Evil Willow posted:

Gf says I'm exhausting her with my petty questions

Tarkus posted:

Pink is the color of a VAGINA and it will attract all the ne'er-do-wells and men of ill-comport.

Bright Bart posted:

Gaslighting so when OP finds a male pilot's uniform on the floor of her room they'll assume it's theirs?

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My friend (M30) was visiting me (F30) with his son et's call him Jacob . We were hanging out and decided to play some Mario Kart in the living room, while his son was playing a game on his Ipad.

His son then wanted to use the bathroom. He's been here before and knows where to go. I don't have hildren, but I feel like children, around 5 or 6, should be able to wipe themselves, however my friend and his wife still clean him up and wipe him.

We have since stopped playing and were talking when we hear Jacob call out that he's done (meaning that he's waiting for someone to help him wipe). My friend groaned and didn't get up. He asked me if I could go clean up Jacob. I looked at him with a blank stare which pissed him off. He scoffed and got up to go see Jacob. After a 10 minutes they both emerged from the bathroom. My friend looks livid and says that he has poo poo on his shirt because of me. (I don't even want to know HOW he ended up with poo poo on his shirt) and that I should have done it for him. He hates doing it and feels like it's his wife's job. I told him well thankfully I'm not his wife and I'll never clean up his son. He ended up cutting his visit short and left. I don't think i was the rear end in a top hat but his wife texted me later berating me for not doing this because my friend was having a very rough time. He lost his job and was depressed (I didn't know that) and visited me to clear his head. I felt bad because maybe I should have noticed that his demand was out of the ordinary and done it, now that I know how he felt.

Cowslips Warren posted:

yeah a pink or orange car would be cool. always find in the parking lot.


AITA for not cleaning a helping a child wipe 💩?

Maybe it's me but even at 5 or 6 you want to check on a kid when it comes to that. A lot easier to clean up a bare butt than lovely clothes. That said the gently caress is with asking a friend to do that to your own kid?

Oh right, she's female and naturally better at this stuff.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for not cleaning a helping a child wipe 💩?

Maybe it's me but even at 5 or 6 you want to check on a kid when it comes to that. A lot easier to clean up a bare butt than lovely clothes. That said the gently caress is with asking a friend to do that to your own kid?

Oh right, she's female and naturally better at this stuff.

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My (35f) sister (37f) was supposed to come visit me for the first time this summer with her family. I'm french and I have been living in Canada for the last 6 years. I go back to my country almost every year to visit them. I have always thought my sister and I had a great relationship, she was the first person I wanted to see, the most important person in my life. We used to text and facetime several times a week.

Last August, I arrived at my sister's to spend 4 days with her and my nephews. 1 hour after I arrived she started complaining about my behavior during my last visit, she was not happy that I did not made her husband's lunch one day. I voiced my surprise that she kept her feelings toward this for a year. She apparently wanted to tell me in person. During the rest of my stay she made me feel not welcomed in her home and made excuses to come home very late. I was hurt by this, but stayed because I wanted to spend time with my nephews. On the 3rd night I wanted to talked it out with her because I sensed it was deeper than the husband's lunch.

She spent 2 1/2 hours listing everything that she did not like about me, my behavior, my life choices, my personality. I was sobbing for the most part and unable to answer, but she kept on going, unfazed. Her list was going back to when I was 5 and refused to play with her (I ve always been a loner), to our teenage years and the fact she chose to go to school so far that she was only back on the weekends, meaning that she did not think we were sisters then. Same when we went to the same university and saw each other almost everyday, she stated that we were friends during that time, not sisters. Later in life, she asked me to officiate her wedding ceremony and to be the godmother of one of my nephew. I sense that she is very disappointed that I decided to stay in Canada and I believe that she started resenting me when she realized I was not coming back to France. She also mentioned that I was way to happy to talk about the promotion I had at work, and to let her know I was no longer struggling financially. She also said I should not call her that often and should wait for her to authorize me to call (by text). She basically went through every aspects of my life in a negative way.

After our conversation she felt much better and stated we could finally start to have a real relationship as sister. One I though we always had...

I felt as if our relationship was a lie. I spent the rest of my vacation being sad, but also angry that she did not talked to me sooner but chose to do it during my only vacation of the year.

When I saw her again on my last day, I told her I was really not happy about our conversation, that even though some remarks made sense, some of them were just mean. I finished by letting her know that since she did not seems to like me, she was no longer invited to visit me. She seemed very hurt and has not spoke to me since.

AITA for canceling the invitation ?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for not cleaning a helping a child wipe 💩?

