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Issaries
Sep 15, 2008

"At the end of the day
We are all human beings
My father once told me that
The world has no borders"

Captain Hygiene posted:

"Worst"? Or "most adorable"?

Can't be worst, as that's us humans.
Most adorable? :hmmyes:

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AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

Kitfox88 posted:

Stepfather wants to sue me for putting “wrong” gas in his truck.

Well that's not good, mixing diesel and standard gas is bad.

:lmao:

OP isn't wrong and the step dad seems insane, but if you're borrowing something put up with whatever crazy conditions are put on you or go get a u-haul. Him looking up a manual online makes it sound like he knew exactly what the stepdad wanted and just wanted to be technically right. Even if the court laughs it out the OP is an rear end.

Strep Vote
May 5, 2004

أنا أحب حليب الشوكولاتة

mllaneza posted:

I haven't seen any studies on it, so my thinking is that people overestimate how much hunting is done by cats who get canned food on a regular schedule.

No they don't they kill out of instinct. Keep your stupid cat inside! Studies following outdoor cats show they go way farther and kill more birds than their owners think they do.

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

tinytort posted:

I don't think it was armed security? Just that the stepson set the alarm off when he broke in, and the security company sent a message to the local police station about it, and the cops responded.

The post says:

quote:

The security company came over armed and were very aggressive with him

Though my feelings don’t change significantly if you change the situation to the armed person being a cop, or even just her, without warning. I’m not worried about what people’s job is, basically.

BrigadierSensible
Feb 16, 2012

I've got a pocket full of cheese🧀, and a garden full of trees🌴.

Cowslips Warren posted:

Like I said I KNOW I messed up also came from the Pete story. drat those are good words.

Many many loving years ago I did something a bit similar (not Pete or cheating) but with a costume instead of a con; family I nannied for was doing an Avatar theme Halloween, so I went all out and had a custom Zuko costume made from a goon who did a fantastic loving job. But I should have saved the drat money because I used the drat thing ONCE and because I had not measured properly (doing the usual Oh I Will Lose Weight Before I Need To Wear It) I looked horrible in this piece, which really was amazing. And the family did Avatar costumes made mostly out of poo poo they had laying around the house and looked really cool. But that was $400 iirc and no payday loans.



AITA for fat-shaming my friend’s autistic boyfriend?

I remember also getting the idea that autistic people needed to be obeyed/listened to No Matter What mostly from seeing people let their kids run wild and say it was fine because of that. Glad the attitude is shifting around.

The bloke in this story isn't being autistic, he is being rude to an 8 year old. Coz if an 8 year old you barely know tries to show you his "sick karate moves" which involve him flailing a bit and shouting HeeYah, you clap and tell them that it was awesome. Dude is just rude, and bad with kids. Also thin skinned and petty if being told that he can't do the 'karate' moves of an 8 year old makes him crack the sads and leave.

And on the "autistic people must be obeyed" stuff. From my personal perspective, (as an ignorant neurotypical), I think a lot of that is A)ignorance and the wider world not understanding that autistic people are just people, and B) Well intentioned people pandering to the worst parts of the arseholery, as opposed to accommodating and understanding the limits, (indeed if any), of the autistic person.

On your expensive Avatar costume, would it be possible to on-sell it? Coz it may not fit you, and you may not use it again. But there are a bunch of cosplayers who might like it. I doubt you'd get the full $400 back, but you might be able to get something for it, and also help out a fellow weirdo nerd to dress up as a space smurf

BrigadierSensible fucked around with this message at 03:41 on Jun 5, 2023

tinytort
Jun 10, 2013

Super healthy, super cheap
Moving on, content.

AITA for telling my cousin not to bring his 3 year old kid on a 15 hour road trip to a resort?


quote:

My cousin who I am visiting in Mongolia, wants to bring his 3 year old daughter on a 14 hour road trip to a resort we have booked for four people, him his wife and my wife and I. I really don’t want him to bring her because once we get there I want us to be able to hike, horseback riding, and go on a boat etc…

Of course, it can be done but I am afraid it might feel like babysitting while doing nature activities. Or even worse, we can’t do activities we want to do because no one at the resort can stay back and watch her. He has the option to leave his daughter with his mother or mother in law but is refusing to do so.

Lmao at the dude who thinks a 3 year old is going to be completely fine for a 15 hour trip, to a place that's intended for adults.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Malachite_Dragon posted:

People who actively refuse to close the goddamn door when using the bathroom need to be thrown out a window. At least they would remember to close *that*.

