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SulfurMonoxideCute posted:This is my take. They have two clearly different ideas of what a marriage is. Is she? We only have two data points: Back before they got serious, he was the best guy she had ever dated, but she still had to think about it. Currently they are engaged and about to have their first baby and she is crazy in love with him. Did she set out to marry him come hell or high water, and just happened to fortuitously fall in love too? Or did she decide to let the relationship develop organically, fall in love, and then decide to get married? You can't really say based on those two points. Obviously her preference was to have love, marriage, and family but it's purely conjecture whether she was actually willing to sacrifice love for the sake of having a marriage and bearing children.
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Can't believe that woman discussed a guy's qualities with someone and then went on to develop a loving relationship with him after giving it due consideration. What a monster.
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FMguru posted:Another mom of the year candidate checking in. well good news, lady: you're about to get a lot more time with the kid you actually care about
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GF: Man, I really want kids, so I guess I should get serious about one of these guys I'm dating. Friend: Who are you thinking might be the best guy of the bunch? GF: Well, I've been seeing Tom, Jim, and Harry... Friend: Okay, so what's Tom like? GF: He's the shortest and oldest of them all. To be honest I'm not into [bearded guys] but he looks pretty good! Plus he's good in bed and he has a great career. blah blah blah Like, I think it's understandable to be hurt about being evaluated on your qualities in the early stages of dating, especially if it's about physical attributes that you can't change (like age or height). I think storming off instead of asking your gf and hearing her tell you this was right before you guys got serious, and how she fell in love with you, and how she's now having your kid etc was a bit over the top. There are a lot of ways he would've been more justified in his response, like if she never treated him well, or if he was an obvious second choice to some other guy who broke up with her or it didn't work out with. But that's like the opposite here, he turned out to be the best candidate. I guess a lot of people would also be mad at someone dating multiple people at once before going into an exclusive relationship, but if you're at the point where you're about to have a kid with someone that feels like something you can probably safely work on getting over.
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Cerekk posted:16/14 violates the half-plus-seven rule; 15/14 and 16/15 don't. Mom would have been fine on your 17th birthday.
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Jul 2, 2023 00:00
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There's also the fact that dude shoulda just factory reset the phone instead of using her giving him her old phone as an excuse to snoop through all her old private conversations.
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Jul 2, 2023 00:07
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AITA if I proposed to my friend in front of everyonequote:I (16f) proposed to my friend (17m) in class. We had been friends for over a year and i knew his stance on dating (he wanted an arranged marriage) this is pretty standard in our society.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA if I proposed to my friend in front of everyone  Why did you add ten years to your ages, and how did you learn to type so well
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Jul 2, 2023 01:02
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AITB for getting mad that she's dating other guysquote:This woman (45) and I (41M) were dating for four months. Things got a little bumpy for both of us, I blew up at her and nearly broke it off ..then we had another disagreement and she ended up calling it off. A week later she contacted me trying to get back together and I wasn't ready. I told her that I needed to work on myself and wasn't ready for a relationship. She didn't want to accept no for an answer because she was so in love with me. So I left things ambiguous. I didn't want to label the relationship. Over the next few weeks I made attempts at connecting with her. I took her on a few dates, slept over at her house. Today, four weeks later, I find out she's been on dating apps, dated multiple guys, and has even slept with one of them. I feel like she cheated on me and can't look at her the same way. I want to end it for good. She says, it wasn't cheating bc I told her I didn't want a relationship, and that she wouldn't have been on the dating apps had I defined the relationship. AITB
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Jul 2, 2023 01:32
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Is everyone in AITA just doubling their ages now?
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Okay fine I accept but also let me repeat myself just in case that changes your mind
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Evil Willow posted:AITB for getting mad that she's dating other guys WE WERE ON A BREAK
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you know, i don't really want to label this as a  relationshipokay well i'm gonna go gently caress other guysshockedpikachu.tga
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Captain Hygiene posted:
Yeah that was when I gave up and clicked the spoilers. Is recess a thing past elementary school in non-USA countries, or did I miss out? Also find it odd that in a culture that does arranged marriages, a woman would do a bent-knee proposal to a guy anyway. I blame the internet poisoning young people's minds globally for the sake of "funny prank!" Otherwise none of this makes sense to me.
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Jul 2, 2023 02:41
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Evil Willow posted:AITB for getting mad that she's dating other guys almost a shame that she was smarter than to take him out of the dating pool. But for real, if you refuse to define a relationship as monogamous or refuse to "put a label" on what you have or whatever, then you don't have the right to expect exclusivity from the other person.  Hell in uni an ex and I broke up for like a week, and then he admitted later he had slept with his ex during that week because he was worried she'd tell me or something. I was like, ok, and? Why would I care? We were literally not together at that moment, lol.
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Jul 2, 2023 02:49
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JacquelineDempsey posted:Also find it odd that in a culture that does arranged marriages, a woman would do a bent-knee proposal to a guy anyway. I blame the internet poisoning young people's minds globally for the sake of "funny prank!" Otherwise none of this makes sense to me. I talked to an Punjabi doctor who was born and raised in the States about it, since I thought it was interesting that someone with very progressive views on gender would be doing the arranged marriage thing. She explained that it's more like dating, but the people you date have to be approved by your parents.
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Elviscat posted:I talked to an Punjabi doctor who was born and raised in the States about it, since I thought it was interesting that someone with very progressive views on gender would be doing the arranged marriage thing. She explained that it's more like dating, but the people you date have to be approved by your parents. there was some redditor who explained arranged marriages like "it's like tinder, but tinder is your parents", and i thought that was a p good way to explain it. it's a lot less bad than you imagine when you hear the phrase "arranged marriage"
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Yeah, I could use help getting an arranged marriage. It sounds a lot easier than asking everyone you see "are you married?" And then following up with "you wanna get married?" to the ones that say no.
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Fatty posted:In the comments it turns out was stomach ulcers which take a while to develop and probably explains why he was moody and not eating for a month. So she only acknowledged it when he was literally desperately crying for help from a person who has failed him in the past. And even then, the way she responded, all the kid would really hear is "gently caress you, you loving gently caress, I'd prefer if you'd loving die in a ditch. You sister, the literal living god, is obviously far too important. Now gently caress off and die." She's going around going "i did a oopsie-fucky-wucky uWu" and "how many giftie-wifties should I give my boy to make it up to him?" Like, gently caress you, lady. I look forward to seeing the update where she's absolutely baffled as to why her son doesn't talk to her, and he either hung up on her blocked her number the last time she called him or called her some choice names before hanging up and blocking. AITA for not switching seats? quote:I boarded the train from London to Paris yesterday with my family, and when we got to our booked and assigned table seats there were 3 Americans sitting there from a big tour group. Posted solely for the stupid joke I thought of, which was "USA means ur seat is ares!" edogawa rando fucked around with this message at 04:26 on Jul 2, 2023 |
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Foo Diddley posted:there was some redditor who explained arranged marriages like "it's like tinder, but tinder is your parents", and i thought that was a p good way to explain it. it's a lot less bad than you imagine when you hear the phrase "arranged marriage" I still think fondly of the story where the guy was tired of his parents nagging him about setting up an arranged marriage, so he pretended to be gay. And they promptly brought out the binder full of gay dudes and as he was browsing it he was like, huh. And by the end he is dating/engaged to a cute guy. 
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Fatty posted:In the comments it turns out was stomach ulcers which take a while to develop and probably explains why he was moody and not eating for a month. So she only acknowledged it when he was literally desperately crying for help from a person who has failed him in the past. He was probably working himself to the bone and stressing himself out so much he got ulcers in order to achieve that academic excellence because he wanted to be noticed over the adult sister that still got all his mother's time.
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edogawa rando posted:And even then, the way she responded, all the kid would really hear is "gently caress you, you loving gently caress, I'd prefer if you'd loving die in a ditch. You sister, the literal living god, is obviously far too important. Now gently caress off and die."
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My (25F) girlfriend of 3 years gave me (29M) an ultimatum that we must start having unprotected sex, and she’s not on birth controlquote:I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and the last 2 she has been wanting to get more intimate by not using a condom. But the problem is that she doesn’t use any birth control, she just tracks cycles.
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FMguru posted:The sister is such the gravitational center of mom's universe that her first instinct when her son starts showing worrying health symptoms is that it must have something to do with his sister, that he's just jealous of how much attention she's getting. The thought that hey, maybe there is something really wrong with your other kid never crossed her mind. Scapegoat kid moaning about something? Aw, he's just bullshitting for attention (I noticed there were precisely zero examples of the son faking things for attention that she could cite). And she defends this thought process as an 'honest mistake'! One of my coworkers' daughters has type-1 diabetes and has for many years, but her younger brother does not. Coworker told me it is a struggle with them now, when before they got along so well, because the boy keeps seeing his sister getting Special Treatment. It's not easy for anyone, but it often reminds me not just of the golden children poo poo, but how some parents drop caring for their older kids when a new baby comes. My mom had a friend whose entire world was her daughter, until she adopted a baby. Then everything was about that kid, every social media post, every picture, everything. Her daughter stopped existing save in relation to how jealous she was of her perfect new brother. AITA for having rules for my stepdaughter? quote:My husband (42M) and I (33F) have his daughter, (11F) for a week. I’m fine with this, and have absolutely zero problem with her being here, her mother works full time and so does her brother and she’s too young to stay alone all day. Looks like someone wants to be the Fun Parents and Evil Women won't let him not have rules!
