Cowslips Warren posted:

so what is he actually doing?

MK-Ultramarathon posted:

if somebody orders milk for the table but you don't drink any, are you still obligated to pay for it on the split bill?

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So I’m a huge Beyoncé fan and have been my whole life, especially being a Houston, Tx native. This was my first time being able to afford a ticket to her show and I’m currently living back and forth between Sweden and the states.

I’ve never been to a concert in Sweden and I was very shocked by how unlively the crowd was. No dancing or singing really from most people in my section (closest non GA to the stage) but I was out of my seat, singing and having a blast as soon as the show started and a woman and her partner behind me asked me if I could sit down so they could be able see.

I assumed since she was starting the show with ballads I was doing a bit much and apologized and sat. But once the energy picked back up I was back up on my feet dancing. There were like two other people on my row doing the same. I honestly had the time of my life and even cried a bit, ridiculous I know.

When the show was over and I turned to leave the lady said “You’re not the only one who paid for this you know? Is that how they act in your village?” And I was too stunned to say anything back.

I could understand if this were an orchestra concert or something, but her latest album is focused on house music and the ballroom scene which is VERY lively.

This happened weeks back but I can’t even enjoy my memories of the experience because I keep getting this pit in my stomach feeling like I ruined someone else’s experience.

AITA?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Lots of people with gastrointestinal issues like ulcers will drink milk to help.

Clocks posted:

AITA for standing up during a Beyoncé concert?

Clocks posted:

Anyways,
AITA for standing up during a Beyoncé concert?

haveblue posted:

Not saying this is what happened here, but it's possible for morning sickness to get so bad you're in real danger and need to be hospitalized. It's not necessarily "just" discomfort and inconvenience

odiv posted:

I can't stand people singing along at a concert. I came to hear them, not you! But I've recognized it's me who is out of step, so I just stopped going to concerts, for the most part.

Maybe I should consider moving to Sweden.

Clocks posted:

Anyways,
AITA for standing up during a Beyoncé concert?

AceClown posted:

r/relationships: Is that how they act in your village?

Cacator posted:

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Lots of people with gastrointestinal issues like ulcers will drink milk to help.

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A reader writes:

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I’m a woman who owns a very small company and rent time/space in a shared environment with many other small business owners.

We are all there whenever we are — first come, first served. Open space, open territory, sometimes sharing space. The only person I oversee is my employee, I have no authority over anyone else.

My employee is amazing! She truly makes work a joy and is really helping my business.

The problem is the other renters/companies. My employee is very beautiful. Several men from the other companies have developed crushes on her. They aren’t crossing the line with inappropriate behavior or comments. They’re just too persistently goofy. Really. She lets them know she has a boyfriend or that she’s busy/not interested, but it takes a day or two for the message to get through. They sort of dance around the situation because of the goofy crush and they know she’s not interested or available. They just make up excuses to be around her. And she’s uncomfortable with it. It does go away since they are all good people.

And, they are truly not being gross — just too uncomfortably goofy. It’s like having Giselle or George Clooney or Beyonce working with you … really just goofy momentary crush stuff that I’d like to help my employee navigate.

Is there just a way to cut this off more quickly?

First and foremost: Ask her what would be most helpful to her. Give her some options, too, because she might not know what she could reasonably ask for. For example, you could offer to interrupt the conversations yourself, speak to people privately to tell them to stop, speak to their companies, make sure she knows she can tell people to leave her work area because she’s busy, experiment with whether wearing headphones cut down on the interruptions, maybe even try a sign that says “on deadline / please don’t interrupt” … See what she’d like, because she should have as much agency as possible here.

Some people in her situation will discourage you from doing anything, because they’ll feel awkward asking for/accepting help or will worry they’re making too big deal of it (especially if she’s been dealing with her whole life, which she probably has). If you sense that’s going on here, you could say, “My sense is you don’t want to make a big deal out of it, but it’s really important to me that your work environment is comfortable for you. You deserve to be able to focus like anyone else. If nothing else, how about I make a point of cutting in with work topics when I see it happening?”

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The amount of hit dogs hollering in the comments pretending that “romantic interest” isn’t “sexual interest” has me slowly losing faith in humanity.

trickybiscuits posted:

Ask a Manager: my employee has to deal with men constantly getting crushes on her

you can imagine the comments but this one was good:

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We recently moved to a new area and I really want my kids to find some friends. There is an 8 year old girl across the street who likes to play with my 9 year old son and my 7 year old daughter.She does not like my 3 year old son.