You may want to workshop this one some more

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA For telling a waitress it's not a competition?

quote:

Okay I'm not gonna lie, I'm leaning towards me not being an rear end in a top hat buuuut, this woman is so so angry with me, I can't help but wonder if I was in the wrong.

To set the stage:

I'm at a gathering. One of the people there is Jane; very nice. Currently a nurse. Another person is Sarah. Don't know her as well. Seemed very nice.

Jane was talking about her nursing shift a few days ago when someone specifically asked about her job. Then, when they asked if it must've been rough during COVID, she responded, "Oh yea." And asked if she got paid enough. Of course not.

All of a sudden Sarah goes "eh, I've had worse nights sometimes at [the restaurant where she works]. I dont think anyone realizes we probably have the toughest job there dealing with people directly chuckles. But I guess nursing can be hard."

Everyone was kinda stunned/confused/annoyed looking. I just wanted to break the awkwardness, and so I said, "It's not a competition." People laughed. Convo basically resumed. Sarah got quiet, I noticed.

She has then since PM'd me (on LinkedIn, of all places), telling me I was out of line and disrespectful to her and servers and "the people bust their asses serving you dinner" (BTW, I haven't eaten out in over a year, but okay).

I was starting to feel bad, but then as I was typing some sort of an apology, she sent another message stating, "Im a server. Jane's a nurse. Yes, she works hard, but even nursing school or during the pandemic isn't as tough as how it gets in restaurants sometimes when it's busy. Try dealing with tough customers who have picky tastes. "

I poo poo you not. I think this woman would argue with a holocaust survivor on who has it worse.

At that point, I just blocked her. I guess she figured it out because I'm hearing from mutal friends that's she's calling me an rear end in a top hat?

So... AITA?

Malachite_Dragon
Mar 31, 2010

Weaving Merry Christmas magic

QuarkJets posted:

You may want to workshop this one some more

If they know they'll get thrown out of it, they'll keep it closed. What's not to get

sullat
Jan 9, 2012

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

Lol at their hobby being hentai

Also guess what while your parents might give you room to make mistakes the loan companies of the world are under no such obligation

I feel like that's the perfect situation to go hit up ye ol' no asset bankruptcy and let them eat the loss.

Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?
But that doesn’t fix the door issue.

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Malachite_Dragon posted:

If they know they'll get thrown out of it, they'll keep it closed. What's not to get

If I knew I was going to get thrown out a window I would definitely open it first.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Pirate Radar posted:

The post says:

Though my feelings don’t change significantly if you change the situation to the armed person being a cop, or even just her, without warning. I’m not worried about what people’s job is, basically.

He broke into someone else’s property after being told not to come around anymore. He isn’t owed anything. Frankly he’s lucky she hasn’t shot him after he came in her home in the small hours unannounced.

We Got Us A Bread
Jul 23, 2007

Captain Hygiene posted:

I really want to see the reactions of anyone involved on the legal side when the neighbor tries to begin a case for the cat having primary access rights to the entire neighborhood

The only lawyers qualified to practice cat law:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aneTc2kbNg

Underwhelmed
Mar 7, 2004


Nap Ghost

tinytort posted:



Cats will not only kill for fun, but there have been studies showing that feral cat colonies with pregnant or nursing females, and kittens that are still dependent on their mother, will have members hunting in excess of their personal needs and bringing back enough to ensure a surplus for everyone who's on solids. I'm not sure if there's any evidence of caching behaviour, but there's definitely evidence that the hunting adults will act to make sure that there's not even a risk of the nursing or pregnant queens going hungry.

There's also some evidence suggesting that cats who bring dead animals home as 'presents' are trying to contribute to the family and make sure there's enough food. Cats who bring back wounded or live prey are trying to teach their humans how to hunt, under the belief that their human is an idiot kitten.

The popular notion that cats are antisocial loners with no ties to anyone, any other cats, or anything is at least as stupid and wrong as the alpha wolf myth.

Arsenic Lupin
Apr 12, 2012

This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.


therobit posted:

He broke into someone else’s property after being told not to come around anymore. He isn’t owed anything. Frankly he’s lucky she hasn’t shot him after he came in her home in the small hours unannounced.
:911:

a strange fowl
Oct 27, 2022

B-Rock452 posted:

The most important unwritten rule in all of strongman is if you are competing at a comp and a little kid comes up to to you and flexes, you have to flex back and then let the kid win the flexoff.
:3:

Lottery of Babylon
Apr 25, 2012

STRAIGHT TROPIN'

Pirate Radar posted:

The post says:

Though my feelings don’t change significantly if you change the situation to the armed person being a cop, or even just her, without warning. I’m not worried about what people’s job is, basically.

