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porktree posted:I also have offspring in their early 30s. I have never understood the infantile need to have fathers day celebrated. And all the weeping and wailing when some doesn't get super special treatment on the <parent>day. It all seems so pouty and childish. O-okay... Boomer?
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porktree posted:I also have offspring in their early 30s. I have never understood the infantile need to have fathers day celebrated. And all the weeping and wailing when some doesn't get super special treatment on the <parent>day. It all seems so pouty and childish. settle down Beavis
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Batterypowered7 posted:O-okay... Boomer? hawowanlawow posted:settle down Beavis Get off my lawn.
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i say to each their own, but if you celebrate one day, you should celebrate the complimentary day if the person wants. AITA for saying no to my wife to be a bridesmaid? quote:I (am or was) going to be the best man at my brother’s wedding next year. My wife was invited to be a bridesmaid and she Initially said yes. AITA for calling my cousin selfish because she didn't babysit my daughter? quote:Throwaway, I'll keep it quick. AITA for clapping to the “Friends” theme song? quote:My wife and I both like the show Friends and periodically watch it together. For some reason I cannot fathom, it bothers her when I clap to the theme song. REALLY bothers her. Many years ago there was a Simpsons episode where they went into Witness Protection and the show had the opener with The Thompsons sang instead. It was something my brother decided he would sing every loving time we watched the show for the next few months. I'd tell him to stop, mom would tell him to stop, one night Dad lost his temper and told him if he ever did that poo poo again, after being asked and told to stop, he'd never watch TV again. "We aren't watching this show to hear your poo poo." Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 00:24 on Jun 25, 2023 |
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Jun 25, 2023 00:08
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AITA for giving away my wife's espresso machine and grinder without her permission?quote:My wife thinks I'm an rear end in a top hat, my buddies are on my side since it was a mistake. I don't know what to do.
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Jun 25, 2023 00:41
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for giving away my wife's espresso machine and grinder without her permission? There's no better idea than buying your partner gear for their favorite hobby when you don't know poo poo about poo poo, and the absolute cherry is giving away their old equipment without talking to them or knowing if the new stuff is actually what they want.
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Jun 25, 2023 00:47
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for giving away my wife's espresso machine and grinder without her permission? The grandparents have had the machine for like two days. What inconvenience are they dealing with? "Hey sorry I gave away something I had no right to give away and I need it back" is all the explanation you need
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Jun 25, 2023 00:51
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for giving away my wife's espresso machine and grinder without her permission?
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Rescue Toaster posted:There's no better idea than buying your partner gear for their favorite hobby when you don't know poo poo about poo poo, and the absolute cherry is giving away their old equipment without talking to them or knowing if the new stuff is actually what they want.
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Jun 25, 2023 01:08
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Rescue Toaster posted:the absolute cherry is giving away their old equipment without talking to them or knowing if the new stuff is actually what they want before actually getting the new one in Frankly, even if he did know exactly what she wanted and she'd already okay'd giving it away, it would *still* have been a complete gently caress-up to give it away before the replacement was there.
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Jun 25, 2023 01:26
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Imagine if he had told his friend 'Sorry, you can't pick it up for another week until the new one comes and I make sure she's happy with it.' That would have been embarrassing!
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Arsenic Lupin posted:If somebody tossed it because it was an unattractive beige and bought me something more decorative, I'd have a shitfit. But what if the new one had olive wood handles? You would really be the rear end in a top hat for not appreciating them putting in all that effort on what's obviously the most important factors when buying a new machine.
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I also love the small detail the espresso machine was a sentimental gift from her brother.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for clapping to the “Friends” theme song? ESH for watching Friends.
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SulfurMonoxideCute posted:I honestly feel as a non-parent that I humanize and respect children more than actual parents, and it frightens me a lot. There are two ways of dealing with conversations with children, one where you remember you used to be one and how much it sucked and act accordingly and explain the things that you need them to IMMEDIATELY COMPLY TO FOR THEIR OWN LIFE AND LIMB in those terms and illustrate the dangers you protect them from, which they may find stinging in the moment but they will listen for you have earned their trust and respect, and remember you fondly for respecting their sentience and the other "because I said so" route where they both ignore you, and if they survive, wait for you to die.