Raygereio posted:

How do you gently caress up the task of wiping your child's rear end so badly that you end up with poo poo on your shirt?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I think that’s what’s bothering me. It’s not that he’s so incompetent that he got poo poo on his shirt, it’s that he put poo poo on his shirt to try and make her feel guilty.

i am a moron posted:

I agree that whole part is… weird. But where tf is anyone gonna find a pink car? And buying a car and having it painted can get really expensive

i am a moron posted:

I agree that whole part is… weird. But where tf is anyone gonna find a pink car? And buying a car and having it painted can get really expensive

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I think that’s what’s bothering me. It’s not that he’s so incompetent that he got poo poo on his shirt, it’s that he put poo poo on his shirt to try and make her feel guilty.

Captain Hygiene posted:

Every time I see a pink car it turns out to be a Mary Kay consultant. They definitely stand out in a parking lot, I wouldn't mind that.

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First of all, I understand that many people talk to their friends about sex in general terms. I’m fine with that.

Second, I will say that I know eavesdropping is not cool, and I would never do it intentionally.

But late last night I (31f) overheard my husband (33m) talking to his best friend in our balcony (it’s right outside our bedroom window, which was open, and they had been out drinking and their voices were louder than they realized) about their sex lives in more detail than I expected. His friend isn’t married, and asked a lot of questions about “married sex” and how it’s different. My husband talked about a lot - frequency, sex in the shower, our preferences, even how I “finish” him and what toys we use. Personal stuff.

They also talked about how different positions are more fun with different female body types, and my “physique” came up in that discussion. His friend mentioned a “Hooters” Halloween costume I wore about 5 years ago, and they laughed about how the top was a hit it because showed off my “assets.”

I admit I was a bit bugged (a little flattered but bugged) by this whole conversation, and wanted to call them out on it, not in a mean way but still direct. So, I fished out my old Hooters top (I still have it) and wore it to make them breakfast this morning.

They were both hungover but immediately got the message. My husband’s friend was a bit mortified and very apologetic, my husband was sheepish. He asked what all I heard from the conversation, and I said (while I was making eggs) “oh, not much, just about how I like it from behind in the shower, how I still like giving BJs, you know, that kind of stuff.”

My husband thinks I was over the top,with my reaction. His friend has gone home, and has sent me an apologetic text already. I guess I’m now a little worried that I overdid it and it may have impacted my relationship with my husband’s friend.

AITA? Did I go too far?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for a little joke I played

I like when the title and first two lines make you think one thing, then you read the post.

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This post violates Rule 13: No Revenge Stories. It appears that your story would be better suited for one of the many subreddits which are focused on revenge.

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

The Bramble posted:

The amount of flak and hate mods and admins get on SA has always surprised me. It could be so much worse.

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I (22f) decided to look for a house awhile back. I ended up seeing my aunt’s property for sale. Now mind this used to be the family hangout. Party’s, cook offs, and just whatever little get together. D got my other aunt, who owned it after my uncle died, to GIVE it to her saying she can stay on the property. Ended up kicking her off after it was all in her name.

Me and my Gram do not get along. She always tried to frame me for stuff my cousins done, called me a mutt, and just always said how I look like a dike and so much more but that’s another story.

I ended up buying the property and it’s a good 4 acres and all. I ended up having certain family visit (the ones that I trust) since I really don’t like anyone in my business. Well my gram called asking if she go over and take a walk around to remember old times. I told her she is not allowed to step on my property especially since I don’t trust her. She just hung up. So I left it as that.

I decided to treat myself to my favorite restaurant and was having me a drink watching the basketball game. She came up and begged. I said I’m sorry but I do not trust her and I do not feel comfortable with her around me and to please leave me alone. She said she just wanted to ask me a favor. I asked and she had the audacity it ask me if I can give half the property to mY COUSIN?!? I told her I will not as it’s my property and I do not want her anywhere near me especially as my neighbor. She said I’ll regret it and left. I didn’t take it to heart.

Later that night I heard my dogs going off. I went to go look and ended up finding her damaging my fence, my rv connections, and including my friends rv who was stayin there at the time. I called the police and did press charges. Her claim is she did it because it isn’t fair that I’m doing well when my cousin is not. Thing is I work and my cousin expects everything handed to her. I work hard for my money as I do oilfield. So now she is facing a couple years in Jail and my family is saying I’m taking it to far but I feel like I’m just. But it got to the point that I keep getting constant messages and calls saying I’m going to hell. So just wanted to ask. AITa?

FMguru posted:

AITA for telling my grandmother she is not allowed on my property that used to be a family property?

