The_Franz posted:

Is this some weird ultra-old-school sect of Catholicism where they still do the masses in Latin or something? Why would anyone care if some random member of the wedding party was divorced? Why would it even come up in the first place?

Silly Newbie posted:

You know there's going to be some nosy assholes who notice that the maid of honor's kids are there but no husband.

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA for letting the neighbor kid’s bike get stolen and not replacing it

The_Franz posted:

Is this some weird ultra-old-school sect of Catholicism where they still do the masses in Latin or something? Why would anyone care if some random member of the wedding party was divorced? Why would it even come up in the first place?

The_Franz posted:

Is this some weird ultra-old-school sect of Catholicism where they still do the masses in Latin or something? Why would anyone care if some random member of the wedding party was divorced? Why would it even come up in the first place?

Pookah posted:

I've said this before, but you literally can't have a weird old catholic cult that isn't heretical.
Catholicism is incredibly hierarchical, you can't be a Catholic unless you submit to the current Pope.
You want to get all freaky and pre-vatican two?

Yeeted out the drat window right there. You're a protestant, no matter how fuckin freaky you want to be.

tinytort posted:

Not just that, but why are they judging her for having divorced a cheater who had to be dragged to court to make him pay child support?

tinytort posted:

But if the church is actually going to charge more just to let someone who isn't even part of their faith into the building, then the solution is to find somewhere else to have the ceremony.

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This may be a bit long, sorry I am still new to this app. Anyways, I am a high school teacher (junior English.) There is one student in my class who I am not particularly fond of. He’s very bright, he just talks a lot and gets distracted easily, and as a result, distracts his classmates. Earlier today, he asked me if he could use the restroom, and I told him no, and that he should have used it earlier. He looked at me confused and left anyways. I was in disbelief. When he came back, I asked him why had he left when I told him he couldn’t. He asked me if I expected him to hold it for the rest of class time, which would have been around half an hour. He also informed me that he never thought asking for the rest room was for permissions sake anyways, as no teacher had ever told him no. I didn’t really care for his excuses, so I told him he was being disobedient and would call his mother. He shrugged and said she’d be on his side anyways. I called her and she asked was there a specific reason I wouldn’t let him go. I responded no, and she said she would have walked out too, and to stop being so petty and controlling as to not let near adults use the restroom. This annoyed me, and I later asked my husband about it. He also asked my reason for not letting him go, and upon not providing one, also sided with the student. I’m very confused by this; students should respect a teacher’s authority. I’m only posting here because everyone seems to be aiding against me.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?

hawowanlawow posted:

Like Corky said you can simply bribe the church with money if they give you poo poo about divorces, it also worked for my uncle

Kurieg posted:

There's basically no law or dogma that a church will not ignore if you're willing to pay them enough.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?

Kurieg posted:

There's basically no law or dogma that a church will not ignore if you're willing to pay them enough.

The_Franz posted:

Is this some weird ultra-old-school sect of Catholicism where they still do the masses in Latin or something? Why would anyone care if some random member of the wedding party was divorced? Why would it even come up in the first place?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?

JacquelineDempsey posted:

I just read in the Sagas thread in PYF about some goon who got really into Dragonball Z as a kid, and started working out based on stuff they saw on the show. Things that sound a lot like CrossFit, like tying weights to all your extremities and going running, flinging bags of rocks around, etc.

Goon couldn't get out of bed one morning bc they'd torn a bunch of arteries in their vertebrae and had had a number of strokes overnight. At the age of 15.

In conclusion, gently caress this guy for pushing his wife too hard.

Invisible Clergy posted:

I can't find it in that thread. Do you have a link handy?

Vincent Van Goatse posted:

I was in middle school when Dragonball Z was a huge hit. I was a dorky middle schooler when the Androids and Cell Saga were on, and I rushed home every day to watch it. I started studying it, going online to research the Japanese version and all the episodes that hadn't hit the US yet, and became a pretty big name online on the Temple O' Trunks and DBZ: Uncensored message boards. Incredibly nerdy looking back but at the time, it was my life.