Sometimes I let this girl come over and play with my kids and she has been a bit rude. She goes in my fridge without asking, rummages through rooms in my house. She's said things about my 3 year old to both my husband and me like "I wish (3 year old) was never born so I could play with (7 and 9 year old) alone." When I joked with my kids about being the meanest mom ever she chimed in with this bragging tone " my mom is really nice. She gets me everything I want." I've been letting it go because my kids have had a rough time and I just really want them to be happy in our new area.

We recently started teaching our older kids how to ride bikes. We've got a late start due to unfortunate circumstances in the past and they were still in training wheels. When my husband took them out on Sunday she was constantly harassing him about them having training wheels. He calmly explained we just got a later start. It was so bad they all just went inside. I took them out again on Tuesday and she got on my case about the same thing. I kept saying the same thing my husband did. Eventually this girl comes at me "hey miss Disarm33, I am only 8 years old and I already know how to ride my bike." in that same bragging voice. I firmly stated, without yelling, "that's good for you but we haven't gotten that point yet."

Apparently she didn't like that and went crying to mommy. Her mom texted me asking what happened and I told her how her daughter was being pushy and I had to get firm with her to back off a bit. The mom explained that "she's just a curious 8 year old, but we'll talk about how people come from different backgrounds." I was satisfied and thought it was settled. However the next day at the bus stop, I got the cold shoulder. I tried to initiate conversation and say sorry about the misunderstanding. She cut me off "she's 8 Disarm33 not 40, she doesn't know any better. You apologize to her yourself!" I said I didn't do anything wrong and it would be nice if (8 year old) would understand some boundaries. I told her the things her daughter has said about my youngest. "She would never say that, that's a disgusting thing to say." I told her I have no reason to make something like that up and that she's said similar things to my husband. She said she didn't believe me because I never brought it up before. I said I didn't think much of it the first few times and didn't want to push my kids' friend away. She told me she had a meeting to go to and walked away.

Farg posted:

her not being hungry at trivia night was a major red flag?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

There are few statements more bullshit than “My child would never say/do that”

Barudak posted:

This is just a mild tweak on the woman who has a physics degree whose father in law and brother in law wont stop telling her their theory of physics is right and shes wrong.

Ominous Jazz posted:

between milk and steak i don't think this thread is mature enough to handle cows

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Why would you assume the worst if someone orders a glass of milk? And what exactly is the worst in that situation?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

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My parents expected me to be independent the minute I turned 18. They gave me the money they had saved up for my education and they started charging me rent.

I was lucky enough to have a partial scholarship and I found a job in the city my university was in so I moved there before the school year began.

With my parents money, my scholarship, and my wages I was able to scrape by.

I rarely if ever spoke with my parents. I was kind of busy.

I guess they decided that they didn't want that kind of relationship with my younger siblings because they were not presented with the same option. They both lived at home all through university and even afterwards.

I am 34 now with a decent job and a great girlfriend whom I will be marrying this summer.

I sent my parents and siblings an invitation. They called me to ask why they were not involved in the wedding.

I responded that they hadn't really been part of my life in 16 years and that I was being nice by inviting them.

They said that they acknowledged that they made mistakes when I was young bet that it was in the past and that I should get over it.

Against my fiancee's advice I sent them an itemized bill for everything I paid for myself that they freely gave my brother and sister. I said if they wanted to be a part of my life they had to ante up.

They said that they cannot afford that because they are in debt still from helping my siblings out. I laughed at that and said I hoped that I would see them at the wedding and hung up.

My family are all getting ahold of me to let me know how much I'm hurting my parents.

The thing is that I don't want their money. And I don't want anything from them at all other than their attendance at my wedding. If they can't do that then I'm fine with our yearly phone call.

AITA?

kdrudy posted:

I don't know, ordering that at a bar makes me think either you're a George McFly type wiener or maybe a wannabe manic pixie dream girl type.

No matter what, you can choose to not continue dating someone for any reason what so ever.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

Why would you assume the worst if someone orders a glass of milk? And what exactly is the worst in that situation?

run on sentience posted:

Possible but unlikely: into the "adult baby" scene

run on sentience posted:

This is the last I'll post about it, but most people would assume the worst because it's not a situation where it's normal to order milk. Some people order it with hot wings because they think it helps with the pain, some with breakfast/brunch, some with more casual or family-style dinners. That is normal. Ordering it at a fancy bar on a first date is not normal.

Best? case scenario: manic pixie dream person
Worst: picky/immature eater
Possible but unlikely: into the "adult baby" scene

I don't think many itt would have a problem if the coworker said, "I'm not interested in a second date with someone who ordered chicken nuggets and ketchup at the Michelin star restaurant" or deny it's a red flag, so not sure why cocktail bar milk orderer is unworthy of ridicule.

run on sentience posted: