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rkd_ posted:Yeah but also what is she doing at 22 working just two days a week for five hours each day? I’m sure the parents are just worried she’s sleeping in every day, not finding a job or education and just wasting every day away. She has a job and an education. The latter is mentioned in the story and the former is acknowledged in the first sentence of your post.
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:
This story makes more sense if you assume 22F added 5 or 6 years to her age.
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rkd_ posted:Yeah but also what is she doing at 22 working just two days a week for five hours each day? I’m sure the parents are just worried she’s sleeping in every day, not finding a job or education and just wasting every day away. Sounds like she's looking for more work
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AITA for not attending my sisters wedding after she almost didn't invite me because I'm under 18?quote:My (17F) sister (24F) is getting married in the fall. When she and her fiance started planning things a few weeks ago, they said it was gonna be no kids. I didn't think anything of that at first, I assumed she meant like 13+ or something like that. That was weird though, because she never came to me about anything wedding related like she did with the rest of the family.
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8one6 posted:This story makes more sense if you assume 22F added 5 or 6 years to her age. That could very well be true since it is a reddit story, but parents can definitely be weird about adult children sleeping in. When my mid-20s sister was living at home, my dad still acted weird if she was up after 9ish on Saturdays, even if he never tried to institute mandatory wakeup times. Like, she's working full time, it's okay for someone to have one day a week they don't have to get up way too early, even if you feel compelled to do so yourself!
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Sleeping in rules, get as much sleep as your body demands of you, don't worry about what other people think is the "right time" to wake up because it's completely arbitrary, don't let the typical wage slavery routine dictate your life if you don't have to
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My mother didn't like it that my depression made me sleepy so she'd run the vacuum in my room when she thought I was sleeping in too late on the weekends (after 9a, while in high school and college) Now I can sleep through a war, good job mom.
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Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. e: Here's another weird one: AITA for insisting my (m24) roommate (f26) skip their appointment and go grocery shopping with us? quote:So for starters we all live together, myself my partner and our roommate, her sister. No explanation for why all three of them need to go grocery shopping together or why it takes four hours. MK-Ultramarathon fucked around with this message at 17:41 on May 8, 2023 |
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. Have you considered a Rube Goldberg-esque type machine that tips the bed up and dunks you in a giant vat of ice water?
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. Sounds like you need an SO to shift all responsibility for waking you to, only to get mad and whine to the internet when they inevitably get sick of it and let you be late for work!
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Bonster posted:Have you considered a Rube Goldberg-esque type machine that tips the bed up and dunks you in a giant vat of ice water? I have wondered if there was a way to make it physically impossible for me to get back into my bed after getting up the first time. Perhaps a convoluted series of traps is the solution.
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A spring-loaded murphy bed which will probably not ever malfunction and kill you
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haveblue posted:A spring-loaded murphy bed which will probably not ever malfunction and kill you Don't gotta go to work if you're dead!
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Bonster posted:Have you considered a Rube Goldberg-esque type machine that tips the bed up and dunks you in a giant vat of ice water? Any excuse to post this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xO7O6zwFZ1k
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3D Megadoodoo posted:Yes, Itah. But that's not important now.
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haveblue posted:A spring-loaded murphy bed which will probably not ever malfunction and kill you It worked so well for Lazy Tommy Pumpkinhead.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:My father pulled this poo poo when I was still living with my parents and had a job working overnight at a grocery store. I'd be getting home at 5am and he'd lose his loving mind at the idea of me being asleep while he had to get ready to be in Manhattan by 9am. Ah yes, I remember my step-father calling me during summer break to make sure I was awake. Why? Because he was a controlling psycho. I had to quickly clear my throat and do a few quick warm ups as the phone rang so I didn't sound like I just got out of bed every time he did this.
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. I wouldn't want to go either. Four hours grocery shopping?! And if the OP is the one who makes the grocery list and does the cooking, why does it matter? Outside of control. Or is he filling up both cars full of groceries each time?[
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DemoneeHo posted:Good dad. Not really sure what the girlfriend was expecting. Did she want to be showered with praise and riches for outing a kid? There's a huge issue here with conservative politicians constantly trying to make it mandatory for a school to report to parents if a student joins a gay-straight alliance. Because a lot of people believe that parents are entitled to know when their
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. You know when her appointments are, schedule around them. Why do the groceries need to be done at that exact time? Why does it take 4 hours? WHY DOES IT TAKE 3 PEOPLE
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Speaking of. AITA for telling my dad's estranged siblings that I lost no grandparents and that the world is without two more homophobes? quote:I'm a 17 year old guy with two dads I call them Cole and James for the post. 9ish years into my parents relationship Cole was in a bad accident, broke multiple bones and suffered a TBI (traumatic brain injury). He almost died. Nobody really knows how he survived. He and James had lived together for years and considered themselves married but could not legally marry in the state at the time. Even though Cole had James down as his emergency contact and the person to make decisions for him, Cole's parents heard about it, took James to court and won the right as his family to make those decisions. They kicked James out of the hospital, called the police on him for harassment because he left the room but went to the waiting area. They said since Cole would likely have lost most of his memories they could get him straightened out. Cole's siblings, all older than him, were on board and also made it clear to James that he was never going to see Cole again.
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Predictable story with happy and satisfying conclusion: AITA for letting my son help me in the kitchen? Originally posted to r/AITAH Apr 23, 2023 quote:In general sense, I know I am not the TA but I want an unbiased opinion from people in here. I (42F) have 3 sons Jamie (16M), Matt (12M) and Paul (10M) with my husband Charlie (45M). My middle son Matt is a little different from his brothers. His brothers like things that are typically meant for men like sports, gadgets, video games and so on. But Matt is different, he is not a big sports fan. He likes reading and painting. He doesn't mind doing things that are typically not for boys. Another thing about him is that he is passionate about food. He has been like this since he was 6. He would often come to the kitchen and see me cook and often times offer to help. Well I don't let him do heavy things like cutting or standing too close to the fire but he would be a helping hand. I call him Ramsey Jr (After Gordon Ramsey). Honestly, I like this arrangement because while I am doing all of the cooking my other boys are in their room. My husband on the other hand is not impressed by Matt. He is a proud father of three sons and often like to do stuffs with them like- teaching them how to play baseball, playing video games, wrestling, watching sports. But Matt is not interested in any of those things. He has said over and over again that those typical things they do doesn't interest him. My husband would still force him to do it because he thinks it is more important for him to do things that are more masculine with his brother because it creates a bond. I have tried several times to convince my husband that he lot let Matt go and let him do his thing. We eventually reached to a compromise that Matt will do sports and other stuff with them once a week so that he is in touch with his brothers and rest of the time he would do his own activities that he likes. Update May 1, 2023 quote:Hello everyone. I just wanted to say thank you for the comments. I know some of you called me a troll. I don't know why you think that. I just wanted some unbiased opinion. So anyways, I am here to update on the situation. My husband, Charlie was not letting it go. He insists Matt is wrong for wanting to cook with me. The argument between me and him never truly settled. So, few days ago, he decided to call his dad. He thought since his dad was in the military he would teach Matt some lesson. So, my FIL came to our house. We chatted and talked. Charlie brought up the "issue" with Matt. He just talked about everything starting from his passion for cooking and not being interested in other masculine stuff. FIL was quiet and thought about it. Matt looked scared because FIL looks like a scary guy. FIL told the kids to go to their room because he wants to have a chat with hubby and I. After we were alone, I was expecting FIL blame me but instead he blamed my husband. He said he is really embarrassed of my husband for having such backward thinking. He knows that when FIL was in the military he had to do all his chores and sometimes have to cook. He just loaded on my husband that he is teaching the wrong lesson to Matt. That cooking is a good skill and it will help in real life. Watching sports and video games will not teach him anything valuable. There is more. I cannot write all of it but my husband looked really defeated. He tried to argue that Matt needs to do tough things but FIL shut that down by saying he has the nerve to say cooking is easy when he probably can't boil water. Honestly, it was funny to watch my husband being berated by his dad like a kid. Here's hoping dad starts knitting again!
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah my body seems to hate waking up any earlier than like 9am, which is unfortunate because I have a 9-5 job. I already have three different kinds of alarm, I think I need to start putting one in another room or something. quote:which takes a good 3-4 hours since we go to a big box store, regular grocery store, and a select market for our culture. walmart safeway and the ethnic grocery / boedga dont tend to be in the same shopping center. I live in rural bumfuck nc. If i want to go to the hispanic bodega walmart and food lion its taking me a minimum of 2hrs. thats assuming i dont have to wait in line longer then 5 mins at each place. i probably dont at the bodega if i didnt special order something they gotta get out of the back for me but i regularly wait in line for like 30mins in walmart and 10 mins in food lion. the reason you go to all 3 places is selection. walmart doesnt have the soups i want most of the time and food lion does. and niether of those is going to get me some mole in their deli and their conchas are going to be stale as poo poo. plus i can never find lime juice or the hotsauce i like anywhere else. plus if you live in an area with a large population using the ethnic grocery you can be waiting awhile just to pay. most small places like that in my experince atleast dont have a quick way to pay with a card. they gotta tell you that paying with a card is $X because they arent getting cc priority rates so the company is charging em a bunch of money for you to use your card. they usually have a older 90s swipe machine that the newer insert cards hate to use. my own card just wont accept being swiped so i always have to stop at the bank the day of / before i go there. so if hes counting anything like that you can easily make up that 3rd and possibly 4th hour. snergle fucked around with this message at 19:12 on May 8, 2023 |
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Bonster posted:
Runcible Cat posted:AITA for not attending my sisters wedding after she almost didn't invite me because I'm under 18?