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Evil Willow posted:My (25F) girlfriend of 3 years gave me (29M) an ultimatum that we must start having unprotected sex, and she’s not on birth control Op should tell her that if she doesn’t get on the pill by thanksgiving, he is breaking up with her.
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FMguru posted:And she defends this thought process as an 'honest mistake'! There are some people in the comments who are categorizing her actions as an isolated mistake, one that she shouldn't be punished for since no parents are perfect, even though the kid's reaction is due to long running neglect. Time after time I see someone excuse obvious parental shortcomings with the excuse of "You don't know it is to be a parent". "I did my best" as an explanation is more damning than they know, "But your best wasn't good enough" is the obvious answer.
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edgeman83 posted:There are some people in the comments who are categorizing her actions as an isolated mistake, one that she shouldn't be punished for since no parents are perfect, even though the kid's reaction is due to long running neglect. She literally admits that she doesn't pay enough attention to her son, and yet when her son starts acting oddly, he assumption is that he wants attention, which she immediately refuses to give to him. Her response to knowing that she's ignoring her son is to ignore him even harder when he reaches out for some help. Incredible.
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Evil Willow posted:My (25F) girlfriend of 3 years gave me (29M) an ultimatum that we must start having unprotected sex, and she’s not on birth control therapy or running away are the smart choices, but imo he should tell her he's going to get a vasectomy just to see what she does
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haveblue posted:WE WERE ON A BREAK I see people post this a lot. I know it's from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Does it mean that "we were on break so it should be acceptable to sleep with other people" or "even though we were on break, but that doesn't mean it was acceptable to sleep with other people" ?
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Foo Diddley posted:there was some redditor who explained arranged marriages like "it's like tinder, but tinder is your parents", and i thought that was a p good way to explain it. it's a lot less bad than you imagine when you hear the phrase "arranged marriage" I had a few friends from India in grad school and they explained it basically the same way. It’s not like the parents pick a partner for them and bam they’re now married without any input. They just goto their parents and say “hey I think I’m ready to settle down/meet someone” and the parents ask around their friends and make some phone calls. Kinda like having a friend set you up with a blind date. Both of the people involved can still back out if they meet and it’s not gonna work.
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Nebrilos posted:I see people post this a lot. I know it's from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Does it mean that "we were on break so it should be acceptable to sleep with other people" or "even though we were on break, but that doesn't mean it was acceptable to sleep with other people" ? i think, having not watched the show, the idea was there was a couple who were On A Break and one of them slept with another person, but it was not cheating because they weren't together, but the other one called it cheating?
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Nebrilos posted:I see people post this a lot. I know it's from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Does it mean that "we were on break so it should be acceptable to sleep with other people" or "even though we were on break, but that doesn't mean it was acceptable to sleep with other people" ? The male character that said the line meant it the first way, the female character that he said it to found that justification ridiculous, as did the mostly female audience of the show.
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Relationship feeling stale? Try spicing things up by flirting with unwanted pregnancy
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Nebrilos posted:I see people post this a lot. I know it's from F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Does it mean that "we were on break so it should be acceptable to sleep with other people" or "even though we were on break, but that doesn't mean it was acceptable to sleep with other people" ? Ross and Rachel have a big fight and she suggests they take a break. Ross goes out that night, drinks too much, and hooks up with some rando. Also, it isn't an acronym, doof. e: vvv That's a better explanation erosion fucked around with this message at 04:59 on Jul 2, 2023 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:i think, having not watched the show, the idea was there was a couple who were On A Break and one of them slept with another person, but it was not cheating because they weren't together, but the other one called it cheating? Yup. A relationship pause after an argument during which the guy thought the girl was with someone so it must mean a breakup, so he picked someone up "as well". Then when they reconciled a day later it came out and every time they have an argument in the rest of the series it gets brought up.
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I'm Nick Fury, director of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. I'm here to talk to you about the AITA Initiative.
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Evil Willow posted:My (25F) girlfriend of 3 years gave me (29M) an ultimatum that we must start having unprotected sex, and she’s not on birth control Abort! Aboooooooooort!
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