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Midnight Voyager posted:You might want a separate bed from your gf. I know you might want to sleep in the same bed as her, but it sounds like you'd both have more comfortable beds if you weren't having to half-way your mattress for each other. I've been to some hotels where the bed is two connected twin mattresses. I think it makes it easier and cheaper for the hotels to replace damaged mattresses. This would also allow you and your partner to pick out exactly the type of mattress you want. And if your mattress wears out faster than the other one, you only have to replace your twin mattress instead of a whole king mattress. https://www.top10mattressinabox.co.uk/joining-two-single-beds-to-make-a-super-king/
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Remulak posted:WRT big guy beds, vaguely knew a couple of former pro football players, they would do bouncer stuff on the weekends at the bar I worked at. They both talked about their waterbeds and how awesome they were. Thundering fatass reporting in, can confirm my waterbed was *goddamn amazing* and I miss it. It didn't burst, but several years of wear (the mattress was -just ever so slightly- too big for the frame we'd built our drat selves, which 20 years later is still sturdy) wore a hole in it somewhere and it started leaking. Which led us to realize we did not think it through completely because my bed is -very- low to the ground, meaning that gravity draining it was... not an option. We had to get a drill-powered pump and drain that sucker manually and let me tell you, that is not an adventure we wish to repeat. So now I use a partially memory foam mattress. Malachite_Dragon fucked around with this message at 03:36 on May 28, 2023 |
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-derail was finally ended. scusa
blight rhino fucked around with this message at 04:18 on May 28, 2023 |
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kimbo305 posted:He expects the average Redditor to have the average cop’s investigative skills. He expects them to shoot the dog?
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Elviscat posted:I'm about 275 at 6'4, I'm a big muscular guy, and obviously overweight on top of that, I'm also a side-sleeper. I have the exact same problem as OP where I crush the mattress, which is about a year old, properly set up on the recommended base. The mattress springs back pretty quick when we rotate it to my GF's side, and the foot portion doesn't get as hosed up as where my hips and shoulder lay. It's not a bargain-basement mattress, but it's on the cheaper end. I'm down about 15 lbs over the last year, but ~230 is my minimum and just over what I wrestled at in high school when I was doing an hour+ of cardio every day, and that's heavy enough to destroy mattresses too. I’ve heard nothing but rave reviews for this company: https://www.bigfigmattress.com Also someone mentioned latex mattresses, and they typically hold up much better than either traditional springs or memory foam.
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AITA for asking my BIL to stop reading bedtime stories to his kids until me, my husband, and the kids leave?quote:My husband Tom got into a business crisi and we've lost our apartment. We moved in with my sister Ella and her husband Noah. Their kids are nearly the same age as mine (we have 2 girls <7 & 5 yo). My girls share a room with their cousins (also girls) since Tom didn't want the girls sleeping with us in the guests room.
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Kids these days with their slerping habits
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please stop showing my kids what a lovely parent i am
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for asking my BIL to stop reading bedtime stories to his kids until me, my husband, and the kids leave? I wonder if the "business crisis" is "Tom got fired for being an rear end in a top hat"
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Foo Diddley posted:please stop showing my kids what a lovely parent i am "I heard some weird sounds from the other room." "Oh, he's just singing them a bedtime song." "What's a... song, mother?"
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blight rhino posted:-derail was finally ended. scusa Let me tell you all about my waterbed filled with milk and my steak pillow. For actual content AITA for not wanting to go to Hawaii with my family? quote:My BIL(45m) has a timeshare in Hawaii and invited all of us to go. That’s me (36f), my husband (35m) my mother (61f), my boys (14m, 12m, 6m) plus their family (my sister (26f) and their daughter (2f). lol no, you're just going there to look after the person that needs care while we get to enjoy ourselves. What? How dare you tell us to go and get hosed! edogawa rando fucked around with this message at 05:00 on May 28, 2023 |
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"it's just until we leave," say the people who have no means of leaving so in a situation like this, how long do you wait before you start making demands of the people who are hosting you for free, like what's the etiquette here? i'm thinking you start with small demands as you're unpacking and then work your way up. demanding changes in someone's parenting style shouldn't happen until at least the day after you arrive
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Coca Koala posted:On the invites, specify that children are mandatory. They don’t need to be yours, but each guest and +1 needs to have a child accompanying them at all times. Also all of them, of any gender, have to be flower girls.
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Foo Diddley posted:"it's just until we leave," say the people who have no means of leaving Try to claim the master bedroom first
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Foo Diddley posted:"it's just until we leave," say the people who have no means of leaving "Give me a hand to unpack that box." * 3 weeks later * "Can you live in the garage? Just until we leave"
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quote:DEAR HARRIETTE: A woman I used to go to school with contacted me the other day and asked if I could help her secure a job at the company I work for. While normally I would be more than happy to help a former classmate, this woman was not particularly nice to me during our time in school. I can't help but feel hesitant about using my professional connections to assist someone who did not treat me kindly in the past. However, I also heard through the grapevine that this woman is currently going through a divorce. I don't know any of the details surrounding her situation, but I do know how difficult it can be to navigate the job market during tough times. I feel a pang of empathy for someone who might be struggling. What would you recommend I do in this situation? -- Former Classmate If you're not certain about getting someone a job in your field it's a no. It's not that complicated.
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If someone from the past tries to contact you and you have less than positive feelings about them? You can just ignore them. I've done it. Feels good. Block and move on.