Was the alarm blaring for however long it took security to show up not a warning? It's not like the security squad was camped in the backyard with a fifteen-second response time. He could have left.

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

therobit posted:

He broke into someone else’s property after being told not to come around anymore. He isn’t owed anything. Frankly he’s lucky she hasn’t shot him after he came in her home in the small hours unannounced.

And like I said for the part I care about it’s not so different if she’d started responding with a gun in hand versus having the armed security do it. If she did, but beforehand she said “heads up, next time I hear noise in the house at night I’m coming downstairs with a gun” I wouldn’t have an issue.

Edit:

Lottery of Babylon posted:

Was the alarm blaring for however long it took security to show up not a warning? It's not like the security squad was camped in the backyard with a fifteen-second response time. He could have left.

Not all security systems lead to armed people showing up, but more to the point I mean a warning from her, the person causing him to be threatened with a gun. I think causing someone to be threatened with a gun is fairly severe, and if you’re doing it over someone repeating their previous behavior, a heads-up is nice.

Pirate Radar fucked around with this message at 01:38 on Jun 5, 2023

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

Cowslips Warren posted:

Like I said I KNOW I messed up also came from the Pete story. drat those are good words.

Many many loving years ago I did something a bit similar (not Pete or cheating) but with a costume instead of a con; family I nannied for was doing an Avatar theme Halloween, so I went all out and had a custom Zuko costume made from a goon who did a fantastic loving job. But I should have saved the drat money because I used the drat thing ONCE and because I had not measured properly (doing the usual Oh I Will Lose Weight Before I Need To Wear It) I looked horrible in this piece, which really was amazing. And the family did Avatar costumes made mostly out of poo poo they had laying around the house and looked really cool. But that was $400 iirc and no payday loans.





So you were, like, the Ember Island players version?

I had to Google the island.

We Got Us A Bread posted:

The only lawyers qualified to practice cat law:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aneTc2kbNg

Well, gently caress. I was gonna link to the Portuguese cat attorney, Dr. Leon Advogato, but he died in 2020.

Bored fucked around with this message at 01:45 on Jun 5, 2023

a strange fowl
Oct 27, 2022

Spangly A posted:

We had to get him a UV fluorescent jester ruff, neon coat and ridiculous bell before he even slowed down
are there photos??

Malachite_Dragon
Mar 31, 2010

Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Pirate Radar posted:

And like I said for the part I care about it’s not so different if she’d started responding with a gun in hand versus having the armed security do it. If she did, but beforehand she said “heads up, next time I hear noise in the house at night I’m coming downstairs with a gun” I wouldn’t have an issue.

Edit:

Not all security systems lead to armed people showing up, but more to the point I mean a warning from her, the person causing him to be threatened with a gun. I think causing someone to be threatened with a gun is fairly severe, and if you’re doing it over someone repeating their previous behavior, a heads-up is nice.

She told him repeatedly to stop entering her home unannounced. What the gently caress do you want her to do? Send him an engraved cease & desist? He was told to gently caress off, did not gently caress off, a security system was put in place, and now he's trying to act the victim because he set it off. gently caress him.

SulfurMonoxideCute
Feb 9, 2008

I was under direct orders not to die
🐵❌💀

r/relationships: As a good jester

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

Malachite_Dragon posted:

She told him repeatedly to stop entering her home unannounced. What the gently caress do you want her to do? Send him an engraved cease & desist? He was told to gently caress off, did not gently caress off, a security system was put in place, and now he's trying to act the victim because he set it off. gently caress him.

I’ve repeatedly said what I think would have been good to do. It’s not even instead of the other things she’s done, it’s just in addition to those things.

Malachite_Dragon
Mar 31, 2010

Weaving Merry Christmas magic
Looking back up, you're right, I misread or my eyes slid right over it. My day has been poo poo both literally and figuratively since I woke up and I took it out on you. I apologize.

Coca Koala
Nov 28, 2005

ongoing nowhere
College Slice

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

OP isn't wrong and the step dad seems insane, but if you're borrowing something put up with whatever crazy conditions are put on you or go get a u-haul. Him looking up a manual online makes it sound like he knew exactly what the stepdad wanted and just wanted to be technically right. Even if the court laughs it out the OP is an rear end.