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B-Rock452 posted:Up until recently some medical textbooks literally said black women and other minorities had higher pain tolerances than normal so they didn't need pain meds. When my wife was going through nursing school at UPenn (around 2010) there was a big uproar because they still used textbooks that stated poo poo like that. I will never stop laughing that the goddamned south carolina statehouse tore down it's statue of J. Marion Sims before Central Park did No points awarded to the state as a whole though, the largest women's dorm at U. of SC still has his name on it
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shame on an IGA posted:There are two ways of dealing with conversations with children, one where you remember you used to be one and how much it sucked and act accordingly and explain the things that you need them to IMMEDIATELY COMPLY TO FOR THEIR OWN LIFE AND LIMB in those terms and illustrate the dangers you protect them from, which they may find stinging in the moment but they will listen for you have earned their trust and respect, and remember you fondly for respecting their sentience I am forever grateful that my parents included me in the decisions they made about my allergies and their reasoning. I've met folks whose parents took the "because I said so" route, either because it was complicated or they didn't want the kid to worry. They'd wind up eating those things they were told not to eat as soon as they got time to themselves because it had been lumped into all the other "parents say no" stuff instead of spelled out as dangerous, and they had bad reactions as a result. They still made the decisions for me as a kid, but it was "here's what we're looking for, here's why we avoid this, here's the allergy newsletter with recall information and letters from other parents." This was pre-internet, the org that put that newsletter out is still around in some form or another these days and is on my short list of people to support if I ever get the means to do so and they don't turn out to have pivoted to something terrible.
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MagusofStars posted:Frankly, even if he did know exactly what she wanted and she'd already okay'd giving it away, it would *still* have been a complete gently caress-up to give it away
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My freinds told me (21F) that my boyfriend (23M) is fatquote:I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for three months, we have known each other for a year because we go to nursing school together and we just became inseparable.
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Jun 25, 2023 03:55
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Get new friends. Alternately, counterattack by jabbing at their weight. They started it, you finish it with nuclear hellfire.
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I know dense boyfriends are a common problem around here, but 6"/250 lbs seems a bit much
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Captain Hygiene posted:I know dense boyfriends are a common problem around here, but 6"/250 lbs seems a bit much Ba-dump, tsk!
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Now with an update. AITA For calling my fiancée selfish for wanting to announce her pregnancy at her cousins wedding? quote:Throwaway UPDATE: AITA For calling my fiancée selfish for wanting to announce her pregnancy at her cousins wedding? quote:Sorry for the long wait as I have been going through some things (me and my fiancée breaking up, work, death of my grandfather, etc)
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Captain Hygiene posted:I know dense boyfriends are a common problem around here, but 6"/250 lbs seems a bit much Do you want Stonehenge? Because that’s how you get Stonehenge!
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Holy poo poo. Throw the ex into an acid vat and then throw the vat into a volcano. It's the only way to contain the evil.
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Co-parenting is gonna be a nightmare too, I imagine. Well, gotta get through what looks like a legal fight for that first, too.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Holy poo poo. Throw the ex into an acid vat and then throw the vat into a volcano. It's the only way to contain the evil. do you want an acid vat of evil? BECAUSE THIS IS HOW YOU GET AN ACID VAT OF EVIL. AITA for wanting to play video games when my son goes to bed? quote:My husband (38M) and I (38F) have a 2.5yo son. I stay home with him most days but I do go into work a few days a week. Other than that I am his primary care giver, even when my husband is home. As you can imagine, he is a lot (my son, that is). I give him constant attention, get him everything he needs, entertain him and what not, on top of cleaning the house, preparing meals and working 2 jobs (one full time, one about 20 hours a month). I should mention that I am not concerned about the split of house duties (he cooks and cleans plenty) but I do wish I could have a little more time on the weekends where I could go shopping or something alone. this is the first reply: quote:Before my husband and I were married, he was a casual gamer. After we were married he would spend 2+ hours per evening gaming. His job is stressful, and he explained that his way of coping was to game. That was cool for a while, until he got super into raiding, and I was invisible to him. Then it started to bother me, because it seemed like he became a different person while gaming. I didn’t like how I felt. I felt like he should have been home, with me, at least for a little while, instead of his online friends. I got so desperate to catch his attention while his headphones were on one day, to see how he would respond, that I told him, “I’m pregnant.” He nodded and said, “OK.” I wasn’t pregnant. A different day, I asked him if he had noticed that his truck was on fire. He nodded, and said, “OK.” His truck wasn’t on fire. The point is, you need to be involved with the person YOU MADE A BABY WITH more than your online friends. He’s likely not salty about them being dudes, maybe he’s rightfully salty that you are tuning yourself into an alternate reality to escape the feelings of being overwhelmed by having a kid and working, and he NEEDS YOU IN REAL LIFE. Please don’t make him do cartwheels and backflips to get your attention tuned into HIM, TOO, because he needs you and your involvement as a wife to make him feel like a partner. When my hubs got super involved in raiding, I tried to pick up a hobby to match his. To pass the time while he was gaming. And when I realized that my hobby was just that, a hobby, I got bored of it and checked back in with him, he was still gaming. He didn’t even realize that I had picked up a hobby. Be very careful regarding your next steps. We came very close to divorcing due to his gaming obsession. Turns out he was desperate to tune out the real world and live in his own reality. Despite the fact that he tells me that he loves me and can’t survive without me. Get offline, hug your husband and your kid.
