everyone I took all of the advice to heart and me and my fiancé had a sit down and looked at the comments together and we agreed we both need to grow spines. Our wedding planner is truly a saint and had no problem setting up passwords with vendors like some people suggested and it was a great suggestion so thank you. lots of posts have mentioned having a password system for wedding arrangements, but i don't think i've seen someone actually using it
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Nov 28, 2022 03:51
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for wanting compensation after my new neighbors felled my trees? Did someone say… tree law?
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Nov 28, 2022 03:52
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Cowslips Warren posted:He is trapped in limbo as a ghost until some idiot brings another chair to the table. Ftfy
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Nov 28, 2022 03:57
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AITA for lending my daughter's things away to relatives?quote:Hello everyone. I am having an issue with my daughter and wanted to see if I can filter this conversation through a different lens because it has become a point of contention between us. TIL my mom has a daughter in college that I didn’t know about.
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Nov 28, 2022 03:58
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for wanting compensation after my new neighbors felled my trees? TREE LAW TREE LA--wait, earlier this year? how much earlier? quote:NTA- check out the treelaw sub OP posted:I did… back in May when this all happened *drops giant foam "tree law" finger* yeah uh, good job gettin right on this, i'm sure it'll all work out whenever you get around to things
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Nov 28, 2022 04:02
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Cowslips Warren posted:
YAY for the girlfriend for leaving. Not because of the stupid humiliating tradition though. (Yes it is stupid, dehumanizing and pointless. And she was right to not want to do it. But there have been much worse described in this thread alone). Yay for her realizing that her boyfriend won't stand up for her. Even when he knows how upset she is, and how much she doesn't want to do it etc. He will still not take her side and tell her to just suck it up for the sake of decorum etc. She realized this early, and decided she didn't want a boyfriend who wouldn't take her feelings into consideration, and would take the side of a bullshit family tradition over her wellbeing. YAY for her. I wonder how the rest of the family took her leaving? Was it a "Oops. It seems this silly tradition actually hurts peoples feelings. I guess we better think about how we do this in the future." or was it a "Geez, OP's girlfriend is such a stuck up bitch, getting all huffy and causing a scene about something so minor as her own dignity and agency. She'll learn how we do things in this family soon enough."
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Nov 28, 2022 04:05
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The Maroon Hawk posted:r/relationships: I brought her plate over to the punishment chair and jokingly gave her the (ironic) dunce hat. No honey we aren't calling you stupid we are asking you to ironically wear the hat that proclaims you to be an idiot. Get it? It's ironic!
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Nov 28, 2022 04:13
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I keep posting about it because I just shared the dunce cap tradition story with my wife and we dug into the musical chairs part. Imagine driving into the woods to meet this huge family for a special event and with no warning this clan starts running around the dinner table to Jingle Bells. Music stops. Do you, as the guest trying to make a good impression to your new family, muscle MeeMaw onto the floor so you can win this game with unknown stakes? Who does one round of musical chairs? Suddenly you’re standing alone and wondering what just happened, then your future husband picks up your plate of food and takes you away from the party and into the punishment chair. It’s surreal. When I was in middle school this kid in class wanted me to come to his church, so my mom and I checked it out. We had been involved in a church in our old town and hadn’t found a fit for us after we moved. Anyway this church was in a strip mall, and about 40 minutes into the sermon the congregation gets up and starts marching around the room to symbolize the tearing down of the walls of Jericho. That wasn’t what we were expecting, and it was super weird because we didn’t want to participate so everyone was marching and stomping around us. Never went back, obviously. Was the OP next to his fiancé during the musical chairs? Like, right before or after? Did he jostle her out of the way so he could get a seat? Why wouldn’t you make sure your fiancé got a seat at the table for the first Thanksgiving? I can’t stop picking at this.
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Nov 28, 2022 04:20
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i bet the whole family jostled her out of the way. i bet they do that to the one outsider that's allowed to come every year
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Foo Diddley posted:i bet the whole family jostled her out of the way. i bet they do that to the one outsider that's allowed to come every year And the gently caress are they gonna do if anyone marries into the family and Becomes Family? Are they going to just not allow any outsiders? I mean, she's a fiance, is she still an outsider if she becomes wife? What if they have kids? This tradition is insane unless they expect everyone to die alone. Which they just might because of this tradition. quote:Historically, ppl in our family have died b4 the next person was born, so it hasn’t really been an issue. Idk what we’d do if another person was born before someone died. That’s an interesting point. Real low loving turnover on this family, wonder why. quote:Traditions and doing things ironically were 2 things my uncle really loved. Idk if excluding people at Thanksgiving was what he really wanted, but he was a pretty cruel man, so I wouldn’t be surprised if it was. Yeah, he was a lovely guy who was loving awful, I love alienating my loved ones to honor him.
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Chemtrailologist posted:AITA for covering up cameras in the living room, bedroom and bathroom in my husband’s family home? Run!!! You’ve joined a cult! What a loving nightmare.
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