That's where the story would end for most people, it would be an embarrassing childhood moment. But I also discovered something else at that time - I really liked working out and getting stronger. I copied the DBZ method of training - I filled a bookbag with rocks, tied lead weights into my clothes, weight down my shoes with cement blocks, stuff like that. And then I'd try working out in that. And for a while it worked really well. I was doing a lot of high impact exercises and my skinny/flabby body was responding well. I was bulking up and in my mind, I was becoming one step closer to the characters I idolized on TV. I wasn't completely stupid, I knew I couldn't turn super saiya-jin or anything like that.

Until one morning I couldn't get out of bed.

My parents had to carry me to the car and took me to the ER. I had torn several vertebral arteries, which lead to multiple strokes. I was 15 years old.

I spent the next several weeks in the hospital recovering, and then nearly a year after that in physical therapy. My left arm is still noticeably smaller than my right one, and I'm skinny enough that I wear a women's small T-shirt, despite being a nearly 30 year old man.

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So for background, I mainly took care of my sister growing up. My mom passed away, and my dad would be gone for weeks at a time. So it was my responsibility to cook for us, to make sure she was doing her homework, get her to and from school, and also pay a portion of the bills and all of that. So after that, we are closer than most siblings I’d imagine.

When I was 17, my sister was 14 and we shared a room but had different beds. She didn’t like sleeping alone. We also shared a phone and laptop. She fell asleep one night, playing on her computer, and when I got up in the morning I grabbed the laptop off her bed to do school work.

I opened the computer and was immediately hit with text talking about sucking cock. It was from a fanfiction website, so like basically word porn. I went to go exit out but I noticed that it wasn’t straight porn, but gay porn. That surprised me.

I was wondering why would she be looking at gay porn. I’m bi, and I had a boyfriend at the time, which I had recently told her about. So I was sitting there, wondering if she looked it up because of me, which made me feel super weird. I don’t know why it made me feel that way, but the stuff was super graphic and sexual and I was hoping she didn’t think that was how gay couples really are. I also was her surrogate parent figure, and was wondering if I should have a talk with her about it. I decided not to, though. I must have been on there for a minute before I exited out the page.

I got over it, and didn’t mention it to her. But recently we were having a conversation (and I mean 6 years in the future) where my sisters friend was talking about his one-night stand with a guy he met to me and my sister. He said, “I won’t go into details. I know a girl wouldn’t want to hear about what men do with each other, I don’t want to gross you out, but I had a great time.”

She said, “Please, there is nothing you could tell me that’s worse or more graphic than some of the smut I’ve read online.” I snorted and muttered like, “I believe it.” Thinking in my head I had first hand experience there. By this point I knew a lot of women read M/M smut online, so I got it now, where I didn’t before.

She ended up questioning me about what I said later, and I told her how I found it on her computer at 14. Her whole face turned red and she said, “Wtf, why did you stick around enough to realize it was gay porn? Why didn’t you immediately exit out the page? And how am I just hearing this now?” I was like, “Dude, I was on the page for a minute max. I was also surprised, I wasn’t expecting to see that on my 14 year old sisters computer. I wasn’t snooping, and it was obvious it was gay porn. It took like five seconds for me to realize.” She was horrified and locked herself away for the night. AITA? It was right in front of my face, how was I not suppose to not notice?

deported to Canada posted:

Although I still have to wonder what motivates people to do it myself, like has it ever actually worked? How many ladies exchange details with strangers shouting at them in the street?

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My sister has suffered a lot in life, including the loss of her first two children. But she basically suffocated her daughter, “Kira.” Kira was chaperoned everywhere, had a 9 p.m. curfew well into college, and was expected to call her mother every day. Predictably, Kira chose to get her masters at a school on the opposite coast and hasn’t visited home since. Kira went overseas for a conference and ended up falling in love with a native. She planned to immigrate there. Kira didn’t tell her mother for six months and pretended to still be in the States. She did accidentally tell me and begged me to keep her confidence. I did but I told Kira she needed to tell her mom sooner rather than later. When she did, my sister hit the roof. The mother/daughter fight to end all fights. Eventually, they reconciled, the romance fizzled out, and Kira moved home.