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MrQwerty posted:I wonder if the "business crisis" is "Tom got fired for being an rear end in a top hat" I bet he was a contractor and the crisis was him blowing it on "investments" (crypto). OP's sister and bil sound like saints, they must have gone out and bought a bunch of furniture to fit the 4 girls in one room, probably moved one of them out of the guest room, are obviously helping parent their nieces, and didn't kick OP and her worthless piece of poo poo husband the gently caress out their house the second they demanded they be shittier parents to their own kids. 'Cause I would've told them my nieces can stay, and they can sleep in their car if they tried that poo poo with me. E: thanks for the mattress advice all. trickybiscuits posted:If you're not certain about getting someone a job in your field it's a no. It's not that complicated. I've been in this position a lot since becoming a hiring manager, it's always people I would never dream of hiring or recommending other hire. Elviscat fucked around with this message at 09:10 on May 28, 2023 |
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trickybiscuits posted:If you're not certain about getting someone a job in your field it's a no. It's not that complicated. She doesn't mention how long it's been since they last saw each other, but clearly long enough for the other woman to have gotten married and divorced. And they knew each other in school. Just say "I don't feel like we know each other well enough for me to recommend you."
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Elviscat posted:It's super lame! It's 2023 and no one I know is even pretending to do any "traditional" no sex before marriage or non-cohabitation or church weddings anymore, but they're still all doing the white dress thing. Whoa, so this time the red dress actually did mean that she'd hosed the groom!
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Cloacamazing! posted:She doesn't mention how long it's been since they last saw each other, but clearly long enough for the other woman to have gotten married and divorced. And they knew each other in school. Just say "I don't feel like we know each other well enough for me to recommend you." No just go "oh this person sucked" and then block them and move on with your life. You don't owe them a response in any situation.
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WIBTA for spraying/pulling out my neighbors dandelionsquote:Okay, the title sounds pretty silly, but I'm seriously frustrated.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Thundering fatass reporting in, can confirm my waterbed was *goddamn amazing* and I miss it. I'm a side sleeper with buggered shoulders from years of judo, mauy thai, and working over my head. Waterbeds are magic, no more numb hands at night from pinching nerves, but I also sold it. Why? Because I was sleeping in it when a magnitude 7.1 earthquake rocked through and the resulting experience put me off it for life
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Evil Willow posted:WIBTA for spraying/pulling out my neighbors dandelions "I have hay fever and I'm mad about my neighbor's lawn so I'm going to trespass and pour herbicide, noted for always staying in one place and never leaching in runoff ever, which will have no negative consequences for me ever, right?"
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Dandelion leaves are delicious i'd imagine herbicide ruins the flavor. His neighbor might have lawn hacked his way into endless salad and this rear end in a top hat wants to go and ruin that.
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Dandelions are awesome, nutritious, and altogether a pretty attractive plant. Perfectly manicured lawns are a blight on the planet. I also don't believe that it's illegal to grow dandelions because of "weed control laws", whereas trespassing is a crime in AFAIK pretty much everywhere.
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Elviscat posted:I've been in this position a lot since becoming a hiring manager, it's always people I would never dream of hiring or recommending other hire. I've been in the same position a few times - literally not one person asking me to put the good word in was someone I'd want in the position. So I'd either agree to recommend them and just not. Or go to the hiring manager and tell them my honest opinion. Not trying to ruin things for them, more "Hey, if you're interviewing this person and they bring up my name, I'm not willing to stand behind them. But use your judgement whether you hire them or not."
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A decent fence or greenhouse would keep out most of the seeds, right? If you're offering to spend I don't know how much to garden their dandelion army for free, then you could probably invest in a small covered area for a garden. If it's an allergy thing, well it kinda blows but it's their garden and if the authorities aren't going to make them handle it then it's kind of out of your hands.
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Elviscat posted:Dandelions are awesome, nutritious, and altogether a pretty attractive plant. Perfectly manicured lawns are a blight on the planet. I also don't believe that it's illegal to grow dandelions because of "weed control laws", whereas trespassing is a crime in AFAIK pretty much everywhere. I honestly started my post as a drunken anti-lawn rant but decided to go with "yum dandelions" instead because it's 4am and I would rather stab myself in the face than preaching to the choir.
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Milk.. or not to milk? That is the question - Abraham Einstein
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AITA for refusing to do a paternity test.quote:I (F 22) and my husband (M 22) have 2 beautiful kids (F 5 and M 1) who are the best part of my life. I got pregnant with my first baby at 17 and moved in with my husband and his family at 18. My daughter looks a lot like me, and people have always commented on how similar we look. My mother in law has always supported me and has been such a huge help with the kids.
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ApplesandOranges posted:A decent fence or greenhouse would keep out most of the seeds, right? If you're offering to spend I don't know how much to garden their dandelion army for free, then you could probably invest in a small covered area for a garden. I am very curious what kind of fence can keep dandelion seeds from spreading. (It's me, I am the neighbor with a yard full of cheerful yellow flowers and white puffballs.)
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Desert Bus posted:No just go "oh this person sucked" and then block them and move on with your life. You don't owe them a response in any situation. Or that, yeah. Anything that's not "set up a series of meetings with some random bully you haven't even thought about in the past ten years because maybe they have changed and you can be the bigger person now", which is what that column seems to go for.
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Mx. posted:AITA for refusing to do a paternity test. So is the mother in law also Asian and doing some intra-Asian racism here?
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Mac and me reboot looks hosed.up. Still looks better than the original
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Pirate Radar posted:So is the mother in law also Asian and doing some intra-Asian racism here? Going by the baby's heritage, mother-in-law is German.
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NGDBSS posted:It absolutely sounds like the wife and her boss are in a relationship, yes. Which is something to be worried about, but not because of the trial separation but instead because he's her boss and there's an inherent power imbalance going on here. Lol that this was your takeaway from that post
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Someone’s parking in my spot both literally and figuratively. Being told this is a work thing. Quid pro quo parking?
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Also all of them, of any gender, have to be flower girls. Yes, invite children and make sure to provide an unlimited sweet bar and a large chocolate fountain at the reception.
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