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Yeah, the thread sided with the guy because his wife seemed to have been OK with his plan to spend that day for a long time and only well after the matter appeared to be settled decided to turn that day into a party instead. Birthdays are, if nothing else, predictable well in advance
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:29 |
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Party can be moved, football game can't. Easy choice, the wife is the rear end in a top hat for being so controlling.
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:29 |
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I think the wife's birthday was scheduled 30 years in advance so it's pretty hard to beat that
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:45 |
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Olewithmilk posted:People in this thread have real weird opinions about special days. Obviously you are the rear end in a top hat if you are taking your partners milestone birthday off to go watch a football game, especially if they said that they would prefer you to be there. Imagine being at that person's party and their significant other wasn't there, and when you asked where they were you were told they'd gone to a football match. You cannot tell me you wouldn't think 'what an rear end in a top hat'. MrQwerty posted:last year my girlfriend and I both had to work on her birthday so we took time off and went and saw Erykah Badu at Red Rocks a week beforehand instead, seems pretty simple but MagusofStars fucked around with this message at 17:47 on May 18, 2023 |
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Seth Pecksniff posted:What is it with y'all and birthdays
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:51 |
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Volcano posted:I think the wife's birthday was scheduled 30 years in advance so it's pretty hard to beat that It happens every year it's not going to kill her to celebrate a day early or late. She already made him sell his tickets and he has correctly identifies that doing this with kids will be more difficult.
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:55 |
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If he scheduled the game out half a year ago, then nta (provided he does something for his wife before or after). I don't see why she can't just hang out with her family the day of and do something with him after.
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Oh wow y’all I thought it was the golf thing, going to see a college football game and just missing an entire party is Gadzuko posted:I would be asking them if they had called a lawyer yet or if they were going to let her file first It’s this territory lmao
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:57 |
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Do you have any idea how many people have birthdays every year? Hundreds. Literally hundreds.
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# ? May 18, 2023 17:58 |
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It having to be the day of is what's childish and unrealistic.
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# ? May 18, 2023 18:01 |
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There's a 1/365 chance that someone you know has a birthday today. We have to stop the birthday menace before it claims another. edit for content: I (28/F) am dating a (27/F) who thinks she’s still a virgin quote:Me and my girl are both bisexual and have been dating for around 5 months. We were having a conversation last night about her family and she said that she and her cousin are still virgins. I was like what?? Didn’t we already have sex? Then she said that she meant she’s never had sex with a man before. Therefore, her hymen is still intact and she’s still a virgin. It's kinda sad that her gf is still dealing with the trauma of a religious and oppressive upbringing. But i'm having a mild chuckle at the thought that they could be in the middle of sex and the gf would be like, "Nope, still a virgin." DemoneeHo fucked around with this message at 18:20 on May 18, 2023 |
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kdrudy posted:Has "She's not even his type" ever led to good choices? For the opposite party, absolutely
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# ? May 18, 2023 18:24 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for telling my wife that she needs to get over being upset with me for pulling a scare prank on our son? I find this one interesting primarily because of all the extreme-bad-faith-reading replies accusing him of being an emotionally abusive monster who doesn't care that he traumatized a child.
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# ? May 18, 2023 18:27 |
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Kit Walker posted:Actually, I would use my galactic brain to run the calculus of net gain of universal happiness to determine which course of action would provide the best result and then I would use this information to make the birthday person's frown turn upside down Thank god there is someone hyperintelligent on this thread!
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# ? May 18, 2023 18:37 |
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I don't know how else to say this but sometimes as a consequence of knowing people and being part of their life you have to do things for them like celebrate that they're alive against all odds, because even if you're a weirdo who is against birthdays they're not and they want the acknowledgement. It's not unreasonable to want to share that day with people who are important to them.
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:03 |
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It's entirely unreasonable to insist they celebrate you on the day you demand without regard for other people's lives. Just change the date; if she hasn't had to move a birthday celebration by the age of 30 she's just spoiled.
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Ominous Jazz posted:I don't know how else to say this but sometimes as a consequence of knowing people and being part of their life you have to do things for them like celebrate that they're alive against all odds, because even if you're a weirdo who is against birthdays they're not and they want the acknowledgement. It's not unreasonable to want to share that day with people who are important to them. This is how I see it. It's okay to not be too into birthdays or other celebrations, but if you're with someone who is into that kind of thing then you should also put some effort in, because, get this, it'll make them happy! And seeing your partner happy should kind of be one of the goals of a relationship! Also I found both those posts interesting because I turned 30 a couple years ago and had nothing big going on because I'm a friendless loser, but I don't think it's a big stretch to realize that your spouse turning 30 might be a big deal to them, and more memorable than some golfing or a sports game would be. Also with the sports guy, he even admits that it's not actually a "once in a lifetime" thing and the reason he sold his season tickets is because they moved a bit aways from where the games were, not because his wife was some kind of controlling harpy who demands it. It's also kind of telling that in both cases their party was being thrown by someone else without the involvement of the husband, which seems sad all around. I also think it's a weird take that adults can't want to have a single day to themselves to celebrate (that's not general like christmas or whatever might be) and even if you fall under that category, see point one. Strep Vote posted:It's entirely unreasonable to insist they celebrate you on the day you demand without regard for other people's lives. Just change the date; if she hasn't had to move a birthday celebration by the age of 30 she's just spoiled. I am legitimately having a hard time seeing why a football game or a golf match take precedence over someone's 30th birthday, so if you can enlighten me please go ahead.
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homewrecker posted:WIBTA for going to a college football game instead of staying in town for my wife's birthday quote:NTA because your current wife will divorce you for being an idiot and choosing football over her and as a single man you won't have to worry about her birthday!