Captain Hygiene posted:

I have to admire the escalation in "Can I take a walk around your property? Pleeease? No?? Well, could you give half of it away then?", grandma going with a bold move right there

Captain Hygiene posted:

I have to admire the escalation in "Can I take a walk around your property? Pleeease? No?? Well, could you give half of it away then?", grandma going with a bold move right there

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I know the title makes this sound very open and shut, but there are some key details that might make me the rear end in a top hat.

My (F42) 17yo, who I will refer to as B here, was recently invited on a vacation to Benidorm with my sister (F38) and her family. I had absolutely no issue with them going, I was rather touched that my sister offered to take them, and just a little upset that my younger daughters (F12 and F9) weren’t invited, but I just thought that was down to their age and I’m not expecting my sister to take on three of my kids while juggling three of her own, even for just a week.

A few days ago, I was chatting with a mutual friend of mine and my sisters, and she mentioned something about how kind it was of B to look after my sisters kids while on vacation. I was taken aback as this was the first I’d heard of it.

I called my sister and asked if maybe B had offered to keep an eye on them. She told me no, B hadn’t offered, and she hadn’t asked them to, but she was sure B wouldn’t mind babysitting while her and her husband enjoyed themselves.

I didn’t take this well, and my sister said B can always say no and they’d understand, but here’s the thing, B is autistic. They are very susceptible to manipulation, and my sister knows they have a hard time saying no. I told her that if the only reason she invited B was free childcare for her and her husband to bar hop Benidorm, then they won’t be going.

I had to break it to B that they can’t go to Benidorm, and obviously they were devastated, and my sister and her husband have been calling me all the assholes under the sun, telling as much of the family that will listen that I’m breaking B’s heart and they only wanted to take them on a fun vacation and maybe teach them some responsibility as “they’re going to have a family of their own to take care of some day.”

My parents and husband are on my side, but my brother thinks I’m being too protective and I need to loosen the reigns and let B make the decision for themselves. I’ve explained the situation to B, and asked them if they’d be happy looking after their cousins on vacation, and B said that they’d prefer to go to have fun, and they’ve decided they don’t want to go anymore, so this is, ultimately, B’s decision.

I personally don’t think I’m the rear end in a top hat, but now I’m wondering if my brother and sister are right and I’m just wrapping B up in cotton wool, so Reddit, AITH?

FMguru posted:

r/relationship: all the assholes under the sun

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I'm self-represented and am not familiar with how AI works. I've heard of many people getting rid of their lawyer because they can get the same or similar answers from chat gpt.

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I (28f) always had a great relationship with my brother (38m) and the rest of my family. When my son (now 5) was born, they supported me through a lot, especially since my baby's father abandoned us.

The problem started when he met his girlfriend (30s)in university. At the start, i was truly happy for him, especially since he'd talk to me about wanting to ask her out ever since he heard of her from her classmates. what i didn't like is that she didn't care much to keep contact with us, even after being together for well over a year. she was always too busy to meet our family.

He told me she was an amazing cook, was kind, brilliant, etc. and he wanted to marry her and travel with her back to her country once she finished her phd. He'd always talk to us about how lucky he was to be dating her (she's a judge) and how her government was financing her. I'll admit, knowing a childless woman wasn't working and was paid more money than me, on top of having her rent and other things covered, stung a little, but it had nothing to do with my dislike of her.

I wanted her to be more involved in our family, but there was always an excuse as to why she couldn't meet us for dinners, etc. She'd be studying, helping someone from abroad (which i don't really believe, what could she be doing for anyone being miles away?), and on the rare occasions she was free, she was either travelling to see her family, hosting friends or wanted to be alone. I didn't buy that she didn't have any time for us because she doesn't work and was always at home, but she stopped accepting my visits and refused anything to do with my son as well, which slowly distanced my brother. she wouldn't even babysit when my parents were out of town and i needed her to watch him so i could work. personally, i don't think she's as kind as my brother thought.

My parents were on my side, brother wanted to be "neutral", but asked us to not "stress her out even more". A few days ago, me and my parents went to her house to talk things out with them both. We were upset, but tried our best to explain why her distance and refusal to help was unacceptable since she doesn't work and has free time, i told her i wished she'd be more caring and she got increasingly angrier, but said nothing. Then she turned to my brother and asked him if he agreed, but he said he didn't want to take sides. She said that this was "another example of why she felt so resistant to the idea of getting into a relationship", that "she couldn't take it anymore and felt better being alone" and then broke up with him. I was shocked, none of us expected this and my brother immediately tried to backtrack, but she told all of us to leave her house immediately and to not go back.

Now i'm feeling guilty and my brother won't speak to us because i ruined his relationship and she's irreducible. She isn't bothering to listen to anyone in our family and I'm afraid there's no way to fix this. AITA or did she overreact?