If the engine doesn't require premium gas you get no benefit out of putting premium gas in it, plus it's a modern truck; the ECU would just detect the early ignition and change timing to compensate, there is zero chance this person did literally any damage to the truck at all, if you really felt strongly about taking care of the engine you would just drain the fuel system and refill it, and if you're going to the lengths of changing the fuel system to get rid of the bad fuel you're probably looking to change the engine as well.

The stepdad is insane and his crazy conditions are not worth respecting, if it wasn't this he would have invented some other damage to bill OP for.

Lottery of Babylon
Apr 25, 2012

STRAIGHT TROPIN'

Pirate Radar posted:

Not all security systems lead to armed people showing up

Many do. Whether it's cops or private security, I feel like a blaring alarm is absolutely a fair warning that someone might respond to the alarm. :shrug:



AITA for telling a grown woman to act like an adult?

quote:

Yesterday I (m38) was driving with my girlfriend (f24) and we were stopped at a red light. A young woman (f21 come to find out) behind us was on her phone and rear ended me.

I was immediately pissed because my truck is brand new (2023 Ram 1500 for anyone curious) and it only has 1200 km on it and now it already has an accident on record.

When we got out she came up to me essentially crying and I asked her wtf is wrong with her? I also asked if she's that addicted to her phone that it's worth ruining my brand new truck? She just kept bawling her eyes out and apologizing but I saw through her bullshit and told her crying wasn't going to get her out of it. She claimed she's not trying to get out of anything and I told her she's full of poo poo and to get her insurance info.

My girlfriend kept trying to comfort her which made me pissed at my girlfriend so I made her wait in the truck until I had dealt with it.

After I made my gf go back into the truck, the other girl spent the entire time staring at the damage and crying. This sent me over the edge and I told her "quit loving crying and acting like a child and go get your insurance! You're a grown woman!" and she essentially ran back as fast as she could to get her info.

I got her info and told her she's hosed now cause I had it all on dash cam then got into the truck and drove off.

I thought I handled the situation fine but my girlfriend said I was too harsh on her. I told her that I wasn't too harsh, I used exactly as much anger and confidence as the situation required. I told her the other girl wasn't acting like an adult and so I had to. Eventually I just told my girlfriend to drop it and that I did fine.

But now my girlfriend has since seemed very closed off. I asked what was wrong and she said she still can't get over the whole situation and I said "loving really? Again?". But apparently it's really effected her.

So I ask, am I the rear end in a top hat for being the adult in the situation?

Huggybear
Jun 17, 2005

I got the jimjams

SulfurMonoxideCute posted:

In Canada, getting completely zooted in the woods with strangers is considered normal.

Oh right arm, fuckin' rights a bush party, eh? Get on the skidoos and head out to the pond. Clear the pond, play some shinny and then stack some pallets for a bonfire and stand around saying things like "ya see the game last night, bud?" and drinking from your mickey of Canada Club in one hand and your coke or beer chaser in the other with a dart on the go

e: ya hoser

Huggybear fucked around with this message at 02:36 on Jun 5, 2023

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

Lottery of Babylon posted:

Many do. Whether it's cops or private security, I feel like a blaring alarm is absolutely a fair warning that someone might respond to the alarm. :shrug:

That’s fair, like I said my main point was about a warning before the alarm even goes off. If she’d decided to respond to noises at night by coming downstairs with a gun, her shouting I’M COMING DOWNSTAIRS WITH A GUN would have been fair warning that she was coming downstairs with a gun, and my point would still be that it would be good to say to him beforehand “if you show up again at night like you usually do I’m going to come downstairs with a gun.” I feel the same whether it’s security or cops or her, or whether it’s a gun or big dog or if she’d decided to rig the house with Home Alone traps.

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Malachite_Dragon posted:

She told him repeatedly to stop entering her home unannounced. What the gently caress do you want her to do? Send him an engraved cease & desist? He was told to gently caress off, did not gently caress off, a security system was put in place, and now he's trying to act the victim because he set it off. gently caress him.

Pit trap. Plain the first time as a warning, sharpened stakes the second time, etc.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


The Lone Badger posted:

Pit trap. Plain the first time as a warning, sharpened stakes the second time, etc.

Finally a reasonable take

JackSplater
Nov 20, 2014

Metal Coat? It's already active?!

Huggybear posted:

Oh right arm, fuckin' rights a bush party, eh? Get on the skidoos and head out to the pond. Clear the pond, play some shinny and then stack some pallets for a bonfire and stand around saying things like "ya see the game last night, bud?" and drinking from your mickey of Canada Club in one hand and your coke or beer chaser in the other with a dart on the go

e: ya hoser

I'll bring the two-fours and the timmies, make a real night of it, ya know.

limp dick calvin
Sep 1, 2006

Strepitoso. Vedete? Una meraviglia.
Made it to the car model and decided YTA

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA for not changing my cat’s name?

quote:

So I recently adopted a wonderful sweetie of a shelter cat named Millie. That’s the name that the shelter gave her, I thought it it suited her and she responds to it, so I didn’t change it.

The other week, my pregnant cousin “Carrie” (who I’m moderately close to) posted a list of potential baby names on her social media and Millie was on the list. I commented to remind her of my cat’s name, and she DMed me to ask me to change Millie’s name because she and her fiancé really liked that name for their daughter. I refused because my cat had her name first, and Carrie called me selfish for valuing a “stupid cat” over her daughter. I told her that my cat is not stupid, and that I wouldn’t mind if her baby shared a name with my cat, but if it was an issue for her, she could choose a different name. She again called me selfish and said she had to go.

I was feeling a bit conflicted, so I went to my sister (a mother herself so I hoped she’d offer some perspective) and she said that she understands where I was coming from, but that babies should come before pets. She said that it would be really kind of me to change my cat’s name, and that she knows how important a couple’s “dream name” is.

Now I’m feeling more confused than ever, so AITA?

Sorry, cat was here first so the baby will need to be known as human Millie

Cerekk
Sep 24, 2004

Oh my god, JC!

Coca Koala posted:

If the engine doesn't require premium gas you get no benefit out of putting premium gas in it, plus it's a modern truck; the ECU would just detect the early ignition and change timing to compensate, there is zero chance this person did literally any damage to the truck at all, if you really felt strongly about taking care of the engine you would just drain the fuel system and refill it, and if you're going to the lengths of changing the fuel system to get rid of the bad fuel you're probably looking to change the engine as well.

The stepdad is insane and his crazy conditions are not worth respecting, if it wasn't this he would have invented some other damage to bill OP for.

It doesn't matter if the stepdad's conditions for letting someone borrow his truck are illogical and objectively wrong, it's his truck and the stepson can follow them or borrow someone else's truck.

If the stepson didn't know, then he's not an rear end in a top hat. If he knew, he is. Either way he's not legally liable for "damages". But the situation is basically the same as everyone who insists that logically there's no reason not to put cooking wine in an alcoholic's food, or to use a Jewish person's utensils to cook bacon. Like yeah, you're right, it's illogical. It also doesn't matter that it's illogical because it's not your poo poo.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Pirate Radar posted:

That’s fair, like I said my main point was about a warning before the alarm even goes off. If she’d decided to respond to noises at night by coming downstairs with a gun, her shouting I’M COMING DOWNSTAIRS WITH A GUN would have been fair warning that she was coming downstairs with a gun, and my point would still be that it would be good to say to him beforehand “if you show up again at night like you usually do I’m going to come downstairs with a gun.” I feel the same whether it’s security or cops or her, or whether it’s a gun or big dog or if she’d decided to rig the house with Home Alone traps.

The first warning was when she told him not to come around. The second warning was likely a little sign for an alarm company in the front yard as he approached the property. The third warning was that the place was locked up tight. The fourth warning was an alarm going off when he broke into the building . He got lucky and did not get shot. He was told not to enter, encountered a locked door, and broke in anyway. People who break into houses do not get to whine about not being warned against doing so.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Cerekk posted:

It doesn't matter if the stepdad's conditions for letting someone borrow his truck are illogical and objectively wrong, it's his truck and the stepson can follow them or borrow someone else's truck.

If the stepson didn't know, then he's not an rear end in a top hat. If he knew, he is. Either way he's not legally liable for "damages". But the situation is basically the same as everyone who insists that logically there's no reason not to put cooking wine in an alcoholic's food, or to use a Jewish person's utensils to cook bacon. Like yeah, you're right, it's illogical. It also doesn't matter that it's illogical because it's not your poo poo.

Not sure if it was in the comments or the OP of this one but I saw it on Reddit before it was posted here and he said his stepdad hadn’t said anything about only putting in 93. If you add to that that he checked the owners manual to find the recommended fuel requirements and the fact that putting in higher octane than necessary can actually damage older vehicles, I don’t think the stepdad really has a leg to stand on.

BIG FLUFFY DOG
Feb 16, 2011

On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog.


Mx. posted:

AITA for not changing my cat’s name?


Sorry, cat was here first so the baby will need to be known as human Millie

Just have two creatures named Millie. Who cares. The girl will probably loving love that she shares a name with the cat and think it makes them best friends.

Cowslips Warren
Oct 29, 2005

What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?

Grimey Drawer

BrigadierSensible posted:

The bloke in this story isn't being autistic, he is being rude to an 8 year old. Coz if an 8 year old you barely know tries to show you his "sick karate moves" which involve him flailing a bit and shouting HeeYah, you clap and tell them that it was awesome. Dude is just rude, and bad with kids. Also thin skinned and petty if being told that he can't do the 'karate' moves of an 8 year old makes him crack the sads and leave.

And on the "autistic people must be obeyed" stuff. From my personal perspective, (as an ignorant neurotypical), I think a lot of that is A)ignorance and the wider world not understanding that autistic people are just people, and B) Well intentioned people pandering to the worst parts of the arseholery, as opposed to accommodating and understanding the limits, (indeed if any), of the autistic person.

On your expensive Avatar costume, would it be possible to on-sell it? Coz it may not fit you, and you may not use it again. But there are a bunch of cosplayers who might like it. I doubt you'd get the full $4oo back, but you might be able to get something for it, and also help out a fellow weirdo nerd to dress up as a space smurf

Alas Prince Zuko's awesome costume was donated a while back. Hope someone got good use out of it!

No it wasn't the Ember Island players, but that would have been great to do. I figured I would just use the costume for a few years to make the price worth it, but it was so drat hot, even if it had fit perfectly, my Zuko would have been all red-faced from the sweat.


drat, gently caress that dude who got rear-ended. I have seen some loving horrible accidents in my time. Crying is a normal loving response to an accident.



AITA for telling my pregnant wife that other people have it worse than her?

quote:

I'm just going to be brief. My wife has been pregnant for a while now, and it's put a lot of stress on me. I've been doing more hours at work to get some cash ready in time for the baby, and it's been so exhausting.

Throughout this all, my wife has been complaining every single day. She's having a difficult pregnancy so she has my sympathies, but I can't sleep at night, because she wants to have these talks or go on a drive because she's stressed.

I'm really starting to lose it, and she's just constantly complaining. I'm a pretty cheerful person normally, and I absolutely hate hearing people complain constantly because it really brings me down. I'm pretty sure I'm going to crack any second, so I wanted to put an end to this complaining since I just need some light in my life.

I told her that I'm balancing a job and taking care of you, plus everyone in life has their own challenges and you can't just whine about it and play the pity olympics, it's getting old.

She seemed to get it, but it's been a week and she's been noticeably distant. Now I'm frustated because I miss my wife, I just didn't want her to keep complaining, but I never asked her to stop talking to me. All I asked was that she be a little more positive, but she seemed to be taking it the wrong way, and I'm feeling kind of bad.




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AITA for not letting my wife FaceTime our kids?

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Throwaway account for obvious reasons my wife (35f) and I (34m) have been married for about 5 years and have 2 kids (1f) and (2.5m). Some time ago my wife had mentioned having regrets about never having lived in NYC since that was always her dream. I didn’t think much of it at the time until a few months ago when she told me that she wanted to move there temporarily by herself to see if she could “make it there” (she’s an artist).

After a lot of discussion we agreed upon her living there for a year and she said she would plan on coming home once to visit during that time at Christmas. This was a difficult decision for me since I work 60-70 hours a week and we have 2 young kids but I don’t want her to have any regrets or end up resenting me and luckily my parents have been willing to help out a lot. We were able to find her a decent sublet that she moved into about 2 weeks ago. Since she has been gone she has FaceTimed me to see the kids about 3 times. That’s great and all because I want her to see the kids but after every call our son has had a complete meltdown.

After the most recent call it took me an hour to calm him down. I don’t think that’s healthy for him and honestly it’s a lot for me to deal with on top of everything else. Recently I told her that I do not want to FaceTime her anymore with the kids for that reason and she was very upset saying it’s not right for me to keep the kids from her etc, I just have to learn how to deal with meltdowns and that eventually they will get used to seeing her on FaceTime. I think she’s being unfair to me so AITA?

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Biplane
Jul 18, 2005

Well at least he didnt have to build the cuckshack, although with rental prices in New York I assume he wishes he had

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