This all happened several years ago. Kira has married and is expecting her first baby. Her relationship with her mother is better. Somehow it came out that I knew Kira was living overseas and I didn’t tell my sister. So now my sister is furious with me. Utterly enraged. She calls it the worst kind of betrayal and says she can never trust me again. She acts like I abandoned her daughter in a back-alley brothel instead keeping a secret for an adult woman. I have already apologized. Twice. I am supposed to visit for Kira’s baby shower. I know my sister and I will get into it, if she continues like this. Any suggestions?

— Secret Keeper

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Your sister needs someone with a backbone to tell it to her straight. She has it upside down. She is not upset because people hide things from her and want to be away from her. They hide things and want to be away from her because she is controlling and she reacts like an infant instead of a grown-up.

Tell her if she wants to maintain a relationship with you, and in the long run, her daughter, she needs to get her act together. Her first opportunity to practice acting like an adult who cares about other people, instead of just herself, will be at the shower. Which you will be attending, of course.

If she wants to throw a tantrum, let her. You have said your piece. Once.

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I (25F) live in a large city and stay in a family’s basement for over $1300 a month. They have been nice but we don’t really talk at all which is fine with me. I moved in around Feb and I mostly keep to myself and just go to work.

My landlord (50s M) told me they would be leaving to go out of the country because his parent was in critical condition. He took his entire family with him which is his wife and kids. They asked me to look out for packages and stuff while they’re gone which is not a big deal so I said okay and to have a safe flight etc.

A week later (today) he texts me and says his kids would be coming back but not him about a week from now. He asked me to take his kids to school until he gets back. I don’t know when exactly that is.

The reason I think I might be the rear end in a top hat is because I think it’s an insane request to ask a tenant that just lives here and I don’t know if they have any other family here. But I also know we live in a high cost of living area and this house is probably worth more than I could ever afford so I don’t see why it’s my responsibility to take care of my landlords children, he could probably pay for a ride share service or something else. For reference the kids are at least 17 I believe. My mom says I’m an rear end in a top hat for not being helpful and that it’s selfish.

I have a job that I can work from home and maybe have time to take them (I start about an hour after I would take them to school). I haven’t called him about it yet because I feel bad but like I said I have a full time job and live in a big city. If I want to go into the office or am required to for anything (I had already made plans to go into the office next week for something I have to do for example) I don’t have time to take them because it takes over an hour to get there.

I genuinely think it’s an insane thing to ask a random tenant to do without consideration of my job or my life, he just said “I won’t be coming back and I need you to take my kids to school for an undisclosed amount of time.” Granted I have not called him yet to hear more and the circumstances are out of his control so I don’t know if I am the rear end in a top hat and should take his kids to school.

Captain Hygiene posted:

Okay, here's the most one I've seen in a while:

WIBTA for thinking it’s a weird thing for my landlord to ask me to take care of his kids?

And the weirder thing is that the top comment, and a surprising number of other people, are agreeing it's weird but going "although, if you do agree to do this,..." instead of recommending "wtf, I will be calling the police if you go through with this"

Just the most thing all around

Captain Hygiene posted:

Okay, here's the most one I've seen in a while:

WIBTA for thinking it’s a weird thing for my landlord to ask me to take care of his kids?

And the weirder thing is that the top comment, and a surprising number of other people, are agreeing it's weird but going "although, if you do agree to do this,..." instead of recommending "wtf, I will be calling the police if you go through with this"

Just the most thing all around

OP posted:

Update to anyone who sees this, my mom decided she would do this in my place since I am such a terrible person and wanted to refuse. Yes, I know how insane that sounds and hopefully gives clarification to all the people commenting that this is insane and I didn’t even need to ask.

I asked her if she would feel comfortable if for example a boss asked her to do this given the position of power and how uncomfortable it is to even be asked. Her response: I have done that before for bosses. Yeah. I tried discussing with her everything you guys have said even before I posted this but she didn’t listen.

Thanks everyone for the sanity check as another user called it.

erosion posted:

Going to the cops might be a tad excessive, even with such a bizarre ask. Parent in critical condition is a good reason to be sympathetic. Having no idea when the landlord is planning on returning is a huge red flag, though. Tactful negotiation could help create a win-win, assuming they can get something in writing.

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

Beachcomber posted:

Acid vat has become basic.

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not?