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Clocks posted:I am legitimately having a hard time seeing why a football game or a golf match take precedence over someone's 30th birthday, so if you can enlighten me please go ahead. Because clearly the football game or golf match is more important to that person than their partner’s birthday.
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:21 |
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Braincloud posted:Because clearly the football game or golf match is more important to that person than their partner’s birthday. Well yeah, they are. The issue is that these two are too stupid to see how that's a problem.
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I think this was posted years and years ago but came across it today again... One Wedding, Two Different Opinions quote:This story may even qualify as Faux Pas Of the Year, instead of just “Weddings From Hell”. Although dubbing it “From Hell” would certainly be appropriate. A couple of years ago I was dating a guy named Tay, and he told me that some friends of his that I didn’t know were getting married, but they’d invited him “and guest” so would I like to be his date? He’d take care of the gift, since I didn’t know the couple. He said I’d find them somewhat strange, but how strange could a wedding be, I thought. (DUN DUN DUNNNNN…. ominous music) I said I’d be delighted to go. Big mistake. Part 2: Where OOP2 Recognizes Herself in OOP1’s Tale of Woe. quote:This happened at my own wedding. I’ll be the first to admit it was….unconventional! lol. My (now) husband and I were very into the Goth scene at the time. I was actually a writer for a well-known horror mag, and hubby-to-be worked as a…well, as a “gore designer”. Think slasher flicks, and you get the idea! We were, therefore, very into the scene–as were most of our mates. We chose to hold a Goth wedding–cemetery, memento mori-style imagery…the whole nine yards. It was a few years ago, and yes, I’d do things differently now…but at the time (and since!), my more-than-loving friends went at their leather togs with gusto and a good attitude. *clutches pearls* Those *MEN* are wearing *MAKEUP!*
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Hughlander posted:I think this was posted years and years ago but came across it today again... That's not the kind of wedding I would personally hold, but it seems like everyone (but the OP) had a lot of fun and came out to support the groom/bride. Oh, the horror!
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:29 |
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Moon Slayer posted:Do you have any idea how many people have birthdays every year? Hundreds. Literally hundreds. Can I invent the concept of a birthday year? Mashup of the wedding year and birthday week concepts. Everything will revolve around me until I’m dead!
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:30 |
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Clocks posted:That's not the kind of wedding I would personally hold, but it seems like everyone (but the OP) had a lot of fun and came out to support the groom/bride. Oh, the horror! I mean it seems like the Bride is also like, "Yah we've grown it's not what we'd do now but it was fun then!" Which shows far more growth than almost any other post in the thread.
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Hughlander posted:I think this was posted years and years ago but came across it today again... Lmao oh nooo not the sanctity of the wedding industry
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:34 |
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it's my birthday month! I'm actually right on the cusp of two months (the 13th) so I get two birthday months!
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:35 |
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Clocks posted:I am legitimately having a hard time seeing why a football game or a golf match take precedence over someone's 30th birthday, so if you can enlighten me please go ahead. Not really sure why this compromise isn’t even on the table.
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:53 |
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As far as I'm concerned everything is on the table.
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Clocks posted:This is how I see it. It's okay to not be too into birthdays or other celebrations, but if you're with someone who is into that kind of thing then you should also put some effort in, because, get this, it'll make them happy! And seeing your partner happy should kind of be one of the goals of a relationship! Movable golf match no, immovable alma mater football game with a bunch of far flung friends he'll probably grow away from after the kids, yes. There is a very clear difference.
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# ? May 18, 2023 19:56 |
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Hughlander posted:I think this was posted years and years ago but came across it today again... the funniest part is that the goth wedding had inscrutable goth food (a seafood bar)
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:04 |
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Not having enough tables or chairs at the reception sounds annoying for guests. But otherwise the goth wedding rules.
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:09 |
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My wedding was during a heat wave and doing it at night would have been a lot less sweaty.
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:10 |
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Are you saying that it was a nice day for a night wedding
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Pope Corky the IX posted:As far as I'm concerned everything is on the table. We've been over this! Baby changing doesn't belong on the tray table!
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:15 |
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That's the greatest wedding I've ever heard of.
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:17 |
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Bug Squash posted:That's the greatest wedding I've ever heard of. Yeah, trash took itself out on that one.
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Tnuctip posted:Can I invent the concept of a birthday year? Mashup of the wedding year and birthday week concepts. Just behave like the antagonist in any of these stories.
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:27 |
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It’s not the kind of wedding I’d throw for myself, but if I were invited to one, I’d fit the theme and probably have a fuckin’ blast
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:30 |
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That wedding sounds fun af except only red wine at a seafood buffet. gently caress’n lol that she threw herself out of the bathroom window
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# ? May 18, 2023 20:43 |
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# ? May 28, 2024 07:42 |
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The lack of tables and chairs sounds a bit bad, but everything else about that wedding sounds freaking awesome. Reminds me of when I used to do birthday parties as a clown, many many years ago, and without failure, if I was hired to do a party and it was kind of ritzy area, the moms would usually spend the entire party day drinking and leave me to do everything, when I was specifically there just for a small magic show, face painting and balloons. I remember being at one beautiful park, trying to corral the kids, and walking by the day drinking soccer moms, was a goth couple with a baby stroller that must have come from The Addams family props department. Either that or they had decorated it themselves because the entire thing was done in black spiderwebs, little red jewels on the wheels, black lace veils all over the place, and both of them look like they would have fit in perfectly at this wedding. But compared to the soccer moms in pastels and beige barely looking for their kids around this giant lake, it was kind of nice to see two parents who actually cared about their baby. Aiden and Brayden and cayden had nothing on baby Attila.
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