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:AITA for disagreeing with my dad and step mum wake up time rule? Runcible Cat posted:Predictable story with happy and satisfying conclusion: Aw, this one had a nice resolution. (Even though I think it could have easily gone bad if the FIL wasn't as cool as he was, like her hubby really called his own parent to fight his battles, which is lovely to do in a relationship.) Really sad that the husband resorted to acting like that to his own kid despite having gone through the same thing, but hopefully he can unravel that now. MK-Ultramarathon posted:AITA for insisting my (m24) roommate (f26) skip their appointment and go grocery shopping with us? So it sounds bad that the sister isn't doing chores around the house, but like, is she actually using all their groceries? OP says his gf makes him order the sister dinner, so it's not entirely clear whether the sis is handling food/groceries on her own but OP wants her to come with them anyways. On the flipside if OP does the shopping for the entire household it's understandable for him to want her to participate. (I do think 3-4h grocery sessions are unreasonable though, I'd avoid something like that too if I could.)
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Reading too many of these, certain phrases start to be grating to me: "Cold shoulder". "Silent treatment". "Bonding". Am I the only one neurotic enough to take issue with calling what's basically family time bonding? If you're not bonded to the close family you live with and have lived with your whole life I don't know what to tell you.
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Okay but do you need everybody there at all those stores for the 3-4 hours? That just sounds loving miserable. Grocery shopping is not really a team activity; three people doesn’t make it much quicker than just one - if anything, it often makes it take longer because people have opinions on stuff or someone suggests something that’s not on the list or etc. If you really want to make it a shared chore, then send people with lists to different stores.
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MagusofStars posted:Okay but do you need everybody there at all those stores for the 3-4 hours? That just sounds loving miserable. no thats the wierd part of the story that makes him an rear end in a top hat. i was just stating that 3-4 hrs shopping is easy to do.
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Shop 'til you drop. Or make people hate you.
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Yeah, I've always hated going grocery shopping with another person because I felt like I was just in the way, sometimes literally with all those narrow aisles. And as far as bonding activities go, I don't think it's great because most people find it tedious at best.Bright Bart posted:Reading too many of these, certain phrases start to be grating to me: "Cold shoulder". "Silent treatment". "Bonding". Extremely agree with this, forced "family time" is basically never going to help in a situation where someone feels like there's not a sufficient level of bonding. I very much value alone time and a lot of my family is the same, so any kind of mandatory family activities generally sound kind of unbearable to me. And I actually am very close with most of my family, we all just have good boundaries and respect each others' different personalities.
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Yeah, "bonding" was originally about infants, but now it's about "you have to go to the mall with me". AITA for not wanting to be woke up in the middle of the night to make my husband food or rub him? quote:Lately, my husband has been waking me up between 1 am. and 3 am. because he is hungry or wants a rub. (Back or arm) I hate being woken up when I am sleeping. Last time, he woke me up by poking me until I woke up. It's not hard, just insistent. I hate being woken up when I am deep asleep.
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"Bonding" usually means enforcing strict gender roles and/or forcing the kid to do something they clearly don't want to do but the parent does.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:She has a job and an education. The latter is mentioned in the story and the former is acknowledged in the first sentence of your post. Yes, she has a job for ten hours per week. What I meant is she does not seem to be using her remaining time for anything like a job or education. I mean, no need to work yourself to death, but clearly she enjoys the comfort of living at home while working less than part-time per week to fund her hobbies and free time. I don't think it's entirely crazy her parents are worried about her sleeping in every day of the week, while not looking to find a full-time job because she enjoys the comfort of living at home. EDIT: Also I just read the comments. She does not pay rent, graduated last year and apparently keeps getting rejected for jobs. I understand her parents are worried no matter how 'valid' her situation may be. rkd_ fucked around with this message at 19:56 on May 8, 2023 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for not stopping smoking weed for my wife ♫ I smoke 2 joints in the morning I smoke 2 joints at night I smoke 2 joints near my pregnant wife It always starts a fight ♫
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AITA for not telling my family they wouldn't get anything of my grandpa's inheritance and doing as I see fit with it?quote:Edit: Please stop giving me legal advice. We have a lawyer. This is not a question about legality but mortality. The grandkids are all right.
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"Sorry, we spent all the inheritance on recovering from getting kicked out of our houses"
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not wanting to be woke up in the middle of the night to make my husband food or rub him? Between the two of them, they almost have a functioning adult.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for not wanting to be woke up in the middle of the night to make my husband food or rub him? r/relationships: Edit 3: he is not a cat.
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Blue Moonlight posted:r/relationships: Edit 3: he is not a cat. seriously.
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Blue Moonlight posted:r/relationships: Edit 3: he is not a cat. I was just about to post this exact same thing, dammit!
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