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Man that response is projecting hard. OP's husband sounds like a jealous waste
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I’m not a gaming/MMO expert but I think serious raiding commitments are way more than 14 hours a week.
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ApplesandOranges posted:Now with an update. As much as it was probably the right call to just cancel the whole wedding, this: quote:Everyone wanted her to continue it and invite my ex for a couple of plans guests thought of (ex: when my ex announced it everyone would just stay nonchalant and not give her the excited reaction she was hoping for, would've been incredibly funny to watch as it played out
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Consummate Professional posted:I’m not a gaming/MMO expert but I think serious raiding commitments are way more than 14 hours a week. They can be, world first WoW guilds, can and do raid 10+ hours each day until they finish the raid on Mythic difficulty. Standard Mythic raiding guilds usually do 9-12 hours a week. Normal and Heroic guilds are usually anywhere from 4-9 hours a week.
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Consummate Professional posted:I’m not a gaming/MMO expert but I think serious raiding commitments are way more than 14 hours a week. That's pretty rare but habitual MMO players will often be playing more than that doing whatever. It more sounds like she's just chilling for a couple hours every night playing casually and shooting the poo poo with some friends. That husband just doesn't like when he attention is elsewhere if he isn't otherwise occupied ignoring her. Her attention being with other people is an additional threat, doubt he actually wants to spend that time with her so much as know she's not having fun without him.
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Yeah OP isn't raiding, that was a commenter. It doesn't even sound like OP is playing an MMO
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She sounds like one of the various people we play with in our discord server. We're all old and married, most have kids, and we just like to play games and be positive influences in each other's lives. It's actually really great. It's one of the best things about living in 2023.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I know dense boyfriends are a common problem around here, but 6"/250 lbs seems a bit much Girls, If your man is: -250lbs -A 6" tall cylinder, with an 8" diameter -A shiny, silver metal that resists corrosion -And has only a few uses That's not your man, that's Osmium.
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ad090 posted:They can be, world first WoW guilds, can and do raid 10+ hours each day until they finish the raid on Mythic difficulty. Standard Mythic raiding guilds usually do 9-12 hours a week. Normal and Heroic guilds are usually anywhere from 4-9 hours a week.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Holy poo poo. Throw the ex into an acid vat and then throw the vat into a volcano. It's the only way to contain the evil. Also large chunks of at least two of the families involved apparently. ad090 posted:They can be, world first WoW guilds, can and do raid 10+ hours each day until they finish the raid on Mythic difficulty. Standard Mythic raiding guilds usually do 9-12 hours a week. Normal and Heroic guilds are usually anywhere from 4-9 hours a week. I'm pretty sure with these things, while most of the top players probably do spend way too much time playing it, that does not necessarily mean that the people who spend way too much time playing the games actually become any good at it.
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Nocheez posted:She sounds like one of the various people we play with in our discord server. We're all old and married, most have kids, and we just like to play games and be positive influences in each other's lives.  After Pokemon ScarVio came out last fall one of my friends and her bf organized an informal gym league to get together every weekend and do battles, it was mostly comprised of people that had long since scattered around the country, gotten married, had kids etc. It was super fun (even though I got demolished in every battle  ) and we loved just exploring the world after the battles and shooting the poo poo, catching up on people's lives, etcThis is exactly what that OP sounds like she's doing and the husband is a prick
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I (28m) and my ex (26F) broke up. I have planned a holiday trip. Her sister (24F) wants to go with me. Thoughts?quote:I am going to keep this short. A few weeks ago, I bought a flight and accommodation package for a holiday trip to a country my then girlfriend always wanted to visit. Let's call her Jen. I intended to surprise her on her birthday which is in a couple of weeeks. I was on my lunch break to get some food at a cafe and I bumped into her sister We chatted for a bit and she asked me what I was planning to do for Jen's birthday. I told her my plan and immediately her face turned blank. That's when she told me Jen has been cheating on me a couple of times and she could no longer keep it secret. I went to confront Jen after work about it. She denied at first but eventually she admitted to doing it a few times during our 2 year relationship. I packed my stuff and left to stay at my uncle's place. A few days later, i texted her sister to thank her for being honest and she asked if we could talk in person. She and Jen are no longer speaking to each other so I agreed. We met for a coffee and talked about the situation. She then asked what i was going to do about the trip, I said i was going to cancel it. She then asked if she can go with me instead of cancelling. She explained she needs space away from drama as her family is siding against her. Her only condition is to have separate beds. I told her I will think about it. Now I feel like I need a much needed time away and I also wanted to visit that country. i don't have anyone to go that has time to travel with. And I am not romantically interested in her. Thoughts?
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